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The Need to Say No: The Importance of Setting Boundaries in Love, Life, & Your World - How to Be Bullish and Not Bullied
Healthier relationships and personal boundaries are just one word away with this inspirational guide on embracing the power of “no”
Whether in love, work, family, or the world, the need to say no is sometimes imperative. And rather than accepting another transgression or being bullied, learning to set healthy boundaries is essential for our health and well-being. The Need to Say No includes helpful advice on how to say no without fear—and without injury to either party—so that you can set boundaries that lead to healthier relationships.
Many people have to learn the skills to defend themselves from the inappropriate demands of others. Whether dealing with an abusive love partner, an inappropriate boss, a child that demands everything, or a societal condition that needs to stop, we have the power within ourselves to change the outcomes for the to be bullish without being bulldozed. The Need to Say No uses the metaphor of a bull to examine the behaviors of bullies and boundary violators, drawing from mythological, historical, and contemporary bull stories to identify ten archetypes of common aggressive personalities and how to deal with them effectively.
Rich with quotes, illustrations, anecdotes, examples, tips, and more, The Need to Say No delivers a profound way to create peace at home, success at work, and real change in the by saying “no.”
Whether in love, work, family, or the world, the need to say no is sometimes imperative. And rather than accepting another transgression or being bullied, learning to set healthy boundaries is essential for our health and well-being. The Need to Say No includes helpful advice on how to say no without fear—and without injury to either party—so that you can set boundaries that lead to healthier relationships.
Many people have to learn the skills to defend themselves from the inappropriate demands of others. Whether dealing with an abusive love partner, an inappropriate boss, a child that demands everything, or a societal condition that needs to stop, we have the power within ourselves to change the outcomes for the to be bullish without being bulldozed. The Need to Say No uses the metaphor of a bull to examine the behaviors of bullies and boundary violators, drawing from mythological, historical, and contemporary bull stories to identify ten archetypes of common aggressive personalities and how to deal with them effectively.
Rich with quotes, illustrations, anecdotes, examples, tips, and more, The Need to Say No delivers a profound way to create peace at home, success at work, and real change in the by saying “no.”
144 pages, Hardcover
First published January 1, 2013
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January 2, 2022
I got this book in new years thinking it would be a helpful step to better solidifying my boundaries...
The book only talked about bulls so I just couldn't continute and it is never like me to stop reading a book. I exercised my right of saying No and said to myself No..we are not indulging in this book any more. Sorry but not sorry.
The book only talked about bulls so I just couldn't continute and it is never like me to stop reading a book. I exercised my right of saying No and said to myself No..we are not indulging in this book any more. Sorry but not sorry.
May 11, 2018
Too cheesy and repetitive for me to have the desire to finish the book. I felt like it had potential to be clever and also have practical tips but it missed the mark for me.
June 27, 2023
Everything is a bull comparison. E v e r y t h I n g
November 15, 2013
This book was pretty basic and while the author makes plenty of bull references and gives some reasons for saying NO she does very little explaining of how to employ those tactics. I found the book to be cheesy and elementary.
March 1, 2014
A small, easy read that gives helpful ideas and suggestions for saying no and staying healthy in hard relationships. Took this from the newer library shelf as a last minute add and wrote down many quotes and ideas to review.
June 11, 2014
Forced bull puns aside, the book offers very little specific, actionable advice, talking in generalities for the most part.
My main takeaway: There is a big difference between the way a considered 'no' and one given automatically is received.
My main takeaway: There is a big difference between the way a considered 'no' and one given automatically is received.
December 23, 2017
1.5*. Plenty of bull references, why one should no but not much else in terms of self-help tactics.
May 8, 2017
كتاب قيم ومفيد ،،، سهل القراءه والفهم،،، مختصر مفيد،،، يتكلم عن العشر الانواع الثيران بالعمل والحياة وكيف تتعامل معهم ،،، صور الانسان بشخصية الثيران وانواعها،،، للفهم يقرأ اكثر من مره
November 14, 2014
The Need to Say "NO" is a book about life. The author's has framed this book around the domesticated animal, the bull - not a sentence goes by without some sort of bull reference. It's a bit much for me. Otherwise the content of the book is just fine.
As do a growing number of books, this one warns of the increasing nonsense and outright lies that bombard us every day via social media and the Internet, TV and radio; from politicians; from those denying science to support a political/business agenda:
"Sooner or later you reach that crossroad moment that offers you a choice. It is time to say no to all of the BS that we listen to everyday on the news, with
our friends, with our family, with our work colleagues and cultivate a new way of living. kNOw BS. Be bullish about substance because it has power and endurance."
As do a growing number of books, this one warns of the increasing nonsense and outright lies that bombard us every day via social media and the Internet, TV and radio; from politicians; from those denying science to support a political/business agenda:
"Sooner or later you reach that crossroad moment that offers you a choice. It is time to say no to all of the BS that we listen to everyday on the news, with
our friends, with our family, with our work colleagues and cultivate a new way of living. kNOw BS. Be bullish about substance because it has power and endurance."
December 7, 2013
A very timely book. Jill Brooke sheds light on the many forms of bullying that persist throughout adulthood and she provides thoughtful advice for how to "say no" to these various types of "bulls". Her book is filled with clever quips and there are even some surprising anecdotes of bull trivia in there which make for a truly interesting read. I enjoyed the book myself and have purchased several copies to give to friends as gifts. Highly recommend!
February 23, 2014
It was alright. Typical self-help stuff. Stand up for yourself, set boundaries & don't be afraid to say no.
The 10 types in the workplace was an interesting rebranding of most major personality types encountered in the business world.
The 10 types in the workplace was an interesting rebranding of most major personality types encountered in the business world.
June 23, 2014
Great book! She talks about situations we all face in life and cleverly weaves references to the bull into the labeling of different types of adult bullies we all encounter in the workplace, at home and on the street. Great tips and advice. You will enjoy it!
March 12, 2016
This book is worth it for the puns alone
April 1, 2016
An easy-to-read yet inspirational book, with many lessons to learn. However, the puns sometimes seem a little too forced or abstract...that they fly over my head.
June 20, 2018
كتاب سهل القراءة، خفيف جدا ولكن به الكثير من الأفكار و الزوايا المختلفة لتنشئة شخصية تعرف ما تريد، و تعلم كيف تضع الحدود بطريقة صحيحة.
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