As a young boy growing up in the late 50's, I enjoyed musicals. Top among my favorites were Oklahoma and Carousel both staring Gordon McRae and Shirley Jones. Both performers had golden voices. To me, I imagined that the pure, idyllic love portrayed in these two masterpieces was but an extension of each actor's personal life and moral values. I have not yet read a biography of the life of Gordon McRae, but upon reading Shirley Jones' new autobiography, my idealism was turned on its head. Call me naive - say "you should have known better" - tell me "this is just Hollywood." Still, I was disappointed. Through the years, the images of the lovely, feminine, virtuous Laurie and Julie became icons for me and represented all that was good in womanhood. As to their characters, they still are. Yet, now knowing the personal life of the actress who created them, I have felt a let-down.
In her autobiography, Shirley Jones discusses in detail her two husbands, the two loves of her life (Jack Cassidy and Marty Ingels). She talks about her step-son, David Cassidy, and about her three sons, Shaun, Ryan and Patrick. Shirley was very much a devoted and loving wife and mother and did much to be with and support her children, especially in their times of difficulty. She also speaks of her fierce independence of spirit, her dedication to career, and very candidly about her views on sexuality and "sex". She is often explicit - which was a bit shocking to me (since I had always placed her on such a pedestal). Readers: caveat emptor. But again, perhaps this is Hollywood (or worse yet, perhaps this is America). As I read her biography, I was struck with the impression that she wanted to be honest, candid and frank with her readers about her life (and she was). She wanted the world to know how "open minded" she was about each person's right to live his life as he desires and that we should not pass judgment on others for doing so. In that sentiment we are in accord. However, it is one thing to accept people for who they are and what they do, but quite another to aid and abet them in their deviant lifestyles and even (in the name of love and support of spouse) embrace those lifestyles. (To her credit, as she states in her biography, she sometimes participated in practices with her husband or because of her husband, Jack Cassidy, she didn't feel comfortable with and would not have done on her own). It seems to me that each person needs to establish personal principles of morality and decency, then draw a line in the sand. One should never allow himself to become so "open minded" that his brains fall out.
Call me old fashioned, but I firmly believe that the "new morality" is nothing more nor less than the old immorality eschewed by the prophets of the Old Testament and the Savior in the New Testament and that our greatest happiness (in this life and in the next) can only be achieved by adhering to principles of virtue, especially in sexual matters; that is, abstinence from sex before marriage and complete fidelity to one's spouse after marriage. If mistakes are made, sincere repentance and reformation are always available. That is the wonderful thing about the Atonement of Jesus Christ. It is my view that only on these principles can an eternal marriage and family unit be established and preserved, through the help of a merciful Savior and a loving Heavenly Father.