DNF. Surprisingly, I can't say I hated this. The writing was serviceable and the protagonist's problems realistic and authentic given her age (18? 19?). A musician myself, I can totally relate to Riley's love of music and her choice of instrument--drums--was a nice snub of gender norms.
In the Band, however, is a case study in terrible parenting and overblown martyrdom. As a book that's been sitting, unread, on my Kindle for years, it didn't rate 300+ pages of irritation.
Riley is a starting her first year at a local college, even though she had a very sweet scholarship deal, out of state. But her father has recently left her mother, mother is depressed, and Riley's kid sister needs a babysitter. So Riley turns down the music scholarship so she can stay home and play mom to her kid sister and useless mom.
At one point Riley explains that if she went away to college, kid sister would have to spend several nights a week with a babysitter. Oh, the horror! *Rolls eyes.* Oy, vey, talk about First World problems.
I'm not feeling Mom's plight. Yeah, yeah, depression-smession-sadness-cakes. Thing is, I'm all too familiar with the black beast (with a soupcon of chronic illness), but I take better care of my animals than this woman does of her kids. Even on my darkest days, I drag ass out to the barn, three times a day, seven days a week, in all weather, to feed, exercise, and otherwise care for a horse. The fact that Riley's mother (and Dad) would allow (tacitly encourage) Riley to throw away a great scholarship, establishes both as suck-ass parents. Mom is a selfish bitch, but Dad, largely absent in the story, is a dick-weed for not taking responsibility and making sure his progeny gets a chance at a good education and career.
Riley, meanwhile, has a major martyr complex. Devotion to family is wonderful, but pissing away your future to enable your worthless mother's whinging is just stupid. Riley's reaction to the situation reads true; true to the perceptions of a very young woman. But seen through the eyes of someone much older, her "sacrifice" is an act of stubborn stupidity, and not nobility. Even more aggravating is that when Riley eventually realizes that her needs are important, this revelation is driven solely by her "love" of a boy.
In other words, she never looks around and says, "Pull yourself together, Mom. I'm following my dreams because I deserve it!" Nope. Instead, the only thing that motivates her is the "need" of a man. She needs Romeo (ugh, that name) and therefore his wuv is what drives her to claim something for herself. This struck me as an unhealthy message for young women.
Two stars rather than the usual DNF one star, because...curiously, I didn't hate this.