Violent No More: Helping Men End Domestic Abuse

by Michael Paymar

The author guides readers through the process of recognizing abusive behaviors, taking responsibility for them, and learning to express anger without violence. This new edition includes updated resources, additional exercises, and guidelines for men of different cultural and ethnic backgrounds.

Genres: Nonfiction, Abuse, Self Help

256 pages, Paperback

First published December 12, 1991

About the author

Michael Paymar is a Minnesotan politician and member of the Minnesota House of Representatives. A member of the Minnesota Democratic–Farmer–Labor Party, he represents District 64B, which includes portions of the city of Saint Paul in Ramsey County, which is part of the Twin Cities metropolitan area. He is also a resource specialist for the Battered Women's Justice Project.

Paymar graduated from East High School in Duluth, then went on to the College of St. Scholastica, also in Duluth, graduating with a B.A. in education and history. He later attended Hamline University in Saint Paul, earning his M.P.A. He served on the Duluth City Council from 1980–1988, and was council president in 1984. Later, after moving to Saint Paul, he served on the Saint Paul Charter Commission prior to being elected to the Legislature.

Paymar was first elected to the Minnesota House of Representatives in 1996 and has been re-elected every two years since then. He announced on November 20, 2013 that will he not be seeking re-election in 2014.

He was also a member of the Committee on Law and Justice for the National Conference of State Legislatures and of the Public Safety and Justice Task Force for the Council of State Governments.

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Reviews

[Lynsie · Rating 5 out of 5]

It is very difficult and rare for an abusive man to truly get better, but this book is a good start if someone wants to start on that journey.

[Suzanne Ondrus · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is an excellent training manual or even a self help manual. Lots of great exercises, case studies, excerpts from group sessions... Also excerpts from this book would be great in a women's studies/gender studies class, showing the complex mentality of the abuser and presenting ways to get away from abusive behavior.

[Tegan | Snakes Don't Wear Braces · Rating 5 out of 5]

For anyone working in the sector, or anyone wanting to make some changes I'd highly recommend this text and the accompanying workbook.

[Rhapsody Phoenix · Rating 5 out of 5]

Working in the field of Domestic Violence I have not come across a book as comprehensive as this that specifically address in detail the ways men who are violent can begin to address their issues of violence against women and its impact and consequences. It is well written and organized with explicit guidelines for violent men and how they can change. It also includes guidelines for men remaining non-violent and great resources, books and films.

A very good read. I would recommend anyone working with men in the domestic violence field (or men who batter wanting to address/change their behaviour) to reference this book to assist in developing their programs for violent men.

[austin tucker · Rating 3 out of 5]

Good book with a lot of foundational truths but

I have to say that I throughly enjoyed this book but did not fully agree with all of the authors spins on demonizing the complimentary position. He doesn’t come out and say it but it is there in his push for an egalitarianism. Which has its place but it cast a wrongful shadow on the traditional Christian home. I am reading this from a ministers point of view to be far.