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如果內心是一個房間：決定誰能住進你心裡，就能形塑你最想要的人生樣貌
《成功長青》作者、人類潛能開發大師再次揭露「卓越」的奧祕，
從「整頓人際圈」開始，讓你的人生從A到A+！
有時候，我們明明已經夠努力，生活還是一團混亂，好像每天都有解決不完的新危機。要處理的人太多、東西太多，必須做的事太多，時間又太少——你希望有所改變，卻對身邊既存的人際問題一點辦法也沒有，只能放任日子充滿無法控制的噪音和鬧劇，壓得人喘不過氣。
如果說，有一個簡單的練習可以帶來力量，而且已經讓成千上萬的生命徹底改變了呢？
✓如果內心是一個房間，你得考慮什麼……
先請你想像一下：你的內心是一個房間，你的一生都在裡面度過，裡面都是人。你和這些人有什麼關係呢？房間無限大，而且你讓任何人進來以後，他就會永遠住在你的房間裡──根據神經學家研究，這樣的隱喻符合大腦真實情況的記憶與情感。不管房間裡的人是好是壞，永遠都會持續影響著你。
那麼，你該考慮的是，該讓哪些人住進你的房間？又該怎麼選擇？
✓如果內心是一個房間，你應該怎麼想像它……
我們的人際關係就是我們的人生，而且你早晚會成為你與之為伍的那種人。重要的是，各種人際關係的品質，不管是好是壞，都取決於你如何經營這些關係。本書要提供方法，讓你能夠清楚的、充滿勇氣的梳理生命中遇到的各段關係：
一、將內心的房間視覺化
選一個至少能夠有20分鐘不被打擾的安靜地點。眼睛閉上，放輕鬆，想像你的房間。這個房間只有一扇門，而且人們進來之後就不會離開。想像誰在你的房間裡，這些人離你近或遠？思考你跟每個人的關係並且寫下來。
二、讓房間裡的門房與櫃台理解你的價值觀
你的房間裡會有門房與櫃台，幫你處理房間裡的一團亂。描述你的門房與櫃台，愈詳細愈好。接著，列出你有共鳴的價值觀，與你的門房與櫃台溝通，這些價值觀就是誰能進入你的房間的門檻。當與你價值觀不符的人想進入房間，你必須學會說不。
三、用房間裡的各項工具，重拾你的自主權
看一看「房間裡的人物清單」，看一看這些人是否與你的價值觀真正一致。萬一房間裡有錯誤的人出現，可以善用各項工具清除有毒分子。
✓如果內心是一個房間，請定期打掃它……
人的一生非常長，人事物也不斷在變換，過去合拍的人事物，現在已經不適合，所以你的房間也需要定期清掃和消毒。也就是，移除一些人們帶來的有毒垃圾，例如，債務、衝突的價值觀、態度，尤其是你決定放下的任何包袱。這些人可能在架上的鎖箱裡，但他們所經之處留下一團混亂。
這時你可以再次運用「房間裡的人物清單」，提醒自己他們的存在，告訴你的櫃台該如何處理這些人。重新設定他們的位置與合理的界線。
從「整頓人際圈」開始，讓你的人生從A到A+！
有時候，我們明明已經夠努力，生活還是一團混亂，好像每天都有解決不完的新危機。要處理的人太多、東西太多，必須做的事太多，時間又太少——你希望有所改變，卻對身邊既存的人際問題一點辦法也沒有，只能放任日子充滿無法控制的噪音和鬧劇，壓得人喘不過氣。
如果說，有一個簡單的練習可以帶來力量，而且已經讓成千上萬的生命徹底改變了呢？
✓如果內心是一個房間，你得考慮什麼……
先請你想像一下：你的內心是一個房間，你的一生都在裡面度過，裡面都是人。你和這些人有什麼關係呢？房間無限大，而且你讓任何人進來以後，他就會永遠住在你的房間裡──根據神經學家研究，這樣的隱喻符合大腦真實情況的記憶與情感。不管房間裡的人是好是壞，永遠都會持續影響著你。
那麼，你該考慮的是，該讓哪些人住進你的房間？又該怎麼選擇？
✓如果內心是一個房間，你應該怎麼想像它……
我們的人際關係就是我們的人生，而且你早晚會成為你與之為伍的那種人。重要的是，各種人際關係的品質，不管是好是壞，都取決於你如何經營這些關係。本書要提供方法，讓你能夠清楚的、充滿勇氣的梳理生命中遇到的各段關係：
一、將內心的房間視覺化
選一個至少能夠有20分鐘不被打擾的安靜地點。眼睛閉上，放輕鬆，想像你的房間。這個房間只有一扇門，而且人們進來之後就不會離開。想像誰在你的房間裡，這些人離你近或遠？思考你跟每個人的關係並且寫下來。
二、讓房間裡的門房與櫃台理解你的價值觀
你的房間裡會有門房與櫃台，幫你處理房間裡的一團亂。描述你的門房與櫃台，愈詳細愈好。接著，列出你有共鳴的價值觀，與你的門房與櫃台溝通，這些價值觀就是誰能進入你的房間的門檻。當與你價值觀不符的人想進入房間，你必須學會說不。
三、用房間裡的各項工具，重拾你的自主權
看一看「房間裡的人物清單」，看一看這些人是否與你的價值觀真正一致。萬一房間裡有錯誤的人出現，可以善用各項工具清除有毒分子。
✓如果內心是一個房間，請定期打掃它……
人的一生非常長，人事物也不斷在變換，過去合拍的人事物，現在已經不適合，所以你的房間也需要定期清掃和消毒。也就是，移除一些人們帶來的有毒垃圾，例如，債務、衝突的價值觀、態度，尤其是你決定放下的任何包袱。這些人可能在架上的鎖箱裡，但他們所經之處留下一團混亂。
這時你可以再次運用「房間裡的人物清單」，提醒自己他們的存在，告訴你的櫃台該如何處理這些人。重新設定他們的位置與合理的界線。
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288 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2014
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March 7, 2025
I'd go 3.5 on this one.
It's usually the kind of book I dislike, the "trendy business managerial book of the month" sort that is sooo formulaic and sooo self-promoting and sooo full of overenthusiastic cliches. TBH, I can't even say why I checked it out of the library except that I found the title intriguing.
Surprisingly, it has some substance. I can't say I'm fully on board at all -- especially with the formulaic outline, self-promotion, or level of enthusiastic cliches usually only found at MLM recruitment meetings, but there is more than a grain of substance behind all that. The idea that your life is a room that has only one door with a big "No Exit" sign on it and that every single person you have ever let into your life is in that room forever ... well. That should give all of us pause for thought.
It's usually the kind of book I dislike, the "trendy business managerial book of the month" sort that is sooo formulaic and sooo self-promoting and sooo full of overenthusiastic cliches. TBH, I can't even say why I checked it out of the library except that I found the title intriguing.
Surprisingly, it has some substance. I can't say I'm fully on board at all -- especially with the formulaic outline, self-promotion, or level of enthusiastic cliches usually only found at MLM recruitment meetings, but there is more than a grain of substance behind all that. The idea that your life is a room that has only one door with a big "No Exit" sign on it and that every single person you have ever let into your life is in that room forever ... well. That should give all of us pause for thought.
May 12, 2015
Interesting concept and makes you think. It is an easy read but does have quite a few typos.
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October 27, 2024Highly recommend for anyone who is open to identifying who you surround yourself with and the impact they have on you and your life, so you can make better decisions on who you allow in. I've read both the 1st and 2nd editions. The 2nd edition had a lot of improvements and the philosophies made more sense (probably partly because it was my 2nd exposure to the concepts.)
I grew up believing I needed to love and be accepting of everybody. While this is true, the way in which we offer love to one person vs another, as well as how, when, and how much we allow them into our lives, should vary. Loving someone does not mean you have to let their destructive behaviors harm you.
You'll want to read and follow the exercises several times, as you've had certain behaviors you've developed over your lifetime and it takes work and intention to change them. As you do, your life will improve. As has been said by many experts, the people you surround yourself with will determine the trajectory of your life (rephrased in my own words).
I grew up believing I needed to love and be accepting of everybody. While this is true, the way in which we offer love to one person vs another, as well as how, when, and how much we allow them into our lives, should vary. Loving someone does not mean you have to let their destructive behaviors harm you.
You'll want to read and follow the exercises several times, as you've had certain behaviors you've developed over your lifetime and it takes work and intention to change them. As you do, your life will improve. As has been said by many experts, the people you surround yourself with will determine the trajectory of your life (rephrased in my own words).
March 24, 2024
Excellent Read
I read 50 business books a year and this stands out as the most memorable, meaningful and fulfilling that I’ve read all year.
It’s such a simple concept.
To paraphrase Jim Rohn we become the average of the people in our room.
Jim proposed three strategies to manage this:- sever your association with those toxic influences in your life; limit your association with others depending on circumstances; and expand your association with upbeat people.
‘What’s In Your Room’ shows you how to actually do this.
Thank you to the authors for sharing such a transformative concept.
I read 50 business books a year and this stands out as the most memorable, meaningful and fulfilling that I’ve read all year.
It’s such a simple concept.
To paraphrase Jim Rohn we become the average of the people in our room.
Jim proposed three strategies to manage this:- sever your association with those toxic influences in your life; limit your association with others depending on circumstances; and expand your association with upbeat people.
‘What’s In Your Room’ shows you how to actually do this.
Thank you to the authors for sharing such a transformative concept.
September 11, 2018
This was a very interesting book. It discusses the idea of “Who’s in your room?” Basically that the quality of your life depends on the people that you allow into your life. This was a business networking book but has far reaching connection in many other areas of life.
January 28, 2019
Important lessons right there. Get a hold of your room!
March 11, 2023
This is an exercise book for you to take control of your life using the analogy of a brain room with a doorkeeper and concierge to maintain the room and keep dealbreakers and anchors out while making room for dealmakers and engines.
You can’t undo the past, but you can curate your room to build a better future.
Seek harmony not balance and wherever you are, be there.
You can’t undo the past, but you can curate your room to build a better future.
Seek harmony not balance and wherever you are, be there.
July 23, 2015
Very dry read, but some good points
April 11, 2016
As a recovering "yes" addict this book provided reinforcement and additional tools for me to use to created a life of peace and fulfilment true to my values.
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