How to Stop Being Toxic: Quit Manipulative Behaviors, Avoid Hurting the People You Love, and Start Healthy Relationships

by Tom Stokes

Are you ready to quit manipulative habits, avoid hurting those close to you and embark on a journey towards healthier relationships? Are you tired of strained relationships, recurring misunderstandings and feelings of regret, yet you don't know how to break the cycle? Have your loved ones suggested a change in your behavior, but you're not sure where to start? Does any of these situations sound familiar? - You've become a master at twisting words, exploiting emotions, and manipulating situations, but it only leaves you feeling empty and isolated. - Your toxicity has seeped into your personal relationships, causing tension, disagreements, and heartbreak. - The constant negativity is affecting your mental health, leading to anxiety, stress, and feelings of guilt and regret. - You're becoming the person you swore you'd never impatient, controlling, and harsh. - Loved ones have started keeping their distance, wary of your unpredictability and hostile behavior. - You're struggling to express your feelings in a non-destructive way, leading to misunderstandings and resentment. - The mere thought of confrontation or admitting fault sends you spiraling into a defensive mode. - You have the tendency to blame others for your shortcomings, creating a vicious cycle of blame and guilt. Imagine for a second, what if you could… - Replace the toxic behaviors with effective communication skills, creating fulfilling relationships filled with trust and understanding. - Learn how to be accountable for your actions and express your feelings constructively. - Understand the root of your toxic behaviors, enabling you to nip them in the bud. - Develop emotional intelligence to better understand yourself and the feelings of those around you. - Gain respect from your loved ones as they notice your transformation into a more compassionate individual. - Find peace within yourself, replacing guilt and regret with self-love and acceptance. - Discover a newfound freedom in expressing your feelings without the fear of hurting others. - Rebuild the bridges burned by toxicity, strengthening relationships with empathy and understanding. Here's a little sneak preview of what you’ll - Discover the TRUE origin of your toxic behavior and ways to overcome it. - Insightful guidance on transitioning from manipulative habits to constructive ones . - Master the art of healthy LISTEN more, HURT less. - Become an expert in emotional intelligence : Understand, Empathize, and Connect. - How to make APOLOGIES that are sincere and healing. - Crucial tips to avoid RELAPSE into old toxic patterns. - Learn to practice PATIENCE and stay CALM during conflicts. - Say GOODBYE to blame games and hello to ACCOUNTABILITY. - Effective strategies to rebuild TRUST in damaged relationships. - A step-by-step guide to foster SELF-LOVE and self-improvement. It's time for a change. It's time to drop the venom, to untangle the web of toxicity, and step into a life of healthier, more meaningful relationships. This book is not just a guide, it's a lifeline to a brighter, more positive, less toxic future. Grab it with both hands, hold on tight, and be ready to transform your world. Dare to shed the toxic skin and let the new, healthier you shine through.

Genres: Self Help, Relationships, Audiobook

126 pages, Paperback

Published July 6, 2023

Reviews

[Ariel Demo · Rating 1 out of 5]

As my sister often says, “this would slap if I was an idiot.” This book was like listening to a teenager ramble on about things that sound like facts but with no significant information to back it up. Every single trope you’ve ever heard about mental health is chopped up into very digestible, completely obvious, and overly simplified tidbits. Books like these give self-help books a bad name. The only thing this read taught me about toxicity is that I need to reevaluate my friendship with the toxic person who suggested this terrible book to me and how they owe me 2.5 hours of my life back.

[Alec Guevara · Rating 4 out of 5]

When I first picked this book up, I read a negative review on this app. I mean the review really attempted to make this book seem like a waste of time. I’m glad I didn’t let that deter me from reading this book. I don’t believe this book to be the “one stop shop,” but I do believe it to be an amazing start. For me personally, this book made a lot of parallels to my life, relationships, and conversations (with myself and others). I learned a lot about myself (good and very bad) because of the thought provoking text. Am I no longer toxic? I don’t believe so. Am I taking a massive leap in the right direction, I would say yes. I encourage anyone struggling in life right now to pick this book up. You may learn about yourself, you may learn some approaches to battling conflict, you may be able to change how you receive and process information, and you may learn that your way of doing things hasn’t been too conducive to success and happiness. I know I did.

[Hannah Grace Whitmill · Rating 3 out of 5]

I read this book mainly out of curiosity but I ended up learning a lot more than I anticipated. I don't typically read self-help books but I've been wanting to read more and with some stuff that's been going on in my life I thought this one would be a good place to start. 3.5/5 stars. It probably would have been more but the author had two sections randomly placed in the book dedicated to leaving a review on amazon.

[Renae Richardson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Finding this book was a blessing. As soon as I started reading, I couldn't put it down. Unhealthy behaviors had destroyed my marriage, and I spent countless days and nights trying to figure out where things went wrong. I lacked introspection and awareness of toxic patterns in myself and others. I didn't even know where to begin to understand why my once-strong and cherished relationship fell apart.

This book felt like it was written specifically for me. Every sentence and chapter mirrored my experiences with my partner. The profound resonance of this book stirred a mix of regret for not finding it earlier and gratitude for its timely arrival, igniting a journey of self-discovery and reflection.
While this book arrived in my life too late to save my marriage, it's never too late to focus on self-improvement.

My personal experiences have given me a deeper understanding of the challenges of marriage and how to cultivate a lasting relationship. This book is an invaluable resource, and if I ever had the chance to recommend it to others going through similar struggles, I would do so without hesitation.

[Tara · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5 stars 🌟 🌟🌟

"Because emotional resilience is not built in a day, it is built daily"

This book does a great job of calling out and identifying toxic behaviors, but solutions to it are to essentially just stop. He mentions tools like yoga, breathing, and Journaling - all tools i am already using.

I could see this book being more helpful to someone who is maybe JUST starting their personal development journey, and may need help identifying what their toxic behaviors are and how they affect a relationship.

I like the overall positive vibe of this book. It's not embarrassing to take accountability and live a less toxic life.

[Linda Drawbaugh · Rating 5 out of 5]

After being in recovery for almost 7 yrs, I finally found the book to help me understand my flaws of narcissistic behaviors in which I learned through growing up. It teaches you to just stop and be a good listener instead of taking over conversations and turning them into a toxic atmosphere. I suggest reading this book for anyone that's been in a drug or alcohol program. It's a huge number 1 tool along with a sponsor.. it was the perfect read for helping me be a better person..

[Natalie Riddell · Rating 2 out of 5]

Actual rating - 2.5 ⭐️

This is the first self help book I’ve ever finished and though it was insightful I feel that the book was just so repetitive, I understand that to heal and grow it is a repetitive process but I can’t help but grow bored so quickly. I was hoping to start reading self help books to help me manage my emotions but I’m not sure they’re for me.

[Jennifer Nieves · Rating 4 out of 5]

The world needs better humans. This book gives simple yet effective reminders to care for yourself first in order to show up in better ways for those you care about. Listen, slow down, and understand.

[Kirsten Audiobook Addict · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some really helpful advice on how to navigate toxic relationships. But also, eye opening on some personal toxic traits you may have overlooked

[Lysha Li · Rating 2 out of 5]

A few nuggets but overall very drab. Maybe better reading vs audio.

[Ajw · Rating 2 out of 5]

Might be good for young people. I found a few nuggets but felt actionable steps were thin.

[Andrew Hosbach · Rating 2 out of 5]

Very surface level content that is repeated throughout the book. There were a couple thought provoking ideas that were of worth and the message is important, but the execution was lacking.

[Nick Ciliberti · Rating 5 out of 5]

Definitely has a lot of good pointers regarding negativity and how to retrain your brain. Definitely recommend listening to it on audio.

[Charlotte Swift · Rating 3 out of 5]

The name of this book will put so many people off as it also about how to deal with toxic behaviours, but that is missed in this title

[Jordyn · Rating 2 out of 5]

it was an okay read. I can imagine if you're just starting in self help it might be useful but for someone who has made any progress in their healing journey it's kinda saying a whole lot of nothing.