Boys Who Like Boys: How we date, love, and find fulfillment in the age of the internet

by Max Thomas

“Dating other guys is just so fun and so easy!” ...said basically no one ever. But why is dating so hard for men who like men? Why do so many of us struggle to find happy, stable relationships? And does it have to be that way? Backed by psychological research, personal stories and more than a few d*ck jokes, Boys Who Like Boys is the in-depth guide to gay, bi and queer dating we’ve long been waiting for. Inside, you’ll learn how to overcome the common blocks that stop queer men connecting more deeply with each other. You’ll learn to figure out what you want in your romantic relationships and how to get it. You’ll learn why internalized homophobia is more like herpes than gonorrhea (and why it matters). A profound but fun exploration of what it means to find love and fulfillment in the internet age, Boys Who Like Boys is our essential roadmap to better dating, a better community and more fulfilling connections.


"A rallying cry for all queer men to date, love and care for one another better.”
Vaneet Mehta, Author of Bisexual Men Exist

“Much-needed, highly relevant and thought-provoking ... I would recommend this book to any queer man.”
Thomas Smithson, LGBTQ+ Therapist

320 pages, Paperback

Published June 19, 2023

Reviews

[Jordan Louis-Fernand · Rating 5 out of 5]

As a gay man this book was an excellent read, it covers a variety of different topics relating to modern day queer dating in great depth and I felt that it really speaks to the queer community as a whole. Max uses the perfect balance of his own experiences, other people’s experiences and also has many references to queer/pop culture which kept me entertained and laughing out loud in some chapters. Max has also referenced a lot of other books, articles and online references which really speaks to the level of research he has done before diving into this topic. There were many moments where what was being discussed in different chapters I related to and I was then able to take some of my own experiences and see it from a different angle, ways to help me improve current situations and definitely tips to use in the future. I even got a little teary at the end of the book (which I won’t spoil) by how open Max was in his own personal experiences. Overall this is a wonderful and fascinating book for queer men and I hope it is well recognised on a bigger scale as a way of helping people date in the age of the Internet. Thank you Max!

[Martin Acuna · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book was everything I needed when I was growing up, and my 15 year-old-self would have been so happy to have had it back then! Today, as a gay queer who still believes in love and is a hopeless romantic, this book is a safe place for comfort and guidance. Max's writing style is an absolute delight, and having his and other people's experiences makes me feel a little less alone navigating the dating pool and its weirdnesses.