The Hidden Peace: Finding True Security, Strength, and Confidence Through Humility

by Joel Muddamalle

The peace we long for begins with coming to the end of ourselves. There are inescapable aspects of life we are all marked by. We have less control than we want, more anxiety than we're comfortable with and just enough insecurity to continually remind us of our shortcomings. To experience these things is to be human. We aren't superheroes and invincibility isn't an option. But humility is. Whether we've incorrectly defined it or underestimated its relevance to our daily life, humility is the missing piece for the security, strength and confidence we all want. It's time to stop trying so hard to avoid our limitations or overcompensate for them. God has better for us and it begins with bowing low in humility. With relatable stories, practical wisdom and biblical theology broken down into digestible takeaways, The Hidden Peace by Dr. Joel Muddamalle will help Weakness is not your enemy. Planted in the soil of humility, weakness becomes a means to gaining more strength and more peace.

Genres: Nonfiction, Christian, Christian Living, Faith, Christian Non Fiction, Theology, Audiobook

272 pages, Paperback

Published March 5, 2024

Reviews

[Shana OkieCozyReader · Rating 4 out of 5]

I read this book with Circle 31 through Proverbs 31 Ministry. I feel like it’s such a good reminder as I head back into another school year of the gift of humility. The world can be such a competitive place, and it’s good to remember what is most important.

This book has 4 main parts and then a nice appendix of verses with application:
1. Living the frustrated, fearful life (from panic to honesty to rest)
2. Fighting to make “my way” work
3. Transforming “my way” into the “way of humility”
Grasp It (forget the lies)
Cultivate It (begin the practice)
Embody It (like Jesus)
Redefine It (like Paul)
Safeguard yourself with it (build resilience)
4. Living the secure, peaceful life
Mutual, soft heart can be firm, when bad things happen to humble people

Muddamalle gives a lot of examples from his own life, and several from the Bible. I want to spend some time going through the verses in the back (there are 13 verses with application to consider / cultivate / commit

Some of my favorites that I would like to remember and apply:

“So when we confront the reality of our lack of control, it’s an opportunity. We can exchange the desire for control for the gift of humble faith.” P33

He mentions Mary’s song and how we can use it to humble our hearts (p119)
1. Rejoice in the greatness of God (write ways God is big)
2. Glorify God (use those ways to write a prayer of praise)
3. Anticipate God’s continual faithfulness
4. Exalt God

YOUR HUMILITY EQUATION
I fear that _____, which will cause (some kind of pain).
IfI trust Jesus and _____ (humbly reach toward
his power, strength, and control, I will be equipped to deal with my fear and pain.
“Ultimate result: My fear is still there, and my pain contin-ves. But humility helps me face my fear with faich in Jesus. It leads me to rely on the Spirit's power to process my pain and get to the other side of it. I am humbled.” P 153

God’s relationship with Job as a humble believer:
“Each question was meant to lead Job to simply and humbly say, "I don't know, but you do, Lord."” P202

Simple prayer, p205-206
“God, I don't know what tomorrow will bring, but you do.
Your presence next to me builds confidence within me.
In the midst of my burt, let me see a bigger picture of your holiness and your gracious work in my life.
I know you are with me, God, so I will rest in the peace you give me.”

It's possible that one of the most significant blessings we can experience is living out a daily practice of humility in relation to others. To do what scholar and pastor Eugene Peterson once said that humility enables us to do; to be "in relationship with other people without competing with them.” P210

[Jaimee Myers · Rating 4 out of 5]

I honestly expected this book to be way too “smart” for me. I’ve heard Joel Muddamalle speak before and he is so intelligent but I can’t always follow so I assumed the book would be the same. Turns out, I was wrong! This book has a LOTTTT of practical things to say about humility and also has fun stories in it that keep it personal/relatable. Halfway through the book I stopped reading for a long time but I’m glad I finally picked it up again and finished it!

[Jaime · Rating 4 out of 5]

Listened. Good book focused on humility. A lot of focus on pride and what that can look like. Thought provoking and convicting. He does use a lot of personal examples, which did not bother me. There is an appendix with a lot of verses on humility to further deep dive into it. May be helpful to have a hard copy if you want to delve further into it. With the exception of one short story example, I thought the content was good and helpful.

[Keely Martin · Rating 3 out of 5]

I so want to love this book, it has a bunch of good, biblical aspects yet the posture of the book is what I can’t get over. Very much “convincing” us of our need to be humble and almost using humility as a “self help” in this book. Additionally, so many anecdotes that I don’t think were necessary, I would’ve rather more in depth scripture and pointing to Jesus. Muddamalle does achieve more of this near the end of the book, but he does a lot of pandering I found as well. The gospel speaks for itself and there is no need to pander to appeal to many. In recognizing my need for Jesus daily there is just no question of my need to be humble, and I was hoping that would’ve been the heart of the book here.

Some great books on humility: Gentle and Lowly by Ortlund and Humility by CJ Mahaney

[Amy · Rating 3 out of 5]

There are many qualities that draw me to Christ: His reservoirs of grace, His unmeasurable love, His tender kindness, and His mighty strength. But it is His honest humility that I find particularly irresistible. Christ, as God incarnate, chooses to bend His knee and wash the dirt off the sweaty feet of His disciples. Then commissions His followers to do the same: “I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you.” (John 13:15)
This is a countercultural way of life.

I appreciate “The Hidden Peace” for diving into a biblical exploration on humility, and encouraging Christians to be imitators of Christ: to bend our knees, to dare to choose the unpopular path of humility, and to find peace in this process as we seek God’s ways above our own.

As a theologian, Dr Joel Muddamalle has deep wells of insight to offer on this subject. He chooses to present this through relatable anecdotes and a conversational tone.

I enjoyed the way Dr Muddamalle communicates theological concepts, such as the origins of pride in the Bible, and the cultural context surrounding the word “humility”, which was viewed with negative connotations in the Greco-Roman world.

However, in his quest to deliver this subject matter in an accessible way, I found that, overall, Dr Muddamalle underestimates the intelligence of the average Bible reader.

I relished the delicious theology feasts, and was left hungry for more of this meat. But these golden goodies were hidden behind too many “off-topic” anecdotes, such as learning that Dr Muddamalle’s favourite app is the Weather App, because this helps him determine what sneakers he should wear to work. He prefers Apple over Android, is not a cat person, his son was concerned he didn’t brush his teeth one day, Janet Jackson reposted a viral video of his kids, and he is known by his co-workers at Proverbs 31 Ministries to occasionally mix his metaphors.

Though these conversational pieces help us to determine that Joel is likeable and authentic in his Christian walk, these stories don’t always serve a purpose. They fill pages, while failing to flesh out the core of this message - in fact, some examples are rooted in our materialistic culture and seem to be in direct opposition to a biblical view of humility.

My heart longed for more examples of Jesus walking out His divinity with humility, and less examples of Joel.

It is also presumed that readers are familiar with the women’s ministry, Proverbs 31, particularly Lysa TerKeurst’s brilliant work. Though many readers, including myself, have greatly benefited from this ministry, this nevertheless limits the target audience of “The Hidden Peace”.

Dr Muddamalle’s unique voice and viewpoint is valuable, and his future books should be able to stand in their own right, ministering to both men and women alike. I look forward to his next book, and I hope he can lean into his strength of effortlessly communicating big biblical themes through approachable theology.

In conclusion, in “The Hidden Peace” Dr Muddamalle helps readers understand that God’s kingdom belongs to the lowly and humble, and this viewpoint (where the first will be last and the last will be first) has always been countercultural. He offers practical advice on how readers can follow Christ’s example and live humbly in a culture that is quick to reward success, while slow to honour meekness. And in doing so we are invited to discover a hidden peace.

[April Williams · Rating 2 out of 5]

I’m going to start by saying that I did get a few good takeaways from this book so I gave it two stars. The author just rubbed me the wrong way from the beginning. It was mostly just a gut feeling.
This book is very formulaic, tell a life story relate it to scripture and repeat. I honestly feel like there is more stories than actual Bible teaching. I hung in there but the authors constant name dropping of other christians(famous at that) really bothered me as well. It was like he was screaming hey look at me and all the cool famous people I get to hang out with. The final straw for me was in section 4 where he talks about the fear of racism happening to him and then goes into a whole woke social justice spiel. I am a knowledgeable Christian who spends a lot of time in the actual word of God. I know what I know. Please be discerning when you read this book so as not to be led astray to believe that social justice belongs in any part of study.

[Amanda Cole · Rating 5 out of 5]

I will definitely be returning to this book time and time again. I always appreciate Joel’s approach to theology - I felt like I could hear him on IG explaining such richness, such depth from the Word. Reading this has made me so much more aware of my tendencies and has given me practical and Biblically sound advice for cultivating a life of humility and therefore, peace.

[John Ekhoff · Rating 4 out of 5]

Really approachable presentation of humility! Would recommend this

[Rhoda · Rating 5 out of 5]

Didn't think I would get so much out of this as I did. I signed up through Proverbs 31 Ministries Circle 31 Book Club. I have so many notes, post-its, and highlighted passages. It will be a good book to save and read through my notes to understand Biblical teachings.

[Jennifer Reese · Rating 5 out of 5]

A practical guide and resource for living a life of humility....

[Dorie · Rating 4 out of 5]

3.75 stars
A solid book! Written in a conversational tone and very easy to read- great for a book club (which is actually why I'm reading it lol) It's changing my perspective of humility and pride. It helped me to realize that pride is rooted in fear and those places of pride in my heart are places where I'm not securely attached to the Lord. And a good reminder that humility is not something hammered into me but something that happens naturally as a result of standing in awe of my good Father.

[Nicole Rousselet · Rating 4 out of 5]

The focus of this book is on humility and pride. Joel uses many personal stories as examples which was very helpful. I found it thought provoking and convicting. It was interesting to learn how pride is affects our trust (or lack of). He roots everything in the Bible but his teachings are simple and the writing style makes it easy to understand.

[Adriane Parcel · Rating 5 out of 5]

Profound. Really had me looking inward and reminding me that I should always stay in a posture of humility, asking God for His strength, His peace and to truly love others in the same way He has loved me.

[Jasper Kent · Rating 3 out of 5]

I wanted to like this more then I did.

Joel does a great job laying out biblical humility. It is slow to begin with. The second half of the book is worth reading.

There is a chapter in there on humility and boundaries and I absolutely loved it.

If I could I would give it 3.5 stars.

[LAMONT D · Rating 5 out of 5]

Anything related to Lysa TerKeurst and Proverbs 31 ministry is a plus in my book. I knew nothing about our author but quickly became a fan as he walked me through a study of humility as seen through the scriptures. He opens each chapter with a personal story or illustration that is usually filled with self-effacing humor or transparency as it relates to a challenge, he faced in his life being an Indian kid living in America. You might get tired of the Michael Jordan references and the usage of y'all. But his detailed word study of the Bible from its original languages is very well done and well researched. I found some chapters more helpful than others, but throughout you are getting a very complete and substantial analysis of what God may look at when we are called to be humble. What does that really look like in our lives today? The conclusion is very practical in its application and the Appendix in the back has multiple verses that he expounds upon with a consider, cultivate and commit explanatory section for each Bible reference. Overall, a wonderful resource with a multi-layered challenge to be humble which allows us to consider who God is, what that says about us and those around us.

[Grace Flanagan · Rating 4 out of 5]

Love this message on humility. Heard Joel Muddamalle speak at my church and read his book thereafter. Muddamalle provides practical guidance on overcoming the fear of being “found out” by understanding God’s intentional purpose for our imperfections. Humility is key when it comes to both spiritual growth and genuine security.

I also loved the part of this book that addresses processing suffering by shifting perspectives and offers seven practical ways to live like Christ daily. Going to list them here so I don’t forget.

1. Embrace Humility – Acknowledge your dependence on God and practice putting others above yourself.
2. Practice Gratitude – Foster a thankful heart, recognizing God’s grace in all circumstances.
3. Seek Peace – Pursue peace with others, modeling Christ’s forgiveness and reconciliation.
4. Serve Others – Look for opportunities to serve, humbling yourself for the good of others.
5. Live Generously – Share your resources freely, reflecting God’s generosity.
6. Engage in Prayer – Commit to regular prayer, cultivating a relationship with God through constant communication.
7. Live with Integrity – Let your actions align with your faith, maintaining honesty and moral courage in all situations.

[Hailey Monzon · Rating 2 out of 5]

I did not really enjoy this book. My bf had gotten this for me for my birthday and I was excited to read it. Fast forward months later I finally picked it up and started reading it. I had just freshly read a Joyce Meyer book and it was good. I had such excitement because I LOVE Lysa’s books and she had a foreword in the book. I had high expectations. However, the chapters felt like reading a life story. Which isn’t the problem however it seemed to mostly focus on His life with a short of how to learn from it biblically. The 2 Christian books that changed my life/perspective is “His House His Presence” and “What Happens When Women Say Yes to God.” Those are more of the Christian books that I love to read that have story but also that biblical principle behind them. Now I say this not to bash a book that I know could help so many spiritually, but just because it isn’t my taste doesn’t mean it isn’t yours. Give it a try and if you don’t like it pass it to someone else who might like it!

[Daoud M · Rating 4 out of 5]

The longing for peace starts when we reach the limits of our own selves. Life inevitably presents us with challenges: we lack control, battle anxiety, and grapple with insecurities. These are part of the human experience; we are not superheroes and invincibility is not an option. Yet, humility is within our grasp. Perhaps we've misunderstood its significance, but humility holds the key to the security, strength, and confidence we desire. It's time to cease striving to evade our limitations or overcompensate for them. God offers something greater, beginning with a humble posture. In "The Hidden Peace" by Dr. Joel Muddamalle, relatable anecdotes, practical insights, and accessible biblical teachings illuminate the transformative power of embracing weakness within the framework of humility.

[Jessica · Rating 5 out of 5]

I purchased this book and joined the Proverbs 31 book club (Circle 31) on a whim so I could do a summer book club. I was interested in the book and anticipated it been a read and pass along.

Mid-way through the book, I'd recommended it to a friend, who purchased and joined.

By the time I finished, I'd realized I wasn't departing with the book.

Joel wrote in a way I easily connected with and understood. I felt as though we were talking, having a friendly discussion over humility, God, and Michael Jordan. I was a temporary bystander in his family's life, thinking of how those situations made other memories come to mind. I was left with a better definition of humility and boundaries, and felt closer to God.

[Jessica Oppert · Rating 5 out of 5]

Excellent read that I would highly recommend! The author takes you deep but doesn't make you feel like you're drowning in strong currents of overwhelming theology. He takes the time to explain and keep you on pace with him as you get deeper and deeper. The end result is you come out being more knowledgeable on the biblical perspective of humility. On a personal note it was perfect timing for me in a season of more responsibility that was resulting in a fear of what people would think; a season of being fearful and anxious that I would disappointment others. If like me you struggle with anxiety or being a people pleaser this book is sure to encourage your heart from a strong biblical foundation! Love how God works out all the details, even the books we read!

[Nicole · Rating 5 out of 5]

I’ve followed Britt’s husband (😂🙌🏻❤️) for years, thru his work at Proverbs 31 & his social media accounts. He’s such a wonderful teacher! I appreciate his conversational writing style, mostly because it sounds exactly like the way he speaks.

This book was excellent & I think I have half of it underlined. The focus is on humility vs pride & the way humble surrender is the way to true peace. I read this book during the time I was doing the First 5 study on the book of James & I was delighted that the messages of both complimented each other so well. Looking forward to more of Joel Muddamalle’s wisdom in any and all formats!

[Amelia Hughes · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very practical, well researched book. Chock full of Bible references and personal experiences and stories from the author. I read and listened to on audiobook which is read by the author and he reads like he teaches and I really loved that because I felt like I was learning from him firsthand. An excellent argument for why we need humility and practical examples of living it out and not getting walked all over by others. I saw someone mention disappointment over him bringing race into the book, but it was a VERY minimal part and honestly it’s a fact we as Christians cannot ignore and it’s pertinent to him! This will be a book I go back to again so I would highly recommend.

[Stacey A Hammerle · Rating 3 out of 5]

I read this book as part of a book club and only finished it because I don't like leaving books unfinished. For me the book was slow and disconnected, almost as if the author was trying too hard to connect his life stories to his instruction. It definitely is not an intimidating read and, for those significantly struggling with pride, this book might be the gentle nudge to open their eyes and prompt some self reflection.

[Gillian Cosper · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed how conversational this read was. As a recovering control freak and perfectionist, reading this book allowed me to not only more deeply understand humility, but let go of unrealistic expectations in many areas of my life and simply abide. I know that's a lot to say for just a few hundred pages. (If you don't believe me, try it for yourself.) I'm currently recommending this book to anyone who will talk to me.

[Madison Bice · Rating 5 out of 5]

Wow! Wow! Wow! This book was so impactful. I have highlighted, annotated, & stuck the whole book in my brain’s file folder. I’m so thankful God pushed Joel to write this book. The knowledge, experiences, & directions for application were easy to digest and put into action. Definitely a book I will look back at in the future. We need God & we need to be humble enough to seek him full & honestly at all times!

[Regina · Rating 5 out of 5]

God taught me so much through this book. We did the study in our ladies' Bible study at church and I realized that I did not have right understanding of what humility was before this. Be forewarned, it's not for the faint of heart. It's kind of like deciding to do a study on patience. God will bring along a lot of opportunities to exercise what you're learning!

[Cat Miglionico · Rating 5 out of 5]

I listened to this book. It is a good book that helps us look for peace in a world full of comparisons, commercials and media telling us what we need and how we should look, the perfect job, perfect family, etc. It walks you through humility to find peace in the Lord Jesus.
Definitely a book I will listen or read again and again.

[Michelle B · Rating 5 out of 5]

Impactful Reminder!

Such a deeply moving book that drew me back to the beautiful simplicity of walking with Jesus. This is something you read, soak in and make every effort to apply. Humility starts at the heart level and I’m grateful for the way Joel articulated this teaching. I am so grateful I found and read it.

[Kim Peach · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have honestly thought very little about the role of humility in my life, but the exploration of this virtue is life-changing! I am thinking and pondering and praying about the cultivation of humility in my life. I will come back to this book for insight and Biblical theology again and again!

[Natalie Lancaster · Rating 4 out of 5]

Really really good!!!! This book portrays humility in such a way that is easy to understand and biblically backed. I love how personable Joel Muddamalle is as he teaches and simplifies without diminishing the weight of it all. Humility is so important for the Christian life!!!