Sieben Jahre

by Peter Stamm

Alex has spent the majority of his adult life between two very different women--and he can't make up his mind. Sonia, his wife and business partner, is everything a man would want. Intelligent, gorgeous, charming, and ambitious, she worked tirelessly alongside him to open their architecture firm and to build a life of luxury. But when the seven-year itch sets in, their exhaustion at working long hours coupled with their failed attempts at starting a family get the best of them. Alex soon finds himself kindling an affair with his college lover, Ivona. The young Polish woman who worked in a Catholic mission is the polar opposite of Sonia: dull, passive, taciturn, and plain. Despite having little in common with Ivona, Alex is inexplicably drawn to her while despising himself for it. Torn between his highbrow marriage and his lowbrow affair, Alex is stuck within a spiraling threesome. But when Ivona becomes pregnant, life takes an unexpected turn, and Alex is puzzled more than ever by the mysteries of his heart.
Peter Stamm, one of Switzerland's most acclaimed writers, is at his best exploring the complexities of human relationships. Seven Years is a distinct, sobering, and bold novel about the impositions of happiness in the quest for love.

Genres: Fiction, German Literature, Contemporary, Novels, Roman, Germany, Literary Fiction

313 pages, Hardcover

First published January 1, 2009

About the author

Peter Stamm grew up in Weinfelden in the canton of Thurgau the son of an accountant. After completing primary and secondary school he spent three years as an apprentice accountant and then 5 as an accountant. He then chose to go back to school at the University of Zurich taking courses in a variety of fields including English studies, Business informatics, Psychology, and Psychopathology. During this time he also worked as an intern at a psychiatric clinic. After living for a time in New York, Paris, and Scandinavia he settled down in 1990 as a writer and freelance journalist in Zurich. He wrote articles for, among others, the Neue Zürcher Zeitung, the Tages-Anzeiger, Die Weltwoche, and the satirical newspaper Nebelspalter. Since 1997 he has belonged to the editorial staff of the quarterly literary magazine "Entwürfe für Literatur." He lives in Winterthur.

Reviews

[Warwick · Rating 1 out of 5]

Well this is one of those novels that just makes me wonder if professional reviewers are completely fucking high – or if we even read the same book.

I thought the plot was tedious and oppressive, the characters deeply unlikeable, and the prose stylistically barren. I am giving it two stars because most of this is deliberate and therefore competently done – Stamm is apparently one of those writers who thinks that the best way to reflect the disorientation of the modern world is to write books that hold everything at arm's length and relate all narrative in the same dull monotone. (He reminds me a little of Michel Houellebecq, although the papers prefer to make unwise comparisons with Camus.) Dialogue is stripped of quote marks and bunched together in single paragraphs for extra literary cred:

I asked her if she didn't want to call ahead to set up interviews, but she shook her head. The best thing was just to drop by, once people saw you they had more trouble saying no to you. You mean your beauty will win them over? She looked at me furiously. That's mean, I can't help the way I look. I said it could be worse, and laid my hands on her shoulders and pulled her against me, and now she hugged me and kissed me properly. She asked if I'd slept well. I said, I dreamed about you. That's not true, admit it.

End paragraph. Anthony Cummins of the Observer thinks this is a good way of ‘keeping us on our toes’. Well I'm as en pointe as the next reader, but the issue is not that it's confusing, it's that it's irritating and it makes everything tonally flat.

It is possible to write about the cold, dead detachment of modern life in an engaging way – JG Ballard does it, but that's because he writes sentences full of compressed wit and unusual simile. Stamm's prose is described by fans as being ‘sparse’ or ‘economical’ or ‘cool’ but the reality is that it's just extremely boring. The New Statesman actually quotes the following as an example of his flair for ‘the apparently innocent descriptive sentence that comes saturated in mental atmosphere’:

Sometimes, when Sonia was in bed already, I would go for a walk down to the Academy, and sit by the shore and think about my life, and how it could have been different.

Really? That's a sentence we should be admiring? ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME. Sometimes, when Sonia was in bed already, I would go for a walk down to the Academy, and sit by the shore and think about my life, and how it could have been different. I don't even know how to argue with someone who puts this forward as an example of great writing. My two-year-old daughter's analysis of Frozen is more profound than this plodding description of one moron's trivial mid-life crisis.

The whole plot is in fact staggeringly banal: a man is married to a gorgeous but inhibited woman and he has an affair with an ‘ugly’ Polish immigrant because he can. This is ‘far from being merely another novelistic account of an affair’, according to Toby Litt in the Guardian – ‘what helps it transcend this is one of the great characters of contemporary fiction’, namely Ivona, the Polish Other Woman.

I mean…what. The mind boggles. Ivona is the opposite of a great character of contemporary fiction. A useless character of historical biography, perhaps. She says about three words in the entire novel, and is characterised wholly by her unmotivated and implausible adoration of our protagonist. She is a symbol of lower-class pathos with no personality of her own.

Once again I found Michael Hofmann's translation just okay, with a few clunky moments. Hilariously, Sarah Fay in the New York Times writes about Hofmann's ‘conscientious translations, which even maintain the comma splices that occur regularly in German but appear as grammatical errors in English’ – but because she has already decided this is a work of near-genius, she concludes that this stylistic mis-step must be ‘a device that serves to illustrate the frailty of the characters’ perceptions’. Bullshit. And if it were true, it would still be a mistake, since by her own argument it's an effect not present in the original.

I am sick to death of these writers who think stylelessness is an acceptable style, and of these coolly distant novels that think emotional detachment is the best way to explain emotional detachment. And I didn't even get around to mentioning the laboured architectural metaphors…actually you know what, fuck it, I'm downgrading this to one star. Enough.

[Araz Goran · Rating 3 out of 5]

لم يكن العنوان موفقاً بالمرة ،لم يكن للسبع سنوات أي تأثير على مجريات الرواية بشكل عام..


الرواية تحكي عن صراع داخلي مرير يواجهه رجل في علاقته مع إمرأتين ،صراع عنيف يحول حياة الرجل إلى مأساة حقيقة يعيش فيها كالمشرد والتائه ويبحث عن مخرج دائم ليعود إلى حالته الطبيعية ، الرواية خالية من التشويق ، مجرد سرد لحياة الرجل بأزمنة متقطعة وتنقل بين أحداث الحاضر والماضي وإن كانت تحكى بواقعية ومشاعر صريحة خالية من التزييف والتلفيق، شعرت بالفعل أنها مشاعر صادقة ونقية جداً بالرغم من عدم تقبلي لفكرة الرواية ولكن جذبني كقارئ شيء من الانسانية المتأصلة في حياة الرجل ومواقفه وإعترافاته الصريحة الملئية أحياناً بالتناقض وأحياناً بنوع من الوعي بالذات والواقع،ذلك الذي لا نجده في الإنسان الشرقي عموماً، نجد كيف كيف أنه يعترف بعدم إلتزامه بالمسؤولية الأخلاقية وفشله الذريع في التخلص من عقدته التي حولت حياته وحياة أسرته إلى مستنقع من التخبط والفشل الروحي والمعنوي ..


حيرني التقييم كثيراً، الرواية فيها جوانب سيئة جداً فعلاً ولكن هناك بعض المواقف والإنطباعات وطبيعة حياة الرجل، تجعل من الرواية تستحق القراءة والوقوف عندها طويلاً ..

[Karen·]

Accessible, seductive, sober, a style that is as direct and clean as a knife. There is a hint of layering and depth through references to Le Corbusier and Aldo Rossi, but these fizzle out and turn into little more than local colour, the protagonists have to make a living after all, and the boom and bust cycle in the building industry is a handy complication.
But will German speaking culture ever manage to shake off the fascination of dichotomies? Either or. Science or mysticism. Dionysus or Apollo. Black or white. Mind or body.
So, Alex has two women. The one he married is intellectual and prim, Kopfmensch, the one he doesn't is sensual and doglike in her loyalty. Clearly neither relationship can work, who'd have thought. Hard to have the whole deal with half a woman. Try again, Alex.

[Banu Yıldıran Genç · Rating 3 out of 5]

çok adını duyduğum bir romandı ama beklentim fazla yüksekmiş sanırım :) alex’in bencilliği ve kendini haklı çıkarma çabaları üzerine bir roman olmuş sanki. soğuk alman kadını klişesi de höfff dedirtiyor ama yine de yazar alex’i okura tamamen açıyor, kadın karakterler tarafından doğru bir biçimde eleştirtiyor. son dönemde okuduğum “bağlar” çok daha gizli bir erkek romanıydı mesela.
onun dışında duvarın yıkılması, avroya geçilmesi romanın güzel bir biçimde parçası olmuş.
çeviriyi çok beğendim bu arada.

* üç ayrı romana değinerek erkekliğe dair bir yazı yazmıştım oggito'da. romanlardan biri de bu.
https://tembelveyazar.blogspot.com/20...

[Aslıhan Çelik Tufan · Rating 4 out of 5]

Gerçekten tam olarak kitaba karşı hissiyatımdan emin değilim. Çok merak ettirip çok koştur koştur okutuyor kendini. Çok düşündürüyor.

Aslında hayatımız seçimlerimizden ibaret dedirtiyor ama şahsen Alex’ i hayatımda tanımış onla bi bira içmiş olsam bi tokat çakıp arkadaşım kendine gel bi kararlarının arkasında dur derim!

Dilindeki tutukluğu açıkçası üzülerek çeviriye bağlıyorum.

Ana öykü dışında AB, Berlin duvarı yıkımına dek değinmesini çok sevdim amma velakin ana üç karakterden birinin Polonyalı olması üzerinden Alman günah çıkarmasını daha çok bekler ve hatta memnun olurdum o noktada kaçak dövüşülmüş bence. Tabii ben yazardan başka eser okumadım belki daha önce değinmiştir başka bi kitabında bilemem.

Yaz günlerinde ağır gelmez hikaye karakter ve işleniş yerinde, tavsiye ediyorum.

[mai ahmd · Rating 3 out of 5]

تدور هذه الرواية على لسان الشخصية الرئيسية وهو طالب في فن العمارة يتزوج من صديقة له تدرس معه سونيا مثال للفتاة الكاملة التي يحلم بها الرجال .. إيفونا تدخل على الخط وهي فتاة يتعرف عليها أليكس في مغامرة مشاغبة مع مجموعة من رفاقه فتصبح كلصقة على الجرح ..

إيفونا بولندية مهاجرة غير شرعية قبيحة كما يصفها الكاتب (وإن كان قد عدل عن ذلك في بعض المقاطع ) لا تملك أي سمة من سمات الجمال شخص يكاد يكون غير مرئي وهي بذلك تشكل النقيض من زوجته الفوضى التي تعيشها إيفونا المنساقة بلاأي حد تجاه إليكس تذكره بطفولته وحياته السابقة .. خضوعها له بلا أي شرط ولا قيد ولا تطلب يجعل أليكس يدخل معها في علاقة غريبة الشكل محورها الجنس و الإحساس بالسلطة والرجولة والتفوق خاصة وهو يعيش في ظل نجاح زوجته وصعودها ليختبر مشاعر متضاربة في الوقت الذي تبذل سونيا الزوجة جهدها لتأسيس شركة التصاميم المعمارية ..وهكذا فالرواية هي قصة لمثلث الزوج ، الزوجة والعشيقة
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أحداث الرواية تدور في أوساط طبقة برجوازية تسود بها لغة التصاميم والمعمار والهندسة ويتضح أن الكاتب بذل جهدا للخوض في هذه الأمور كما إن رفيقة سونيا فنانة تشكيلة و الأمر لا شك يتطلب ثقافة فنية من الكاتب وهذا ما نجح فيه بيتر شتام إلا إن أهمية الرواية في إإظهارها للجانب المظلم في علاقات الحب والزواج إن جاز تسمية تلك العلاقة الغريبة بالحب .. سونيا الجميلة الذكية المثقفة المصممة الناجحة تمثل جانب الأمن في حياة ألكيس بينما إيفونا القبيحة العاملة في مكتبة جامدة سلبية تتقن الصمت لكنها تهب جسدها لألكسندر وتتبعه بكل خضوع .. نموذج للرغبات المتناقضة
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كتبت الرواية بشكل جيد ربما لن تشعر بالملل لكن أيضا لم أشعر بالحميمية تجاه الشخصيات ربما هي أجواء وبيئة النص لا أدري !
غير أن شخصية إيفونا البولندية شخصية مثيرة ومستفزة للفضول ، الأهم إنك من خلال الرواية تستطيع أن تستشعر الفارق الطبقي بين بيئة هؤلاء أهل البلد وبين هؤلاء المهاجرين و النظرة الفوقية والترفع وطريقة تعامل إليكس مع إيفونا تظهر شيء من ذلك ربما ولا أدري إن كان الكاتب قصد أن يظهر هذا الأمر في الرواية أم إنه ظهر هكذا وحسب كقارىء وجدت الأمر ظاهر ولا يمكن تجاهله ..


تستحق القراءة

[Vladys Kovsky · Rating 4 out of 5]

The book is written in a spare, minimalist style similar to other books by Peter Stamm. Despite the stylistic simplicity the language is painstakingly precise and some scenes come to light with an almost cinematic quality. You do not need a movie based on this book, once you read it, you have seen the movie in your head.

While "Seven Years" may appear simple, the characters unlikable, and the plot uninspiring, the book amounts to a lot more than this superficial perception would allow. As good literature should, the book asks big questions and does not provide easy answers.

Without giving too much away, I will just mention some of the issues raised in the book and let you discover the other ones.

Is there too much emphasis on professional ambition in the modern western world? Is it a worthy goal to achieve success and living standards desired by and expected from people in certain social strata? Is the feeling of superiority many successful people enjoy justified or is it just a veneer layer below which a common human ugliness prevails? Is the concept of a modern family as a presentable partnership, a successful enterprise created and maintained for the sake of convenience sustainable? Will the underlying suppressed passions and desires rear their ugly heads at some point or other?

What I found most striking in the book, where all people are fundamentally flawed, questionable with respect to their morals, lacking from the point of view of basic decency, is that in some actions or thoughts of these characters the readers recognize themselves. This is where the author aims and, when our defenses are down, when our armor is off, hits the bull's eye.

[Hux · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a tricky (more nuanced) review to write. Because on the one hand, I thought the writing was very basic and forgettable, dry and matter-of-fact, with very little in the way of creative or imaginative prose. The language is sparse, to-the-point and, truth be told, of little literary significance. That being said, it's immensely easy to read and goes along at a pace. I enjoyed reading the book (especially the middle section) a great deal.

But what really got me was the book's exploration of the existential trauma of love. This really fascinated me. The story is a straight forward one about a student (Alex) who has a casual one night stand with a stranger, a slightly dull Polish girl called Ivona. Meanwhile he develops a serious relationship with Sonia (she being among his architect student friends). As the novel progresses, his relationship with Sonia intensifies until marriage inevitably comes along. But he continues, almost against his will, to keep seeing Ivona. He doesn't entirely understand why. Sonia is beautiful and clever, middle-class, has a wonderful future ahead of her. Ivona, by contrast, is not physically attractive, an uneducated immigrant, poor, and not very interesting, she is devoutly religious and lacks opinions on most subjects.

The book goes from being a rather bland love triangle into something far more existential. Sonia is a good match, who he should be with, the perfect woman. But she doesn't need him. She doesn't crave him. Her love has conditions. Ivona, on the other hand, is almost a slave, utterly captivated by Alex and accepts him in totality as her spiritual husband. She will not disagree with him, she will not resist him (especially when he wants sex), and she will always be on his side, unconditionally. Alex tries to grasp the pull she has on him but can't quite do it. There are some people that want us but there are others who need, crave, and live for us. Sometimes two human beings simply connect in a way that burrows deep into the soul. Sometimes, it is inexplicable.

It would tempting to dismiss this book as yet another insight into the bored lives of middle-class people (and yes, there is a lot of that here), but for me the narrator (Alex) is not the point. Neither is Sonia, nor their daughter Sophie, nor their aunt, Antje. This book is entirely about Ivona. She is something quite remarkable.
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[Ludmilla · Rating 2 out of 5]

Neresi dahice, yine anlayamadığım bir kitap. Anlatım tekdüze, konu tekdüze, orijinallik, yok, sarsıcılık yok, bir felsefesi falan da yok. Nebula'nın çıkardığı kitaplara uzun bir ara...

[Siv30 · Rating 5 out of 5]

וואו, אהבתי מאוד את הספר הזה. הוא בנוי לקריאה בנשימה אחת והוא אכן נקרא כך במשך שלוש שעות בהן הייתי מרותקת לפרופיל הזוגי והפסיכולוגי שמצייר הסופר.

אחרי התחלה מקרטעת של מספר עמודים בהן אין אוריינטציה, הסופר זורק את הקורא למערכת יחסים סבוכה בין אלכסנדר, סוניה ואיבונה.

מהצד, על תקן הפסיכולוג הציב הסופר את החברה האמנית הצרפתיה של סוניה שהגיעה ממרסי למינכן לתערוכה של הציורים שלה.

לכן, רוב הספר הוא מונולוג אחד ארוך ושופע של אלכסנדר המספר על חייו עם סוניה וסופי בתם. סיפור טריוויאלי במובנים רבים של עבודה, שחיקה בחיי הזוגיות, צפיות, אכזבות, הצלחות וכשלונות עסקיים.

אבל מתחת לפני השטח רוחש משהו אפל שמערער את היסודות הבנאליים והופך את הסיפור למרתק בעיניי.

סוניה ואלכסנדר נפגשו באוניברסיטה. שניהם למדו אדריכלות והשתייכו לאותה החבורה. הם היו ידידים. סוניה היפיפיה בת למשפחת עשירים כבר הספיקה לצאת עם אחד מהחברה ואלכסנדר למרות שחש משיכה אליה לא חווה התאהבות סוערת כשהיה בחברתה. היא גם נתנה לו הרגשה תמיד שהוא לא מספיק בשבילה.

יום אחד פוגש אלכסנדר את איבונה, מהגרת פולניה בלתי חוקית שעובדת בחנות ספרים בכנסיה. איבונה הכנועה הולכת אחרי אלכסנדר כצל והכניעות הזו שלה שובה את ליבו של אלכסנדר שמפתח אובססיה שתלטנית בעלתנית כלפיה שנמשכת שנים ומטילה על כולם תוצאות מרירות.

במקביל, אלכסנדר שאינו יכול להראות עם המהגרת הפולניה בחברה, היא מביישת אותו במראה שלה, בדיבור שלה, בכניעות שלה, מפתח עם סוניה המושלמת יחסים שהם מעבר לידידות, היחסים מתפתחים גם בזכות אנטיה החברה ממרסיי אותה הם מבקרים.

אבל מסתבר שסוניה היא לא האישה המושלמת. היא מלכת הקרח, והיא קרירה או עצורה במיטה, היא לא מספקת לאלכסנדר את הצרכים שלו במיטה ולמרות שהכל כל כך יפה מבחוץ, מבפנים הזוגיות ואחר כך הנישואים שלהם רקובים. סוניה ואלכסנדר הן שתי סירות מתרחקות בתוך זוגיות ונישואים שיגרתיים.

לכך יש להוסיף את העובדה שסוניה לא מצליחה להרות והסקס המכאני דוחף את אלכנסדר עוד יותר רחוק מסוניה שהופכת עצבנית, מלנכולית וחסרת קשב.

ואז אחרי 7 שנים אלכסנדר חוזר להיפגש עם איבונה והיא כאילו כלום לא קרה ורק רגע חלף, ממתינה לו.

מדובר בספר שעוצמתו טמונה דווקא בבנאלי והמוכר. דווקא טמונה במונולוג שלעיתים מקבל הבזקים של תובנות מהתערבויות מכוונות ומתוזמרות היטב של דמויות אחרות שהן לכאורה שוליות. הטכניקה של הכתיבה גאונית ולמעט מספר עמודים מצומצם באפיזודה שמתארת את ההתפרקות הכלכלית והנפשית של המספר לא מצאתי מילה מיותרת והספר מהודק היטב.

לאחר שלקורא נדמה שהנה הגיע השיא של הספר, מגיע עוד שיא הרבה יותר משמעותי וגם בסופו של השיא הזה מגיעה אדווה קטנה ומטלטלת.

מושלם.

[Josh · Rating 5 out of 5]

I think this was the easiest prose I've ever read in a book that was simultaneously pretty deep. I read it because a reviewer compared the author's work to Camus. Which was foolish, no one touches Camus. But it was a good book, an easy book in many ways and the characters were unusually credible. This is especially notable as they represent sorts of extremes in behavior (the mistress incapable of refusing, the wife orchestrating every aspect of her life, the husband claiming no responsibility or often even awareness of what he was doing, etc.). They might have been grotesques but for how totally fleshed out they were. I don't usually love "subtlety" in writing, and Stamm's was nothing but; however, it was basically flawless in the end. The story was a parable about doing what you want and not ignoring red flags in your life that are telling you you're doing what someone else wants. Again, easy but not shallow.

[César Carranza · Rating 4 out of 5]

El libro es bueno, se lee muy rápido, es la historia de un par de arquitectos, desde como se conocen a como es que forman un hogar, es la historia de como inician siendo amigos y parece que deberían de estar juntos, pero el autor nos deja ver que falta algo en la relación, el vacío en cada uno termina compartido y los aleja desde el principio, y como menciona alguno de los personajes dentro (un francés en un bar) las personas no son malas, pero a veces pierden la luz...

[Michael Hanquiniouax · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a very straight-forward plot but there's something very powerful about it. A man lives his normal life, gets married, has a daughter, pursues a career. But parallel to this he also has another life which involves an extremely odd woman named Ivona. She is almost closer to being an object than a person.

I feel like Stamm is trying to say something about normal life and expectation versus natural desire and freedom. Or maybe he's saying only women who are dead inside can love you unconditionally. Not sure.

It's odd, affecting, and curious. And Ivona is a fascinating character that justifies the read.

[Melek · Rating 4 out of 5]

Bir erkek ve onun hayatındaki iki kadın özelinde ilerleyen 20 yıllık bir öykü. İki kadın da birbirinden çok farklı. Sonja, güzel, akıllı, geleceği parlak ve zengin bir aileden. Iwona ise, sıradan, dikkat çekmeyen, fakir ve idealleri olmayan biri. Ve bu iki kadın üzerinden modern dünyanın bizden beklediklerine; zenginlik, gösteriş, aşk, seks, ün, mevkiye; karşılık sıradanlık, olduğu gibi olma, göçmenlik ve fakirlik kavramlarının bir adamın hayat yolculuğundaki etkisini anlatan bir roman.

Kim daha mutlu, Sonja mı Iwona mı? Aşk gerçekten var mı? Sıradan olanlar mutluluğu biliyor mu? Aslında neye ihtiyacımız var ve biz neleri tercih ediyoruz hayat yolculuğumuzda? Seçtiğimiz yol bizi mutlu ve özgür kılacak mı?

Kitabın değindiği noktalar romantik ilişkilerdeki kalıp yargılarımızı, inanışlarımızı, doğrularımızı ve yanlışlarımızı sorgulatıyor. İlişkide neye ihtiyacımız var, biz neler istiyoruz? İhtiyaç ve isteğimiz eşleşmediğinde 'bana neler oluyor' u anlatan güzel bir hikayeydi.

[Serap · Rating 3 out of 5]

Anlatıcımız Alex, mimar, dışarıdan bakıldığında kusursuz bir evliliğe sahip, oldukça güzel tasvir edilmiş, zengin, sosyal çevrelerde kabul gören Sonja ile evli. Ama anlatı tesadüf eseri tanıştığı Polonyalı göçmen Iwona’ya yıllarca süren takıntısı yüzünden bir aşk üçgeni hikayesine dönüşüyor. Iwona’da dikkat çeken hiçbir özellik yok. Hatta tam tersine toplumun güzellik anlayışına uymayan, içine kapalı, dini değerlerine fazlasıyla bağlı biri. Okurken Alex’in bu tercihini mantıksız bulsanız da ister istemez hikayenin içine çekiliyorsunuz. Davranışlarına sinirleniyor, zaman zaman yaptıklarından tiksiniyorsunuz. Ama yazar başta anlatıcı Alex olmak üzere tüm karakterlere öyle bir mesafeden yaklaşıyor ki onlara hak vermeseniz de anlıyorsunuz.

Hikaye ilerledikçe hem evlilikte oluşan sorunlar, hem kusursuz bir eş olarak görünen Sonja’da beliren çatlaklar, hem Alex’in dönüp dolaşıp Iwona’ya geri dönüşleri okurda garip bir merak uyandırıyor. Bir yandan ‘neden böyle yapıyor, bu mantıklı değil’ diye söyleniyorsunuz; diğer yandan elinizden bırakmadan okumaya devam ediyorsunuz. Kuşkusuz bunda Peter Stamm’ın dili de etkili, oldukça akıcı ve sade bir dili var. Cümleler kısa, süssüz, neredeyse soğuk. Bu anlatım tarzı bana kuzey romanlarını hatırlattı.

Kitap bittiğinde içimde yoğun bir huzursuzluk kaldı. Ama bu huzursuzluk, bana insan ilişkilerinin mantıktan çok daha karmaşık, çoğu zaman da çelişkili olduğunu düşündürdü. Karakterleri sevmedim belki ama çok gerçek buldum. Okurken hem rahatsız eden hem de düşündüren bir roman oldu benim için.

3,5/5

[Oscar · Rating 3 out of 5]

La nueva novela publicada en España del suizo Peter Stamm, nos habla de esa clase media alta de europeos que lo tienen todo pero aun así no alcanzan la felicidad, algo que sí logran las clases bajas, inmigrantes sobre todo.

La historia de ‘Siete años’, ambientada en Munich, está narrada en primera persona por su protagonista, Alex, que se la está contando a Antje, una amiga suya y de su esposa, Sonja. De esta manera sabremos cómo llegaron a estar juntos Alex y Sonja, ambos arquitectos, que mantienen una relación algo frustrante para ambos. Al igual que conoceremos a un personaje muy importante en la vida de Alex, Ivona, una inmigrante polaca. Ivona no es guapa, no tiene ningún atractivo, ni es muy inteligente, todo lo contrario que Sonja, rubia, bella y ambiciosa. Y aun así Ivona tiene totalmente absorbido a Alex, que no se la puede sacar de la cabeza. Será esta relación la que marcará el resto de la historia.

‘Siete años’ transcurre entre arquitectura, obsesiones, hechos amorales, alcohol, viajes, sexo, rechazo, deseo, obligaciones y responsabilidades (y su falta), todo ello contado por Stamm, un escritor que describe muy bien a sus personajes, a Alex en particular, y que es capaz de narrar de forma lúcida todos estos sentimientos. Sin embargo, pese a que todo está muy bien contado y te interesa de manera absorbente, no se trata de una novela deslumbrante en lo que a ideas se refiere.

[Huy · Rating 4 out of 5]

Đọc cuốn này cảm giác rất là khó chịu, vì hãy nhìn Alex, một chàng kiến trúc sư, giàu có, đẹp trai, có vợ đẹp, con xinh và sống ở một trong những đất nước hạnh phúc nhất thế giới (Thụy Sĩ) thế nhưng lại có một cuộc đời bất hạnh và trống rỗng đến đáng thương, và Peter Stamm không ngại ngùng lùng sục phơi bày cái cuộc đời ấy ra cho chúng ta, mà đôi lúc ta cảm thấy bực mình bởi cái sự chi tiết đến độ làm ta bải hoải, khi mà ông miêu tả cuộc đời của Alex với những chuỗi ngày dài không nhìn thấy được đâu là mục đích hay tình yêu đích thực của cuộc đời, với những chuyến đi, những giấc ngủ, những ngày tháng nối tiếp nhau chán chường đến mức khiến ta mệt mỏi.
Và Ivona hay Sonia, thật sự thì Alex chẳng yêu ai cả, cái anh ta yêu chỉ là cảm xúc của sự phục tùng (Ivona) hay cảm giác chắc chắn của một mái ấm (Sonia) mà thôi.

[Konserve Ruhlar · Rating 2 out of 5]

Son zamanlarda okuduğum vasat kitaplar arasına alıyorum Yedi Yıl'ı. Elbette Alex'in bir Howard Roark olmasını beklememiştim ama bu kadar da sıradan ve tatsız bir karakter olmasından hoşlanmadım. Anlatım çok sıkıcı. Aynı tonda sürekli tekrar eden bir melodi düşünün. Hiçbir ahenk yok kitabın müziğinde. Duygu yok. Karakterlerin hiçbir derinliği yok. Elbette karakterler derin olsun diye bir zorunluluk yok ama okur olarak onları tanıyamamak ve anlayamamak romanı eksik bırakıyor bence. Çeviri bence kitabın bütününün önünde. Gayet akıcı ve temiz bir çeviri.

Aslında kitabın vasat kapağı kendini ele veriyordu :))

[Papatya ŞENOL · Rating 4 out of 5]

son derece gerçekçi bulduğum bir modern roman. 15 yıla yayılmış bir aşk üçgeni ama bir şey eksik: aşk. doğru karar vermeye ve başarıya odaklanmış bir kadın, teslimiyetçi olduğu kadar pasif direnişçi bir başka kadın ve ne istediğini bilmeyen, kibirli ve tatminsiz bir adam. gerisi kendiliğinden geliyor: gençlikten yetişkinliğe geçiş, ebeveynlik ve mutluluğun sorgulanması. mimarlıkla ilgili detayları ve kurguyu ayrıca beğendiğimi söylemek isterim. şaheser olmasa da zevkle okunur, tavsiye ederim.

[Irmak · Rating 3 out of 5]

Bu kitabı okumak istememin asıl sebebi, Dünya Kitap Yılın Çeviri Kitabı ödülüne layık görülmesiydi. Dürüst olmak gerekirse sırtını kadın-erkek ilişkilere dayayan ve ilişkinin gelgitlerini esas alan hikâyeleri çok sevmem çünkü yaşadıkları o çelişkiler beni sinir eder. Ne yazık ki bu kitap da bahsi geçen durumda bir istisna olmadı.

[Catherine · Rating 5 out of 5]

I enjoyed this book very much, although, unlike, say, "Almondis", I was quite relieved to leave the world that had been created in the book when I finished the last page, as it was very oppressive and, at times, very uncomfortable to read. However, I think that this was certainly one of Stamm's aims when he wrote it.

This was a very literary novel - much more so than some of the others that I have read - and I really enjoyed exploring the themes and philosophies that were clearly entwined in the narrative; it made me feel like a literature undergrad again (but without the hangover and dodgy velvet waiscoats). At no point, however, did I feel that the book was overly self-conscious or pompous in its exploration of these things - in particular Absurdism and Existentialism - but that Stamm was able to breathe new life into these philosophies and relate them to a more modern context. I also loved the sparse, at times terse, narrative. Again, this didn't seems contrived, as it often did in the owl book (sorry, chemo taking its toll on the memory as well as the hair!), nor was it overly poetic i.e. verbose - but there was a definite poetry to the narrative, which hugely complemented the themes of the book and was a pleasure to read - Stamm really is a masterly writer.

So...themes and stuff. Apologies if all this sounds a bit much but I really got into thinking about the themes in this book and making links between different parts of the novel and stuff that I vaguely remembered about literary theory at college - I had to take refuge in wikepedia on many an ocassion in order to fully remember and/or understand some of the things theory but it was great fun.

The first thing I noticed about this book was that the narration reminded me very much of Albert Camus' existentialist / Absurdist novel "L'Etranger" of "The Outsider" as it's called in translation. If you haven't read this book, I would highly recommend it. Then on the back of "Seven Years" I noticed a review for one of his other novels which said "If Albert Camus had lived in an age when people in remote Norwegian fishing villages had email, he might have written a novel like this" - which is one of the best one line review I've ever read!

I think that in this book, Stamm is revising Absurdism and Existentialism and setting the philosophy in a modern context. Camus was one of the founders of Absurdism and then also used Existentialism as a way of looking at life, the maning of life, and how this related to human relationships. Absurdism is "the conflict between the human tendency to seek inherent value and meaning in life and the human inability to find any" and Existentialism states that "the starting point of philosophical thinking must be the experiences of the individual" and that "authenticity" is the key to this - which means being true to one's own personality, spirit or character. Both of these movements sprang up in France after the Second World War, mainly as a reaction to the horros of the war and the devastation it had caused. I don't think it's any coincidence that the book is set partly in Marseille and that Sonia's mentor is called Albert.

I think that all of the characters in the book - apart from, crucially, Ivona and perhaps Antje - are suffering from the Absurdist conflict. When they are on the awful "minibreak" that culminates in him telling Sonia about Ivona's pregnancy, Alex says "They all seemed to be playing a game, and observing themselves and one another". There are many references in the novel to the middl class, "beautiful people" seeming to be tense, at odds with themsleves and "playing" at social conventions. There are always name cards and a protocol to be followed when at the lakeside houses and when the young people meet after graduation, Alex observes that they are playing at being adults. HE seems to be the only character who can see this - he completely understands the Absurdist tension, and as such he behaves in what seems to be a morally despicable way. Antj says "You behave like a swine, and then you blame your inner beast". Parts of thi novel are very uncomfortable to read i.e. when he makes Ivona go to the toilet in front of him, when he seems to rape her, despite her obvious distress, when he leaves his littel girl in the house on her own, and yet he always manages to justify hhis behaviour to himself. He seems to follow no moral code - the only code he is following is moral Absurdism - i.e. if you believe that life is essentially meaningless, then all moral codes are also meaningless. Sonia seems to be different and yet I think that she is unconsciously following the same path, she just isn't as aware of it as Alex, or perhaps she is so uncomfortable with it that she doesn't articulate it as openly. She seems to be a very emotionless character; despite all the wrongs Alex puts on her, I didn't feel sorry for her at all. Also, when she quotes Hermann Hesse's philosophy early in the novel, you feel that her ability to do this and like his philosophy, gives her a sinister edge. At the end of the book, we find out that Sonia hasn't been comfortable in the world we think is hers and that she has been "playing" at being a wife and mother for 3 years, just as clinically as Alex has at times "played" at being the devoted husband. I loved his treatment of the Absurd in this novel.

The theme of animals in the book also interested me. Antje's horrible paintings are a pivotal part of the narrative. Sonia is a "domesticated" guinea pig, although I don't think she's domesticated - she's more of a robot. Alex is a "swine" and he thinks that Ivona isn't domesticated at all - shes has something wild about her. In an Absurdist way, Ivona is yet another "mad woman in the attic", a modern version of the Jane Eyre madwoman. Instead of having bulging eyes and throbbing veins, however, she has folds of skin hiding rows of moles, a soft, almost unctuous body, vilely attractive, silently and subconsciously sexy, at odds with the modern view of feminine beauty. She is "other". Her coolection of kitsch, her deeply held religious beliefs, her huge appetite, her autism, all make her "other" in a very modern way. I love the way Stamm has updated the madwoman figure. She is so agin all modern ideas of femininity that she has become an animal - and a wild one.

The other theme I enjoyed was architecture - something I know nothing about and I enjoyred reading the quotes and the discussions in the novel about space and how it affects human relations. It's interesting that Alex loves the old fashioned, "ordinary" Aldo Rossi, compared to Sonia's love of Le Corbusier, an architect whom Alex feels patronises the masses and want to turn everyone into "an ideal man". Corbusier has a philanthropic approach, a clear reason for design an Absurdist Alex dosn't like it. He quotes Rossi as saying "Every room contains an abyss" - certainly every situation he find himself has something deeply abysmal about it. Ivona's complete messiness and love of all things useless and ugly directly contrasts with the middle class architects' theoretical debates - again, she is "other". Corbusier's qoute at the start of the novel feels like the central premise of the narration "Light and shadow reveal form". The book does not pass moral judgement, nor does any character seems to feel any remorse, the narrator simply reveals the form of each person, their dark and light. It's interesting that Antje says that passionate love, or amour fou, "is an inferior form of love. If a cultivated person starts acting like a madman, that is humiliating and a sign of immaturity". In this story, noone seems to be madly in love and yet there is a lot of madness.

Finally, I wondered whether the book was in part an allegory about the rich, cultivated, sophisticated West and the unexplored, "other" Eastern European culture, suddenly more exposed and perhaps threateningly nearer due to the collapse of the Berlin Wall. Alex's treatement of Ivona and her unwavering stoicism seemed very symbolic of the conflict between East and West.

[Guzzo · Rating 3 out of 5]

No he conectado con el libro, el problema debe de ser mío, porque todas las críticas son estupendas y supuestamente refleja el cansacio y vacío de la actual sociedad de clase media-alta.

Recomendable.

[Ar · Rating 1 out of 5]

Am I the only one traumatized when Sonia wanted to move to a different city after telling the daughter she wasn’t her “real” mother? So the mom abandons her, the dad talks about having no ties and starting over… the kid is like the kitten they didn’t wanna get. Abandoned right after the novelty wears off

[Jafar · Rating 3 out of 5]

I was intrigued by the review of this book in New York Times and decided to read this Swiss writer. The book starts off rather well. Alex, an architect living in Munich, is married to Sonia, another architect and his university classmate, who is bright, driven, and very attractive. But he finds his marriage to be more like a project, with a never-ending series of milestones: build a house, build a business, become successful, make and raise a baby, etc. In college, he had a brief and meaningless affair with Ivona, an illegal Polish immigrant, who is the opposite of his wife: she's dull, uninteresting, unattractive, old-fashioned, religious, and just weird. After years of the strains of a demanding career and marriage, Alex sees Ivona again. Unlike Sonia, Ivona offers unconditional love. She makes no demands of Alex and has no plans for him. Alex realizes that Ivona has a pull on him that he doesn't understand. He's simultaneously fascinated and disgusted by his desire for her.

And then the novel spirals down into an all-around uncertainty and disappointment. Feelings are left unresolved. Everyone is to some degree cruel to everyone in a self-justified and guiltless way. If the novel intended to "explore the complexities of human relationships," the only thing that it delivers is our failure to understand ourselves and each other.

[Hulyacln · Rating 4 out of 5]

Alexander,iki kadın arasında kalıyor,hem de uzun bir süre..Bir yanda sevgisiyle şaşırtan Iwona diğer yanda olabildiğince soğuk Sonja.
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Uzun zamandır erkek psikolojini bu kadar derinden işleyen bir kitap geçmemişti elime.Alex’e kızdım (fazlasıyla kızdım!),sonra bir kedi yavrusuymuşçasına şefkat duydum,güldüm,hatta bir iki noktada gözlerim de doldu.Çünkü “çok insani” bir öykü bu.
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Geri planda kalanlar da dahil olmak üzere her karakter özeldi.Rüdiger örneğin.En etkileyen isim ise Iwona idi.Saflıktan fazlası vardı onda,adayış da değil.Belki de hikayelerini dinlediği azizelerden biri olmaktı niyeti.
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Mimarlık üzerine ilgisi olanların da sevebileceği bir kitaptı Yedi Yıl.Alex’in yıllar içinde duygu değişimini,olgunlaşmasını mesleğindeki tutumlarında da izlemek mümkündü.
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Okumanın rahatlatıcı etkisi bu tarz öykülerde daha çok hissedilebilir kanaatindeyim.Bir beklentiye girmiyorsunuz,an’da kalabiliyorsunuz.Sonu ne şekilde biterse bitsin,kapağı kapattığınızda gülümseyebiliyorsunuz.
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Kapak resmi de sadeliği ve kitap ile yakından ilişkili oluşuyla beni kendine çekti.Hikayeyi bölmeyen,akıcı çeviride ise Regaip Minareci var~

[Arwen56 · Rating 2 out of 5]

Sette anni è un romanzo che propone una situazione analoga a quella di Non ti muovere, della Mazzantini, non nei dettagli, naturalmente, ma nella sostanza sì. Anche qui abbiamo un uomo che, nonostante abbia tutti i motivi per essere appagato, resta invischiato per anni in un rapporto non ben definito con una donna molto diversa da lui, con la quale non ha praticamente nulla in comune e ancor meno da dire. Un rapporto sicuramente avvilente per lei, benché questa non sia la sua opinione, e da cui lui non esce certo a testa alta.

La situazione proposta, però, appare alquanto forzata, priva di verosimiglianza, e il lettore arriva al termine del libro senza riuscire a capire bene lo scopo di questo narrare, né le intenzioni del protagonista, che restano vaghe tanto quanto l’irrisolto finale.

Non direi valga la pena leggerlo.

[Vishy · Rating 4 out of 5]

After reading Peter Stamm’s brilliant ‘Unformed Landscape’ a week back, I thought I should read another Stamm book. I decided to read ‘Seven Years’. Here is what I think.

‘Seven Years’ is a story told in the first person by an architect called Alex. The story flits between two time periods – the present when Alex is married to Sonia and has a daughter called Sophie, and the past when Alex was still a student at university. Alex describes how his architectural career evolved since those times. He also describes how he fell in love with the two women in his life, his wife Sonia and a Polish woman, Ivona. Alex and Sonia have been friends since childhood and their relationship evolves more or less naturally with some hiccups. But Alex himself doesn’t understand how he got attracted to Ivona, because by his own estimate, she is poor, unsophisticated, is an illegal immigrant, is too religious, is silent most of the time, is not educated or talented in any way. Sonia’s friend Antje is visiting and the past part of the story is mostly told by Alex to Antje with Sonia not present when the storytelling is in progress.

‘Seven Years’ can be called a story of a love triangle. It can also be called a novel on architecture. In between the triangle love story, Alex describes his thoughts on architecture in some beautiful passages. Peter Stamm’s spare prose is perfect as always. Most of the characters in the book were complex with flaws and that made the story very interesting and real. My favourite character in the book was Ivona – she is complex and flawed in her own way, but has a childlike simplicity too which probably makes her the character who finds the most happiness, inspite of the difficult situation she is in.

I couldn’t resist comparing ‘Seven Years’ with ‘Unformed Landscape’. I discovered that they were written nearly a decade apart and so the author and his writing style and the topics he would have been interested in would have evolved in that period. Giving allowance to such things, I feel that though ‘Seven Years’ was good, ‘Unformed Landscape’ was brilliant. Because I remember when I finished reading ‘Unformed Landscape’, I refused to let go off the book and carried it around for a couple of days, browsing it and reading my favourite passages again and again and refusing to pick up another book. That rarely happens to me. It is still there on the top of my book pile waiting to be re-read. I didn’t feel the same way about ‘Seven Years’. Of course, the problem is mostly with me, because after reading ‘Unformed Landscape’ I was expecting a similar book in ‘Seven Years’. But ‘Seven Years’ is not like that. It is a good book. It is worth a read. But in my opinion ‘Unformed Landscape’ is better – more dazzling, more brilliant and more beautiful.

I loved the cover of the edition of ‘Seven Years’ I read. It had two parts – a translucent dust jacket which had the title and the author’s and translator’s names. The cover image was on the actual cover which was visible through the translucent dust cover. Both of them together created a beautiful effect. This is probably not a new idea for cover designers, but this is new to me. I loved it.

If you like complex love stories with an architectural backdrop, you will love ‘Seven Years’. I will leave you with some of my favourite passages from the book.

I thought about my new blueprint. It must be possible to create space that would allow feelings, that would enable and communicate the sort of freedom and openness I was thinking of. I envisaged lofty transparent halls, open staircases, the play of light and shade. I wasn’t quite sure whether I was awake or dreaming, but all at once I saw everything before me, clear and distinct.

I had reckoned I would get sick of Ivona sooner or later, and get rid of her, but even though the sex with her interested me less and less, and sometimes we didn’t sleep together at all and just talked, I couldn’t shake her off. It wasn’t pleasure that tied me to her, it was a feeling I hadn’t had since childhood, a mixture of freedom and protectedness. It was as though time stood still when I was with her, which was precisely what gave those moments their weight. Sonia was a project. We wanted to build a house, we wanted to have a baby, we employed people, we bought a second car. No sooner had we reached one goal than the next loomed into sight, we were never done. Ivona on the other hand seemed to have no ambition. She had no plans, her life was simple and regular. She got up in the morning, had breakfast, went to work. If it was a good or a bad day depended on certain little things, the weather, some kind words in the bakery or in one of the houses where she cleaned, a call from a friend with whom she had a drink after work or went to the movies. When I was with her, I participated in her life for an hour and forgot everything, the pressure of time, my ambition, the problems on the building sites. Even sex became completely different. I didn’t have to make Ivona pregnant, I didn’t even have to make her come. She took me without expectations and without claims.

Sometimes I fished out my old papers, projects I had worked on in college, competition entries from the time we started the business. Most of it looked alarmingly banal to me. But in the drawings I still sensed something of my mood in those years, my determination to go new ways. Nothing was sacred to me then, and nothing seemed impossible. For all the limitations of the work, there was a kind of truthfulness in it, a freshness that our current designs no longer had. I could understand architects like Boullée, who eventually turned into draftsmen pure and simple, without ever craving to see one of their designs realized. It was only in the fictive world of plans and sketches that you were free to do everything the way you wanted. I started drawing in the evenings, usually oversize interiors, empty halls with dramatic light effects, sacral buildings, labyrinths, and subterranean complexes.

Have you read Peter Stamm’s ‘Seven Years’? What do you think about it?

[Larnacouer de SH · Rating 1 out of 5]

YEMİN EDERİM İMDAT DİYE BEN SLFMSLEKMEKSMEKDL Stamm bu kitabında Türk dizilerinden ilham alırcasına bi’ cacıklamış gibime geldi. Uzağın Ötesinde kitabını ısrarla okuyun bu kitabıysa ne bileyim insan içindeyiz sövdürmeyin şimdi. Diyeceklerim bu kadar slfdmmfmdmd.
Ay sanki ne dedin diyenleri blockluyorum. 🤣🤣

[Salma Saeed · Rating 1 out of 5]

غريبة و باردة كالثلج

[reevee · Rating 2 out of 5]

Es ist interessant, wie man die Bücher einer Person wahrnimmt, die man persönlich getroffen und mit welcher man ein Interview geführt hat. Plötzlich stellt man sich den Gedankengang des Autors bildlicher vor. Bei diesem Buch hätte ich es gerne nicht.
Ich muss ganz ehrlich sagen: das Buch hat mich am Anfang sehr stark abgeschreckt und selbst nachdem ich es komplett gelesen habe, bin ich nicht unbedingt positiv begesitert.
Angesehen vom Schreibstil, der mir vereinzelt etwas wortkarg erscheint, der sich ohne Kennzeichnung direkter Rede durchschlägt und trotz des Settings in Deutschland vereinzelt Schweizer Lexik verwendet, die man in Bayern durch andere Begrifflichkeiten ausdrücken würde (Beispiel: Nécessaire statt Kulturbeutel oder Kosmetiktasche), gefällt mir auch die Aufarbeitung des Plots nicht.
Die Charaktere sind problematisch, das ist ganz sicher so gewollt. Mir bereitet es nur Unbehagen, auf den ersten 60 Seiten ein sehr eindrückliches Bild davon zu bekommen, wie (viele) Männer in dieser Gesellschaft Frauen abwertend betrachten und Übergriffe hinter einem Deckmantel von "sie hat diese Macht über mich und ich weiss nicht, was in mich gefahren ist" versuchen zu entschuldigen. Solche Gedanken zu lesen sind keine leichte Kost. Im Laufe der Handlung wird es immer problematischer: nicht nur, dass Alex sich immer wieder ohne Consent an Iwona ranmacht, mit einer ekelhaften Selbstverständlichkeit eine "hässliche Polin" wann immer er es wünscht aufsucht und er gleichzeitig eine Beziehung zu Sonja führt; nicht nur, dass ein sehr verzerrtes Bild davon entsteht, wie zwischenmenschliche Bindungen funktionieren und dass nur wenig Rücksicht aufeinander genommen wird; nicht nur, dass sie sich in eine Monogamie zwängen, die ihnen beiden scheinbar nicht passend erscheint und sie in Affären ihren Mängeln kurzzeitig entfliehen können - Spoiler folgen ab jetzt - er Iwona schwängert, keinerlei Reue empfindet (wo bitte wird einmal über Verhütung nachgedacht?) und ihr dann wie einer Kuh in Massentierhaltung das Kind entzieht aus "Sicherheitsgründen" (das würde das Fass ethischer Moralfragen zu weit öffnen), um es mit seiner eigenen Frau aufzuziehen. Sonja ist nicht begeistert davon, dass Alex Iwona besucht und sich an ihr vergeht, trotzdem kann sie es dem Anschein nach mit sich vereinbaren, das Kind seiner Geliebten als ihr eigen adoptiertes Kind auszugeben. Mir als Leserin bereitet das sehr viel Unbehagen, besonders mit meinen eigenen Erfahrungen im Hinterkopf, nicht bei seinen Eltern aufwachsen zu dürfen und in einem Gespenst aus Lügen gefangen zu sein.
Mir fehlt die kritische Auseinandersetzung mit dem Geschehenen. Alex sieht keine Schuld bei sich, er läuft mit einer weissen Weste durch das Leben und nur zum Ende hin findet eine gewisse Reflexion statt, am meisten im betrunkenen Zustand wohlbemerkt. Meiner Meinung nach wird aber durch diese Geschichte gefördert, dass ein solches Fehlverhalten doch normal und zu akzeptieren sei. Nicht einmal andere Charaktere äussern sich kritisch genug darüber, wie sie es zum Beispiel beim Thema Verschwörungstheorien wiederum können. Eine verkorkste Welt, die Peter Stamm da erschaffen hat, welche aber leider ein zu genaues Abbild der realen Wirklichkeit ist, in denen Männern es egal ist, was ihre Taten anstellen und sie sich in Schutz empfinden, einfach abhauen zu dürfen, Frauen zu missbrauchen, als gescheiterte Familienväter gefeiert zu werden... "und nach mir die Sintflut".