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Защо мъжете никога не помнят, а жените никога не забравят
Мъжете и жените са различни... Но когато знаем истинските причини за тези различия, лесно можем да ги превърнем от източник на спорове в неповторим чар на връзката.
Защо той не моли за помощ, когато не знае пътя?
Защо тя все иска да обсъжда отношенията им?
Защо той не разбира, че нещо я безпокои?
Защо на мъжете и жените им е толкова трудно да се разбират?
В резултат на задълбочени прочувания в областта на джендърната медицина (науката за различията между половете), д-р Мариан Легато стига до извода, че мъжкият и женският мозък се различават по структура и химически състав. Благодарение на тези знания всеки от нас може да „мисли” като противоположния пол, да „говори”, така че да бъде разбран, и да се радва на по-пълноценни и щастливи взаимоотношения.
Д-р Мариан Дж. Легато е професор по клинична медицина в Колумбийския университет, където е основала и ръководи Сдружението за джендърна медицина. Носителка е на много награди за работата си и е авторка на книгите „Женското сърце", „Какво трябва да знаят жените" и „Реброто на Ева".
Защо той не моли за помощ, когато не знае пътя?
Защо тя все иска да обсъжда отношенията им?
Защо той не разбира, че нещо я безпокои?
Защо на мъжете и жените им е толкова трудно да се разбират?
В резултат на задълбочени прочувания в областта на джендърната медицина (науката за различията между половете), д-р Мариан Легато стига до извода, че мъжкият и женският мозък се различават по структура и химически състав. Благодарение на тези знания всеки от нас може да „мисли” като противоположния пол, да „говори”, така че да бъде разбран, и да се радва на по-пълноценни и щастливи взаимоотношения.
Д-р Мариан Дж. Легато е професор по клинична медицина в Колумбийския университет, където е основала и ръководи Сдружението за джендърна медицина. Носителка е на много награди за работата си и е авторка на книгите „Женското сърце", „Какво трябва да знаят жените" и „Реброто на Ева".
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First published January 1, 2005
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31 books11 followersMarianne J. Legato, MD, FACP, is an academic physician, author, and lecturer, specialised in gender-specific medicine.
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March 31, 2021
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“Math class is hard!”
So exclaimed Teen Barbie, a talking version of the doll on the market in the early nineties—to the widespread outrage of consumers. (In response, the guerilla-activist group the Barbie Liberation Organization bought a number of the dolls, swapped the voice boxes with those from G.I. Joe dolls, and replaced them on the shelves. I don’t know which one I’d rather have: a muscle-bound, gun-toting G.I. Joe, giggling, “Let’s plan our dream wedding!” or Barbie, with her impossible body and blank stare, growling, “Vengeance is mine!”) (c) LOL! Iwant need both! Ha-ha-ha!
A very interesting review of how we differ, biologically, psychologically, emotionally and socially.
A lot of very, unusually, unexpectedly sensible thoughts about quite a lot of intersex stuff. Very level-headed, feminist to great extent but without biting any heads off. I love the practical-minded flow, the essays, the question discussed but most of all Iove that there's nothing like the usual 'stand up to be counted on the Tinder market' stuff that usually gets irritating before I rich 30% of many other books on the subject. A fav, for sure.
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Misunderstandings about the differences in the way the female heart worked meant that doctors sent women home, mid—heart attack, when they complained of pain centered in their stomachs. Medications tested in men continued to be prescribed to women, even though the drugs made their symptoms worse. In short, overlooking the differences caused doctors to make mistakes. Many women suffered, and some died. (c)
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When you’re dating someone, he wants to hear that he’s the sexiest, strongest, smartest, funniest guy in the room, just as you want to hear that you’re the cat’s meow. (с)
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I know—and would like to remind you—that there are always opportunities for romance, love, and sex, no matter how long you’ve been “off the market.” It’s very important to me that I don’t let being single hold me back from doing the things I want to do. For instance, I give lots of dinner parties, even when I don’t have a partner to cohost, and I invite the most interesting people I know—including any eligible men I’d like to get to know better. (c)
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“Math class is hard!”
So exclaimed Teen Barbie, a talking version of the doll on the market in the early nineties—to the widespread outrage of consumers. (In response, the guerilla-activist group the Barbie Liberation Organization bought a number of the dolls, swapped the voice boxes with those from G.I. Joe dolls, and replaced them on the shelves. I don’t know which one I’d rather have: a muscle-bound, gun-toting G.I. Joe, giggling, “Let’s plan our dream wedding!” or Barbie, with her impossible body and blank stare, growling, “Vengeance is mine!”) (c) LOL! I
A very interesting review of how we differ, biologically, psychologically, emotionally and socially.
A lot of very, unusually, unexpectedly sensible thoughts about quite a lot of intersex stuff. Very level-headed, feminist to great extent but without biting any heads off. I love the practical-minded flow, the essays, the question discussed but most of all Iove that there's nothing like the usual 'stand up to be counted on the Tinder market' stuff that usually gets irritating before I rich 30% of many other books on the subject. A fav, for sure.
Q:
Misunderstandings about the differences in the way the female heart worked meant that doctors sent women home, mid—heart attack, when they complained of pain centered in their stomachs. Medications tested in men continued to be prescribed to women, even though the drugs made their symptoms worse. In short, overlooking the differences caused doctors to make mistakes. Many women suffered, and some died. (c)
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When you’re dating someone, he wants to hear that he’s the sexiest, strongest, smartest, funniest guy in the room, just as you want to hear that you’re the cat’s meow. (с)
Q:
I know—and would like to remind you—that there are always opportunities for romance, love, and sex, no matter how long you’ve been “off the market.” It’s very important to me that I don’t let being single hold me back from doing the things I want to do. For instance, I give lots of dinner parties, even when I don’t have a partner to cohost, and I invite the most interesting people I know—including any eligible men I’d like to get to know better. (c)
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May 19, 2012
من الأخير ..
العنوان لا يعكس ما في الكتاب إطلاقاً وهذه السلبية الاولى .. الصفحات الآولى تبدو مملة جداً حتى نهاية الفصل الأول .
تبدأ الاثارة والاكشن بعد الفصل الاول ؛)
الكتاب ممتاز من حيث التحليل العلمي باعتبار إن الكاتبة طبيبة وهذا أجمل ما فيه الكتاب .
جيد جداً بطرح المعلومات التي تفيدك كقارئ والتي من أجلها قرأت الكتاب .
جيد في طرحه للامثلة والتي غالباً لا يمكن تنزليها على واقعنا ، باستثناء في بعض الحالات .
مقبول في ترابط فصوله .. بمعنى إن اول الكتاب لا يرتبط بمنتصفه والمنتصف لا يرتبط بآخره .. وكأنها بحوث عن حياة الانسان .. رجلاً وامراة .. جمعت بصدفة بين دفتي كتاب •
تطمح ماريان جيه .. بالتعايش ما بين الرجل والمرأة المختلفان جسداً وعقلاً ونفساً وقلباً .. تتحدث عن الطريقة الامثل لفهم كلاهما للآخر .. عن السبل المثلى للاقتران بالآخر ألم ورعب من اقتراب النهاية بسبب محطات نمر بها دون أن نفهمها ..
نحن اثنان نحتاج أن يفهم كلانا الآخر
أن نحترم اختلافنا
أن نقرر التعايش معاً دون ذوبان رغم كل شيء
المطلوب
علم
وعي
إدراك
رغبة
إصرار
تحدي
لنفعل ذلك كله
والنجاح هنآ - طموح - لا يقل عن طموحك في نيل درجة دراسية أو في افتتاح مشروع تجاري أو في بناء مسكن ضخم / نفسك ونفس شريكك أولى بالاهتمام والرعاية •
هذا ما خرجت به من الكتاب / وشكراً
العنوان لا يعكس ما في الكتاب إطلاقاً وهذه السلبية الاولى .. الصفحات الآولى تبدو مملة جداً حتى نهاية الفصل الأول .
تبدأ الاثارة والاكشن بعد الفصل الاول ؛)
الكتاب ممتاز من حيث التحليل العلمي باعتبار إن الكاتبة طبيبة وهذا أجمل ما فيه الكتاب .
جيد جداً بطرح المعلومات التي تفيدك كقارئ والتي من أجلها قرأت الكتاب .
جيد في طرحه للامثلة والتي غالباً لا يمكن تنزليها على واقعنا ، باستثناء في بعض الحالات .
مقبول في ترابط فصوله .. بمعنى إن اول الكتاب لا يرتبط بمنتصفه والمنتصف لا يرتبط بآخره .. وكأنها بحوث عن حياة الانسان .. رجلاً وامراة .. جمعت بصدفة بين دفتي كتاب •
تطمح ماريان جيه .. بالتعايش ما بين الرجل والمرأة المختلفان جسداً وعقلاً ونفساً وقلباً .. تتحدث عن الطريقة الامثل لفهم كلاهما للآخر .. عن السبل المثلى للاقتران بالآخر ألم ورعب من اقتراب النهاية بسبب محطات نمر بها دون أن نفهمها ..
نحن اثنان نحتاج أن يفهم كلانا الآخر
أن نحترم اختلافنا
أن نقرر التعايش معاً دون ذوبان رغم كل شيء
المطلوب
علم
وعي
إدراك
رغبة
إصرار
تحدي
لنفعل ذلك كله
والنجاح هنآ - طموح - لا يقل عن طموحك في نيل درجة دراسية أو في افتتاح مشروع تجاري أو في بناء مسكن ضخم / نفسك ونفس شريكك أولى بالاهتمام والرعاية •
هذا ما خرجت به من الكتاب / وشكراً
October 22, 2022
Честно казано препоръчвам книгата на всяка жена, особено ако има проблеми с връзката/брака. Насочена е предимно към женската аудитория (съотношението е приблизително 65% информация за нежния пол и 35% за мъжкия). Описан е целия живот на човека и различието при двата пола - от това как приемат и се научват докато са малки, до менопауза и до прастара възраст (90+ год.). Изключително приятна и лесна за четене, написана и доста научно. За някои от изследванията има нова, по-актуална информация, тъй като книгата е от 2008 г., но това не прави вече известните факти по-малко валидни.
На жените би ни била доста по-полезна, тъй като е писана от жена за жени, обяснени са в нашите ежедневни ситуация различните ни реакции, начин на приемане, отделена е цяла глава само за справяне със стреса и депресията.
На мъжете също би им била интересна и полезна, за да видят ние как мислим, но, според мен, голяма част от нея няма да я разберат правилно, заради различията ни в ежедневието, начина на мислене, отговорности и приоритети.
Въпреки това определено ще помогне във взаимоотношенията ви с половинката.
На жените би ни била доста по-полезна, тъй като е писана от жена за жени, обяснени са в нашите ежедневни ситуация различните ни реакции, начин на приемане, отделена е цяла глава само за справяне със стреса и депресията.
На мъжете също би им била интересна и полезна, за да видят ние как мислим, но, според мен, голяма част от нея няма да я разберат правилно, заради различията ни в ежедневието, начина на мислене, отговорности и приоритети.
Въпреки това определено ще помогне във взаимоотношенията ви с половинката.
May 6, 2020
Да опозная различията между половете на биохимично равнище, със сигурност е интересно и важно за мен за да мога да разбирам по-добре както другия пол, така и себе си. Идеята на книгата е много добра, но изпълнението е зле. Докторка кардиолог се впуска в ролята на психолог-доктор-куин-лечителката-писател и раздава съвети на всеки за всичко. Най-абсурдният пример за доказателство на една от изложените от нея тези за полови различия и роли беше, че при експеримент с маймуни женските си играели с тиганите, а мъжките с камиончетата. Откога женските маймуните готвят, а мъжките маймуни са тираджии??? И куп други глупости пише вътре. Който иска да се убеди сам! :)
February 23, 2012
*A matter of chemistry*
Based on the title alone, it's no surprise that this book is targeted towards a female audience. Specifically, it is written for those women who need more satisfying explanations as to why men just don't seem to get it. (OK, perhaps that's all of us?)
It turns out that many of the eternal and universal differences between the genders can be partially explained by differences in brain chemistry. For example, while estrogen magnifies oxytocin (aka, "the cuddle hormone"), testosterone actually neutralizes it. The effects of estrogen on brain functioning also explain why women--for better or worse--tend to remember more details (especially emotionally laden ones) than men, and also why women tend to respond to stress with "tend-and-befriend" strategy while men are more likely to use a flight-or-fight response.
Of course, brain chemistry can only go so far in offering a satisfying explanation between some of the uncanny differences between men and women. But, even if she will never forget any of the numerous times he reached for the remote instead of for her, perhaps a woman can now take comfort in the fact that the explanation may be more hormonal than it is personal.
Based on the title alone, it's no surprise that this book is targeted towards a female audience. Specifically, it is written for those women who need more satisfying explanations as to why men just don't seem to get it. (OK, perhaps that's all of us?)
It turns out that many of the eternal and universal differences between the genders can be partially explained by differences in brain chemistry. For example, while estrogen magnifies oxytocin (aka, "the cuddle hormone"), testosterone actually neutralizes it. The effects of estrogen on brain functioning also explain why women--for better or worse--tend to remember more details (especially emotionally laden ones) than men, and also why women tend to respond to stress with "tend-and-befriend" strategy while men are more likely to use a flight-or-fight response.
Of course, brain chemistry can only go so far in offering a satisfying explanation between some of the uncanny differences between men and women. But, even if she will never forget any of the numerous times he reached for the remote instead of for her, perhaps a woman can now take comfort in the fact that the explanation may be more hormonal than it is personal.
February 5, 2018
I found it - a warm wellcoming book, giving an advice for the understanding of the opposing realities of females and males. All the concepts of both sexes are covered. In addition to that, supporting examples are given. As a result, every single person could definitely grasp the whole idea of his own sex as well as of the opposite. I really liked some theoretical examples including the comparisons with the behaviour of animals. Sometimes, it is worth the efforts you give when searching for a book. This
is a different, motivational, opening and guiding one. Amazingly nice one!
is a different, motivational, opening and guiding one. Amazingly nice one!
August 5, 2009
We don't need to be a doctor to know that the men and the women are different. Marianne J Legato, explains very well, certain situation and why we have different reaction, and comportment.
Also she communicates in plain English, the medical vocabulary.
This book pushed me to read more about the subject in order to enlarge my knowledge about human being.
Also she communicates in plain English, the medical vocabulary.
This book pushed me to read more about the subject in order to enlarge my knowledge about human being.
November 8, 2010
From the title I thought it was going to be a fairly sexist book, but it was actually quite interesting! Basically was about the differences in how men's and women's brains work, and how different things like cortisol affect us differently because of sex-based hormones. Kind of slow in places, but overall, an interesting read.
April 5, 2012
كتاب جيد جدا
ترجمته رائعة " من جرير" ,, يتحدث عن الفوارق بين الجنسين وطريقة الاختلاف بالآراء والأساليب والحلول
عرض الكثير من الإختلافات في طرق افراز الهرمونات وتأثيرها على ردود أفعالنا وشخصياتنا كما تطرق لاختلاف تركيب المخ لكلا الجنسين
وذكر كثيراً ان أغلب أسباب اختلافاتنا ليست بيئية بل هي من أصل الكون تبدأ بمرحلة البلوغ وتكوين المخ وإفراز الهرمونات
يكفي بعد رائته عن نفسي كامرأة ان أغض البصر عن كثير مما أرى من أي رجل
لأني أصبحت أعلم السبب والدافع أو أعلم أيضا أني أبالغ
بالنسبة لحجمة فإنه يُحمّله في الحقيبة لم أقرأ سوى 25 صفحة في المنزل
والبقية كانت في طريق ذهابي وعودتي من وإلى الكلية
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عتبي ان العنوان كان يُفترض أن يكون غير ذلك
ترجمته رائعة " من جرير" ,, يتحدث عن الفوارق بين الجنسين وطريقة الاختلاف بالآراء والأساليب والحلول
عرض الكثير من الإختلافات في طرق افراز الهرمونات وتأثيرها على ردود أفعالنا وشخصياتنا كما تطرق لاختلاف تركيب المخ لكلا الجنسين
وذكر كثيراً ان أغلب أسباب اختلافاتنا ليست بيئية بل هي من أصل الكون تبدأ بمرحلة البلوغ وتكوين المخ وإفراز الهرمونات
يكفي بعد رائته عن نفسي كامرأة ان أغض البصر عن كثير مما أرى من أي رجل
لأني أصبحت أعلم السبب والدافع أو أعلم أيضا أني أبالغ
بالنسبة لحجمة فإنه يُحمّله في الحقيبة لم أقرأ سوى 25 صفحة في المنزل
والبقية كانت في طريق ذهابي وعودتي من وإلى الكلية
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عتبي ان العنوان كان يُفترض أن يكون غير ذلك
May 7, 2013
جاري إعادة القراءة:
قرأته منذ زمن، أذكر أنني وجدته مقنعاً بشكل علمي ويمس الواقع بشكل أفضل من كتاب : الرجال من المريخ والنساء من الزهرة.
قرأته منذ زمن، أذكر أنني وجدته مقنعاً بشكل علمي ويمس الواقع بشكل أفضل من كتاب : الرجال من المريخ والنساء من الزهرة.
January 9, 2021
Äntligen blev jag klar med denna bok! Jag har läst den i korta sessioner - med långa uppehåll mellan varje session - eftersom delar av innehållet gjorde mig så arg och nedslagen.
Översättningen var inte optimal, vilket fick mig att misstänka att det engelska originalet nog är bättre än den svenska versionen. På alldeles för många ställen känns formuleringarna osvenska och alltför direktöversatta. Egentligen skulle jag vilja ge boken två olika omdömen - 1 stjärna för att översättningen är dålig och 3 stjärnor för att ämnet är intressant.
Budskapet i den första halvan är boken är rätt nedslående och bitvis känns det som om författaren råder sina kvinnliga läsare till att enbart satsa på vänskaps- och kärleksförhållanden med kvinnor, eftersom männen är tröga, korkade, slarviga och aldrig kommer att förstå de kvinnor som de älskar. Även om man kan misströsta om männen ibland, så tycker jag inte att man ska ge upp hoppet om dem helt. Sista tredjedelen av boken är mer neutralt skriven och tar upp de förändringar som sker vid föräldraskap och åldrande hos båda könen.
Bokens ämne är intressant, men helhetsintrycket drogs ned av de språkliga bristerna och de mansfientliga tendenserna. Ska man ge den här boken en chans, är det nog bäst att läsa den på engelska.
Översättningen var inte optimal, vilket fick mig att misstänka att det engelska originalet nog är bättre än den svenska versionen. På alldeles för många ställen känns formuleringarna osvenska och alltför direktöversatta. Egentligen skulle jag vilja ge boken två olika omdömen - 1 stjärna för att översättningen är dålig och 3 stjärnor för att ämnet är intressant.
Budskapet i den första halvan är boken är rätt nedslående och bitvis känns det som om författaren råder sina kvinnliga läsare till att enbart satsa på vänskaps- och kärleksförhållanden med kvinnor, eftersom männen är tröga, korkade, slarviga och aldrig kommer att förstå de kvinnor som de älskar. Även om man kan misströsta om männen ibland, så tycker jag inte att man ska ge upp hoppet om dem helt. Sista tredjedelen av boken är mer neutralt skriven och tar upp de förändringar som sker vid föräldraskap och åldrande hos båda könen.
Bokens ämne är intressant, men helhetsintrycket drogs ned av de språkliga bristerna och de mansfientliga tendenserna. Ska man ge den här boken en chans, är det nog bäst att läsa den på engelska.
November 8, 2025
I was very excited to read this book after seeing it at the library since I felt like it could explain a lot to me about how men in my life communicate, but it mainly felt like the author blamed women for our communication styles and told us to change for men. I understood that men struggle with understanding non verbal communication (facial expressions and body language), but I felt like a majority of the time the author was saying that we need to stop expecting men to understand those. In reference to having children, it seemed that the author said that we cannot expect men to know what to do when there is a baby and that the wife needs to coach her husband on how to be a dad and a parent. I can't say I loved it unfortunately.
June 21, 2020
The author sometimes repeat herself especially in the first half of the book but nonetheless the book is worth read. It is written scientificality and supported with different researches. It is a book for people who want to improve communication with the opposite sex, it helps people to understand how our brains work differently in both genders. You would aware of the reasons behind our behaviours after reading it.
As to answer the title, forgetting makes men brave while remembering helps women to make decisions for survival.
As to answer the title, forgetting makes men brave while remembering helps women to make decisions for survival.
April 19, 2024
Muy interesante como
Muestran las diferencias entre hombres y mujeres en relación al funcionamiento del cerebro y la acción de las hormonas para determinar conductas entre hombre y mujeres
Comprensible y de fácil lectura
Muestran las diferencias entre hombres y mujeres en relación al funcionamiento del cerebro y la acción de las hormonas para determinar conductas entre hombre y mujeres
Comprensible y de fácil lectura
July 10, 2024
Interesting comparison of male and female behavior based on hormones. Chapters describe situations like stress, memory, old age and depression. Not only explains differences, but also how emancipation drives us more towards each other.
December 4, 2024
"De ce femeile uită greu și bărbații repede" este o incursiune interesantă în creierele femeilor și bărbaților care ne ajută să înțelegem (mai bine) diferențele de gândire, de perspective dintre femei și bărbați. Citind acest volum, mi-am amintit de "Mame pentru băieții noștri", o carte care descrie deosebirile dintre băieți și fete, pentru a veni în ajutorul mamelor de băieți cu scopul de le fi mai ușor să își înțeleagă copiii și să accepte că modul lor de gândire este diferit de al lor.
3 lucruri pe care le consider interesante din această carte:
- Deși creierele bărbaților sunt cu 10% mai mari decât cele ale femeilor, femeile au mai multă materie cenușie și conexiuni mai complexe decât bărbații în special în partea creierului imolicată în luarea deciziilor și a gândirii raționale.
- Diferențele de comunicare și de înțelegere a mesajului transmis sunt datorate mai multor cauze printre care și faptul că există mai multe celule nervoase în partea stângă a creierului unei femei spre deosebire de cel al unui bărbat, parte însărcinată cu producerea limbajului.
- Femeile sunt mai predispuse la depresie decât bărbații avâdn la bază efectul factorilor genetici, echilibrul hormonal, reacțiile care au loc la nivelul creierului și modul în care ne încadrăm în societate și cel în care suntem văzuți/etichetați de cei din jur.
3 lucruri pe care le consider interesante din această carte:
- Deși creierele bărbaților sunt cu 10% mai mari decât cele ale femeilor, femeile au mai multă materie cenușie și conexiuni mai complexe decât bărbații în special în partea creierului imolicată în luarea deciziilor și a gândirii raționale.
- Diferențele de comunicare și de înțelegere a mesajului transmis sunt datorate mai multor cauze printre care și faptul că există mai multe celule nervoase în partea stângă a creierului unei femei spre deosebire de cel al unui bărbat, parte însărcinată cu producerea limbajului.
- Femeile sunt mai predispuse la depresie decât bărbații avâdn la bază efectul factorilor genetici, echilibrul hormonal, reacțiile care au loc la nivelul creierului și modul în care ne încadrăm în societate și cel în care suntem văzuți/etichetați de cei din jur.
September 7, 2017
Writing is meh, content is insightful enough.
Currently reading
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September 27, 2020
A bit of repetative in first part of the book, but overall very understandable, interesting and based on neuro science. Worth to read.
July 13, 2022
Interesting and I learned a lot!
October 2, 2024
Не помня много какво пишеше в тази книга, но съм сигурен, че жените никога няма да го забравят!
June 22, 2025
- Intressant.
- Störande med inramade faktarutor mitt i kapittlen, t.o.m. mitt i ett ord som fortsätter på följande uppslag efter en inramad del.
- Störande med inramade faktarutor mitt i kapittlen, t.o.m. mitt i ett ord som fortsätter på följande uppslag efter en inramad del.
July 12, 2025
A lot of Hormones
November 7, 2025
Good facts, but very generalized. Got to page 111 and lost interest bc I'm not dating anyone atm.
October 14, 2010
I learned from this book... here are some points I found fascinating:
- estrogen play a big role in recall... in stress events it elevates cortisol and that can create extremely vivid images of the stressful event, it also raises levels of dopamine in the brain so more neurons and communication between neurons is facilitated... thus language is processed better
- progesterone stops cortisol from turning off
- language is processed on both sides of the brains for w
- prefrontal cortex is bigger for w
- oxytocin released after sex... combines with estrogen in w so there is cuddling response, in men testosterone nullifies it and they can move on w/ any requisite cuddling
- visual stimuli much much more important for men (in sex)
- depression in men can often be expressed by anger
- men have more serotonin
- in peri and menopause, estrogen dips and causes fuzzy brain, birth control is suggested for peri-menopausal women
- women better read non-verbal cues, but menopause impairs that ability, & adding that to the hormonal flux, it can increase moodiness
- stressful memories / events are processed by the amygdala... in w that connects to the hypothalamus which helps regulate heart rate, respiration... so stressful events can more easily cause physical symptoms in w, in m the amygdala connects to higher cognitive areas, so they tend to confront stressful situations very rationally... I should cancel my cards after being mugged, etc
- oxytocin increases for w in stressful events, oxytocin encourages the need for bonding, so it may be why w turn to friends in stressful situations
- summing up the main point of the book, w when talking to m/spouse... make statements short/concise when confronting tricky situations with spouse... limit high emotion and sum up points at the end of the conversation
- estrogen play a big role in recall... in stress events it elevates cortisol and that can create extremely vivid images of the stressful event, it also raises levels of dopamine in the brain so more neurons and communication between neurons is facilitated... thus language is processed better
- progesterone stops cortisol from turning off
- language is processed on both sides of the brains for w
- prefrontal cortex is bigger for w
- oxytocin released after sex... combines with estrogen in w so there is cuddling response, in men testosterone nullifies it and they can move on w/ any requisite cuddling
- visual stimuli much much more important for men (in sex)
- depression in men can often be expressed by anger
- men have more serotonin
- in peri and menopause, estrogen dips and causes fuzzy brain, birth control is suggested for peri-menopausal women
- women better read non-verbal cues, but menopause impairs that ability, & adding that to the hormonal flux, it can increase moodiness
- stressful memories / events are processed by the amygdala... in w that connects to the hypothalamus which helps regulate heart rate, respiration... so stressful events can more easily cause physical symptoms in w, in m the amygdala connects to higher cognitive areas, so they tend to confront stressful situations very rationally... I should cancel my cards after being mugged, etc
- oxytocin increases for w in stressful events, oxytocin encourages the need for bonding, so it may be why w turn to friends in stressful situations
- summing up the main point of the book, w when talking to m/spouse... make statements short/concise when confronting tricky situations with spouse... limit high emotion and sum up points at the end of the conversation
April 25, 2012
¡Que gran pregunta! La diferencia entre hombres y mujeres es a causa de nuestras hormonas. Mmmm.. ahora entiendo porque actúo triste de repente, o porque me embarga un estado de euforia en todo mi ser, y que hormonas son las culpables de mi estrés. O porque ellos solo pueden hacer una cosa a la vez y nosotros varias cosas, lo cual no es muy beneficioso..
Este libro es gracioso, expone muchos ejemplos, comprensibles sobre el lenguaje técnico que a veces usa la autora, pero explica tan bien los términos que encontramos que entiendes todo perfectamente. Es interesante ver todas estas estadisticas que apuntan a nuestras diferencias bíológicas, y los estudios que los expertos realizan. sin duda, falta mucho por descubrir de parte de ambos sexos. Como actuamos, porque actuamos asi, que hormonas invanden nuestros cuerpos al realizar determinados actos, y como sobrellevamos las cosas. el desinterés de los hombres por las peleas.. Arrr! que enojo que sean asi.. Pero bueno, si que al encontrar muchas explicaciones, no es que le des largas a todo el asunto, pero por lo menos, hay una mejor excusa sobre ese "cariño, no se de que me estas hablando" Lo llegas a comprender. =)
Este libro es gracioso, expone muchos ejemplos, comprensibles sobre el lenguaje técnico que a veces usa la autora, pero explica tan bien los términos que encontramos que entiendes todo perfectamente. Es interesante ver todas estas estadisticas que apuntan a nuestras diferencias bíológicas, y los estudios que los expertos realizan. sin duda, falta mucho por descubrir de parte de ambos sexos. Como actuamos, porque actuamos asi, que hormonas invanden nuestros cuerpos al realizar determinados actos, y como sobrellevamos las cosas. el desinterés de los hombres por las peleas.. Arrr! que enojo que sean asi.. Pero bueno, si que al encontrar muchas explicaciones, no es que le des largas a todo el asunto, pero por lo menos, hay una mejor excusa sobre ese "cariño, no se de que me estas hablando" Lo llegas a comprender. =)
April 18, 2014
Interesting in places, but not something I wanted to read all the way through. Once I'd read the basic premise and introduction about the research that the book is based on, I found that was enough. The main idea of the book (title) was interesting - specifically the chapter on how male and female brains deal with listening in physiologically different ways, which explains a lot!! Also, that most medical research has been carried out on males was something that hadn't occurred to me before and it's interesting that when females are studied it is often found that their physiological needs, responses, treatments, medicine, etc etc could be very different to what was previously thought based on research carried out with male subjects.
July 21, 2008
From the very start, conception, men and women develop differently. Our brains differ in size, chemistry and style of processing stimuli and information. The insights included here give a look at how and why we react and respond differently and how we may understand or even work with it so that we can better understand the opposite sex. This book is important in the down to earth description of brain and body chemistry which so few of us know anything about but could use daily to improve our learning, communications, mental health, even our sex lives.
July 26, 2012
If you ever wondered why your boyfriend/husband or even your male boss just doesn't seem to care about some things that are very important to you, or why he reacts differently in specific situations, this author gives you all the reasons why (maybe too much information on the physiological reasons for me). I think a lot of women know that men and women are different emotionally, but this book (which is not a quick read but can certainly be read in a "pick and choose" manner) provides lots of examples, reasons, and ways to deal with certain situations.
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