The Geisha Secret: Ancient Dating Rituals Proven to Win a Modern Man's Heart

by Hanako.

A dating guide for women that applies the practices of the geisha to modern day, The Geisha Secret is what every woman must know if she wants a boyfriend or to be married. The geisha’s time tested methods of attracting men are more relevant than ever because women have lost their touch with men. There are single women everywhere with no viable long-term dating prospects or marriage proposals. Women have lost the art of desirability. The Geisha Secret will show you how to become attractive to men by transforming you into the ideal female companion. You will learn The Rituals, ancient practices of the geisha applied to the modern world, which will change how men perceive you. Men will be intrigued by you, love you, and seek to give you their hearts with the hope of their affection being returned. The Geisha Secret can give you the power to win a man’s heart and forever change your life.

Genres: Japan, Self Help

204 pages, Paperback

First published July 11, 2011

About the author

The Geisha Secret was written by a dating and relationship expert, under the pen name Hanako. Recognizing that the geisha has fascinated men for centuries, Hanako extensively studied the geisha as a means of understanding the secret of attracting men. Hanako brings together the geisha's history, revealing how the geisha captured men's hearts. She applies the ways of the geisha to today's modern world so that you know the secret to winning a man's heart. The name Hanako is Japanese for flower (hana) child (ko), which is symbolic of the flower and willow world. Hanako represents all of the women who are hoping to find a man or to be married - a flower bud ready to be nurtured so she can blossom into an exquisite bloom that is desired and loved by men. Hanako is the guide who will teach you The Geisha Secret and how to forever change the way men perceive you. She has passed The Geisha Secret on to you so that if carefully followed, then it will change your life as it has done for so many other women.

Reviews

[Shanea · Rating 1 out of 5]

This book was a fail for me in two ways.
1. Geisha information. Knowing a bit about Geisha culture, or at least once remembering a about a tenth of what I once had researched in school, the vast majority of this information was repetitive, and sort of blandly stated. It didn't go nearly as in depth as I have in prior books or research, and therefore I just didn't find it as enjoyable as maybe a beginner to Japanese culture and Geisha would. On a side note, I find it amusing that he never mentions the fact that Geisha were originally men.
2. Without knowing anything about the author, besides it being a pen-name, I could tell nearly immediately that it was a man. No woman would recommend some of these rituals, for example, wear heels every day to get a man. Many of the recommendations sound very, for lack of a better word, petty, to me. There is no way as a non-drinking, underage female am I going to keep various wines on hand in my home. There were a few useful tidbits to be found, but they were mostly uninspired repetitions of standard romance advice column standbys, such as be attentive, have sex appeal, and keep your legs closed.

Not for me, but maybe someone else will enjoy it.

I received this book from Goodreads' First Reads.

[AshleyYvonne · Rating 5 out of 5]

How exquisite - I've fallen in love with all things geiko for cherry blossom season and this is exactly what I was looking for. I was expecting some sort of silly fluff and was pleasantly surprised to find an enjoyable sermon on the womanly arts, an intersection between sacred love and the higher embodiment of being a woman.

[Briana · Rating 2 out of 5]

Not my fave. Seemed nice in principle but lacked actionable steps/ tips you can use.

[Jessica · Rating 1 out of 5]

1.5 stars because reading this felt like "how to be like your favourite Disney princess for ages 3+". Be nice, be kind, don't argue, don't express negative opinion. I liked the cheese and wine stocking bit, but that's about the extent of the ideas it has given me after forcing myself to speed read this to completion.

[Sara Diane · Rating 3 out of 5]

I received this book through First Reads on Goodreads. It was a quick read with a lot of historical info on the geisha, which was fascinating. The "rituals" presented, however, were not earth shattering, and while a lot were common sense, a few of them suggested things that were counter-cultural (for instance, I don't not drink wine, so I'm not going to keep four bottles of wine on hand to entertain). And while the book stresses you don't have to be pretty, but almost every example used was of a "pretty woman". The examples felt completely made up (come on, it's highly unlikely you are going to always find a pair of friends who are perfect opposites).

Overall, some good ideas on how to be a charming woman, but there is a serious lack of character-building. So unless you already have the character and just need some refining, I wouldn't start here.

[Nina Singhapakdi · Rating 4 out of 5]

"The Geisha Secret" is filled with the kind of womanhood advice that a wise, sophisticated grandmother would give out. A pastor once told me to always be reading books on relationships and this is one that I plan to keep and reread. It was a fun, easy and quick read that I found to be very truthful. I've always been fascinated by the geisha, as they were one of the first truly independent, modern women (Yay, feminism!). I appreciated how much this book bashed neediness and did celebrate a woman finding a balance between being modern and traditional, and being an independent, accomplished career woman and while also being relationship-oriented.

[Nancy · Rating 3 out of 5]

As a First Reads designated winner, I received a copy with a handwritten note from Hanako. I've read several books in this genre that can be applicable to both personal and professional on your way to self discovery. Since I'm of the culture, I already had an appreciation for and and an awareness of. And while I didn't learn anything new, I know that there are many both female and male who will gain something from having read it.

[Jane · Rating 5 out of 5]

I just finished the recently released 2nd Edition, which was recommended by a friend who knows the author. I found the history of the geisha to be fascinating. So much of her history can be applied to dating and relationships today. I found it to be very helpful in my personal life, both with my relationship and my personal development.

[Jenny · Rating 4 out of 5]

I received this book through goodreads. I found the book to be interesting and found that many more women should use the practices in this book. After reading memoirs of a geisha I found many of the same principles applied

[Penelope · Rating 3 out of 5]

This was an easy read with a good amount of historical information about the geisha thrown into the mix. Most of the advice was common sense to me but it was still a good reminder. Not all women have healthy common sense when it comes to dating and so this book would be quite helpful for them.

[Sister Frankenstein · Rating 4 out of 5]

loved it!

[Amanda]

Woohoo! I won a first reads copy! More to come...

I just received the second edition First-Reads book in the mail!!!

[Amy (DemonKittie) · Rating 4 out of 5]

*This book was won from a First Reads giveaway on goodreads.com*

[Jan · Rating 3 out of 5]

Interesting book, applying the original 20 rituals of the Geisha to the modern dating world. How to make yourself irresistible to men!