Dating with Pure Passion: More than Rules, More than Courtship, More than a Formula

by Rob Eagar

This book is out of print and no longer available.

Genres: Christian, Relationships, Nonfiction

256 pages, Paperback

First published July 1, 2005

Reviews

[Electric Bubbles · Rating 2 out of 5]

The messy game of dating. How ought a Christian to go about it? Well, maybe this book will help you, maybe not. The first chapter I found to be very helpful, encouraging, and Biblical....but after that the theology got very shallow, and Eagar seems to want to simply take the worldly form of dating and modify it.
If you do plan to date (vs. courting) this book could be useful with it's ideas of where to meet Christian singles, locations for first dates, etc., but dating still doesn't seem to include the Biblical model of the parents being involved. It's still one boy and one girl leaving alone and getting to know each other in a date like setting. Personally, it seems to me, that dating teaches one how to be good at dating. On a date, everyone is at their best. You open doors for her, she focuses only on you. That's nice. It's probably important for a relationship to have those times. But it's probably more important to know what someone is like at home, with the family gathered together, with a pile of dishes to be done, or when a child spills orange juice. How is his work ethic? How is she with children? What does my dad think of him? These questions are more important to me than knowing if we can have fun for one night.
Probably the main thing that sealed my disapproval for this book, was how Eagar deals with physical attraction. I understand that some people might struggle with feeling guilty for feeling attracted to someone's appearance, and they could stand to learn that this is part of life, and it's not necessarily wrong. But to base any part of your relationship on the physical is flimsy. To first be attracted to someone because of their appearance and then to following through because of that, I believe, is unwise. I hope my future husband isn't looking at my appearance and doesn't lose any of his love for me as I age and that appearance changes.

[Tiffany · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have to admit, from the first chapter of this book I wasn't too hip on it. I had some doubts from some of the things he was saying, but as I read on I understand why he was saying the things that he said. After finishing the book I would recommend it to anyone, even if you don't agree with everything he says, it does make you think about a lot of different things. As a single woman who has never had a relationship, it's hard to read books that talk about the relationship aspect and not enough about the single aspect. I thought this book had a good balance of both.

[Clare · Rating 2 out of 5]

This book has some beautiful chapters on how romantic love should be 'sacrificial', ie thinking more of the needs of the other person than of oneself, like Christ's love for us. However, the limited understanding of forgiveness as simply once and for all, and the misrepresentation of the futility of good works limits the effectiveness of the book.

There is also significant focus on the complications of dating a divorced person (the author himself is divorced and remarried). The advice on making yourself attractive by being someone worthwhile and pinpointing issues to discuss before marriage are helpful, though there are perhaps other books that cover these topics equally well.

[Brittany · Rating 1 out of 5]

I just couldn't get myself to actually finish this book. It is just poorly written, and he continuously contradicts himself. I was really looking forward to a wonderful Christian relationship book, and this is definitely not it. I recommend you read "Going All the Way" by Craig Groeschel.

[Rochelle]

I'm not in the dating game. Since I'm "almost" a single person again, I would love to read.

[Kagimu Brian · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a very important book i have read in my life. It reminds one that true love comes from God and one can only love another in this case the opposite sex once they allow the love of Christ to rule in their lives. I found its' guidance and advice a blessing

[Brandon · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wow, this book was an eye opener. If you've ever been in a bad relationship, you need this book! The greatest part was the authors constant focus on the importance a relationship with Christ is before we can have the relationship with others that Christ intended for us to have. The constant and consistent emphasis on Christ's unconditional love is fantastic. This book is also filled with great examples of HOW we let the Holy Spirit work in our lives, not just telling you that you need the Holy Spirit. It was an easy read as well. It did leave me with a couple questions pertinent to my own situation, but I imagine that is common with any book. At least it revealed those questions to me, so that I can seek God and get the answers. I plan on reading this book again in a few months. Lots of good stuff.

[Steve Bedford · Rating 4 out of 5]

Solid advice. Light on the trite. Didn't agree with everything, but definitely a solid resource.

[Erin Blair · Rating 5 out of 5]

Practical advice on dating from a biblical standpoint. Explains why you shoudl guard your heart, and how. Why you shouldn't have premarital sex. What sort of baggage you should be leery of. Lots of good practical advice here.

[Lam]

I'm doing this one real slow because so far, it's not quite as inspiring as it sounds, nor as unformulaic as the reviews suggest.

[Christina · Rating 5 out of 5]

I've only started the first chapter but at least that part gets 5 stars!

[Deanna]

A must read for anyone who is single and serving God!

[Renada Thompson · Rating 3 out of 5]

Covered familiar ground. Memorable quote from Bob George: "We will ultimately treat others in exactly the same way we think God treats us." That's my main takeaway from the book.

[Franty Ozora · Rating 5 out of 5]

Penjelasan yang sangat dalam dan cukup doktrin about dating. ya gitu dehh. hahaha. Belinya di singapore nih. baguss

[Audra · Rating 4 out of 5]

Excellent book for Christian singles, especially! I love that it is from a man's POV and I plan to keep it as a reference book. So many good points I wish I'd learned ten years ago!!!!

[Elizabeth Martinez · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have this book in Spanish, from the begin to end this book it's wonderful, the message it's great and help me a lot.

[Oriana Obiri Ampomah · Rating 5 out of 5]

Absolutely amazing book. Every single gal and boy shoudl read this!!!

[Rejoice]

a very good book on dating, marriage and relationships. so kilig much.