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Seeking Approval
When Emery Pembroke returns home after her father’s untimely death, she’s shocked to learn her mother has been named CEO of the family’s green energy business instead of her. Faced with a directive from the board to prove her stability and community commitment, she sets out to bolster her credentials by finding a woman of the right social standing to woo and marry. Enter Arden Gilderson, the wealthy, socially anxious daughter of one of the area’s most prominent families, who has admired Emery from afar for most of her life. Overwhelmed by the sudden attention, Arden vows to overcome her nerves long enough to enjoy herself for once in her life. Against all odds, the two women find they share not only an immediate sense of attraction and quirky sense of humor, but also the ability to offer one another balance and perspective. However, their unique and unexpected bond is tested as social and family pressure come crashing in from all sides.
Opposites might be enough to attract, but can Arden and Emery sustain each other as perceptions of who they’ve always been clash with who they must become?
Seeking Approval is a heartwarming sapphic romance about the complexities of love, acceptance, community, and stepping authentically into futures of our own choosing
Opposites might be enough to attract, but can Arden and Emery sustain each other as perceptions of who they’ve always been clash with who they must become?
Seeking Approval is a heartwarming sapphic romance about the complexities of love, acceptance, community, and stepping authentically into futures of our own choosing
324 pages, Kindle Edition
Published June 23, 2023
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Rachel Spangler
33 books850 followersRachel Spangler never set out to be an award winning author. She was just so poor and so easily bored during her college years that she had to come up with creative ways to entertain herself, and her first novel, Learning Curve, was born out of one such attempt. She was sincerely surprised when it was accepted for publication and even more shocked when it won the Golden Crown Literary Award for Debut Author. She also won a Goldie for her second novel, Trails Merge. Since writing is more fun than a real job, and so much cheaper than therapy, Rachel continued to type away, leading to the publication of The Long Way Home and LoveLife. She plans to continue writing as long as anyone anywhere will keep reading.
Rachel, and her partner, Susan, are raising their young son in Western New York. They spend winters skiing and their summers traveling and watching their beloved Cardinals. Regardless of the season, Rachel always makes time for a good romance, whether she's reading it, writing it, or living it.
Rachel can be found online at www.rachelspangler.com or on Facebook.
Rachel, and her partner, Susan, are raising their young son in Western New York. They spend winters skiing and their summers traveling and watching their beloved Cardinals. Regardless of the season, Rachel always makes time for a good romance, whether she's reading it, writing it, or living it.
Rachel can be found online at www.rachelspangler.com or on Facebook.
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July 27, 2023
Feeling seen is a rare and precious thing. We all carry the weight of expectations, some more than others. Emery Pembroke has to prove herself to be more than an impetuous heiress in order to take over as CEO of the family company after her father’s untimely death. Arden Gilderson has a reputation for being shy, introverted, and socially awkward, and while none of these adjectives are inaccurate, they’re far from the whole picture. And yet when Emery and Arden are together, neither feels like the person the rest of the world seems to know.
I enjoyed every second of reading this book. Sure, there are a few repetitions and a little head-hopping, but nothing big. Arden and Emery are wonderful characters and I fell in love with both. They’re extremely different from one another but share the same experience of being misunderstood and believing what others see in them to be true. And yet they’re both so much more.
With this book and its perfect title, Spangler tackles several issues many people are faced with, even those of us who aren’t as rich as the protagonists. Expectations. The shallowness of society’s way of looking without seeing and the easiness with which it contents itself with surface observation. The necessity of going beyond appearances – as someone who is often categorized as quiet, which is both accurate and reductive (there’s a reason my BFF says the Elmo fire GIF is me), that’s one I know well. The strength one feels from the right person believing in them.
Speaking of the right person, both MCs have best friends whose love I don’t doubt but who should sometimes reassess what they think they know of their friend. Theo, in particular, made me cringe several times on Emery’s behalf. I often take notes while reading and here’s what I wrote: “I have to believe Theo is well-intentioned but damn, if your BFF pigeonholes you like this, maybe rethink your friendship with them”. So yeah, not a fan, even though I understand what he was trying to do. And maybe he, too, got caught in the spiral of expectations, especially as Emery’s assistant. Luz, Arden’s best friend, is sassy and fun and overwhelming sometimes, but she very clearly has Arden’s back. I also liked Emery’s mother and hated Arden’s.
This book is definitely character-driven, which works perfectly for me. I found the tension delightful and while I almost always enjoy Spangler’s books, I usually associate this kind of tension with their sports romance. No sports here, no real angst either, but tension all the same. The best kind.
Also, keep your eyes open for the section dividers. Just saying. 4.5⭐️
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July 5, 2023
Being yourself.
This is a heartwarming romance that explores the complexities of love, acceptance, and the journey towards embracing one's true self and I enjoyed this one.
The story centers around Emery, who returns home after her father's unexpected demise, only to discover that her mother has been appointed as the CEO of the family's green energy business instead of her. In order to prove her stability and commitment to the board and the community, Emery embarks on a mission to find a suitable partner who can bolster her social standing. Enter Arden, a wealthy and socially anxious young woman who has admired Emery from afar for years.
The chemistry between Emery and Arden is immediate and palpable even though they are entirely opposites in terms of personality and I enjoyed watching them navigate their growing connection. They find solace and balance in each other's presence and at the same, they are tested by societal expectations and family pressures, which threaten to tear them apart. Emery's journey towards self-discovery is compelling, while Arden's battle with anxiety adds a bit of depth to the narrative and I thought Rachel Spangler depicted their struggles and growth pretty well. Spangler also did well exploring themes such as the freedom to shape one's future, which add richness to the story.
Overall, I thought this was a heartwarming romance with rather engaging characters and a touching storyline. A pleasure to read.
I received an ARC from the author in exchange for an honest review.
This is a heartwarming romance that explores the complexities of love, acceptance, and the journey towards embracing one's true self and I enjoyed this one.
The story centers around Emery, who returns home after her father's unexpected demise, only to discover that her mother has been appointed as the CEO of the family's green energy business instead of her. In order to prove her stability and commitment to the board and the community, Emery embarks on a mission to find a suitable partner who can bolster her social standing. Enter Arden, a wealthy and socially anxious young woman who has admired Emery from afar for years.
The chemistry between Emery and Arden is immediate and palpable even though they are entirely opposites in terms of personality and I enjoyed watching them navigate their growing connection. They find solace and balance in each other's presence and at the same, they are tested by societal expectations and family pressures, which threaten to tear them apart. Emery's journey towards self-discovery is compelling, while Arden's battle with anxiety adds a bit of depth to the narrative and I thought Rachel Spangler depicted their struggles and growth pretty well. Spangler also did well exploring themes such as the freedom to shape one's future, which add richness to the story.
Overall, I thought this was a heartwarming romance with rather engaging characters and a touching storyline. A pleasure to read.
I received an ARC from the author in exchange for an honest review.
July 18, 2023
Arden is an introvert, has anxiety and suffers from panic attacks, she lives in a world that prevents her from blooming. Her self deprecation is so deep it was sometimes hard to read. Aside from Luz, most side characters try to control others life, and it was infuriating (gold medal goes to Arden's mother). On the paper Emery and Arden are opposite but they were both share the pressure of their "elite" circle and are both underestimated. Arden being infatuated with Emery since school, their relationship seems uneven at first but I mistaken : they found in each other solace, see in each other what nobody can, and it was very sweet to read. I love the authors note saying the book was not about finding someone to make you whole but finding someone who sees you in your wholeness, and its a perfect description.
I was expecting a light and fun read, but anxiety topic has a big place and I liked how it was treated.
This book is a heartwarming and sweet read for the summer
I was expecting a light and fun read, but anxiety topic has a big place and I liked how it was treated.
This book is a heartwarming and sweet read for the summer
July 14, 2023
This review starts with a massive tangent. Skip the next two paragraphs if you just want to read the review.
I have been in the worst reading slump. I honestly wasn't sure if it was me or the books, so I decided to re-read books I've loved and, well, the problem isn't me because I was really engaged when reading those books. This is both a relief and a disappointment because it likely means I'm at the mercy of new releases by trusted authors. And, even then, some of those trusted authors haven't been publishing to the standards of which I know they're capable.
Rachel Spangler's books have always been a solid bet for me in the genre. Even when I haven't loved their books, I'm not usually disappointed in them. In fact, one of the books I re-read in the last couple of weeks is Spangler's Edge of Glory, a novel that definitely still holds up for me. But there are only so many times I can re-read that book, and especially the last three chapters of that book, so I decided to try Spangler's latest instead.
I read Seeking Approval Ravenously. Honestly, I couldn't put it down. Seeking Approval is an opposites-attract romance to the extreme: gregarious, "extra" Emery Pembroke has to prove she's worth to take over her father's legacy as CEO of the company her grandfather founded, and anxiety-ridden Arden Gilderson, the daughter of one of the wealthiest (old-money wealthy) families in the region, may be the key to her doing so. There's nothing on the surface that makes this story remarkable except for two things Spangler does here that really impresses me:
1. Emery and Arden communicate. Yes, Emery doesn't share everything about why she seeks Arden out, but it never felt deceitful because that detail quickly becomes inconsequential to Emery. But with everything going on in their lives, they are open and honest and handle things together. Drama comes from things that are outside of their control, not in the way they interact or, rather, fail to interact with each other.
2. Spangler drives home the idea that someone shouldn't have to change to conform to a relationship or to society at large. It was absolutely refreshing. The things that seemed to plague Arden and Emery in the eyes of the community were things that actually made them great, both as individuals but also in tandem.
My only big complaint with the novel is the ending. Things wrapped up a little too neatly or over-the-top. I don't know. It seemed to go off the rails at the end. The tone was completely different than the rest of the book and it just felt odd to me. But, for the most part, I'm grateful to have read a book that wasn't a chore to get through, one that was actually a bonafide romance, and one that I didn't want to put down.
I have been in the worst reading slump. I honestly wasn't sure if it was me or the books, so I decided to re-read books I've loved and, well, the problem isn't me because I was really engaged when reading those books. This is both a relief and a disappointment because it likely means I'm at the mercy of new releases by trusted authors. And, even then, some of those trusted authors haven't been publishing to the standards of which I know they're capable.
Rachel Spangler's books have always been a solid bet for me in the genre. Even when I haven't loved their books, I'm not usually disappointed in them. In fact, one of the books I re-read in the last couple of weeks is Spangler's Edge of Glory, a novel that definitely still holds up for me. But there are only so many times I can re-read that book, and especially the last three chapters of that book, so I decided to try Spangler's latest instead.
I read Seeking Approval Ravenously. Honestly, I couldn't put it down. Seeking Approval is an opposites-attract romance to the extreme: gregarious, "extra" Emery Pembroke has to prove she's worth to take over her father's legacy as CEO of the company her grandfather founded, and anxiety-ridden Arden Gilderson, the daughter of one of the wealthiest (old-money wealthy) families in the region, may be the key to her doing so. There's nothing on the surface that makes this story remarkable except for two things Spangler does here that really impresses me:
1. Emery and Arden communicate. Yes, Emery doesn't share everything about why she seeks Arden out, but it never felt deceitful because that detail quickly becomes inconsequential to Emery. But with everything going on in their lives, they are open and honest and handle things together. Drama comes from things that are outside of their control, not in the way they interact or, rather, fail to interact with each other.
2. Spangler drives home the idea that someone shouldn't have to change to conform to a relationship or to society at large. It was absolutely refreshing. The things that seemed to plague Arden and Emery in the eyes of the community were things that actually made them great, both as individuals but also in tandem.
My only big complaint with the novel is the ending. Things wrapped up a little too neatly or over-the-top. I don't know. It seemed to go off the rails at the end. The tone was completely different than the rest of the book and it just felt odd to me. But, for the most part, I'm grateful to have read a book that wasn't a chore to get through, one that was actually a bonafide romance, and one that I didn't want to put down.
July 4, 2023
#newreview
Seeking approval by Rachel Spangler is an opposites attract romance about learning that you don’t have to change to be enough.
Emery Pembroke lives her life to the full, she’s carefree, impulsive and passionate, she is often described as ‘extra’. When her beloved father dies unexpectedly she returns to her hometown ready to take over her family’s green energy business as CEO. That is until she discovers on her fathers wishes the board has named her mother CEO. With expectations from the board to appear more settled and stable in the community Emery sets out to deem herself worthy to assume the position that belongs to her. Number one on her list is to find a woman of the right social standing to woo and marry.
Arden Gilderson is from one of the most wealthy, prominent families within the community. She’s a recluse who has social anxieties, she loves reading and gardening and is more than happy to live her life flying as far under the radar as possible.
When Emery shows an interest in Arden she is overwhelmed and struggles to understand why. But after admiring her from a far for so long she pushes herself to calm her nerves and enjoy the moment for as long as it lasts, because there’s no way Emery could be interested in her long term. Yet despite their differences these women are drawn to each other on a deeper level than mere attraction. But with what looks like everything to loose and nothing to gain by being together can these two realise that in order to be happy together and to have what you want from life, you don’t have to be anything more than what you already are.
This book is one that wraps you up and keeps you warm, yes there are moments of anguish for both characters but ultimately the way Emery and Arden really see each other is enough to keep hope alive and give you a big hug.
At first I thought Emery and Arden were completely different. My heart went out to Arden, this woman made me cry, the way she sees herself is heartbreaking and my anger at the people who have made her feel this way was huge! I found myself shouting at the book, the injustice done to Arden made my chest hurt. Arden you are worthy and you are enough exactly the way you are. But then as I got further into the story I started to realise that the same thing is happening to Emery, just because she has the audacity to live her life as her ‘extra’ fabulous self people do her the injustice of underestimating her, of believing her incapable. I both wanted them to run away together and was begging for them to stand their ground, be themselves and realise that they were perfect as they are, together and apart.
What I loved most about this book is that at no point during the story did Emery or Arden want to or try to change each other. They excepted each other and loved each other for the people they are, in fact, their love blossomed because they are right for each other, no changes needed. Sure they are very different women on the surface but underneath they each just want to be seen and accepted, without expectations to ‘be better’ or ‘be fixed’. It’s because of this that each woman blooms under the other attention and that my friends was stunningly beautiful to witness.
There are a host of side characters to love and be mad at. Arden’s best friend Luz was my absolute favourite, she’s vibrant and loyal and a joy to be around (I’d love her story).
Spangler has given us a heartwarming romance about discovering that being your authentic self is enough, in fact it’s everything and if you’re willing to accept people for who they are then the world would be a much happier place.
The story is engaging full of heart aching moments, moments of elation and swoony, hot romance.
I totally recommend this book 🌟it’s left me with the biggest smile on my face.
*I received an arc off the author for an honest review*
#sapphicromance #lesfic #lesbian #sapphicbooks
Seeking approval by Rachel Spangler is an opposites attract romance about learning that you don’t have to change to be enough.
Emery Pembroke lives her life to the full, she’s carefree, impulsive and passionate, she is often described as ‘extra’. When her beloved father dies unexpectedly she returns to her hometown ready to take over her family’s green energy business as CEO. That is until she discovers on her fathers wishes the board has named her mother CEO. With expectations from the board to appear more settled and stable in the community Emery sets out to deem herself worthy to assume the position that belongs to her. Number one on her list is to find a woman of the right social standing to woo and marry.
Arden Gilderson is from one of the most wealthy, prominent families within the community. She’s a recluse who has social anxieties, she loves reading and gardening and is more than happy to live her life flying as far under the radar as possible.
When Emery shows an interest in Arden she is overwhelmed and struggles to understand why. But after admiring her from a far for so long she pushes herself to calm her nerves and enjoy the moment for as long as it lasts, because there’s no way Emery could be interested in her long term. Yet despite their differences these women are drawn to each other on a deeper level than mere attraction. But with what looks like everything to loose and nothing to gain by being together can these two realise that in order to be happy together and to have what you want from life, you don’t have to be anything more than what you already are.
This book is one that wraps you up and keeps you warm, yes there are moments of anguish for both characters but ultimately the way Emery and Arden really see each other is enough to keep hope alive and give you a big hug.
At first I thought Emery and Arden were completely different. My heart went out to Arden, this woman made me cry, the way she sees herself is heartbreaking and my anger at the people who have made her feel this way was huge! I found myself shouting at the book, the injustice done to Arden made my chest hurt. Arden you are worthy and you are enough exactly the way you are. But then as I got further into the story I started to realise that the same thing is happening to Emery, just because she has the audacity to live her life as her ‘extra’ fabulous self people do her the injustice of underestimating her, of believing her incapable. I both wanted them to run away together and was begging for them to stand their ground, be themselves and realise that they were perfect as they are, together and apart.
What I loved most about this book is that at no point during the story did Emery or Arden want to or try to change each other. They excepted each other and loved each other for the people they are, in fact, their love blossomed because they are right for each other, no changes needed. Sure they are very different women on the surface but underneath they each just want to be seen and accepted, without expectations to ‘be better’ or ‘be fixed’. It’s because of this that each woman blooms under the other attention and that my friends was stunningly beautiful to witness.
There are a host of side characters to love and be mad at. Arden’s best friend Luz was my absolute favourite, she’s vibrant and loyal and a joy to be around (I’d love her story).
Spangler has given us a heartwarming romance about discovering that being your authentic self is enough, in fact it’s everything and if you’re willing to accept people for who they are then the world would be a much happier place.
The story is engaging full of heart aching moments, moments of elation and swoony, hot romance.
I totally recommend this book 🌟it’s left me with the biggest smile on my face.
*I received an arc off the author for an honest review*
#sapphicromance #lesfic #lesbian #sapphicbooks
March 16, 2025
What an effing sweet book. I slammed this book in one day and it just gave me all the feels. Emery and Arden were just the most adorable and lovely characters I’ve ever read. No game playing, real communication, and just a small bit of drama that came from external pressures.
Neither Emery, the extrovert, nor Arden, the introvert felt truly seen until they found each other. The best part was that neither MC was looking for someone to fix them, but they were both looking for that to help them feel like their best selves. I also really related to the fact that neither character was looking to change the other and they figured out that they didn’t need to change who they were to be the other person. The spice was not explicit, this Spangler doesn’t write that, but it was open door and sweet and steamy.
The secondary characters pretty much sucked, but they were there to drive the story forward. The least offensive character was Arden’s friend, Luz, but she had her sucky moments, less so than others. Arden’s mom can go suck a big one, as can Emery’s “friend” Theo. Don’t let them deter you from enjoying this book, just know going in that they suck big, hairy ones.
Neither Emery, the extrovert, nor Arden, the introvert felt truly seen until they found each other. The best part was that neither MC was looking for someone to fix them, but they were both looking for that to help them feel like their best selves. I also really related to the fact that neither character was looking to change the other and they figured out that they didn’t need to change who they were to be the other person. The spice was not explicit, this Spangler doesn’t write that, but it was open door and sweet and steamy.
The secondary characters pretty much sucked, but they were there to drive the story forward. The least offensive character was Arden’s friend, Luz, but she had her sucky moments, less so than others. Arden’s mom can go suck a big one, as can Emery’s “friend” Theo. Don’t let them deter you from enjoying this book, just know going in that they suck big, hairy ones.
July 25, 2023
Emery Pembroke returns home after her father's death and seeks to prove her stability and community commitment by finding a suitable woman to marry. She unexpectedly connects with Arden Gilderson, a socially anxious but wealthy woman. Seeking Approval follows their romance, which features a lot of outside pressure.
I loved both characters in their own right. Although Arden is an anxious introvert, she's also strong and knows her own mind. Meanwhile Emery comes across as super confident, but has a lot of hang ups. Although at times I felt as though the relationship was a tad one sided at the beginning, this definitely shifted and felt a bit more comfortable after the first half.
All in all, Seeking Approval is a very sweet romance with some important themes. Highly recommend a read for those who love an opposites attract romance.
Many thanks to Rachel Spangler for providing me a copy of this novel. ARC provided in exchange for an honest review.
I loved both characters in their own right. Although Arden is an anxious introvert, she's also strong and knows her own mind. Meanwhile Emery comes across as super confident, but has a lot of hang ups. Although at times I felt as though the relationship was a tad one sided at the beginning, this definitely shifted and felt a bit more comfortable after the first half.
All in all, Seeking Approval is a very sweet romance with some important themes. Highly recommend a read for those who love an opposites attract romance.
Many thanks to Rachel Spangler for providing me a copy of this novel. ARC provided in exchange for an honest review.
June 24, 2023
I enjoyed Spangler’s latest. This is a classic opposites attract but with a fun twist I didn’t see coming. I commend the author for writing two characters who are so different but blend so well together. I didn’t quite understand Emery and Theo’s interpretation of the Board’s directive but putting that aside, the story unfolds nicely. There’s good chemistry between the mains and their connection is sweet. An easy breezy summer read with some interesting educational references (Thoreau and green energy!), and encouragement for everyone to be themselves. Recommend!
Short summary: When Emery’s father dies, she expects to be tapped as CEO. When that doesn’t happen because the Board labels her a cad, Emery pursues Arden- not exactly a pillar of the community because she’s shy, but Arden has the right pedigree. The only problem is that Arden is Emery’s opposite in every way, except maybe those that count the most…
Thank you to the author. ARC provided in exchange for an honest review.
Short summary: When Emery’s father dies, she expects to be tapped as CEO. When that doesn’t happen because the Board labels her a cad, Emery pursues Arden- not exactly a pillar of the community because she’s shy, but Arden has the right pedigree. The only problem is that Arden is Emery’s opposite in every way, except maybe those that count the most…
Thank you to the author. ARC provided in exchange for an honest review.
September 29, 2023
This is a lovely story about finding true love, acceptance and strength in one another. Emery is shocked that after her father unexpectedly died she didn't become CEO of the company, her mother did. The board wants her to settle down. Arden has always harbored a crush on Emery. When they meet at a charity event and talk. Then Emery calls Arden. Emery is outgoing and sure of herself, Arden suffers from panic attacks while in many social situations. Opposites. This is a fantastic book, with many insights to human psyche. 5 stars!
January 17, 2024
3.75 ⭐
Lo cierto es que aunque la historia es un poco meh, Arden como protagonista es uno de los mejores personajes que he leído, su construcción y desarrollo es excepcional e increíble y Emery como complemento es una pareja que funciona y lo hacen muy bien. Y solo por eso vale la pena adentrarse en la historia.
Lo cierto es que aunque la historia es un poco meh, Arden como protagonista es uno de los mejores personajes que he leído, su construcción y desarrollo es excepcional e increíble y Emery como complemento es una pareja que funciona y lo hacen muy bien. Y solo por eso vale la pena adentrarse en la historia.
September 16, 2023
Loved this book: really believable in a believable world (Wealth, catty old men and women) which is so alien I totally brought it. Great secondary characters, especially Arden’s best friend Luz.
Hope all is OK now Rachel Spangler - you write lovely books.
Hope all is OK now Rachel Spangler - you write lovely books.
July 9, 2023
This is the most emotionally aware, drama-free romance I have read in a while. I love the depth of the main characters, and representing two kinds of people who are externally very different but at the core have insecurity driving their day to day lives, and end up growing as a result of being together and not looking to change each other. It's rare to find this kind of introspection and emotional maturity in romances these days, so I really enjoyed this.
September 10, 2023
This book is fantastic. Rey Spangler’s writing is truly magnificent as they reel you in to a world of flawed humans, family responsibilities, grief, expectations, and anxiety.
Both of the characters in this book are beautiful and wonderful as they find a way to overcome opinions they have internalised from others.
The theme of wholeness is prevalent throughout the book alongside what makes a family and what is true support.
I absolutely adore the way Rey threads humour and character development so naturally in to the story.
I was blown away by how seen I felt considering this book is set in a high society culture, which is entirely alien to me. But that’s part of the beauty of Rey’s work that I have read so far. The struggles are real and can be found in all warps of life.
I highly recommend this book and can’t wait to get my hands on a physical copy.
Both of the characters in this book are beautiful and wonderful as they find a way to overcome opinions they have internalised from others.
The theme of wholeness is prevalent throughout the book alongside what makes a family and what is true support.
I absolutely adore the way Rey threads humour and character development so naturally in to the story.
I was blown away by how seen I felt considering this book is set in a high society culture, which is entirely alien to me. But that’s part of the beauty of Rey’s work that I have read so far. The struggles are real and can be found in all warps of life.
I highly recommend this book and can’t wait to get my hands on a physical copy.
June 28, 2023
this book is incredibly sweet
September 3, 2023
2.75-3 stars
July 18, 2023
I’ve always been impressed with Rachel Spangler’s ability to tell a good story. The narratives are compelling as well as engaging, hooking the reader from the beginning. Spangler’s characters are complex, likable and relatable. Readers connect to them on an emotional level that intensifies the reading experience. It’s what’s required for a good romance, yet it’s not formulamatic. It feels heartfelt and personal, and that’s why Spangler’s novels easily capture the attention of several notable award committees each year. Just this past week Spangler’s Plain English and Christmas Mouse racked up two more awards for them at the Golden Crown Literary Awards, and the year is not out yet. More shelf space may be needed as reviewers continue to be awed by her work.
Spangler’s first book hit the shelves in 2008 and it was a solid debut. They have grown so much as a writer since that first book, and for someone like me that appreciates well-grounded story construction and character development, it has been fun watching them play with it over the years. Spangler is a thoughtful writer. They bend and shape the story and character arcs in the most effective, moving ways. I always walk away with a greater appreciation for the people represented in Spangler’s stories. The storytelling just hit the mark, leaving one to ponder new ideas and perspectives, all while appreciating a lovely romance.
Spangler’s newest release reemphasizes everything I already knew about them as a writer. As well as story construction and character development, they like to challenge themselves by playing with themes and character development too. Without question, Seeking Approval dug deep into those elements. This is a story about two “broken” people that are working hard to make their way in a world they didn’t design yet are expected to puzzle into without fuss. The judgment and scrutiny is heavy for them and they feel unseen, that is until they lock eyes and connect. Viewing themselves through the other’s lense offers a new perspective; they discover their real potential and their reality is forever altered. Their world is opened up as well as their heart. They realize when they have someone in their corner that truly sees them, they are enough—enough for their families, enough for themselves and enough for each other.
This is not only a love story but a self-love story. It’s emotionally honest and sincere. The characters play a crucial role in the storytelling, as they bring depth, relatability, and authenticity to the narrative. These characters allow readers to connect on a deeper level, fostering empathy and understanding. When well-drawn characters express their emotions genuinely, it mirrors the complexities of human nature. This authenticity allows readers to identify with the characters and their experiences, as they can relate to the emotions being portrayed. By presenting Emery and Arden as emotionally honest, Spangler creates a bridge between the fictional world and the real world, making Seeking Approval more believable, engaging and feast-worthy.
The presence of emotional honesty is something that Spangler is known for in their stories and it’s why their characters come off as sincere. The presence of it creates a sense of realism within the narrative. It has depth. Spangler develops Emery and Arde’s characters splendidly; they possess a rich inner life, with hopes, fears, and vulnerabilities that make them multi-dimensional. These characters are not mere caricatures or stereotypes; they have flaws, internal conflicts, and personal growth arcs. Through their emotional journeys, they evolve and transform, making the story more compelling and thought-provoking. Readers become invested in their development, eagerly following their emotional struggles and triumphs. Bottom line: Spangler knows what they are doing when they craft characters and it shows.
Final remarks…
Emotional truth is elusive and difficult to capture. No standard or definition exists. It’s a subtle yet prudent element of storytelling that allows readers to feel a certain way about the experiences of people who may lead different lives from them. It’s the lens that allows readers to see themselves in a story; the result is an organic, heartfelt connection to the narrative and its characters. Simply put, emotional truth transcends facts and Spangler gets this concept in spades. They engage empathy and use it to enhance the overall impact of their storytelling—no matter the storyline. In Seeking Approval’s case, the emotional truth of Emery and Arden’s story truly resonates and it needs to be in your TBR pile.
Strengths…
Well-written
Compelling, emotionally honest character development
Engaging storyline
Tenderly told
Spangler’s first book hit the shelves in 2008 and it was a solid debut. They have grown so much as a writer since that first book, and for someone like me that appreciates well-grounded story construction and character development, it has been fun watching them play with it over the years. Spangler is a thoughtful writer. They bend and shape the story and character arcs in the most effective, moving ways. I always walk away with a greater appreciation for the people represented in Spangler’s stories. The storytelling just hit the mark, leaving one to ponder new ideas and perspectives, all while appreciating a lovely romance.
Spangler’s newest release reemphasizes everything I already knew about them as a writer. As well as story construction and character development, they like to challenge themselves by playing with themes and character development too. Without question, Seeking Approval dug deep into those elements. This is a story about two “broken” people that are working hard to make their way in a world they didn’t design yet are expected to puzzle into without fuss. The judgment and scrutiny is heavy for them and they feel unseen, that is until they lock eyes and connect. Viewing themselves through the other’s lense offers a new perspective; they discover their real potential and their reality is forever altered. Their world is opened up as well as their heart. They realize when they have someone in their corner that truly sees them, they are enough—enough for their families, enough for themselves and enough for each other.
This is not only a love story but a self-love story. It’s emotionally honest and sincere. The characters play a crucial role in the storytelling, as they bring depth, relatability, and authenticity to the narrative. These characters allow readers to connect on a deeper level, fostering empathy and understanding. When well-drawn characters express their emotions genuinely, it mirrors the complexities of human nature. This authenticity allows readers to identify with the characters and their experiences, as they can relate to the emotions being portrayed. By presenting Emery and Arden as emotionally honest, Spangler creates a bridge between the fictional world and the real world, making Seeking Approval more believable, engaging and feast-worthy.
The presence of emotional honesty is something that Spangler is known for in their stories and it’s why their characters come off as sincere. The presence of it creates a sense of realism within the narrative. It has depth. Spangler develops Emery and Arde’s characters splendidly; they possess a rich inner life, with hopes, fears, and vulnerabilities that make them multi-dimensional. These characters are not mere caricatures or stereotypes; they have flaws, internal conflicts, and personal growth arcs. Through their emotional journeys, they evolve and transform, making the story more compelling and thought-provoking. Readers become invested in their development, eagerly following their emotional struggles and triumphs. Bottom line: Spangler knows what they are doing when they craft characters and it shows.
Final remarks…
Emotional truth is elusive and difficult to capture. No standard or definition exists. It’s a subtle yet prudent element of storytelling that allows readers to feel a certain way about the experiences of people who may lead different lives from them. It’s the lens that allows readers to see themselves in a story; the result is an organic, heartfelt connection to the narrative and its characters. Simply put, emotional truth transcends facts and Spangler gets this concept in spades. They engage empathy and use it to enhance the overall impact of their storytelling—no matter the storyline. In Seeking Approval’s case, the emotional truth of Emery and Arden’s story truly resonates and it needs to be in your TBR pile.
Strengths…
Well-written
Compelling, emotionally honest character development
Engaging storyline
Tenderly told
August 21, 2023
This book felt like a warm hug, with the tiniest big of angst sprinkled in. What I loved about this, besides how incredibly perfect Emery was in all aspects, was the fact that this book portrayed both characters in all their flawed ways and imperfections and never sought to fix them. Arden’s anxiety especially is something that was a constant source of ridicule that damaged her confidence and sense of self. It was heartbreaking to see how everyone in her life, including herself, thought so lowly of her. And then Emery came along, defended her against people’s dismissals, and never once let Arden speak poorly of herself. I appreciated how this book showed how someone’s struggles or idiosyncrasies are simply aspects of their being that should be acknowledged just as much as their strengths. It was achingly beautiful to see how the characters ended up recognizing their own worth by being with one another. Sometimes, it takes the right person to show us how amazing we are.
The one thing that I disliked about this book were the best friends. Not so much Luz, though she was guilty of being another person who placed unfair pressure and expectations on Arden, but mostly Theo. Actually, almost entirely him. I thought his character was crass, insensitive, and ruthless. I could recognize how he was being an affective advisor and assistant to Emery in a professional sense but as a friend? He was horrible. I kept wondering how someone who’s supposedly been by Emery’s side for years and should know her better than anyone else could fail to see the difference in Emery once she started seeing Arden. He noted how her behaviour with her was completely out of character but instead of being curious about it and giving her the space to explain, he was immediately dismissive and even ridiculed Arden a few times. He later on admitted that he was so committed to keeping Emery on track because she had a tendency to lose focus but I don’t think that’s enough to salvage his character for me. He came off as extremely unlikable.
Though I admitted that Luz wasn’t perfect either, I did actually love her character. She was so supportive and protective of Arden. I could see how much she loved and adored her in everything she said to and did for her. She was funny, charismatic, and the perfect wingwoman. I would be curious to know more about her and I would love it if she had her own love story one day.
This was my first book by the author but it definitely won’t be the last. This book was heartwarming, sweet, funny, and well written.
The one thing that I disliked about this book were the best friends. Not so much Luz, though she was guilty of being another person who placed unfair pressure and expectations on Arden, but mostly Theo. Actually, almost entirely him. I thought his character was crass, insensitive, and ruthless. I could recognize how he was being an affective advisor and assistant to Emery in a professional sense but as a friend? He was horrible. I kept wondering how someone who’s supposedly been by Emery’s side for years and should know her better than anyone else could fail to see the difference in Emery once she started seeing Arden. He noted how her behaviour with her was completely out of character but instead of being curious about it and giving her the space to explain, he was immediately dismissive and even ridiculed Arden a few times. He later on admitted that he was so committed to keeping Emery on track because she had a tendency to lose focus but I don’t think that’s enough to salvage his character for me. He came off as extremely unlikable.
Though I admitted that Luz wasn’t perfect either, I did actually love her character. She was so supportive and protective of Arden. I could see how much she loved and adored her in everything she said to and did for her. She was funny, charismatic, and the perfect wingwoman. I would be curious to know more about her and I would love it if she had her own love story one day.
This was my first book by the author but it definitely won’t be the last. This book was heartwarming, sweet, funny, and well written.
September 18, 2025
First of all, WOW!
This book has so much going for it. It has representation for people dealing with mental issues (social anxiety), and it features some of the most rounded and well-developed MCs I read in quite a while. It has grief, sorrow, humor, mutual support and comfort, self-acceptance, self-love, real friendship...
It is a wonderful story about real people with flaws, who learn to accept themselves and love themselves just as they are. All thanks to love, of course.
There are 2 very strong aspects that make this book so much better than others in this genre. The 1st is the MCs. They are real and beautiful despite many shortcomings (or maybe because of them?). They have a lot of growing to do, and they grow with each other, supported by each other's faith and love. The arcs are stunning!
The 2nd aspect is the conflicts or hurdles in their way. Societal norms in all their glory play a big part here, as well as the expectations of family, friends, and colleagues. Because of that, the conflicts are both internal and external. I love it when they collide and the resolution comes together through a joint effort of the MCs to stay together, to work on the problems together. In the book's context, it makes so much sense because they are the ones who prop each other up, so they are the key to each other's success. Together, it seems, they can tackle everything.
Magnificent execution of the hurt-comfort trope. Beautiful way to show the reader how true acceptance can come about. Loved it!
Rating: 5 stars
This book has so much going for it. It has representation for people dealing with mental issues (social anxiety), and it features some of the most rounded and well-developed MCs I read in quite a while. It has grief, sorrow, humor, mutual support and comfort, self-acceptance, self-love, real friendship...
It is a wonderful story about real people with flaws, who learn to accept themselves and love themselves just as they are. All thanks to love, of course.
There are 2 very strong aspects that make this book so much better than others in this genre. The 1st is the MCs. They are real and beautiful despite many shortcomings (or maybe because of them?). They have a lot of growing to do, and they grow with each other, supported by each other's faith and love. The arcs are stunning!
The 2nd aspect is the conflicts or hurdles in their way. Societal norms in all their glory play a big part here, as well as the expectations of family, friends, and colleagues. Because of that, the conflicts are both internal and external. I love it when they collide and the resolution comes together through a joint effort of the MCs to stay together, to work on the problems together. In the book's context, it makes so much sense because they are the ones who prop each other up, so they are the key to each other's success. Together, it seems, they can tackle everything.
Magnificent execution of the hurt-comfort trope. Beautiful way to show the reader how true acceptance can come about. Loved it!
Rating: 5 stars
July 16, 2023
I was so happy to have received an Advanced Readers Copy of Seeking Approval from the author, Rachel Spangler! It was the first book I read from Rachel and it certainly won't be my last!
A true opposites attract romance! You've got Emery who seems to hold it all together on the outside but is falling apart on the inside and Arden who has suffered from social anxiety throughout her life. When Emery returns to her hometown after her father's death, she must deal with her grief over his loss and not being appointed CEO as she had thought would happen. The Board of the company thinks she would benefit from finding a partner so Theo, Emery's Assistant and Best Friend (although I'm not convinced Theo is a great friend at certain points) puts together a list of eligible partners for her. As soon as she lays eyes on Arden's photo she forgets the rest and makes it her mission to seek her out.
“We see in each other what no one else in our lives does.”
I truly loved the way Emery supports and takes care of Arden, she sees her...more than anyone has seen Arden before. It seems that the people in their lives always pushed them in the way they wanted to be seen but as you read the book and you get to know both Emery and Arden, you see that in fact no one has really seen who they are.
I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book even if I was worried about them for a bit towards the end! Thank you Rachel for the ARC...you've written a lovely story that so many are going to take pleasure in!
A true opposites attract romance! You've got Emery who seems to hold it all together on the outside but is falling apart on the inside and Arden who has suffered from social anxiety throughout her life. When Emery returns to her hometown after her father's death, she must deal with her grief over his loss and not being appointed CEO as she had thought would happen. The Board of the company thinks she would benefit from finding a partner so Theo, Emery's Assistant and Best Friend (although I'm not convinced Theo is a great friend at certain points) puts together a list of eligible partners for her. As soon as she lays eyes on Arden's photo she forgets the rest and makes it her mission to seek her out.
“We see in each other what no one else in our lives does.”
I truly loved the way Emery supports and takes care of Arden, she sees her...more than anyone has seen Arden before. It seems that the people in their lives always pushed them in the way they wanted to be seen but as you read the book and you get to know both Emery and Arden, you see that in fact no one has really seen who they are.
I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book even if I was worried about them for a bit towards the end! Thank you Rachel for the ARC...you've written a lovely story that so many are going to take pleasure in!
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
August 24, 2023
Thanks to the author for the Arc in return for a review.
Seeking Approval is about Emery & Arden, both from well off families, floating in the same elit social circle but being a few years apart, they were never close enough to form a bond but that never stopped Arden from crushing on Arden and still holding onto that crush. Years later, when both have matured, and Emery returns back to their hometown they again frequent in the same circle and this time, share a budding friendship. They might be different from each other but maybe that's exactly what they need.
Rachel Spangler has been a solid author for me, and I am always excited to read their novels and this one is no different. At the beginning I did think this was slightly different to what I've normally come to expect of Spangler, but I was determined to not let that get in the way of me reading it.
As other reviews have also pointed out, this story is one of self acceptance, getting to know each other, acknowledging the ways they're different and accepting them for who they are.
I'd say another great book by Spangler, worth checking it out if the tropes and blurb intrigues you!
Seeking Approval is about Emery & Arden, both from well off families, floating in the same elit social circle but being a few years apart, they were never close enough to form a bond but that never stopped Arden from crushing on Arden and still holding onto that crush. Years later, when both have matured, and Emery returns back to their hometown they again frequent in the same circle and this time, share a budding friendship. They might be different from each other but maybe that's exactly what they need.
Rachel Spangler has been a solid author for me, and I am always excited to read their novels and this one is no different. At the beginning I did think this was slightly different to what I've normally come to expect of Spangler, but I was determined to not let that get in the way of me reading it.
As other reviews have also pointed out, this story is one of self acceptance, getting to know each other, acknowledging the ways they're different and accepting them for who they are.
I'd say another great book by Spangler, worth checking it out if the tropes and blurb intrigues you!
October 30, 2023
Emery and Arden, the protagonists in Seeking Approval, share the common trait of believing too strongly in the public perceptions of their own inadequacies. The other thing they share is a remarkably clear view of the others’ strengths. They communicate unusually well, though their collective refusal to believe any of the good stuff about themselves makes for an uphill battle. The supporting cast is occasionally helpful but mostly serve as roadblocks of varying sizes as the women seek to develop a closer relationship. This is an enjoyable read with a satisfactory conclusion.
December 19, 2023
The first third was 2/5 stars for me, but the last third was 4/5 stars. Both characters grew and developed in very enjoyable and interesting ways, I just found them rather cliche and stilted at the start (which could be argued as being on purpose). Good emotional finale, I really enjoyed the author’s emphasis on them not changing for each other but rather finally being able to see the uses of their own existing strengths. Overall a solid read, even if I mostly stuck it out through the first part for the sapphics!
December 14, 2024
I approve!!!
This book was a pleasure to read. The story is well written with such engaging characters. Emery and Arden are both struggling to break free of the image and expectations that have always ruled their lives. But, getting to know each other and really being seen for the first time shows them that what was perceived as a weakness can be a strength. For Arden and Emery, being together makes them better versions of the persons they can be..... I can so relate!! This a really good, opposites attract romance that is worth the read.
This book was a pleasure to read. The story is well written with such engaging characters. Emery and Arden are both struggling to break free of the image and expectations that have always ruled their lives. But, getting to know each other and really being seen for the first time shows them that what was perceived as a weakness can be a strength. For Arden and Emery, being together makes them better versions of the persons they can be..... I can so relate!! This a really good, opposites attract romance that is worth the read.
October 9, 2024
I liked that this was different to the norm. Arden suffers paralysing social anxiety but instead of Emery feeling she has to ‘fix her’, she accepts Arden exactly as she is. Arden does have a wobble of the ‘I’m not right for her’ kind but they get there in the end. I’d have liked to have seen Arden take down her toxic mother, but that probably wouldn’t happen given her character…and her lack of needing to change is the whole point…
July 12, 2023
Rachel Sprangler delivers another great book that captivates readers from start to finish. In a sea of repetitive plotlines, this gem comes as a delightful surprise, offering a classic tale with subtle yet invigorating twists that keep the story refreshingly unique.
September 29, 2023
A very enjoyable story with nuanced main characters that I could relate too and sympathize with. Although am I the only one who wanted to punch Emery’s best friend Theo a few times while reading? My only complaint with this book is that I did not want to put it down, and stayed up reading until 4am!
August 7, 2023
Enjoyable romance featuring a wealthy playgirl being groomed for the role of corporate CEO and an anxiety-riddled recluse whose idea of a good time is hanging out alone in her greenhouse. Against all odds, they come together in a heartwarming romance.
April 20, 2024
Beautiful and Romantic story
Very beautiful and romantic story about two totally different personalities but which can complete each other amazingly and passionately. A nice book to read with a happy ending.
Very beautiful and romantic story about two totally different personalities but which can complete each other amazingly and passionately. A nice book to read with a happy ending.
October 9, 2024
I loved that this was not typical, problems and magic and it all disappears. This book was so great. The both MC's were real, funny, and lovely. The reasons they come together, and the wonderful besties.
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