Things Your Mother Never Told You: A Woman's Guide to Sexuality

by Kim Gaines Eckert

"Sexuality offers important lessons about God, about ourselves, about the life that he is calling us to now, as well as a vision of the life that he has ultimately created us for―one of constant love and physical union with him in eternity." Sexuality is core to our personhood. Conversations about sex and sexuality matter, because they are really about our identity as people created in the image of God. So why aren't Christians talking about it? In this frank exploration of all aspects of what it means to be a sexual being created by God, psychologist Kim Gaines Eckert explores common myths that we have absorbed from popular culture and distorted religious teaching. As women, in particular, we are flooded with images of disconnecting, degrading sexuality. It is easy to develop distorted views, but our sexuality as women is a reflection of how we have been created in God?s image. Some myths that Eckert debunks Neither our identity as sexual beings nor the gift of sexual pleasure is the thing itself. God has created us for union with Himself, and sex and sexuality are signs that point us toward that ultimate good. Allow this book to be your companion into a journey to deeper self-understanding as you explore things you may never have discussed with anyone else.

Genres: Sexuality

171 pages, Paperback

First published January 10, 2014

Reviews

[Kim · Rating 3 out of 5]

As a Christian woman married over 20 years to the same man, I know things can get somewhat routine with sex, and sexuality doesn't seem as important. Therefore, I was hopeful that this book might offer perspective, ideas, etc. for spicing things up in a positive, healthy way from a Christian viewpoint, but I didn't really find that here. If you've struggled with the hurts of rape, abuse, etc., I think this might be a very good book for you. However, if you are reading this from the perspective of a person with a fairly healthy outlook on sex and sexuality, I am not sure it sheds any new light on the topic.

[Katelyn Beaty · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a wise, mature, and comprehensive resource for Christian women seeking to integrate their sexuality into their whole selves and the path of discipleship. Topics Eckert addresses from a therapeutic standpoint include body image and eating disorders, assault, healthy sexuality for single women as well as for newly married women, and perhaps most crucial and under-addressed, the fundamental goodness of female sexuality. Recommended for women at any stage of life and development.

[Debs Taylor · Rating 4 out of 5]

I found this a helpful exploration of sexuality from a Christian educated in the field. Her definition of sexuality was interesting and she did not shy away from difficult subjects often ignored in the Christian culture. There were some areas I would have liked greater elaboration on, but a good conversation starter.