Trigger warning: abuse
As a survivor of the troubled teen industry, I am appalled that James Patterson wrote a book that shows a wilderness troubled teen industry program in a positive light. Kids have died in those programs. Also, kids go through every type of abuse imaginable. A lot of girls who were in the first program I was dumped in as a teen unalived themselves to escape the abuse memories and permanent consequences of the abuse. A lot of us who are still alive are disabled because of the abuse. A lot of wilderness program survivors have spine/back issues as adults because we were forced to carry stuff that was too heavy for us when we were in the wilderness program as kids. There are also a large number of troubled teen industry survivors who have a lot of medical stuff going on as adults because of the trauma, including conditions like POTS, MCAS, Hashimoto’s thyroiditis, fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue symptom, and so many others. There are other survivors who ended up in a wheelchair eventually as an adult just like I did.
I picked up this book, because another troubled teen industry survivor on Reddit mentioned it and said they thought it mentioned a wilderness program in a positive way. Before my body finally shut down on me too badly to even survive part time work anymore, I worked in book stores and libraries and also did some volunteer work in two different libraries. I still recommend books sometimes to family and friends and I didn’t want to recommend this author if he actually did write a book that makes the troubled teen industry look good.
I almost didn’t get through it because of how triggering it was, even though it was tame compared to what kids actually go through in programs like that. He forgot to mention all the physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, medical neglect, gaslighting, brainwashing, lack of proper K-12 education despite false claims of accreditation, starvation/underfeeding, unsanitary food/water, and sometimes even hard physical labor if it’s a long term wilderness program like mine was. He also forgot to mention that some kids are only there because they are foster kids and there are no homes that can take them. Those foster kids didn’t necessarily do anything wrong to end up there, and sometimes they get warehoused in programs from as young as age 10 or 12 until they turn 18. Also, foster kids often face the worst abuse in there, because staff think they can get away with it more easily since they think no one cares about those kids. A psychiatrist was literally sexually abusing some of those kids in one of the programs that I was in. Some kids who end up in troubled teen industry programs come from abusive families where they should have been taken out by CPS but weren’t. Parents sometimes dump kids in places like that to get rid of them, cover up abuse, or because they don’t want to be a parent. A lot of those kids go no contact or low contact with those parents as soon as they reach adulthood. Good parents who legitimately made a mistake and were duped by those programs to send their kids there are rare. I only know of three cases where the parents are legitimately good people, and all three cases were from programs that were different from the ones I was dumped in. In the programs I was in, I only met one person who was court ordered, and kids can get court ordered for something as simple as truancy, which might be something out of their control if they rely on their parent(s) for transportation to school and the parent isn’t parenting.
Being labeled troubled teens means that no one takes us seriously when we mention the abuse (mentioning the abuse to outside people can get kids punished in those programs) and it makes outside people scared of kids from those places when they run away, because they think the kids are criminals, when in reality, most aren’t. That fear means no outside people help the kids. Yes, some kids develop negative coping mechanisms like attempts to unalive themselves, self harm, anorexia, running away, or other things like that, but those negative coping mechanisms don’t happen in a vacuum. Kid brains are not meant to handle abuse/neglect, and those kinds of coping mechanisms are what happens when kids are trapped in abusive situations with no help and no way out. Being dumped in abusive troubled teen industry programs may appear to work at first because the kid is doing what abusive adults want to minimize the abuse they face, but in reality, it doesn’t fix anything. Some of those kids end up committing suicide when they get home because of the trauma. Some end up doing worse things like hard drugs to escape the abuse memories. Some kids end up as broken adults who end up eventually having their world crash down on them when their body finally shuts down on them after a lifetime of being stuck in fight or flight because of years or even decades of abuse. A lot of us end up in abusive relationships as adults, because we were brainwashed into believing that the abuse that was done to us in the troubled teen industry program was “treatment” and that we deserved it because we are bad people. Decades later, a lot of us are still unlearning those lies we learned in those troubled teen programs and learning how to recognize signs of toxic behavior in relationships.
The worst thing is that some states protect our abusers and make it impossible for survivors to hold our abusers accountable. Also, the same abusers who abused us sometimes end up working in troubled teen industry programs for decades abusing multiple generations of kids and getting away with it, because local law enforcement and politicians are complicit. Troubled teen industry programs are often built in areas with limited employment opportunities, and since they are the main job providers in the area, nobody wants to shut them down. People turn a blind eye to abuse. Need a recent example? Google “Pathway Owens Cross Roads Alabama news” and read the news articles that have come out over the past few months and the past year and a half. That place used to be Three Springs New Beginnings and was finally closed for abuse when it was under the name Sequel Owens Cross Roads, and yet it was allowed to reopen under a new name and new shell company with a former Three Springs upper level staff member as CEO (which they openly admitted on the Pathway Inc website since they know they can get away with it), a fake AI generated photo of the director of the Madison County Owens Cross Roads facility (the real director has grey hair, side burns, and is a skinny white guy who is a liar and a horrible person) on the Pathway Inc website, and some of the same staff who have been working there since 20+ years ago when it was Three Springs New Beginnings. Kids keep running away and no one helps them and the politicians don’t shut down that place. Kids don’t just run away for no reason. As an added bonus, Google “Three Springs Paint Rock Valley abuse” if you want to read true survivor accounts of the horrible things that happen in a long term wilderness program. If you want to learn more about abusive short term wilderness programs like what James Patterson did a terrible job portraying in his book, Google “Second Nature abuse”. I personally know two girls who went through the program at Second Nature, and both are physically disabled now and still traumatized by it and other programs they were dumped in after that. Most kids don’t go straight home after those short term wilderness programs. They usually are dumped into a long term wilderness program or a long term indoor program after they complete the short term wilderness program, and that was true for both of my friends. The sad truth is that if you graduate one of the long term programs, you still might get sent to another program instead of going home, especially if you are a foster kid or your parents dumped you in there to get rid of you or because they don’t feel like being parents. The kids that did go home were often a shell of themselves after they got home, often went through worse abuse at home than they left, since programs often give parents instructions for home which are abusive, and a lot of kids try to appear okay until they can get themselves out of that abusive home after they turn 18. Sometimes kids end up in psych wards repeatedly after they get home or get sent to other programs, because that stuff is normalized and they learn that doing crazy stuff to get institutionalized is how they earn the love they never felt at home. Also, after being institutionalized for years (it took 18-24 months for most kids to graduate the two programs I was dumped in), kids don’t know how to function in the real world. Kids who get out by aging out end up having to face adulthood completely unprepared and have to learn a lot of life skills alone without help. That often ends badly for a lot of those kids who age out at 18 and enter the adult world abruptly. A lot of troubled teen industry survivors end up homeless as adults.
What James Patterson wrote about was more like a Disney version of a troubled teen program. Just like Disney’s Mary Poppins movie was clearly meant to be like the original books by P.L. Travers but ended up being very different from the books (Mary Poppins was waaaay too nice in the movie, there were only two kids instead of four, etc…), Save Rafe showed something that was clearly meant to be like a wilderness troubled teen industry program but it ended up being very different than the real thing (too nice, less abuse, shorter timeframe, etc…). I mean, if you’re going to be that unrealistic, why not add unicorns farting rainbows and glitter?! It’s insulting to those of us who have actually lived through the abuse in troubled teen industry programs and are still picking up the pieces of our lives that were broken in there.