No, I'm not a parent, but I'm teaching a mindfulness class to my students, and this is the first book I've read on the subject of mindfulness and children to prepare for that.
This book started off incredibly strong; you can really recognize Dr. Race's science background. The first few chapters are set up to explain how our brains are wired for stress, including data and research. Race keeps it basic, but informative, and I felt like I had a good handle on basic brain function without feeling condescended to. All of the info she includes is rather alarming - the "children and TV" studies freaked me out, to be honest, and if I do ever have kids, I'm hiding the TV under some sort of rug until they go to bed and I can watch "Real Housewives."
I should say that none of what she discusses is stated in an uppity tone - there is certainly no judgment here. The first part of the book is all about identifying common problems in modern families, and easily makes connections to the different ways in which we live our lives from previous generations. She includes some lovely, simple charts to illustrate our busy-ness, stress levels, etc., as well as including sample work sheets in order to figure out what in your life is external stress, vs. internal, and how to address it. All in all, Mindful Parenting starts out great.
About halfway through the book, I was wondering when the "mindfulness" was going to come in, meaning actual exercises one could do every day, or do with their kids, which would help with the problems the first half of the book described. When Race gets to the mindfulness exercises, that's when the book becomes much more muddled. All of the information she laid out so succinctly in the first part of the book is now repeated ad infinitum with, I must say, a much more alarmist tone. Whereas it felt all science-y and open at the start, the second part of the book made me feel like all of our teenagers' brains were melting before our very eyes and WE MUST DO SOMETHING NOW NOW NOW NOW NOW NOW.
. . . Anyway.
It may have just been the repetitiveness that made it feel alarmist. Every benefit of mindfulness is restated in the context of a "negative" thing discussed in the beginning. It just seemed to be beating a dead horse; obviously I think mindfulness has SOME benefit if I picked up this book. The tone became a bit desperate at times trying to link mindfulness as the cure-all for everything from obesity to self-esteem to drug use to risky behavior. My opinion was dropping fast as I read, getting a bit more bored, skimming, and at times even a bit irritated.
I finally rested in my disappointment when I saw the exercises. Most of them are sort of silly or would take about 30 seconds. For example, she uses "teach your children table manners" as a mindfulness exercise. Well, okay. I mean, the point of mindfulness is that *anything* can be done mindfully, and while she does mention that at times and encourages readers to take a few moments out to really "see" or "hear" the world around them, splitting up obvious things and turning them into "mindful exercises" seems a bit cheap to me. Another exercise was "loosen your tongue and jaw." Good advice, I guess, but I don't think it needed its own entry.
Of course they weren't all "bad" - I really liked "Rose, Bud, Thorn" as well as the idea of eating in silence the first full minute of a meal. It just seems that a lot of the advice (aside from the background info which provided the bulk of the book and was quite good) could be found in any modern parenting guide: Less TV, put your phone down when talking to your kid, teach table manners, teach empathy, praise the effort, not the outcome, etc.
Dr. Race is extremely knowledgable and skilled in mindfulness and mindfulness training, but I have this sneaking suspicion that she's not quite giving away all of her secrets - and I don't blame her, she runs workshops and speaks all over the country, doing exercises with kids, parents, and teachers. And, honestly, as a beginning guide to mindfulness, if you're a parent with absolutely no idea where to begin, this would be great. Even teachers can get a few nuggets in there. But I wouldn't pick it up if you've already had some experience/research in the subject. And speaking as a teacher, there are a lot of full, complex books of mindfulness lessons and exercises, which are not really present here.