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Ragged Hope: Surviving the Fallout of Other People's Choices
It is one thing to live with the consequences of your own choices. But what happens when your life is forever altered because of someone else's toxic actions? With the assurance of a God who hears and understands, Ragged Hope reaches out to survivors and those who care about, counsel, or long to make a difference in their lives.
210 pages, Paperback
First published July 1, 2013
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Cynthia Ruchti
38 books970 followersCynthia Ruchti tells stories hemmed-in-Hope through her novels and novellas, nonfiction books and devotionals, and through speaking for women's and writers' events. Her books have been recognized by many top industry readers', reviewers', library, retailer, and other honors. Cynthia is the Professional Relations Liaison for American Christian Fiction Writers (ACFW) and a literary agent with Books & Such Literary Management. She and her plot-tweaking husband live in the heart of Wisconsin, not far from their three children and five (to date) grandchildren.
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May 8, 2014
On a blog I follow regularly, several of the comments referenced Ragged Hope: Surviving the Fallout of Other People’s Choices by Cynthia Ruchti. Since that’s the very topic our family is dealing with just now, I zipped over to Amazon and purchased it for my Kindle.
Each chapter begins with a personal story from someone whose life was ripped apart through no fault of their own. The woman whose husband gambled away their life and embezzled to cover it up. The monogamous woman who contracted AIDS from her husband. The family who lost their home to arson. And many more. The author then follows the story with what she’s learned from that person’s journey, and finishes the chapter with questions for reflection and journaling.
I read the book in just a few hours and each story captivated me immediately. Ruchti is an excellent writer. This is the kind of book that could easily come across as preachy but Ruchti avoids that trap while making it look easy.
If your life has been disrupted by someone else’s action or if you know someone struggling in that situation, this book is an excellent resource. It won’t solve everything. Actually, it alone won’t solve anything, but it is one more tool in the hope chest of the sojourner.
I recommend it.
Each chapter begins with a personal story from someone whose life was ripped apart through no fault of their own. The woman whose husband gambled away their life and embezzled to cover it up. The monogamous woman who contracted AIDS from her husband. The family who lost their home to arson. And many more. The author then follows the story with what she’s learned from that person’s journey, and finishes the chapter with questions for reflection and journaling.
I read the book in just a few hours and each story captivated me immediately. Ruchti is an excellent writer. This is the kind of book that could easily come across as preachy but Ruchti avoids that trap while making it look easy.
If your life has been disrupted by someone else’s action or if you know someone struggling in that situation, this book is an excellent resource. It won’t solve everything. Actually, it alone won’t solve anything, but it is one more tool in the hope chest of the sojourner.
I recommend it.
March 30, 2022
I read this book quickly and went back to read it again. The stories were heartbreaking. The disrespectful, inappropriate, unthinkable and sinful choices people have made and I myself have made change other peoples lives. They can destroy them if not for the Grace of God. Suffering consequences from choices others have made can test your faith or bring out a fearless attitude of survival. Often times it’s a combination of both. Only through forgiveness and the willingness to bear each other’s burdens can we make it through this world. It’s eye opening to read, if you have not been in this situation you know someone who has or going through the nightmare.
June 11, 2025
We have all been affected by other people’s choices and have affected others by our choices. Excellent read for anyone.
July 4, 2013
Excellent book about different things that can happen to a person based on choices that other people make--and how we can support those involved in the fallout as well as rely on God for our uplifting in our own situations. Some of the chapters are a little brief, not as much "meat" as would be more helpful. Yet each of the scenarios has a series of statements and questions to help if we know people in similar situations.
September 6, 2018
Words of hope. Words of grace. Words of encouragement.
That’s what Cynthia Ruchti writes about in her book Ragged Hope.
What do we do when someone else does something that destroys our world?
What happens when that same something is completely out of our control?
What if the consequences of that something continues to ripple through our lives over and over again?
Do we give up hope? Become vengeful? Walk away? Become angry and bitter?
Via stories of people (names changed) whose lives have been completely turned upside down by the actions of others, Cynthia Ruchti writes words of encouragement and grace pointing us to the God who is ever Hope. Always there. Always loving. Through Him healing comes, even in the face of the unchangeable actions of others.
From the back cover, “There is grace and a future in every situation —even (and especially) in those we did not cause but now live”.
Sometimes in the midst of our pain, reading about how others found hope in their journey, brings hope and healing to our own lives.
Very well written, with great compassion, honesty and love. Highly recommend.
That’s what Cynthia Ruchti writes about in her book Ragged Hope.
What do we do when someone else does something that destroys our world?
What happens when that same something is completely out of our control?
What if the consequences of that something continues to ripple through our lives over and over again?
Do we give up hope? Become vengeful? Walk away? Become angry and bitter?
Via stories of people (names changed) whose lives have been completely turned upside down by the actions of others, Cynthia Ruchti writes words of encouragement and grace pointing us to the God who is ever Hope. Always there. Always loving. Through Him healing comes, even in the face of the unchangeable actions of others.
From the back cover, “There is grace and a future in every situation —even (and especially) in those we did not cause but now live”.
Sometimes in the midst of our pain, reading about how others found hope in their journey, brings hope and healing to our own lives.
Very well written, with great compassion, honesty and love. Highly recommend.
July 25, 2013
Ragged Hope is a collection of poignant personal stories of survivors who, by the grace of God, have endured and overcome the fallout from other people's destructive choices. The examples in Ragged Hope are lessons in reality. Dishonorable, selfish, inappropriate choices made by others have placed the victims in these stories into chaotic situations. Hope has set them free. Examples of abuse, neglect, abandonment, job loss, infidelity and financial disasters are only a fraction of the representations illustrating how God's steadfast love, mercy and grace helped these victims overcome painful and debilitating circumstances. These stories demonstrate that no matter what life throws our way God's unconditional love can restore peace to our lives. Each life story is followed by reflections for the reader to contemplate and examine, to assist in gleaning hope in spite of despair. An inspirational Bible verse appropriate to the situation regarding those who have survived life's most difficult challenges is a balm for the spirit. For those suffering the fallout of someone else's poor choices, Rugged Hope is exemplary in promoting healing from some of the most painful wounds inflicted on us, through the power and love of God.
Cynthia Ruchti has presented several powerful examples of God's transformation of His children from ashes to beauty. These accounts of victims in despair, whose pain was inflicted on them by those closest to them, are written with sensitivity and compassion. The practical applications provided through these personal accounts are excellent points of reference for those involved in situations similar to the victims described in Ragged Hope. Ms. Ruchti writes with insight, discrimination, credibility and a sophistication that only experience yields. Incredible hope is the ground level approach throughout this book. This author provides impressive insight into the human condition, and the solutions delivered through Hope!
Disclaimer: I received a copy of this book from LitFuse Publicity Group in exchange for my honest review. All opinions expressed are mine, and no monetary compensation was received as a result of this review.
Cynthia Ruchti has presented several powerful examples of God's transformation of His children from ashes to beauty. These accounts of victims in despair, whose pain was inflicted on them by those closest to them, are written with sensitivity and compassion. The practical applications provided through these personal accounts are excellent points of reference for those involved in situations similar to the victims described in Ragged Hope. Ms. Ruchti writes with insight, discrimination, credibility and a sophistication that only experience yields. Incredible hope is the ground level approach throughout this book. This author provides impressive insight into the human condition, and the solutions delivered through Hope!
Disclaimer: I received a copy of this book from LitFuse Publicity Group in exchange for my honest review. All opinions expressed are mine, and no monetary compensation was received as a result of this review.
July 22, 2013
Ragged Hope: Surviving the Fallout of Other People’s Choices
By Cynthia Ruchti
When I purchased Ragged Hope, I assumed that I’d be reading stories that might help me as I am challenged by the pitfalls from the poor choices of the people around me. I’ve been there. Most likely, we all have. Instead, I learned how to better serve others who are in emotional, physical, and spiritual pain from the consequences of other people’s choices. The part of the book that I appreciated the most and prayed about even more, is the section after each story where she says, “If you know…”, where the author shares tips on ministering to those who need hope. I’ve never read a book like this that offers such good ideas on how to reach out to the hurting. Because her words brought the realities to life, I found myself praying for the people in the chapters.
Cynthia shares stories of tragedy, pain, and rebellion. More than that she reaches into the heart and examines how the person survived. I love how she reckoned hope to a baby’s blanket, where the satin edges were worn and tattered, yet the blanket brought comfort and hope. Some stories brought tears while others called up empathy. But most of the testimonies sounded familiar. In fifty-six years, I’ve seen many of the same struggles and lived the same desperate cry for Jesus’ hope.
This is a must read for anyone who ministers to others and wants to offer the hope of Jesus to a hurting world. Every church and public library should have this book on the shelf.
By Cynthia Ruchti
When I purchased Ragged Hope, I assumed that I’d be reading stories that might help me as I am challenged by the pitfalls from the poor choices of the people around me. I’ve been there. Most likely, we all have. Instead, I learned how to better serve others who are in emotional, physical, and spiritual pain from the consequences of other people’s choices. The part of the book that I appreciated the most and prayed about even more, is the section after each story where she says, “If you know…”, where the author shares tips on ministering to those who need hope. I’ve never read a book like this that offers such good ideas on how to reach out to the hurting. Because her words brought the realities to life, I found myself praying for the people in the chapters.
Cynthia shares stories of tragedy, pain, and rebellion. More than that she reaches into the heart and examines how the person survived. I love how she reckoned hope to a baby’s blanket, where the satin edges were worn and tattered, yet the blanket brought comfort and hope. Some stories brought tears while others called up empathy. But most of the testimonies sounded familiar. In fifty-six years, I’ve seen many of the same struggles and lived the same desperate cry for Jesus’ hope.
This is a must read for anyone who ministers to others and wants to offer the hope of Jesus to a hurting world. Every church and public library should have this book on the shelf.
April 21, 2014
My initial concern when I was given this book to read was that it would be the whiney stories of victims. I was pleasantly surprised. There is no sense that the author is pointing fingers at "bad people", but is addressing bad and hurt-full choices.
The author presents the stories of those who have struggled through and grown, who truly have survived--and thrived in spite of the painful fallout of choices in respectful and helpful ways.
Each chapter addresses a different choice. Through the telling of each person's story the author offers the strength of their journey and also ways that friends, family, and other support persons can offer hope to people they know who are struggling.
This book is not an easy read. It is honest, earthy, and cuts through the niceties that religious people tend to cling to. It's the kind of book that would be good for pastors to keep on hand to share with congregants struggling with the issues covered. I think it would be good material for a small group or deacon group wanting to be better prepared to be support for those struggling and needing hope.
The only thing missing from this book was a buyer/reader beware warning. If you've ever made a bad choice--and who hasn't--you will be confronted in this book, but the good news is: there is hope.
I am very happy to own and recommend this book. I've even considered buying a case to give to people I know.
The author presents the stories of those who have struggled through and grown, who truly have survived--and thrived in spite of the painful fallout of choices in respectful and helpful ways.
Each chapter addresses a different choice. Through the telling of each person's story the author offers the strength of their journey and also ways that friends, family, and other support persons can offer hope to people they know who are struggling.
This book is not an easy read. It is honest, earthy, and cuts through the niceties that religious people tend to cling to. It's the kind of book that would be good for pastors to keep on hand to share with congregants struggling with the issues covered. I think it would be good material for a small group or deacon group wanting to be better prepared to be support for those struggling and needing hope.
The only thing missing from this book was a buyer/reader beware warning. If you've ever made a bad choice--and who hasn't--you will be confronted in this book, but the good news is: there is hope.
I am very happy to own and recommend this book. I've even considered buying a case to give to people I know.
July 26, 2013
I will now be looking for more of Cynthia's books. Her writing style is amazing. I have been blessed to hear her in person so I shouldn't be surprised. Hope is a word I chose this year, my second year of widowhood and the year I watch my 8-year-old grandson struggle to survive a cancer that is now overtaking him. Cynthia's book left me in tears. Yes, I was crying because of the sadness in the lives of those real people she uses as example, but I was also crying because she finds the hope in hopeless situations. God bless you, Cynthia Ruchti, for a book that will give others hope.
February 5, 2018
This book is not to be missed. Cynthia Ruchti tells the stories of people who have been hurt by the choices of others, and she does this in a way that give great hope to the reader. Very encouraging.
February 27, 2023
Ragged Hope ~ Surviving the Fallout of Other People's Choices is a wonderful reminder to look to God's Light rather than focus on the shadows of pain still present in our lives.
It's an antidote for bitterness because it encourages us to trust God can redeem each situation and use it to draw us closer to Him. It's a book of hope.
It's an antidote for bitterness because it encourages us to trust God can redeem each situation and use it to draw us closer to Him. It's a book of hope.
August 23, 2021
More ragged. Less hope. I found most examples to be incredibly negative and focusing blame on other people to wallow in the "woe is me" sphere without as much focus on how to really move past/beyond the situations or not focusing too much on the actions and behaviors of others.
October 7, 2023
I have learned about ragged hope in the midst of so many types of pain we deal with because of the brokenness of others. I am thankful for this book full of stories to push me towards looking to Him and not behind me. Thank you, Cynthia Ruchti and the people who trusted you with their stories.
August 19, 2020
interesting stories about how people recover from very bad life events. some chapters were very helpful.
April 6, 2021
Our ears can much more effective than our good intentions! Sharing grace is part of God's will for our lives.
September 1, 2021
Inspiring. Excellent examples of turning to God in life's most challenging situations, especially when those situations were brought about by others choices.
March 10, 2022
3.5 stars
October 9, 2023
The second chapter was life-changing for me!
April 24, 2024
Beautifully written. The stories were heart breaking and thought provoking. The reflection questions made me think.
July 30, 2013
Today I’d like to share a book full of stories that each of us needs to read. The book is called Ragged Hope – Surviving The Fallout Of Other People’s Choices by Cynthia Ruchti, and it offers compassion and hope to each of us who have had to face the aftermath of other people’s careless choices – or, perhaps, are living with the guilt of choices we've made that have unintentionally hurt people we've loved.
Who among us does this not describe?
The book contains 26 stories of people facing heartbreak due to the hand that life dealt them. For example:
• Don and Lila have altered their lives to raise the grandchildren that their daughter abandoned.
• Olivia and her family are living in the aftermath of her son’s suicide.
• Nora and her neighbors lost their homes when they were burnt to the ground not by accident – but by arson.
The list goes on and on.
The situations are heartbreaking – but the stories are filled with hope. The book doesn't minimize the pain that each person is feeling – but each story focuses on leading us to the One who can truly heal our hurts – in a gentle, sensitive way.
Here is one of my favorite excerpts from the book:
There are questions to reflect upon, and a Bible verse to meditate upon, at the end of each story.
Cynthie Ruchti has written a beautiful book whose words many people will cherish in the midst of difficult times. I highly recommend Ragged Hope for both personal and group use.
This review was written by and originally published at Create With Joy.
Disclosure: I received a copy of this book from the publisher for review purposes. I was not compensated or required to write a positive review. The opinions expressed in this review are entirely my own.
Who among us does this not describe?
The book contains 26 stories of people facing heartbreak due to the hand that life dealt them. For example:
• Don and Lila have altered their lives to raise the grandchildren that their daughter abandoned.
• Olivia and her family are living in the aftermath of her son’s suicide.
• Nora and her neighbors lost their homes when they were burnt to the ground not by accident – but by arson.
The list goes on and on.
The situations are heartbreaking – but the stories are filled with hope. The book doesn't minimize the pain that each person is feeling – but each story focuses on leading us to the One who can truly heal our hurts – in a gentle, sensitive way.
Here is one of my favorite excerpts from the book:
Tamara’s attitude shifted. Garth had claimed too much emotional territory. She’d take some of it back. She’d relied so heavily on his defining who she was. She’d crawled into the mold he’d poured. When he was gone, nothing about her life held its shape.
But it didn't have to stay that way. Among the few remaining friends who told her what she wanted to hear was one who told her the truth – that she had choices of her own to make, choices that would drive the hurt deeper or that would reshape her life.
At the dinner table one night, she announced to the kids that they would no longer say grace before a meal.
They would give thanks and live grace. A minor adjustment with major repercussions.
There are questions to reflect upon, and a Bible verse to meditate upon, at the end of each story.
Cynthie Ruchti has written a beautiful book whose words many people will cherish in the midst of difficult times. I highly recommend Ragged Hope for both personal and group use.
This review was written by and originally published at Create With Joy.
Disclosure: I received a copy of this book from the publisher for review purposes. I was not compensated or required to write a positive review. The opinions expressed in this review are entirely my own.
July 26, 2013
The idea of this book grabbed me right away. People make choices every day that impact the lives of other, whether positively or negatively. A lot of things happen so that innocent people are left dealing with pain and consequences that should never have been theirs. No one is immune to this. Cynthia Ruchti blesses the readers of this book with the Hope that can be found even in these dark circumstances. It might indeed be ragged, or even just a thread. But Hope is there.
This book wasn't what I expected, but at the same time it was so much more. Each chapter is barely longer than a daily devotional, and conveys a personal story of someone facing the fallout of another's actions. Whether it is the grandparents raising grandkids because the parents removed themselves from the picture, the women whose lives are shattered by the addictions of their spouse, the adult who is still feeling inferior because their parents neglected them as children, the loved ones of those who have chosen to end their own lives, or many other scenarios presented, each story is heart-rending. The author does an excellent job relaying genuine pain and grief in a few words, as well as sharing how those in each situation chose hope, forgiveness, and healing no matter how hard it was. The chapters close with a Reflections segment, giving the reader a chance to recognize in their own minds how the thoughts presented might fit into a situation they are facing today, and some important lines about how you can reach out to those who are in the specific circumstance detailed in that chapter.
This book is an incredible personal resource for wise counsel, and one that church libraries would be smart to get onto their shelves. The more I read these pages, the more the gentle rain of hope soaked into my own heart. Dealing with fallout from other people's choices is terrifically difficult. But with God's help, may we like Biblical Joseph be able to say that others may have intended their actions for evil, but God "meant it unto good."
I know God meant for me to read this book at this particular time. This is a subject I've been dealing with a lot recently. My sincerest thanks to LitFuse for providing me a copy for review. All opinions are my own.
This review originated at http://reviewsbyerin.livejournal.com
This book wasn't what I expected, but at the same time it was so much more. Each chapter is barely longer than a daily devotional, and conveys a personal story of someone facing the fallout of another's actions. Whether it is the grandparents raising grandkids because the parents removed themselves from the picture, the women whose lives are shattered by the addictions of their spouse, the adult who is still feeling inferior because their parents neglected them as children, the loved ones of those who have chosen to end their own lives, or many other scenarios presented, each story is heart-rending. The author does an excellent job relaying genuine pain and grief in a few words, as well as sharing how those in each situation chose hope, forgiveness, and healing no matter how hard it was. The chapters close with a Reflections segment, giving the reader a chance to recognize in their own minds how the thoughts presented might fit into a situation they are facing today, and some important lines about how you can reach out to those who are in the specific circumstance detailed in that chapter.
This book is an incredible personal resource for wise counsel, and one that church libraries would be smart to get onto their shelves. The more I read these pages, the more the gentle rain of hope soaked into my own heart. Dealing with fallout from other people's choices is terrifically difficult. But with God's help, may we like Biblical Joseph be able to say that others may have intended their actions for evil, but God "meant it unto good."
I know God meant for me to read this book at this particular time. This is a subject I've been dealing with a lot recently. My sincerest thanks to LitFuse for providing me a copy for review. All opinions are my own.
This review originated at http://reviewsbyerin.livejournal.com
February 22, 2016
by Cynthia RuchtiBeautiful book and one that I'd definitely refer back to when I need inspiration, strength and not feeling so alone. I got it in the mail and dropped everything I was doing and began reading immediately. I couldn't devour it quick enough. I'm in crisis so I've been anxiously waiting for this to arrive and the pages were practically open before it was out of the envelope and I read the first few stories without my glasses. Yep, I was without question anxious for this and in much need of it.
The book isn't exactly as I thought it would be, but it was wonderful nonetheless. It was heartbreaking yet very warming to the soul to read about the grace that people carry with them and live by during all difficult times and most notably some truly horrific ones. Truly a Beautiful book.
Short Stories with reflection questions at the end of each one. I did think it would be more of a self help/workbook type, but the reflection questions give it that bit of "workbook" I was looking for. Wished for more of that, but happy for what was given......because just maybe that is plenty <3
Very grateful to have been able to read this in light of my own personal and extreme circumstances and I never ever forget, that I may have it 'really' bad, but somebody else also has it worse. My Heart carries those people daily and wishes somehow their lives are touched, changed, filled with Love, friendship, Peace, and always Hope.
I was given a copy of this book through the Goodreads First Reads program and thank you as well to Abingdon Press for this gift. For every story in here is full of heartache and loss yet the warmth of how those situations are faced and it truly is with Grace in which we make our way through it more than getting through it with anger will ever do. Getting through it with anger 'will' eat your soul away. I say this as I'm right in the middle of this battle at the moment so this book has a profound meaning to me as my views and beliefs are a journey I'm on.
Will post purchase links when I'm on my computer. Thank you very much for the opportunity to read this book. ~*In Wellness & Many Blessings*~
July 12, 2013
About the Book:
It is one thing to live with the consequences of your own choices, but what happens when your life is changed because of someone else's? This insightful and uplifting guide will comfort, support and encourage you through whatever situation you must face. Cynthia Ruchti, who has walked this road herself, assures readers that God is ever present and His love never wavers. There is hope, grace, and a future in every situation, especially those that we did not cause.
About the Author:
Cynthia Ruchti is the author of the critically acclaimed Where the Morning Glory Blooms and They Almost Always Come Home. She also writes and produces the daily 15-minute radio broadcast, The Heartbeat of the Home, and is editor of the broadcast's Backyard Friends magazine. She served a two-year term as president of American Christian Fiction Writers and currently serves as ACFW's Professional Relations Liaison. In addition to writing novels, devotionals, and magazine articles, she speaks for women's events and writers' conferences. Cynthia and her plot-tweaking husband live in Pittsville, Wisconsin, where she creates stories of Hope-that-glows-in-the-dark. Find Cynthia on the web at CynthiaRuchti.com.
My Review:
Do you ever wonder how people move up, move out, and on after a devastating loss or break up? Maybe after their home has burned to the ground are people able to pick up and start over. After all they have known is burned, charred, and literally destroyed. Or maybe when a stay at home mom tries to put together a family Christmas with all the trimmings.. And give her children a profound set of holiday memories only to have it overshadowed by their father. When he decides he doesn't love her anymore and right this minute on Christmas day no less, he decides it's the perfect time to walk out on his family.
In Cynthia Ruchti's book Ragged Hope, she takes these stories and many more like them and shows us how we can also cling to the same faith that these people did and still come out on top. It is in the midst of these trials that God is there holding our hands and catching our tears. His love is unwavering and happily devoted to getting us through it all. in every way imaginable.
**Disclosure** This book was sent to me free of charge for my honest review by Litfuse.
It is one thing to live with the consequences of your own choices, but what happens when your life is changed because of someone else's? This insightful and uplifting guide will comfort, support and encourage you through whatever situation you must face. Cynthia Ruchti, who has walked this road herself, assures readers that God is ever present and His love never wavers. There is hope, grace, and a future in every situation, especially those that we did not cause.
About the Author:
Cynthia Ruchti is the author of the critically acclaimed Where the Morning Glory Blooms and They Almost Always Come Home. She also writes and produces the daily 15-minute radio broadcast, The Heartbeat of the Home, and is editor of the broadcast's Backyard Friends magazine. She served a two-year term as president of American Christian Fiction Writers and currently serves as ACFW's Professional Relations Liaison. In addition to writing novels, devotionals, and magazine articles, she speaks for women's events and writers' conferences. Cynthia and her plot-tweaking husband live in Pittsville, Wisconsin, where she creates stories of Hope-that-glows-in-the-dark. Find Cynthia on the web at CynthiaRuchti.com.
My Review:
Do you ever wonder how people move up, move out, and on after a devastating loss or break up? Maybe after their home has burned to the ground are people able to pick up and start over. After all they have known is burned, charred, and literally destroyed. Or maybe when a stay at home mom tries to put together a family Christmas with all the trimmings.. And give her children a profound set of holiday memories only to have it overshadowed by their father. When he decides he doesn't love her anymore and right this minute on Christmas day no less, he decides it's the perfect time to walk out on his family.
In Cynthia Ruchti's book Ragged Hope, she takes these stories and many more like them and shows us how we can also cling to the same faith that these people did and still come out on top. It is in the midst of these trials that God is there holding our hands and catching our tears. His love is unwavering and happily devoted to getting us through it all. in every way imaginable.
**Disclosure** This book was sent to me free of charge for my honest review by Litfuse.
July 2, 2013
Released July 1st by Abingdon Press:
In the words of author Cynthia Ruchti, Ragged Hope:Surviving the Fallout of Other People's Choices, is "a celebration of the resiliency of the human spirit, the courageous resolve of those determined to survive despite the fallout of other people's choices, and the exquisite redemptive power of the God who can wring beauty from ashes."
Filled with story after story of western society's realities, it would be hard not to be aware of or personally affected by situations depicted in Ragged Hope. Job loss, lack of life insurance, HIV Aids from a loved one, pre-retirement redundancy, raising grandchildren,infidelity, post natal depression, only a shortlist. A practical book, providing thoughtful responses the reader can employ when confronted with just such situations and those personally affronted, challenges to complacency, and scriptures to guide our responses.
Examples cover a wide range of losses experienced by so many in the world of our day. In mentioning the few I risk missing the one that may benefit your issue or area of struggle. I was impacted throughout the book's many examples, both personally and responsively. The overarching theme that God carries all such damaged and wounded people dear and near His heart, offering the only Hope that provides strength and inspirits with anticipation. "It's an expectation based on the belief that God cares and that He can reach through the fallout to redeem, revive, refresh, restore..." rather than living stymied by recycling regrets, resentment, and retribution.
Psalm 107 is the template to which Ms Ruchti refers us. Whatever the life distress, "In their trouble they cried to ADONAI, and He rescued them from their distress..." with the expected response being, "Let them give thanks to ADONAI for His grace, for His wonders bestowed on humanity!" The conclusion? "Let whoever is wise observe these things and consider ADONAI's loving deeds." [CJB]
A book of Hope, courage and encouragement for the recipients of injustices and those who care. An eye opening call to compassion.
A recommended reading resource.
*Appreciation to Abingdon Press for an ecopy to read and review without obligation.
In the words of author Cynthia Ruchti, Ragged Hope:Surviving the Fallout of Other People's Choices, is "a celebration of the resiliency of the human spirit, the courageous resolve of those determined to survive despite the fallout of other people's choices, and the exquisite redemptive power of the God who can wring beauty from ashes."
Filled with story after story of western society's realities, it would be hard not to be aware of or personally affected by situations depicted in Ragged Hope. Job loss, lack of life insurance, HIV Aids from a loved one, pre-retirement redundancy, raising grandchildren,infidelity, post natal depression, only a shortlist. A practical book, providing thoughtful responses the reader can employ when confronted with just such situations and those personally affronted, challenges to complacency, and scriptures to guide our responses.
Examples cover a wide range of losses experienced by so many in the world of our day. In mentioning the few I risk missing the one that may benefit your issue or area of struggle. I was impacted throughout the book's many examples, both personally and responsively. The overarching theme that God carries all such damaged and wounded people dear and near His heart, offering the only Hope that provides strength and inspirits with anticipation. "It's an expectation based on the belief that God cares and that He can reach through the fallout to redeem, revive, refresh, restore..." rather than living stymied by recycling regrets, resentment, and retribution.
Psalm 107 is the template to which Ms Ruchti refers us. Whatever the life distress, "In their trouble they cried to ADONAI, and He rescued them from their distress..." with the expected response being, "Let them give thanks to ADONAI for His grace, for His wonders bestowed on humanity!" The conclusion? "Let whoever is wise observe these things and consider ADONAI's loving deeds." [CJB]
A book of Hope, courage and encouragement for the recipients of injustices and those who care. An eye opening call to compassion.
A recommended reading resource.
*Appreciation to Abingdon Press for an ecopy to read and review without obligation.
May 3, 2014
I read Ragged Hope, in exchange for review from Litfuse. I received a paperback version of the book. The book was written by Cynthia Ruchti and published by Abingdon.First, the book is Christian-based. One of the sentences, which grabbed me, from the back of the book was Where is God when you are doing everything right, but because of someone else, everything is wrong. But through it all, God is always there, no matter what you are going through.
The book talked about choices. Your life is not only affected by your choices, it is also affected by other people's choices. What if your kids, left your grandkids on the doorstep to start a new relationship? What if you are being stalked? or what if the person, you think you are in love with, lies about being single or having kids? (that happened to me before). or your child or husband, has an addiction, which affects finances and stability.
The first story focused on Don and Lila, who was raising their grandkids because their daughter had an addiction. Their plans for a quiet life was quickly halted. Their finances shaken, but they agreed to give their grandkids love and stability, instead of regret and hatred. At the each of the chapter, there is discussion questions, which would be perfect for personal or small group bible study. One of the questions is what sacrifices are you making for someone, you love, but sensing the taint of victimization? Followed by applicable bible verse. Each story is short: like maybe 5 to 6 pages. Each story is a quick read.
Other stories, I liked included:
Danielle's husband left her for another woman, leaving her raising 4 kids alone. She did not let her ex-husband bring her additional sadness and distress. She called on God during her time of need.
Olivia was dealing with a death of a child (suicide). Her child committed suicide during a family dinner. Charla was a teenage mom, but was forced to give up her baby. The father was married. She got married and had kids later, but had a fear someone would take her kids. I cried reading this story.
Deana dealt with trust issues.
The book talked about choices. Your life is not only affected by your choices, it is also affected by other people's choices. What if your kids, left your grandkids on the doorstep to start a new relationship? What if you are being stalked? or what if the person, you think you are in love with, lies about being single or having kids? (that happened to me before). or your child or husband, has an addiction, which affects finances and stability.
The first story focused on Don and Lila, who was raising their grandkids because their daughter had an addiction. Their plans for a quiet life was quickly halted. Their finances shaken, but they agreed to give their grandkids love and stability, instead of regret and hatred. At the each of the chapter, there is discussion questions, which would be perfect for personal or small group bible study. One of the questions is what sacrifices are you making for someone, you love, but sensing the taint of victimization? Followed by applicable bible verse. Each story is short: like maybe 5 to 6 pages. Each story is a quick read.
Other stories, I liked included:
Danielle's husband left her for another woman, leaving her raising 4 kids alone. She did not let her ex-husband bring her additional sadness and distress. She called on God during her time of need.
Olivia was dealing with a death of a child (suicide). Her child committed suicide during a family dinner. Charla was a teenage mom, but was forced to give up her baby. The father was married. She got married and had kids later, but had a fear someone would take her kids. I cried reading this story.
Deana dealt with trust issues.
July 17, 2013
While many suffer the consequences of their own poor decisions, some are carrying the weight of other people's choices. Husbands leave their wives and children for another woman. Financial advisers embezzle retirement funds from unsuspecting clients and disappear forever. A spouse does the unmentionable and changes the lifestyle of his/her family forever. Whatever the case, one person can do something that alters another's life forever and they are the ones who must forgive, forget and move on.
Cynthia Ruchti's "Ragged Hope" is a godsend for those who are trying to be tough in difficult circumstances not of their own making. Each story of betrayal, pain and loss contains proof that God offers hope to everyone in all circumstances. He may not offer complete restitution or remove our trouble, but He will love you through it. He will give you a future in spite of the actions of others.
What Cynthia describes in her stories are events that are hard. You don't recover easily and sometimes may not recover at all. They are the tough things in life you don't understand why they happen. But God does. But. God. But for God, these events would be too hard to bear. But for God they would be unforgivable. In some cases, you will wonder in awe at how someone could forgive. But they do because God forgave them. These are teachable moments for those who read "Ragged Hope". Yes. Even the horrible things life hands to us can be forgiven with God's help. And, we can forgive, forget and move on. Sometimes it will be easy. Sometimes it will be difficult. Sometimes we may wonder why? But always there is God to walk us through each step we take.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Litfuse Publicity Group, as part of their Book Review Blogger Program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
Cynthia Ruchti's "Ragged Hope" is a godsend for those who are trying to be tough in difficult circumstances not of their own making. Each story of betrayal, pain and loss contains proof that God offers hope to everyone in all circumstances. He may not offer complete restitution or remove our trouble, but He will love you through it. He will give you a future in spite of the actions of others.
What Cynthia describes in her stories are events that are hard. You don't recover easily and sometimes may not recover at all. They are the tough things in life you don't understand why they happen. But God does. But. God. But for God, these events would be too hard to bear. But for God they would be unforgivable. In some cases, you will wonder in awe at how someone could forgive. But they do because God forgave them. These are teachable moments for those who read "Ragged Hope". Yes. Even the horrible things life hands to us can be forgiven with God's help. And, we can forgive, forget and move on. Sometimes it will be easy. Sometimes it will be difficult. Sometimes we may wonder why? But always there is God to walk us through each step we take.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Litfuse Publicity Group, as part of their Book Review Blogger Program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
July 9, 2013
The title of this book captured my attention and I was anxious to explore this topic of hope and the surviving spirit. The format is a collection of twenty-six real-life stories in bite-size chapters with interactive questions corresponding to each personal reflection. The stories are warmly shared and I appreciated that some of the stories ended with question marks instead of tidy gift-wrapped bows. Life is messy and sometimes a happy ending is only found in fairy tales. The vulnerability of the individuals who relayed their stories was fresh and raw.
The intended audience is somewhat difficult to ascertain. For those who are in the midst of surviving the fallout of other people’s poor choice, this book may be overwhelming and depressing. The emphasis is not on practical how-to’s in the middle of a crisis, but more a colorful panorama of a variety of suffering situations and how those individuals coped. For those who are a companion/caregiver to those experiencing tragedy, there are short helps listed at the end of each chapter pertaining to that specific situation. Perhaps this selection would be beneficial in a recovery small group discussion.
There were beautiful nuggets of wisdom interspersed throughout the book with hope being a major theme. One of my favorite quotes appears on page 36, “Words are miserably inadequate at times. But a silent presence is simply eloquent.” Each chapter closes with a Scripture passage loosely fitting the topic previously engaged. The lack of Biblical depth and interaction was disappointing as Jesus is the only true, reliable source of all of our hope. I wish there had been more development of Biblical truths and more Scripture woven throughout the chapters.
Overall, Ragged Hope is an intriguing cross-section of numerous stories of faith in real-life settings. “You’ll find hope that – even when it’s tattered – glows in the dark.”
The intended audience is somewhat difficult to ascertain. For those who are in the midst of surviving the fallout of other people’s poor choice, this book may be overwhelming and depressing. The emphasis is not on practical how-to’s in the middle of a crisis, but more a colorful panorama of a variety of suffering situations and how those individuals coped. For those who are a companion/caregiver to those experiencing tragedy, there are short helps listed at the end of each chapter pertaining to that specific situation. Perhaps this selection would be beneficial in a recovery small group discussion.
There were beautiful nuggets of wisdom interspersed throughout the book with hope being a major theme. One of my favorite quotes appears on page 36, “Words are miserably inadequate at times. But a silent presence is simply eloquent.” Each chapter closes with a Scripture passage loosely fitting the topic previously engaged. The lack of Biblical depth and interaction was disappointing as Jesus is the only true, reliable source of all of our hope. I wish there had been more development of Biblical truths and more Scripture woven throughout the chapters.
Overall, Ragged Hope is an intriguing cross-section of numerous stories of faith in real-life settings. “You’ll find hope that – even when it’s tattered – glows in the dark.”
September 9, 2013
My Thoughts on this Book
“Surviving the fallout of other people’s choices” is just what happens when someone, such as a spouse leaves his wife and family for another women, and the wife is left to deal with the situation and survive as best she can. This book is a collection of stories of many who have been forced to deal with abuse, betrayal, rejection, divorce, and much more against their will. The stories are short and can be read as a devotion, or just read when you need a pretty fast read. They are not easy stories to read, because each story has its own unique situation and struggles.
I wish this book would have been out about eight years ago when my son went through some of these same things. His story could have easily been in this book. I won’t go into details, but without God reaching out and giving my son, as well as myself the mercy, grace and strength we needed, I’m just not sure where we would be now.
I love an appreciate the wisdom and direction Cynthia Ruchti so heartfully gives in Ragged Hope. There are so many people that need this book! The number of situations just like these in the lives of family and friends is heartbreaking. This is one book I will definitely put in the hands of anyone I know who is facing the rejection and betrayal of someone they love. Thank you Cynthia Ruchti for a book so well needed!
I received this book from the publisher Abingdon Press to read and review. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 55.
“Surviving the fallout of other people’s choices” is just what happens when someone, such as a spouse leaves his wife and family for another women, and the wife is left to deal with the situation and survive as best she can. This book is a collection of stories of many who have been forced to deal with abuse, betrayal, rejection, divorce, and much more against their will. The stories are short and can be read as a devotion, or just read when you need a pretty fast read. They are not easy stories to read, because each story has its own unique situation and struggles.
I wish this book would have been out about eight years ago when my son went through some of these same things. His story could have easily been in this book. I won’t go into details, but without God reaching out and giving my son, as well as myself the mercy, grace and strength we needed, I’m just not sure where we would be now.
I love an appreciate the wisdom and direction Cynthia Ruchti so heartfully gives in Ragged Hope. There are so many people that need this book! The number of situations just like these in the lives of family and friends is heartbreaking. This is one book I will definitely put in the hands of anyone I know who is facing the rejection and betrayal of someone they love. Thank you Cynthia Ruchti for a book so well needed!
I received this book from the publisher Abingdon Press to read and review. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 55.
March 21, 2014
Ragged Hope recounts 25 true stories of individuals and families who have survived the fallout of other people’s choices. Their struggles run counter to the glamorized infotainment that permeates our news. Matching story with scripture Cynthia Ruchti concludes each story with Reflections and If you know…
The Reflections include comments about the story and raise thought-provoking questions. For example, in the “Thousand Bad Decisions” story the author comments and asks:
But many sorrows are a reflection of a much longer history than a single choice. In your own situation, can you trace back to
“So, that’s where it all started”?
The section If you know someone like the person in the story relates follow up information and advice. For example, in the “Thousand Bad Decisions” story Cynthia reports that after 17 years in prison Max found Christ through the visitation and encouragement of a caring Christian, not a jail minister. She asks:
Is someone’s turning point waiting for you to abandon your hesitation?
She concludes the story with this verse:
Follow my example, just like I follow Christ’s. 1 Corinthians 11:1 (Common English Bible)
Ruchti’s counselor-teacher approach (a result of 33 years of leading retreats and hosting a radio program) is applied Christianity. Her book can be an understanding friend for those going through similar struggles. For old and new Christians her book can be an invaluable training tool. For high school and college young people, her book is a window on the real world, a troubled world but with “Hope that glows in the dark”.
And hope does not disappoint. Romans 5:5 (New American Standard Bible)
The Reflections include comments about the story and raise thought-provoking questions. For example, in the “Thousand Bad Decisions” story the author comments and asks:
But many sorrows are a reflection of a much longer history than a single choice. In your own situation, can you trace back to
“So, that’s where it all started”?
The section If you know someone like the person in the story relates follow up information and advice. For example, in the “Thousand Bad Decisions” story Cynthia reports that after 17 years in prison Max found Christ through the visitation and encouragement of a caring Christian, not a jail minister. She asks:
Is someone’s turning point waiting for you to abandon your hesitation?
She concludes the story with this verse:
Follow my example, just like I follow Christ’s. 1 Corinthians 11:1 (Common English Bible)
Ruchti’s counselor-teacher approach (a result of 33 years of leading retreats and hosting a radio program) is applied Christianity. Her book can be an understanding friend for those going through similar struggles. For old and new Christians her book can be an invaluable training tool. For high school and college young people, her book is a window on the real world, a troubled world but with “Hope that glows in the dark”.
And hope does not disappoint. Romans 5:5 (New American Standard Bible)
July 16, 2013
Ragged Hope is not quite a devotional but more of an encouraging resource for those who have been through the fire, past or present, at the hands of someone else. It would make an ideal book for a women's support group to read for discussion. It is comprised of a series of real-life stories, to which most women can relate. Stories that contain the power to shape and transform hearts and lives.
Each chapter centers around its own story that highlights a particular kind of loss or struggle. Grandparents left to raise grandchildren, for instance, family fallout after a sex offender's sentencing, or those left behind after a teen's suicide. Following each story, Ruchti provides discussion-provoking questions and a Scripture for meditation. I especially like her inclusion in every chapter of "If you know a (fill in the blank, the name of someone who's been through that particular situation)..." in which she encourages readers to take stock of people in their own circles, and to perhaps think outside the box with practical suggestions as to how to better support these hurting ones.
Though the theology is not particularly deep, neither is the tone preachy, as Ruchti allows each story to carry its own weight. But her word pictures evoke deep pathos, and her piquant language is as vibrant as the wisdom and comfort she offers.
Thanks to Abingdon Press for providing me a free copy to review. All opinions are mine.
Each chapter centers around its own story that highlights a particular kind of loss or struggle. Grandparents left to raise grandchildren, for instance, family fallout after a sex offender's sentencing, or those left behind after a teen's suicide. Following each story, Ruchti provides discussion-provoking questions and a Scripture for meditation. I especially like her inclusion in every chapter of "If you know a (fill in the blank, the name of someone who's been through that particular situation)..." in which she encourages readers to take stock of people in their own circles, and to perhaps think outside the box with practical suggestions as to how to better support these hurting ones.
Though the theology is not particularly deep, neither is the tone preachy, as Ruchti allows each story to carry its own weight. But her word pictures evoke deep pathos, and her piquant language is as vibrant as the wisdom and comfort she offers.
Thanks to Abingdon Press for providing me a free copy to review. All opinions are mine.
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