There are 81,000 women and girls killed per year, according to NGO Womankind worldwide. The UN says 45,000 of these die at the hands of an intimate partner or a family member. Femicide is a global problem.
"My sister.....'disappeared.' They found some of her clothes, a yellow skirt and a white blouse, blood on them. No body, ever. We had no body to bury. We never speak about it. No one does. Like she never even existed. Nothing we could say could bring her back, so nothing was ever said."
This book was one hell of a ride. The story is a re-imagining of true events that occurred in the Trinidad & Tobago 2016 carnival season. It is a multi pov story that tells the story of a society where violence against women has permeated its fabric so deeply that it has become commonplace. The murder of a foreigner has now sparked outcry from the local women as they seek to force men in this misogynistic society to see the humanity of womanhood and do something meaningful to protect them. As the saying goes, 'it is never all men, but it is always a man'. As to be expected, the women's movement is initially not supported by the men folk or even many women, but thankfully, the sisterhood eventually unites for the betterment of !!!.
"I mean, I don't wish to upset anyone, but, while this is a horrible crime, and while it is entirely regrettable, and while we must find the killer, I do have to add that ...it is up to women to avoid being molested while carnival is happening."
"I mean,...did she try to fight her attacker off? No. It could easily be that she drank too much, and so she behaved in a certain way. I mean, so many women at carnival time behave and dress in such a lewd and vulgar way, is like a hazard. They askin for this kind of thing to happen."
I know some criticized this book as being a little too on the nose, a little too heavy and direct with the misogyny. But I urge you to re-read the two above quotes and then research the real like speech of the mayor of the city where this even occurred, and tell me if you were to spot a difference. Misogyny and femicide are often handed out overtly and in very obviously harmful ways, so I appreciate the author being so very blatant about it. Let us reserve our delicate sensibilities for other areas.
"Banning sex. Going on a sex strike. Nah. Next, they would be castration men in public. He could see it all. Balls squashed in a vice. Men in the stocks. Paraded through town, hooded, and sitting backwards on donkeys, forced to confess their infidelities. Nah, nah, nah. Infidelity was normal, for Chrissakes." - a man's interpretation and thought process to women protesting their ill treatment and murders by going on a sex strike.
'"The loved " had a blind spot about this. They imagined everybody was. And therefore, all humans had a conscience. But this wasn't the case, a grave and common mistake. " -words of a murder as he stalks vulnerable prey.
"But the real hard question is, how? How could our own men, men who know oppression, do this to us? How they could kill they own women?" - a question that men must ask themselves.
"The problem had been that her ego had never dominated. She'd been so reined in. In service to Errol's ego, to the ego of the nation." -In patriarchal societies, women continue to defer to men's ego, often times to their own detriment.
4.5🌟 rounded up!