Abuses in the Religious Life and the Path to Healing

by Dom Dysmas de Lassus

Sexual abuse is not the only mistreatment practiced in the Church. There is also spiritual abuse. Fr. Dysmas, Carthusian master, patron of the hermits, comes out of his silence to denounce the unacceptable behavior of religious superiors and founders of communities. Rooted in the monastic tradition and the robust theology of religious life, Father presents elements that will assist everyone in evaluating the dangers of certain spiritual practices and methods of community government.

Fr. Dysmas’ wisdom and experience will help you attain the broad equilibrium that nourishes personal and community growth, through the respect of individuals, Catholic tradition, and a healthy spiritual life. Speaking out for the first time, he condemns an era of mental abuse in the Church and in the world, which are contrary to the beauty and joy of true communities. This free and liberating guide exposes some of the abuses within religious orders and includes testimonies of victims.

You will

How to determine if a community is following tradition or falling prey to cult-like practicesThe two primary challenges to those in positions of authorityBehaviors in a community that cause harm and psychological murderFour stages and characteristics of “sect-like” behavior in dysfunctional religious communitiesFive layers of knowledge those entering a community experience – from the outside and the insideThe dangers of manipulative personalities and abuses of powerYou will also discover the proper understanding of obedience and three conditions according to St. Francis de Sales that highlight what blind obedience really means. Moreover, you will see the difference between the silence that is life-giving and the silence that kills. You will also find two criteria for healthy communication with the outside world and the way to achieve balance in living a life of sacrifice to foster genuine humility. Above all, you will see the necessary path to healing and how the truth sets us free.

Genres: Abuse, Faith

375 pages, Kindle Edition

Published June 20, 2023

Reviews

[Christian Raab, OSB · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book is simply excellent. It is extremely helpful in describing a healthy approach to spirituality and in explaining what is not. Anyone engaged in spiritual practice can get a lot of wisdom from this book but it is especially helpful for religious men and women. It should be used in formation programs and it should be mandatory reading for spiritual directors, religious superiors, and formators.

[Enan Zelinski · Rating 5 out of 5]

An incredible book. Written with excellent clarity and insight, I’d suggest this book for anyone in a position of authority in the Church. His analysis of the responsibility of those with power and authority and his insights into how easily manipulation and dysfunction can creep into community life even under the guise of spirituality or “holiness” is refreshing, challenging, and encouraging.

All priests and bishops and religious would benefit from reading this slowly and reflectively.

[Whitrose Knight · Rating 4 out of 5]

A very important book that ought to be required reading for all seminarians, novices, superiors, and clergy as well as anyone interested in religious or spiritual life. Dom Dysmas de Lassus not merely diagnoses spiritual abuse but provides recommendations for remedying and healing communities and individual souls that have been wounded by the trauma of spiritual or sexual abuse.