A different kind of book about sex by one of the best-known authors in the business. People have made a fetish out of sex. Somewhere along the line, the idea evolved that sex should be done in private and that public sex is unacceptable. In fact the prohibitions around sex go much further, prescribing how sex should be done, what constitutes 'good sex' and what makes for sexual failure. This manual is designed to start readers thinking about their sexual attitudes, specifically about the unconscious ideas they possess regarding what is right and wrong, so that they can progress to, at least, contemplating other approaches. By doing so they may be able to see that their present sexual situation has value of its own, even if by generally accepted measurements it seems distressing. But the book seeks to go further than making readers feel better. By bringing a more creative attitude to sexual relationships, people may discover that they can tackle a number of sexual difficulties that previously proved intransigent. This is not a 'how-to' sex manual in the mechanical tradition although some 'how-to' is included. Each section works on specific aspects of sex by introducing ideas about how they can be regarded differently. By re-framing ideas, attitudes towards sex can be calmed sufficiently for personal strengths and values to emerge from the all-too-common fog of stress and unhappiness. 150 b/w illustrations.
Anne is an author, journalist, broadcaster, partner – and mother to three grown sons. She gave up the struggle to decide which of these roles is most important and relaxed into acceptance that all are important. Her priorities are: partner and three sons in equal measure. She writes to earn a living.
“Writing is not just about the joy of earning money. Writing, of any sort, offers such a spark of creativity that it compensates for the tough things in life. And of course life has been both tough and joyful," she says.