Read Me First: Sex Lies and Online Dating

by Newton Lee

In Amy Webb’s 2013 TED talk titled “How I hacked online dating,” she said that initially she was having absolutely no luck with online dating. Her solution was to make a spreadsheet, prioritizing things like she was looking for somebody who was really smart, who would challenge and stimulate her, and balancing that with deal-breakers and other criteria. As a result, she had no trouble finding the man of her dream quickly.

One of the root causes of miscommunication is that people do not always mean what they say or do. But if we try to stay true to ourselves, online dating can be very effective. Online dating versus traditional dating is like using an electronic calculator versus an abacus. They both can give you accurate results if used properly, but one of them is obviously faster and easier in the modern age.

82 pages, ebook

First published May 3, 2013

About the author

Newton Lee is an author, educator, futurist, and FBI ambassador. He was the founder of Disney Online Technology Forum, creator of AT&T Bell Labs' first-ever commercial artificial intelligence tool, inventor of the world's first annotated multimedia OPAC for the U.S. National Agricultural Library, and longest-serving editor-in-chief (2003-2018) in the history of the Association for Computing Machinery since 1947.

He is chairman of the California Transhumanist Party, education and media advisor to the United States Transhumanist Party, and president of the 501(c)(3) nonprofit Institute for Education, Research, and Scholarships. Lee graduated Summa Cum Laude from Virginia Tech with a B.S. and M.S. degree in Computer Science, and he earned a perfect GPA from Vincennes University with an A.S. degree in Electrical Engineering and an honorary doctorate in Computer Science.

Lee has lectured at Emily Carr University, Massachusetts Institute of Technology, Simon Fraser University, University of Southern California, Vincennes University, and Woodbury University. He has been honored with a Michigan Leading Edge Technologies Award, two community development awards from the California Junior Chamber of Commerce, and four volunteer project leadership awards from The Walt Disney Company.