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Уникальное иллюстрированное практическое руководство для мужчин, которое научит успешно знакомиться и завязывать отношения с женщинами в любых ситуациях.

Эта книга поможет каждому мужчине успешно знакомиться и завязывать отношения с женщинами в любых ситуациях. Если женщина хочет вас, она сама расскажет вам об этом, не проронив ни единого слова — просто подавая вам скрытые сексуальные сигналы (С.С.С.). Если вы правильно отреагируете на эти сигналы, то никогда больше не получите отказа. Лейл Лаундес, автор бестселлера «Как влюбить в себя любого», рассказывает о безотказных приемах, которые помогут вам стать виртуозом в общении с женщинами.

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304 pages, Hardcover

First published November 1, 2006

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Leil Lowndes

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Leil Lowndes is an author and internationally recognized communications expert who specializes in subconscious interactions. She has conducted hundreds of seminars in the US and around the world for major corporations, associations, and the general public, and frequently appears as a guest expert on national television shows and major news networks. She has authored ten bestselling books on communications — most recently, How to Talk to Anyone at Work: 72 Little Tricks for Big Success Communicating on the Job — and is published in over 26 foreign languages. She lives in New York City.

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Profile Image for عدنان العبار.
504 reviews127 followers
January 21, 2022
Undercover Sex Signals is, as it promises, a good guide for guys who want to date single women. If the aim of a guy is to bed a single woman, this book offers an interesting strategy. I was baffled only because I was totally unexpecting, but the strategy was very interesting. Unlike those very long ads that try to sell you a secret by saying everything but that secret, I will spill it out here.

In most of nature, and where rape is untenable (think chimps and dolphins), the final choice of whether the genes propagate is up to the females. They are the ultimate choosers. They choose which male to mate with, and which to avoid. And even in the species where animals do engage in forceful mating (rape), the ultimate choice in the statistical limit is still up to females. This book has the interesting insight of exploiting that feature of nature.

Some men may boast that they are able to acquire any woman that suits their tastes (to which we would jeeringly say: Yeah, right!) but that is not only untrue, but also ridiculous, and incredible in that we know they would ultimately say that the woman they got suits their tastes. The author (Lowndes) recalls her visit to the dentist, in which both Dr. Daniels' receptionist and the secretary said that he (the doctor) is able to bed any woman he wishes. Dr. Daniels reveals his secret. He does not get to choose the women he sleeps with. He lets them choose him. He is simply attentive to the women who show inadvertent attraction towards him, although perhaps some women may intentionally show attraction almost subliminally, and he picks up those undercover sex signals and he slickly approaches those women. It's a winning strategy for any man to get laid, and it's very intuitive.

Will the method work? That remains an empirical question. (I'm joking here, of course.) But it is useful in trying, and I bet it just might work. The gestures are always kind and thoughtful. One such method was noticing which women notice you, which women play with their hair, and smiling or nodding towards them, and then waiting for them to look back at you (by which if they haven't in 45 seconds, that might signify disinterest). Never approach a woman in a way she doesn't see you approaching. Keep a distance. Make sure you smell good and dress well. See if she plays with her jewelry, or removes her coat. Does she draw herself back when you bring yourself closer? What happens if you look deep into her eyes when she is talking, will she react positively or negatively? And what constitutes positive or negative signals? These are all points that the author discusses diligently.

Now, you might ask: Adnan, why are you reading this book? You're trying to find women nearby? You're trying to get laid? You're looking for a cute woman who you can date? The answer is a definite thrice-fold no. I just finished a book on the methodology of the social sciences, and this is the first self-help book that presented itself on Audible, which I chose to read. It's a fun book. I doubt I will ever be interested in any woman I find in a bar, since I find shallow women off-putting, and most women (as most men) are extremely shallow. But I think I might return to those undercover sex signals if I date in the future, since a woman, no matter how cultured, cultivated, smart, or of high stature, will still be a woman, and maybe this book will be useful in my future dates.
Profile Image for Sina Beni.
155 reviews
October 22, 2022
I enjoyed every section of this book. As a 37 year old male who considers himself successful in my sex life, I can say half of the book is surely are things u have picked up by now in life, but the other half is more interesting cause it’s about the times u were wondering if there is any signal. How often in different situation you were just trying to be a gentleman and not to read between the lines.
After reading this book I see things a bit better, it’s not like Im trying to pick someone up necessarily but still see the signals around and flirting is awesome. I just wish I wud read this book when I was 20, and from then every year rereading it or something similar.

Ps: just the fact of gaining more knowledge with this book will give you enough confidence to try ur luck, even if u read things wrong u still try and cause u try u will succeed
16 reviews
July 15, 2022
Very helpful guide to for picking up women.
250 reviews4 followers
November 30, 2022
The main idea is that women choose you and you need to recognize the signals they show you to go and talk to them. Even though some signals are kinda well-known (from movies) and they are cliche, I am not sure the tips from the book will work well with any woman, especially if it is outside USA. The main ideas/ tips from the book for me are:

2 out of 3 times the women are the ones who initiate the meeting with subtle physical signals. So don’t ask yourself who you can attract but rather who is attracted to you and can approach (aka which of these women like me and from those which do I like).
If any woman has an open posture or palms towards you, perk up/ straighten their posture, show her neck - they like you.
If a woman plays with her necklace or licks her lips (caress herself or expose her skin) - these are signals she wants you to approach her.
If you are with a woman, who likes bad boys, don’t become one. But instead do things to surprise her, be unpredictable at times, add mystery, secrecy. But this is addictive and often people become higher and higher threshold of what it takes to get that adrenaline flow again.
When you stare deeply into the eyes of a woman, as long as she finds you initially attractive, and keep them there especially during silences, it works magic on her.
If somebody likes us, they tend to emulate our movements and if they don’t like us, they purposefully try to move in opposite way.
People who look alike tend to marry each other.
You have to match the intensity of the smile of the woman.
When you are seated next to her, turn your head to her only when speaking with her unless she escalates the encounter. Then you follow suit when she pivots her body towards you (but proceed cautiously). Move in synchronicity - as she lifts her glass or puts at the bar, as she leans with an elbow to the bar, if she is standing and puts a foot on the step - do the same. You do it because it gives the impression that you are on the same wavelength. Attraction to a stranger, is a function of the proportion of similarity that the subject perceive, and the best way to perceive you are alike is to move in sequence with them.
Bad pickup lines are comments on her physical appearance. Instead ask her an open-ended question: what is the time, do you know the host/ bartender, what is she drinking and why she likes it. It doesn’t matter so much what you say but how you say it.
Profile Image for Anton Klink.
191 reviews38 followers
January 22, 2013
What a load of rubbish this book was. If you want to get nowhere with women, be sure to adhere to the advice dispensed in this book. Otherwise, steer clear, steer way clear.

Lowndes obviously has no idea, how to REALLY appear attractive to women. All she can impart with is the kind of "what your mom told you" advice that never got a man anywhere (except unhappily married maybe). It is the dated kind of "roses and chocolate and being nice" advice, that will make all the nice guys wonder, why they always finish last and why they never seem to attract the women they really want to.

An obvious cash-in by Lowndes (she seems to be writing books on a treadmill) who really has no business giving guys advice on how to meet and attract women. I was sent a physical copy of the book as a gift but I haven't seen it for years in my household. I may have thrown it in the trash since that's where it really belonged anyway.
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October 15, 2017
If you happen to visit bars or other locations where Leil Lowndes and her friends are hanging, reading this book will help you to recognize some of the "signals" they may cast you and will teach you how to react to them so as to play their seduction game according to their rules.
If you are the type of guys who can come to a party and leave without people noticing, especially people of the opposite sex, you can read about the sex signals women may send to other guys.
Even if most of Lowndes' book is backed up by real experiments and scientific studies, I am still skeptical that every woman, or even a majority of women, will (re)act as described in this book. Perhaps in her circle of friends, that is how they play the game, but each country/culture will have strong influences on women in other situations.
Fortunately, Lowndes' style is flowing and the book is short.
Profile Image for Brandin Sampson.
2 reviews
July 11, 2019
Realistic

The book discussed real life interactions (as in i have seen, yet I was not aware). This book also helped my perspective. I would recommend reading, and brushing up on for social situations.
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519 reviews4 followers
February 8, 2023
It was perfectly good but somewhat basic body language interpretation guide. What I liked, in comparison to pua books written by guys, is that it's more aimed at nonverbal, and much less about what to say. This means it's universal and will work in any country. A few things were new, but the say your name as the best pickup line wasn't. Not knowing these things isn't my problem, but the way I sequester myself from girls. I just always seem to have better things to do, oh well. The book could have been better if the narrator were sexier, but she was a female voice nevertheless, which is always good to hear after all those investing books by males. Toward the end there is a good recap that I might save for it later where she goes through the 26 signals again, each in a nutshell, that part is good. The what to say part was a bit less useful to me. Oh, and it could have been a bit longer. It fit into a walk nicely, but so many other books seem endless with 0 substance, finally an interesting one and it's over in like 2 hours :D Bummer. Anyway, I don't get the low rating, maybe pua books are not exactly literary classics, but I extracted more value from this than from certain 4+rated ones.
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928 reviews34 followers
January 3, 2024
- Women begin judging a guy the moment she sees him, and she will quickly decide (within seconds) if he is worthy of further investigation. The judgement uses the flimsiest evidence, but once judged, it's hard for women to change their mind (not impossible, but hard)

- Women notices every men walking into the door

- Women loves a man who takes responsibilities, apologizes and aim to improve

- An exaggerated eye contact with a woman makes her wonder more - she feels like she is drawn into it. Author noted that for her, she can't forget the "I-know-you-are-checking-me-out-and-I-am-confident-with-it" eye contact she've gotten once. She also noted that almost all women enjoy the "you're so beautiful I just can't take my eyes off from you" look (granted, the guy must have social intelligence to know it's mutual. Otherwise it's creepy and scary)

- "Women like a man with strong features, who looks like he would be a good and caring provider. But she also likes a touch of boyishness so she could mother him"

- Depending on the social class, blue collar girls generally prefer muscled guys. Whereas high-paid women find muscle guys off-putting, and prefer slim and sensitive body

- Women prefer men they can't figure out
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December 3, 2020
EVERY MAN NEEDS TO READ THIS BOOK (& every woman so she can understand that the majority of men have NO CLUES about woman's speak/actions/communication)
Knowing the pickup game well I can GUARANTEE YOU that these female "non-verbal communication" signals are extremely accurate (NOTE all the scientific studies conducted & mentioned to SUPPORT her information).
Where ever a guy goes he gets "undercover signals" from women who are interested in him. This book will teach him what to look for.
Dating Coaches (ESPECIALLY Female Dating Coaches who teach men) place heavy emphasis on these INITIAL undercover female signals.
IT'S OBVIOUS that people who ridicule this book HAVEN'T gone to a bar/club to see for themselves & watch women GIVE OUT THESE UNDERCOVER SIGNALS to men they are interested in.
13 reviews
August 24, 2021
The first few chapters are full of “scientific” evidence that 95% of men are doomed as they keep missing all these “opportunities”. Then comes the trivial advice on the “secret” and “undercover” signals that only a toddler wouldn’t know!

All the examples used by the author to back her arguments, do nothing but stating the obvious. You can find online the titles of the chapters, something that will help you realise the pettiness of the advice offered in the book.

The book doesn’t tell you that if a woman likes you, she’ll find a way to approach you even if you miss all those 26 “signals”.

Thank goodness it was a free audiobook!
24 reviews
April 11, 2023
It's an okay book on dating body language. It could have been half the amount of pages. It is written like someone trying to sound cool to a high schooler. While the body language portions are generally common behaviors I have seen out in the wild, the advice on dating is pretty bad. Too much focus on being emotionally caring and wooing a girl. If you do this you will be automatically classified as a beta provider. Also, do not take a woman out to a restaurant, movie, opera, or play on the first date. You are just wasting your money.
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403 reviews1 follower
May 9, 2018
Nachdem ich von ihrem Buch 'how to talk to anyone' so begeistert war war dieses Buch eher ein Flop. Zwar erfährt man einiges über ihr Leben und einige Tipps sind auch gut, hängen bleiben aber die ständigen Wiederholungen wie versiert Frauen im Körpersprache lesen sind, etc..
Das Buch hat große Ähnlichkeiten mit den unseriösen Pickup Büchern und das obwohl bei Leil sicherlich mehr Fundament vorhanden ist. Alleine die Empfehlungen unterschwellig Vermögen zu signalisieren sind eher peinlich. Und später im Buch widerspricht sie sich selbst.
Die Sprache soll vermutlich das ganze aufpeppen, ist aber als fremdsprachiger Leser eine kleine Zusatzherausforderung und die flapsige Art passt einfach nicht.
Positiv sind sicherlich einige Studien auf die sie verweist und die Anregung einfach zu machen. Trotzdem hätte man das ganze auf 50 Seiten ohne Verlust von Inhalt herausbringen können.
Profile Image for T. Laane.
757 reviews93 followers
July 31, 2023
Found an unlisted book from 2013 June. I seemed to have liked it, took quite a lot of notes, although they seem obvious today :) A random note I did not practice pack then: do NOT speak about ex-girls to Your new woman. I actually did follow that rule only now in my last relationship - married, been together 5 years. It is totally worth it, because talking about ex relationships would only hurt your current one. Do not. Period :)
1 review1 follower
March 31, 2018
A must for everyone to read

Should be required reading for males and females in that there would be less frustration for women and more happier couples. Trust us ladies: we didn't understand your signals before otherwise we really WOULD have come to talk to you. Leil did a huge favor for women by writing this book.
Profile Image for Jack.
330 reviews7 followers
November 28, 2021
This book sucks and I would not recommend it to guys. It's belittling to both men and women. If I were to summarize the one helpful point from the book: use mirroring techniques to establish a relationship/rapport (with anyone).

Additionally, Leil's writing style is super dated; like a 1980's NYC gossip columnist. I definitely don't think it works in the 2020's.
161 reviews1 follower
June 6, 2023
The book was for free on audible so I thought it might be interesting understanding male and female psychology. It’s a bit disappointing because it’s more kind of a Hollywood movie guide how to pick up girls. Actually the subtitle is saying that, I guess I was just a bit naive. Anyway, it’s quite entertaining and made me several times laugh.
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Author 18 books37 followers
July 9, 2025
Although this book is already 25 years old, I suspect it would have sounded a bit dated even then. In defense of the book, though, there are some interesting observations about the female psyche that seem as relevant today as ever.

Full disclosure here, I read books such as this to be able to develop interesting fictional characters whose use of such techniques comes quite naturally.
Profile Image for Joshua Lockhart.
2 reviews1 follower
December 8, 2017
Laughable "tips" for guys when it comes to hooking up at their favorite bar. The book reads as if written by a 15 year old girl in lala land. Screams bs in every chapter along with extremely cringy jokes.
4 reviews
October 24, 2019
Understood what the author was saying, well most of anyway.

Wouldn't recommend to anyone unless they enjoyed reading as much as I do...good subject matter! Took too long to read.
Profile Image for Michel Guindon.
6 reviews1 follower
May 18, 2021
Read this out of curiosity and to understand the human nature and relationships. Nothing earth shattering that I have learned but wish I had this resource when I was younger definitely give you a head start in understanding relationships
Profile Image for Nikhil Verma.
41 reviews
December 4, 2022
Quite a regular books, though could be decent read for really novice, otherwise most of the things mentioned are quite obvious, known. However quite well documented, explained and the pace is quite understanding to adapt to
Profile Image for Teighan Keller.
4 reviews
March 13, 2023
This book had very deep research into sex signs and many were new to me and pretty cool to hear about, there was a lot of data that was very professor like felt like I was in class at times (boring) but the overall point was pretty cool and tests along the way to help keep you on pace
Profile Image for Juan Pérez.
21 reviews
December 26, 2023
Es un libro que contiene algunas buenas ideas… pero como esperaba al leerlo (pensé que iba a ser un libro para reírse), hay cosas que no creo que se sigan perpetuando a día de hoy.

Esta bien, como todo, para tener perspectivas de todo
Profile Image for Raja.
1 review
October 30, 2017
Nice book

I thought this book to be generally good. There are some useful tips that can help any guy pick up on women's ucss
Profile Image for Vlad Petrescu.
23 reviews1 follower
July 23, 2021
Was expecting some interesting science-based stuff or at least something controversial.
This is just utter crap. Just watch a 5 minute youtube video or something.
Profile Image for Tarek Omran.
120 reviews1 follower
December 29, 2021
Too mechanical and list based. In other words a typical American self help book, that doesn’t address the core problem of finding someone compatible and actually good for you!
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179 reviews1 follower
April 20, 2023
Interest insights into body language and signals, but a little to focused on sex and manipulation.
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