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Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage
What are you agreeing to when you say “I do”? When a couple promises “I do,” they agree to more than just a shared last name, a joint bank account, and no more dateless nights. This husband and wife duo forms a new team. “Life together” becomes their mantra. Nothing can come between them. At least, that’s the plan. But then real life sets in, bringing with it disappointments and frustrations. If the couple isn’t intentional in their day-to-day interactions, that once enthusiastic “we” can slowly revert to “you” and “me.” Before long, the couple’s left wondering what happened to their team spirit. Team Us offers couples practical ways to cultivate and strengthen unity in their marriages. Author Ashleigh Slater shares from her own marriage as she presents couples with realistic ideas on how to foster cooperation, deepen commitment, and exercise grace on a daily basis.
176 pages, Paperback
First published June 1, 2014
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Ashleigh Slater
4 books21 followersAshleigh Slater is the author of the books, "Braving Sorrow Together: The Transformative Power of Faith and Community When Life Is Hard" and "Team Us: The Unifying Power of Grace, Commitment, and Cooperation in Marriage." She loves to combine the power of a good story with practical application to encourage and inspire readers. To learn more, visit AshleighSlater.com.
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May 19, 2014
I love Ashleigh's writing style! Her book is so easy to read and she peppers each chapter with anecdotes that kept me nodding along, laughing or crying as I related to her. Her marital wisdom, experiences, and advice are sound and she comes from the perspective of someone who has "been there and experienced that" so that the reader resonates with her story. Not only does Ashleigh come across as approachable in her book, but her advice is scripture-based. She shares hers and her husband Ted's weaknesses and strengths in order to encourage others who may have the same. I found Team Us: Marriage Together to be a very refreshing and enjoyable read. Some chapters made me laugh and others made me cry, but all chapters spoke to me and encouraged me in my own marriage. I definitely recommend this book!
July 8, 2015
It was a delight to have dinner with Ashleigh Slater and her husband Ted last year at a conference we all attended. It was fun to get to know them and learn how this book came about. We laughed a lot; conversation was easy because we had so much in common. I was thankful for the review copy of a book that allowed me to learn more about this interesting, enjoyable couple; and how they became and are staying a team in marriage.
We recently watched, Family Man with Nicholas Cate and Elizabeth Tea Leoni. There was a tender, gut wrenching scene at the airport where Elizabeth says to Nicholas Cate (who is about to board a plan to Europe for a year), “Forget leaving and going with the plan – I don’t know what it will look like but I choose Us!” This book gives insight into choosing and becoming Team Us!
Gary Chapman says in the forward, “Real life is not always pleasant. Every marriage experiences disappointments’, misunderstandings, sickness, and financial trials. Ashleigh does not camouflage the pain in her own marriage. What she does is offer practical ideas on how to walk through the difficulties and find intimacy in the journey. If you are anything like me, I predict that as you read you too will find yourself laughing, wiping tears and saying “Oh, yes.”
Our society spends so much time, effort and money on helping couples get just the right venue for their wedding, people spend months researching, and planning to achieve the perfect wedding event. Problem! After the wedding there is a marriage. What do they do then?
There are not too many books out there on how to build a team in marriage, deal with conflict (in a healthy way) and how to get to know one another before you’re married and after etc. All these things are discussed in this fun and witty book Ashleigh Slater wrote. I liked how her husband Ted pops in and gives his side of how he feels about the topic or situation. This couple shares their journey in a real, transparent way. I liked their sense of humor too! It made for an entertaining, helpful and interesting read. I also liked the fact that Ashleigh included other couples stories in her book to emphasize a point and/or situation. I highly recommend this book for engaged couples and married ones. It’s never too late to learn and grow together.
I whole heartily agree with what Kirk Cameron, actor/film producer said about Team Us: “Is your marriage a team effort? ….If you’ve lost some of the “us-ness you had when you first got married, Team Us: Marriage Together is a book you need to read. If you want to fire up the togetherness in your relationship, build oneness, and live with a “Team Us” spirit, read Ashleigh’s book today! Her writing is transparent, engaging, funny and helpful. This book will fill you with the practical perspective you need to win in marriage. “
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We recently watched, Family Man with Nicholas Cate and Elizabeth Tea Leoni. There was a tender, gut wrenching scene at the airport where Elizabeth says to Nicholas Cate (who is about to board a plan to Europe for a year), “Forget leaving and going with the plan – I don’t know what it will look like but I choose Us!” This book gives insight into choosing and becoming Team Us!
Gary Chapman says in the forward, “Real life is not always pleasant. Every marriage experiences disappointments’, misunderstandings, sickness, and financial trials. Ashleigh does not camouflage the pain in her own marriage. What she does is offer practical ideas on how to walk through the difficulties and find intimacy in the journey. If you are anything like me, I predict that as you read you too will find yourself laughing, wiping tears and saying “Oh, yes.”
Our society spends so much time, effort and money on helping couples get just the right venue for their wedding, people spend months researching, and planning to achieve the perfect wedding event. Problem! After the wedding there is a marriage. What do they do then?
There are not too many books out there on how to build a team in marriage, deal with conflict (in a healthy way) and how to get to know one another before you’re married and after etc. All these things are discussed in this fun and witty book Ashleigh Slater wrote. I liked how her husband Ted pops in and gives his side of how he feels about the topic or situation. This couple shares their journey in a real, transparent way. I liked their sense of humor too! It made for an entertaining, helpful and interesting read. I also liked the fact that Ashleigh included other couples stories in her book to emphasize a point and/or situation. I highly recommend this book for engaged couples and married ones. It’s never too late to learn and grow together.
I whole heartily agree with what Kirk Cameron, actor/film producer said about Team Us: “Is your marriage a team effort? ….If you’ve lost some of the “us-ness you had when you first got married, Team Us: Marriage Together is a book you need to read. If you want to fire up the togetherness in your relationship, build oneness, and live with a “Team Us” spirit, read Ashleigh’s book today! Her writing is transparent, engaging, funny and helpful. This book will fill you with the practical perspective you need to win in marriage. “
Disclosure of Material Connection: #AD Sponsored by publisher.
I received a complimentary copy of this book from the author. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising”
Nora St. Laurent
TBCN Where Book Fun Begins! www.bookfun.org
The Book Club Network blog www.psalm516.blogspot.com
Book Fun Magazine www.bookfunmagazine.com
May 20, 2014
I can honestly say I’ve never heard marriage compared to the sport of curling, also called “chess on ice.” But that’s exactly what author Ashleigh Slater compares marriage to in her book, Team Us: Marriage Together. She says, “Just like curling, marriage is a team effort that can thrive when approached with strategy, intentionality, and lots of sweeping.”
She goes on to say, “Whether it’s in curling or marriage unity flourishes when members of a team focus on and play to each other’s strengths, not weaknesses.” Throughout the book, Slater aims to help couples do just that, and to work toward recapturing a sense of teamwork in marriage. She combines biblical advice, practical helps, personal stories, and the stories of other couples in this humorous and yet poignant look at the marriage partnership. Slater’s husband Ted even chimes in here and there throughout the book helping readers see the couple really does practice what they preach—they approach marriage as a team.
Ideally, Slater hopes husbands and wives will read the book together and work through the “Us Time” discussion questions at the end of each chapter. At the very least, she hopes couples will read the book separately but then come together to discuss it.
It’s obvious from the stories in the book that Slater doesn’t sugarcoat things. While she includes stories of happy times, she also deals with the realities of life, including miscarriage, misunderstandings, and unemployment. Certainly, Slater approaches the topic of marriage partnership with honesty, sincerity and authenticity. And while the book is full of stories and humorous references to The Princess Bride, The Night at the Museum, and even I Love Lucy, perhaps the best parts are the practical, how-to steps in many chapters. Here are just a few examples:
• In chapter two, Slater outlines four practical ways to practice patience for the old while working on the new.
• Chapter five includes four guiding principles for admitting weaknesses and letting go of grudges.
• Tips for parenting as a team round out chapter eight.
I found several other sections practical and helpful, including the tips on handling conflict and the communication sandwich—using praise and affirmation to sandwich criticism.
Whether you’re just starting out in marriage or you’ve been in this thing for a while, you’ll find tips and ideas for strengthening Team Us and growing together in Christ. I highly recommend this book for couples to read together.
About the Author
Ashleigh Slater is a writer and editor passionate about seeing marriages at every stage thrive. As the founder and editor of the popular webzine Ungrind and a regular contributor at Start Marriage Right and www.iBelieve.com, The Time-Warp Wife, and For the Family, she unites the power of a good story with biblical truth and practical application to encourage couples. She has almost 20 years of writing experience and a master's degree in communication. Ashleigh and her husband, Ted, have been married for more than a decade. They have four daughters and reside in Atlanta, Georgia. To learn more, visit www.AshleighSlater.com.
* I received a copy of the book from NetGalley for this honest review.
She goes on to say, “Whether it’s in curling or marriage unity flourishes when members of a team focus on and play to each other’s strengths, not weaknesses.” Throughout the book, Slater aims to help couples do just that, and to work toward recapturing a sense of teamwork in marriage. She combines biblical advice, practical helps, personal stories, and the stories of other couples in this humorous and yet poignant look at the marriage partnership. Slater’s husband Ted even chimes in here and there throughout the book helping readers see the couple really does practice what they preach—they approach marriage as a team.
Ideally, Slater hopes husbands and wives will read the book together and work through the “Us Time” discussion questions at the end of each chapter. At the very least, she hopes couples will read the book separately but then come together to discuss it.
It’s obvious from the stories in the book that Slater doesn’t sugarcoat things. While she includes stories of happy times, she also deals with the realities of life, including miscarriage, misunderstandings, and unemployment. Certainly, Slater approaches the topic of marriage partnership with honesty, sincerity and authenticity. And while the book is full of stories and humorous references to The Princess Bride, The Night at the Museum, and even I Love Lucy, perhaps the best parts are the practical, how-to steps in many chapters. Here are just a few examples:
• In chapter two, Slater outlines four practical ways to practice patience for the old while working on the new.
• Chapter five includes four guiding principles for admitting weaknesses and letting go of grudges.
• Tips for parenting as a team round out chapter eight.
I found several other sections practical and helpful, including the tips on handling conflict and the communication sandwich—using praise and affirmation to sandwich criticism.
Whether you’re just starting out in marriage or you’ve been in this thing for a while, you’ll find tips and ideas for strengthening Team Us and growing together in Christ. I highly recommend this book for couples to read together.
About the Author
Ashleigh Slater is a writer and editor passionate about seeing marriages at every stage thrive. As the founder and editor of the popular webzine Ungrind and a regular contributor at Start Marriage Right and www.iBelieve.com, The Time-Warp Wife, and For the Family, she unites the power of a good story with biblical truth and practical application to encourage couples. She has almost 20 years of writing experience and a master's degree in communication. Ashleigh and her husband, Ted, have been married for more than a decade. They have four daughters and reside in Atlanta, Georgia. To learn more, visit www.AshleighSlater.com.
* I received a copy of the book from NetGalley for this honest review.
June 9, 2014
Team Us: Marriage Together by Ashleigh Slater is a fun, how-to guide for the newly married and not so new but old married couples. Ashleigh takes her own experiences and those from friends to give guidance about issues like building up your spouse and relying on each other in hard times. Her husband Ted throws in his two cents from time to time as well, giving insight to how a situation affected him or Ashleigh's advice works in their marriage from his standpoint. Each chapter ends with discussion questions for you and your spouse which help put the advice given in the chapter into practice.
I was very impressed with Ashleigh's advice and her ability to relay it in such a way that it kept my attention. She's funny and it's obvious that "living lighthearted" is important to her. She blends some of her life lessons with things she learned from The Princess Bride, Lost, and I Love Lucy. The effect made the point or advice she was making come across a little easier for me as I could relate to those pop culture references just as easy as her real life experiences. I felt that for a newly married couple that may not have experienced some of what is discussed (like children, first big argument, etc) the pop culture references make it relatable to them as well.
I loved the "Ted Says" blurbs hat popped up at random throughout the book. Ashleigh's husband Ted gives a man's perspective to some of the advice Ashleigh gives and also gives insight to how a situation or shared experience affected him. It also serves to appeal to the husband who may read this book.
The discussion questions are hard. At least for my husband and I to answer they were. The questions make you consider day to day life, but also the harder situations like grief and how to rely on one another at that time. Like the books title, it truly makes you a team. The questions were relevant even to us at eight years of marriage, but I feel that they would stimulate a good working relationship with a newly married or soon to be married couple.
Overall, this marriage advice book is more than just that. It's a story about how two people raised differently come together as one, making a team and succeeding at it. It made me laugh out loud, cry at times, and had a profound influence on how I treat certain situations in my own marriage. I highly recommend it to anyone newly married or fifty years in, the questions raised are worth buying the book. What could it hurt, especially if it brings new life to your marriage.
I received a copy of this ebook from the publisher via Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.
I was very impressed with Ashleigh's advice and her ability to relay it in such a way that it kept my attention. She's funny and it's obvious that "living lighthearted" is important to her. She blends some of her life lessons with things she learned from The Princess Bride, Lost, and I Love Lucy. The effect made the point or advice she was making come across a little easier for me as I could relate to those pop culture references just as easy as her real life experiences. I felt that for a newly married couple that may not have experienced some of what is discussed (like children, first big argument, etc) the pop culture references make it relatable to them as well.
I loved the "Ted Says" blurbs hat popped up at random throughout the book. Ashleigh's husband Ted gives a man's perspective to some of the advice Ashleigh gives and also gives insight to how a situation or shared experience affected him. It also serves to appeal to the husband who may read this book.
The discussion questions are hard. At least for my husband and I to answer they were. The questions make you consider day to day life, but also the harder situations like grief and how to rely on one another at that time. Like the books title, it truly makes you a team. The questions were relevant even to us at eight years of marriage, but I feel that they would stimulate a good working relationship with a newly married or soon to be married couple.
Overall, this marriage advice book is more than just that. It's a story about how two people raised differently come together as one, making a team and succeeding at it. It made me laugh out loud, cry at times, and had a profound influence on how I treat certain situations in my own marriage. I highly recommend it to anyone newly married or fifty years in, the questions raised are worth buying the book. What could it hurt, especially if it brings new life to your marriage.
I received a copy of this ebook from the publisher via Netgalley in exchange for an honest review.
June 10, 2014
Wow. I've been married for 12 years and I like to think that we're doing lots of things right. We've made it through good times and bad. We've served alongside each other in ministry for over a decade. We parent well together, we laugh together, we love each other. But even after 12 years we have more than a little tug-of-war over whose calendar trumps whose and who is on dinner duty and whose career determines moves. Rather than operating as a team, we sort of take turns and try not to resent each other too much.
Team Us opened my eyes to what has been missing--togetherness. I learned communication strategies which I have NEVER head of, immediately implemented, and witnessed the effect as the argument dissipated. I have been able to recognize my own tendencies preventing us from being a team. More than that, I've referenced Team Us in marriage counseling three times in the past three weeks.
There is much to consider in the pages of this book. Ashleigh has done an excellent job of leading me through the journey of her marriage, learning from their mistakes, and ushering me into solutions that can be applied in my own life. I feel as though I've gotten to know both her and her husband, Ted, and have been inspired to implement some of their ideas that will affect not only my marriage--but the daily life of our family.
This book is a foundational book. It smooths and levels our relationship so that I am no longer trying to clamor up the ladder of life and beat my husband to the top. Instead, I'm choosing to walk hand in hand and enjoy him.
Thank you, Ashleigh. This debut book is rich with mature conversation--like having coffee with a mentor.
Team Us opened my eyes to what has been missing--togetherness. I learned communication strategies which I have NEVER head of, immediately implemented, and witnessed the effect as the argument dissipated. I have been able to recognize my own tendencies preventing us from being a team. More than that, I've referenced Team Us in marriage counseling three times in the past three weeks.
There is much to consider in the pages of this book. Ashleigh has done an excellent job of leading me through the journey of her marriage, learning from their mistakes, and ushering me into solutions that can be applied in my own life. I feel as though I've gotten to know both her and her husband, Ted, and have been inspired to implement some of their ideas that will affect not only my marriage--but the daily life of our family.
This book is a foundational book. It smooths and levels our relationship so that I am no longer trying to clamor up the ladder of life and beat my husband to the top. Instead, I'm choosing to walk hand in hand and enjoy him.
Thank you, Ashleigh. This debut book is rich with mature conversation--like having coffee with a mentor.
May 30, 2014
I really enjoyed this book. Ashleigh's writing is very conversational, I felt like I was sitting on a couch next to her talking about life and marriage. I appreciated the way she weaves story within her story to drive home the various points. There were sports stories, movies, snippets of characters from tv shows or books, and even other friends of hers sharing bits of their lives. All of these were woven together with a big hurrah for marriage.
The main point of the book was in approaching marriage as a team and keeping that focus during the hard times. We are fighting or playing for the same team. I have been married for almost 17 years and I took away quite a few things to tweak in my approach to marriage. It was very encouraging and although the topic of marriage is serious this book didn't feel heavy and condemning and overwhelming. It felt like a cheer and a pep talk with plays to finish out the game well. It didn't have the overwhelming list of a million things to change I have felt with many other marriage books I have read. This was a book filled with strategies and encouragement to love well and keep the end goal of together in sight. I enjoyed the questions at the end each chapter and need to go back through them with my husband. Ted's thoughts throughout the book were a nice added touch especially if a couple was reading this book together.
This would be a great book for couples and/or wedding shower gift. I also think it would make for a good book club book, sparking some great discussion.
The main point of the book was in approaching marriage as a team and keeping that focus during the hard times. We are fighting or playing for the same team. I have been married for almost 17 years and I took away quite a few things to tweak in my approach to marriage. It was very encouraging and although the topic of marriage is serious this book didn't feel heavy and condemning and overwhelming. It felt like a cheer and a pep talk with plays to finish out the game well. It didn't have the overwhelming list of a million things to change I have felt with many other marriage books I have read. This was a book filled with strategies and encouragement to love well and keep the end goal of together in sight. I enjoyed the questions at the end each chapter and need to go back through them with my husband. Ted's thoughts throughout the book were a nice added touch especially if a couple was reading this book together.
This would be a great book for couples and/or wedding shower gift. I also think it would make for a good book club book, sparking some great discussion.
June 13, 2014
Positive and purposeful communication is a key factor in this book about marriage by Ashleigh Slater. I loved the way the author presented her information which was both reasonable and biblical.Reasonable because it shows how as a team you can brain storm a problem and biblical because it provides biblical examples and scriptures.
The chapters were short, or did they just seem short because the author poured out her heart about her subject. She was also very transparent in talking about the good and bad times in her own marriage. She included stories from her friends marriages. Then she helped the reader relate to issues by providing discussion questions at the end of the chapters called “Us Time.” I felt like I could really trust this author, after all, we had many things in common – The Hunger Games, Cary Grant, Lost the TV series and homeschooling. This was a real person sharing real problems in marriages and how to fight back. I hope Ashleigh writes another book. The book also shares thoughts from Ashleigh’s husband Ted.
This book proves it is possible to have a successful marriage in a time when 40 to 50 percent of marriages in the United States end in divorce, according to the American Psychological
Association. Team us should be on every counselor’s bookshelf and in every home.
I was given a copy of this book from Moody Publishers through NetGalley in exchange for my honest opinion.
The chapters were short, or did they just seem short because the author poured out her heart about her subject. She was also very transparent in talking about the good and bad times in her own marriage. She included stories from her friends marriages. Then she helped the reader relate to issues by providing discussion questions at the end of the chapters called “Us Time.” I felt like I could really trust this author, after all, we had many things in common – The Hunger Games, Cary Grant, Lost the TV series and homeschooling. This was a real person sharing real problems in marriages and how to fight back. I hope Ashleigh writes another book. The book also shares thoughts from Ashleigh’s husband Ted.
This book proves it is possible to have a successful marriage in a time when 40 to 50 percent of marriages in the United States end in divorce, according to the American Psychological
Association. Team us should be on every counselor’s bookshelf and in every home.
I was given a copy of this book from Moody Publishers through NetGalley in exchange for my honest opinion.
May 24, 2014
Team Us: Marriage Together is challenging encouragement wrapped in light-hearted language.
Ashleigh Slater is a natural. Her writing voice is so conversational that reading Team Us is like having a lively and engaging chat with a friend over a chai latte at Panera. For that reason, I think a wide variety of people will enjoy and benefit from this book — young marrieds, and those with a lengthier track record; those who love to read, and those who rarely open a book. After all, who wouldn’t love a book with plentiful references to The Hunger Games, The Princess Bride, and even the Olympic sport of curling?
I particularly appreciated Ashleigh’s honesty and vulnerability as she recounts what she has deemed, “The Weeping Years.” She shares with raw testimony about a devastating miscarriage, and how she and her husband processed their grief differently. She also describes how they have endured several job losses, resulting in multiple cross-country moves and stretching tests of patience. Even as she struggled to wait while her husband sought the right job that would suit his gifts, Ashleigh was quick to point out, "The keys to our longevity are found in those moments we decide to assume the best of each other instead of the worst. In those times we offer grace, not irritation. On those days we offer grace, not irritation.”
Poignant advice for all.
Ashleigh Slater is a natural. Her writing voice is so conversational that reading Team Us is like having a lively and engaging chat with a friend over a chai latte at Panera. For that reason, I think a wide variety of people will enjoy and benefit from this book — young marrieds, and those with a lengthier track record; those who love to read, and those who rarely open a book. After all, who wouldn’t love a book with plentiful references to The Hunger Games, The Princess Bride, and even the Olympic sport of curling?
I particularly appreciated Ashleigh’s honesty and vulnerability as she recounts what she has deemed, “The Weeping Years.” She shares with raw testimony about a devastating miscarriage, and how she and her husband processed their grief differently. She also describes how they have endured several job losses, resulting in multiple cross-country moves and stretching tests of patience. Even as she struggled to wait while her husband sought the right job that would suit his gifts, Ashleigh was quick to point out, "The keys to our longevity are found in those moments we decide to assume the best of each other instead of the worst. In those times we offer grace, not irritation. On those days we offer grace, not irritation.”
Poignant advice for all.
September 19, 2015
Thank you to NetGalley and Moody Publishers for providing me with an Advanced Readers Copy of Team Us - Marriage Together by Ashleigh Slater.
Below is my unbiased review.
Ashleigh Slater has a gift for bringing the reader into her world. At once you feel like Ashleigh could be your best friend, older sister or trusted therapist. Her writing is open, honest, warm, witty and humorous. Her advice for maintaining and creating a successful marriage is an invaluable guide. The examples and lessons she offers are useful not only for marriage but constructive for friendships, parenting and career advancement. Like the author, I consider myself a spiritual individual and believe God is an important component in all relationships, however Ms. Slater's many references to" Jesus Christ, Our Lord and Savior" and multiple use of other quotes from the New Testament left me uneasy. At times the book became very preachy and bothered me. That being said, I still believe Team US will appeal to a vast majority of the population and countless couples will enjoy and benefit from this book.
Below is my unbiased review.
Ashleigh Slater has a gift for bringing the reader into her world. At once you feel like Ashleigh could be your best friend, older sister or trusted therapist. Her writing is open, honest, warm, witty and humorous. Her advice for maintaining and creating a successful marriage is an invaluable guide. The examples and lessons she offers are useful not only for marriage but constructive for friendships, parenting and career advancement. Like the author, I consider myself a spiritual individual and believe God is an important component in all relationships, however Ms. Slater's many references to" Jesus Christ, Our Lord and Savior" and multiple use of other quotes from the New Testament left me uneasy. At times the book became very preachy and bothered me. That being said, I still believe Team US will appeal to a vast majority of the population and countless couples will enjoy and benefit from this book.
May 22, 2014
If you think you have read everything there is about marriage and more, think again. Ashleigh, with the help of her husband, brings a fresh perspective to marriage that will entertain, inspire, and challenge you to take a new look at your marriage. Whether you are about to get married, a newlywed, or living in a seasoned marriage, you will find wisdom within the pages of the book that will bring life to your marriage in a way you never thought possible. I think this book is a must for those going through pre-marital counseling to go through together as a couple. That being said, I am in what I consider a beautiful and strong marriage, and I still found new ideas and things to consider that will bring even more life to our partnership in the coming years. You can read this book on your own, but you will get the most from it if you go through it as a couple and take advantage of the discussion questions at the end of each chapter.
May 29, 2014
I Loved this book! I usually read fiction, but got totally hooked on the author’s conversational style of writing! I came away with the same connected feeling with Ashleigh as I do when I sink into a fictional character. Making personal connections with everyday real life and the transparency into her marriage has really helped me to translate the suggestions from the pages to my own relationship with my husband. I have already recommended this book to several couples and will be including this as a wedding present in the near future for young couples. The team approach and sports analogies make it easy for men to relate. Highly recommend for newlyweds or those that have been in trenches together for many years!!
May 8, 2017
Finishing this book now, already with a plan to reread with my husband. Ashleigh writes about marriage with such a deep vulnerability, filling her chapters with personal stories of challenges that she and her husband have experienced, and how they've overcome them. This is a challenging and personal read. It has messed with the status quo of my marriage, pushing some buttons in areas in which I have weaknesses as a wife. Reading this book feels like I'm having dinner with a wise friend, willing to share her marriage story and intentionally encouraging me to strengthen mine.
April 30, 2014
This book is a must read for young married couples or those soon to be married. Ashleigh is very transparent in the common everyday struggles that come about when two lives become one shared life! It is not always easy, but with the right perspective it can be fun and rewarding. This book allows us to share in their story, the ups & downs, the laughter and the frustration, the beginnings of a treasured marriage as if we are sitting in a cafe having a chat over a cup of coffee.
May 27, 2014
This book quickly jumped to the very top of my favorites list. Ashleigh's ability to draw in the reader with her candor, passion, and vulnerability is second to none. She shares real-life stories that every couple can relate to, and offers practical solutions for strengthening and developing your marriage - no matter where you're at in marriage's journey! As a newly engaged couple, this book has truly blessed us and given us a lot to think about and work on. Definitely worth the read!!
May 28, 2014
It's called G.R.A.C.E!!! What would it do for our marriages if we truly grasped the concept of extending grace to our spouses? Ashleigh does a masterful job exploring this in her book Team Us. When conflicts arise, great or small, couples can explore even greater realms of intimacy by facing challenges HEAD ON rather than from opposing sides. Yes, Ashleigh. YES! You've done it. You've reminded us that together we are a FORCE! Inspiring. Challenging. Authentic. A MUST READ!
March 9, 2017
An excellent book on marriage! I love the honesty, the helpfulness, and, yes, the humor that is woven throughout this well-written book. Oh, and it might make you tear up a time or two as well - I know it did me. Highly recommended.
April 4, 2015
Book Review: Team Us ~ Marriage Together I received this book in exchange for an honest review from NetGalley.
This is a great book for engaged or married couples and for anyone who thinks they may want to get married some day. Ashleigh adds anecdotes from her marriage as well as some of her friends marriages throughout the book. She blends humor and wisdom very nicely which makes this book an enjoyable reading experience. Her husband Ted's views are also dispersed here and there throughout each chapter so you get a feel for his view on the topic at hand as well. At the end of each chapter there are sets of questions to ponder about your own marriage that pertain to the topic covered in that chapter. It is also worth noting that the author quotes from the Bible and relates them to marital and relationship situations.
The main focus of the book is teamwork. Marriage is a union and requires give and take. It also requires work. Working on romance, shared interests and communication skills. Ashleigh states in the book, "Perhaps marriage is a continual learning process."
"A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers." -Ruth Bell Graham
Below are some of my favorite quotes from the book that I feel are sound advice for any relationship.
"Not only have I spoken well of him, pointing out the ways I recognize and appreciate him, but I've also made it about me. I've focused on a "this is how I feel," rather than a "you did this" approach."
"I've realized that marriage doesn't require us to have all the same interests. In fact, I think it might get a bit boring if we did."
"Rather than fear disagreements he viewed them as an opportunity to improve our communication and deepen our trust in one another. How very mature of him."
"Like a squeeze of a sponge brings to the surface stuff that's soaked deep within, sometimes conflict brings to light stuff in our hearts---stuff that we might not otherwise see. For the sake of my heart, I want to keep my eyes wide open during these uncomfortable opportunities rather than avoid them." (Ted, Ashleigh's husband)
"An unburdened heart is one that's not weighed down by grudges."
"Often the best way to prevent grudges and unforgiveness is by stopping conflict before it even starts."
"Verbal affirmation. Truth is, Ted can't read my mind. While my actions may demonstrate that I support and appreciate him, he needs my words too."
"Words paired with action are simple yet powerful---especially when the going is a bit tough. And when you add dreaming to them, sometimes that's when mountains are moving."
"It's important that I'm purposeful in whom I bring into my confidence; that I'm intentional when I determine the friends I go to for counsel, advice, and prayer."
"You and your spouse need to decide what you are both comfortable with when it comes to confiding about your marriage to others."
"We don't live a fake Christian life in front of others and something else at home."
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This is a great book for engaged or married couples and for anyone who thinks they may want to get married some day. Ashleigh adds anecdotes from her marriage as well as some of her friends marriages throughout the book. She blends humor and wisdom very nicely which makes this book an enjoyable reading experience. Her husband Ted's views are also dispersed here and there throughout each chapter so you get a feel for his view on the topic at hand as well. At the end of each chapter there are sets of questions to ponder about your own marriage that pertain to the topic covered in that chapter. It is also worth noting that the author quotes from the Bible and relates them to marital and relationship situations.
The main focus of the book is teamwork. Marriage is a union and requires give and take. It also requires work. Working on romance, shared interests and communication skills. Ashleigh states in the book, "Perhaps marriage is a continual learning process."
"A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers." -Ruth Bell Graham
Below are some of my favorite quotes from the book that I feel are sound advice for any relationship.
"Not only have I spoken well of him, pointing out the ways I recognize and appreciate him, but I've also made it about me. I've focused on a "this is how I feel," rather than a "you did this" approach."
"I've realized that marriage doesn't require us to have all the same interests. In fact, I think it might get a bit boring if we did."
"Rather than fear disagreements he viewed them as an opportunity to improve our communication and deepen our trust in one another. How very mature of him."
"Like a squeeze of a sponge brings to the surface stuff that's soaked deep within, sometimes conflict brings to light stuff in our hearts---stuff that we might not otherwise see. For the sake of my heart, I want to keep my eyes wide open during these uncomfortable opportunities rather than avoid them." (Ted, Ashleigh's husband)
"An unburdened heart is one that's not weighed down by grudges."
"Often the best way to prevent grudges and unforgiveness is by stopping conflict before it even starts."
"Verbal affirmation. Truth is, Ted can't read my mind. While my actions may demonstrate that I support and appreciate him, he needs my words too."
"Words paired with action are simple yet powerful---especially when the going is a bit tough. And when you add dreaming to them, sometimes that's when mountains are moving."
"It's important that I'm purposeful in whom I bring into my confidence; that I'm intentional when I determine the friends I go to for counsel, advice, and prayer."
"You and your spouse need to decide what you are both comfortable with when it comes to confiding about your marriage to others."
"We don't live a fake Christian life in front of others and something else at home."
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January 29, 2015
There were some good parts to this book - some good pieces of advice. I loved the curling analogy. The personal stories were interesting, and I did enjoy hearing from Ted in the book. I certainly didn't enjoy receiving a personal email from him attacking my opinion as expressed in my original review.
The thing I really disliked was Ashleigh's idea of "payback." As in, Ted "made" her sit through THE BLACK HOLE, so she made him sit through a Cary Grant movie or two...or three - as payback. I'm sorry, but that's just wrong. If you have different tastes or interests, you don't force the other person to get into them...and you certainly don't use it as blackmail or a manipulation tool to get what you want later on. Marriage isn't about "payback."
Also, I would have liked to see a section on how to deal with meddling (and sometimes completely hostile) in-laws. But I get the sense that both Ted and Ashleigh come from very loving, supportive families - which is great for them, but it's not the reality for most of us. There's a hole there that I think needs to be filled.
Another thing that bothered me about this book was the ongoing "lament of the rich white girl." I couldn't relate well to it. My husband and I have experienced many of the same things Ashleigh and Ted have faced - we've suffered miscarriage and job loss. But we stuck everything out together without questioning. There was no blaming or shaming. Life happens, and you deal with it, and then you move on. You don't end the most important human relationship you'll ever have just because of a few setbacks. That's a no-brainer.
I don't know. I'm sure this book could be helpful to some people, but it's not really for me (maybe because I'm already in a good "team" marriage?). I can imagine it would be an excellent gift for a young newly married couple or a recently engaged couple...just to give them a sense of what might be in store for them later on. Give them some things to think about and time to plan their responses to the difficulties they might face in their marriages. But marriage isn't a one-size-fits-all. Other couples may experience different trials, but they have to be committed to working through these trials together (indeed, if they're not willing to commit to this, they shouldn't get married in the first place). So, I agree wholeheartedly with the premise of this book, but I found the execution to be severely lacking.
***I received a free review copy of this book from Propeller Consulting/FlyBy Promotions in exchange for an honest review.*** I was not aware, at the time I accepted this assignment, that I would be attacked for writing said honest review.
**** Disclaimer: I do not know Ashleigh personally. I make no presumptions concerning her character, and I mean her no harm.****
The thing I really disliked was Ashleigh's idea of "payback." As in, Ted "made" her sit through THE BLACK HOLE, so she made him sit through a Cary Grant movie or two...or three - as payback. I'm sorry, but that's just wrong. If you have different tastes or interests, you don't force the other person to get into them...and you certainly don't use it as blackmail or a manipulation tool to get what you want later on. Marriage isn't about "payback."
Also, I would have liked to see a section on how to deal with meddling (and sometimes completely hostile) in-laws. But I get the sense that both Ted and Ashleigh come from very loving, supportive families - which is great for them, but it's not the reality for most of us. There's a hole there that I think needs to be filled.
Another thing that bothered me about this book was the ongoing "lament of the rich white girl." I couldn't relate well to it. My husband and I have experienced many of the same things Ashleigh and Ted have faced - we've suffered miscarriage and job loss. But we stuck everything out together without questioning. There was no blaming or shaming. Life happens, and you deal with it, and then you move on. You don't end the most important human relationship you'll ever have just because of a few setbacks. That's a no-brainer.
I don't know. I'm sure this book could be helpful to some people, but it's not really for me (maybe because I'm already in a good "team" marriage?). I can imagine it would be an excellent gift for a young newly married couple or a recently engaged couple...just to give them a sense of what might be in store for them later on. Give them some things to think about and time to plan their responses to the difficulties they might face in their marriages. But marriage isn't a one-size-fits-all. Other couples may experience different trials, but they have to be committed to working through these trials together (indeed, if they're not willing to commit to this, they shouldn't get married in the first place). So, I agree wholeheartedly with the premise of this book, but I found the execution to be severely lacking.
***I received a free review copy of this book from Propeller Consulting/FlyBy Promotions in exchange for an honest review.*** I was not aware, at the time I accepted this assignment, that I would be attacked for writing said honest review.
**** Disclaimer: I do not know Ashleigh personally. I make no presumptions concerning her character, and I mean her no harm.****
September 21, 2014
Marriage is such an important topic for the single, the dating, the engaged, the married, or the divorced – unsurprisingly so, as it is a fundamental building block of society that helps order the community. And since marriage starts way before we meet that special someone, and since we don’t have to be married to contribute to the strengthening of other marriages, we can all contribute to challenging the predominant societal beliefs about marriage, some of which are amazing, and some of which are anything but.
Ashleigh Slater’s contribution to the discussion, Team Us: Marriage Together, seeks to explore what couples are agreeing on when they say, “I do.” It is, of course, a lot more than agreeing to live together, having a joint bank account and a permanent date to all social events. Slater understands marriage as a team that together tries to build a home in which Christian values abound. Being composed of two imperfect spouses, a marriage cannot but run into disappointments, complications, and frustrations, which can be avoided, according to Slater, by being “intentional” in day-to-day interactions, without which the “we” reverts to “you and I.”
Based on her personal experience with marriage and her personal learning, Team Us is a collection of reflections by Slater with practical suggestions and ideas on how to foster cooperation, deepen commitment, and exercise grace on a daily basis. And while the ideas are good, and the suggestions are, indeed, practical, there is a hint of triumphalism that can turn readers off this book quite easily. Personal experience is presented as proof, rather than as one potential solution. It takes time and effort to get over the triumphalism, which does require extra mental effort. Once I got over it, I was able to appreciate the anecdotes and the advice.
One of the strong points of the book is that although a Christian book, individuals of all religious beliefs can benefit from the advice. If you don’t believe in God, in the Station of Jesus Christ, or in the Bible, there are a few parts you might skip. The way Slater writes makes it seem like you are sitting at a kitchen table with a mug of hot cocoa, getting advice about marriage. The sometimes superior tone is balanced out by the fact that Slater has used her personal experience to deepen her understand of what a Christian marriage can look like.
There are no magical formulas (is there even such a thing?) or particularly unique insights offered, but the advice offered throughout this book is a good source material for common advice given to married couples that, presented in a simple language, could be a great tool to reflect on your own marriage.
Ashleigh Slater’s contribution to the discussion, Team Us: Marriage Together, seeks to explore what couples are agreeing on when they say, “I do.” It is, of course, a lot more than agreeing to live together, having a joint bank account and a permanent date to all social events. Slater understands marriage as a team that together tries to build a home in which Christian values abound. Being composed of two imperfect spouses, a marriage cannot but run into disappointments, complications, and frustrations, which can be avoided, according to Slater, by being “intentional” in day-to-day interactions, without which the “we” reverts to “you and I.”
Based on her personal experience with marriage and her personal learning, Team Us is a collection of reflections by Slater with practical suggestions and ideas on how to foster cooperation, deepen commitment, and exercise grace on a daily basis. And while the ideas are good, and the suggestions are, indeed, practical, there is a hint of triumphalism that can turn readers off this book quite easily. Personal experience is presented as proof, rather than as one potential solution. It takes time and effort to get over the triumphalism, which does require extra mental effort. Once I got over it, I was able to appreciate the anecdotes and the advice.
One of the strong points of the book is that although a Christian book, individuals of all religious beliefs can benefit from the advice. If you don’t believe in God, in the Station of Jesus Christ, or in the Bible, there are a few parts you might skip. The way Slater writes makes it seem like you are sitting at a kitchen table with a mug of hot cocoa, getting advice about marriage. The sometimes superior tone is balanced out by the fact that Slater has used her personal experience to deepen her understand of what a Christian marriage can look like.
There are no magical formulas (is there even such a thing?) or particularly unique insights offered, but the advice offered throughout this book is a good source material for common advice given to married couples that, presented in a simple language, could be a great tool to reflect on your own marriage.
February 10, 2015
Reading Team Us: Marriage Together is a lot like listening to a friend dispel marriage advice; however, this friend (i.e. author) also has specialized training in communication. She offers very real advice based on vignettes from her own marriage and that of close relatives and friends. This approach results in the relaying of several entertaining if occasionally bizarre analogies. For example, I’ve never before seen marriage compared to the sport of curling. She offers encouragement for those striving to keep a happy married life as a team when the expectations of husband and/or wife do not match marital reality. Covering topics such as scheduling conflicts, economic hardship, parenting dilemmas, and diverse individual needs, Slater commiserates with the challenges of marriage.
The book is strongly Christian in orientation with multiple references to scripture. The author and her husband met in bible study. Each chapter ends in “Us Time,” a collection of questions geared towards helping husbands and wives open up and discuss potential threats to lifelong contentment. Several of the author’s personal stories are emotionally charged, well written, and honest. Writing so bluntly about your own life in the hopes of helping others takes a lot of guts and for that I applaud her.
Reasons to Read: Team Us is a great choice for Christian readers looking to spend some time reflecting on their own marriage through the lens of a young marriage veteran. The language use is laid back and easy to digest and presents viewpoints from both the female author and her husband. The book is not overly technical or research based. The tone is very conversational and relaxed. This book is probably best suited for newly married, and young married couples, simply based on the author’s season of life.
Reasons to Pass: There are some potential emotional triggers for those sensitive to miscarriage and adultery. This book is extremely Christian up to and including the description of a possible demon encounter, which is pretty hard core even for me. The book offers marriage guidance, but is not intended to be used in place of a counselor. If you are looking for step by step methods to save a distressed marriage, this book alone is not sufficient to fill that need.
The book is strongly Christian in orientation with multiple references to scripture. The author and her husband met in bible study. Each chapter ends in “Us Time,” a collection of questions geared towards helping husbands and wives open up and discuss potential threats to lifelong contentment. Several of the author’s personal stories are emotionally charged, well written, and honest. Writing so bluntly about your own life in the hopes of helping others takes a lot of guts and for that I applaud her.
Reasons to Read: Team Us is a great choice for Christian readers looking to spend some time reflecting on their own marriage through the lens of a young marriage veteran. The language use is laid back and easy to digest and presents viewpoints from both the female author and her husband. The book is not overly technical or research based. The tone is very conversational and relaxed. This book is probably best suited for newly married, and young married couples, simply based on the author’s season of life.
Reasons to Pass: There are some potential emotional triggers for those sensitive to miscarriage and adultery. This book is extremely Christian up to and including the description of a possible demon encounter, which is pretty hard core even for me. The book offers marriage guidance, but is not intended to be used in place of a counselor. If you are looking for step by step methods to save a distressed marriage, this book alone is not sufficient to fill that need.
February 22, 2015
In Team Us, Ashleigh Slater shared the importance of striving to have a marriage that is focused on unity and centered on Jesus and His teachings. Ashleigh and her husband, Ted have been married for eleven years. She strongly believes that husband and wife should be on the same team and they must work hard on fighting to keep their marriage together. She begins the book by looking at the first couple in the Bible, Adam and Eve. God stated that it isn’t good for man to be alone and He meant for us to have a God ordained marriage and be united and committed to our spouse. When sin entered the picture it changed everything and it has become much more difficult to stay together under a marriage covenant. Throughout the book, she explains key principles to help you strengthened your marriage.
I would recommend this life changing book to every marriage couple, newly wed, recently engaged, and single people wanting to prepare for their future marriage. I’m currently single and not married and this book taught me a lot about marriage and how to strengthen my future marriage. One of the key principles, Ashleigh Slater taught readers was why grace is crucial especially in your marriage. Like God freely gives us grace we must also freely give it to our spouse. I personally think this sometimes can seem the most challenging particularly when our spouse lets us down or hurts us. When we are tempted to continue fighting with our spouse, imagine a concept of grace could help heal and strengthen our marriage. I also liked how on one of their first dates, Ashleigh and Ted wrote down a list of qualities they wanted to see in their relationship. And they tried to stick to them throughout their relationship which eventually led to marriage. I also enjoyed how she also had “Ted says” section throughout the chapters and it benefited to see how Ted felt at times. I also believe that readers will get a lot out of the “Us Time” at the end of each chapter featuring questions for couples to answer together. If you’re looking for an amazing book to help improve your marriage, then read this one!
"I received this book free from the publisher through the Flyby Promotion book review bloggers program."
I would recommend this life changing book to every marriage couple, newly wed, recently engaged, and single people wanting to prepare for their future marriage. I’m currently single and not married and this book taught me a lot about marriage and how to strengthen my future marriage. One of the key principles, Ashleigh Slater taught readers was why grace is crucial especially in your marriage. Like God freely gives us grace we must also freely give it to our spouse. I personally think this sometimes can seem the most challenging particularly when our spouse lets us down or hurts us. When we are tempted to continue fighting with our spouse, imagine a concept of grace could help heal and strengthen our marriage. I also liked how on one of their first dates, Ashleigh and Ted wrote down a list of qualities they wanted to see in their relationship. And they tried to stick to them throughout their relationship which eventually led to marriage. I also enjoyed how she also had “Ted says” section throughout the chapters and it benefited to see how Ted felt at times. I also believe that readers will get a lot out of the “Us Time” at the end of each chapter featuring questions for couples to answer together. If you’re looking for an amazing book to help improve your marriage, then read this one!
"I received this book free from the publisher through the Flyby Promotion book review bloggers program."
February 1, 2015
In her new book, Team Us: Marriage Together, author Ashleigh Slater reminds couples that we’re actually playing on the same team. As easy as it is to nag, complain, and even compete in marriage, a better, more God-honoring mindset is to remember each day that it’s not “Team Me” vs. “Team Him.”
It’s “Team Us.”
Team Us: Marriage Together is challenging encouragement wrapped in light-hearted language.
I’ve had the privilege of getting to know Ashleigh Slater through her role as founder and editor of Ungrind Webzine. When it comes to communication, she is a natural. Her writing voice is so conversational that reading Team Us is like having a lively and engaging chat with a friend over a chai latte at Panera. For that reason, I think a wide variety of people will enjoy and benefit from this book — young marrieds, and those with a lengthier track record; those who love to read, and those who rarely open a book. After all, who wouldn’t love a book with plentiful references to The Hunger Games, The Princess Bride, and even the Olympic sport of curling?
I particularly appreciated Ashleigh’s honesty and vulnerability as she recounts what she has deemed, “The Weeping Years.” She shares with raw testimony about a devastating miscarriage, and how she and her husband processed their grief differently. She also describes how they have endured several job losses, resulting in multiple cross-country moves and stretching tests of patience. Even as she struggled to wait while her husband sought the right job that would suit his gifts, Ashleigh was quick to point out, “The keys to our longevity are found in those moments we decide to assume the best of each other instead of the worst. In those times we offer grace, not irritation. On those days we offer grace, not irritation.”
Poignant advice for all.
The next time you are tempted to tally up points for yourself against your spouse, think first and consider what’s best for the team.
It’s “Team Us.”
Team Us: Marriage Together is challenging encouragement wrapped in light-hearted language.
I’ve had the privilege of getting to know Ashleigh Slater through her role as founder and editor of Ungrind Webzine. When it comes to communication, she is a natural. Her writing voice is so conversational that reading Team Us is like having a lively and engaging chat with a friend over a chai latte at Panera. For that reason, I think a wide variety of people will enjoy and benefit from this book — young marrieds, and those with a lengthier track record; those who love to read, and those who rarely open a book. After all, who wouldn’t love a book with plentiful references to The Hunger Games, The Princess Bride, and even the Olympic sport of curling?
I particularly appreciated Ashleigh’s honesty and vulnerability as she recounts what she has deemed, “The Weeping Years.” She shares with raw testimony about a devastating miscarriage, and how she and her husband processed their grief differently. She also describes how they have endured several job losses, resulting in multiple cross-country moves and stretching tests of patience. Even as she struggled to wait while her husband sought the right job that would suit his gifts, Ashleigh was quick to point out, “The keys to our longevity are found in those moments we decide to assume the best of each other instead of the worst. In those times we offer grace, not irritation. On those days we offer grace, not irritation.”
Poignant advice for all.
The next time you are tempted to tally up points for yourself against your spouse, think first and consider what’s best for the team.
February 5, 2015
I often refer to my books as “old friends”, but it’s not to often that I feel like the author is speaking to me as an “old friend”. Right from the first chapter of “Team Us: Marriage Together” by Ashleigh Slater I felt that she was speaking directly to me.
The book “Team Us: Marriage Together” discusses one of the most important things in a marriage – Unity. When you get married it’s no longer “You” and “Me” but it’s “Us”. All to often after the honeymoon is over we revert back to the “You” and “Me” in our marriage. The author, Ashleigh Slater, shares with us ways to deepen commitment to each other, and practice grace on a daily basis.
It is evident that Ashleigh and her husband love the Lord, and it is shown throughout their writing in the book. They shows how a Godly marriage will still have it’s arguments and frustrations but also how you can follow God’s word to live in grace and love.
Ashleigh shares with us some of her own marriage lows and highs. Her husband Ted also shares his thoughts on what his wife has written. The end of each chapter has some questions that you and your spouse discuss. Don’t worry if your partner doesn’t read the book along with you, you still can open up the discussion and you’ll be surprised here the questions sometimes lead you.
The author reminds us that it’s not all about changing our partner, but sometimes we need to change how we view things as well. She really stresses the “Us” part of a marriage while still showing how you can also maintain the “Me” too. “Team Us: Marriage Together” is a book that would be great for everyone regardless when you tied the knot. Newly weds will learn how to work together to form a stronger partnership and seasoned couples will be given a gentle reminder on what it is to be “one”.
I received a copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.
The book “Team Us: Marriage Together” discusses one of the most important things in a marriage – Unity. When you get married it’s no longer “You” and “Me” but it’s “Us”. All to often after the honeymoon is over we revert back to the “You” and “Me” in our marriage. The author, Ashleigh Slater, shares with us ways to deepen commitment to each other, and practice grace on a daily basis.
It is evident that Ashleigh and her husband love the Lord, and it is shown throughout their writing in the book. They shows how a Godly marriage will still have it’s arguments and frustrations but also how you can follow God’s word to live in grace and love.
Ashleigh shares with us some of her own marriage lows and highs. Her husband Ted also shares his thoughts on what his wife has written. The end of each chapter has some questions that you and your spouse discuss. Don’t worry if your partner doesn’t read the book along with you, you still can open up the discussion and you’ll be surprised here the questions sometimes lead you.
The author reminds us that it’s not all about changing our partner, but sometimes we need to change how we view things as well. She really stresses the “Us” part of a marriage while still showing how you can also maintain the “Me” too. “Team Us: Marriage Together” is a book that would be great for everyone regardless when you tied the knot. Newly weds will learn how to work together to form a stronger partnership and seasoned couples will be given a gentle reminder on what it is to be “one”.
I received a copy of this book in exchange for my honest review.
October 29, 2014
Team Us is a book from a Christian perspective about building a marriage “team.” It reads very conversationally, like Ashleigh is having a chat with you over coffee. It doesn’t present itself as having all of the answers to the struggles of marriage or knowing “the right” way to do marriage. Instead, it’s more of a chronicle of the Slater’s own marriage and what they’ve learned along the way to help their marriage “team” grow together. It almost reads like a marriage memoir. It is lighthearted and humorous in tone that makes it easy to read, even while also dealing with weightier issues like job loss, depression, and grief.
I think the book’s strength is in dealing with communication within marriage. This shows up through out the book no matter what the topic, whether it’s conflict or parenting. You can tell the Slaters work hard on respectful communication and Ashleigh gives some practical techniques on how to make this happen, like the use of the “communication sandwich,” which is basically sandwiching a criticism between praise and affirmation and giving the person the benefit of the doubt instead of assuming motives and going in for an attack.
One thing that makes the book unique is there are “Ted Says” sections where Ashleigh’s husband, Ted, shares his perspective on a subject or what Ashleigh has shared. Each chapter also ends with discussion questions called “Us Time” to foster reflection for an individual reader or a couple reading it together.
I think the book’s strength is in dealing with communication within marriage. This shows up through out the book no matter what the topic, whether it’s conflict or parenting. You can tell the Slaters work hard on respectful communication and Ashleigh gives some practical techniques on how to make this happen, like the use of the “communication sandwich,” which is basically sandwiching a criticism between praise and affirmation and giving the person the benefit of the doubt instead of assuming motives and going in for an attack.
One thing that makes the book unique is there are “Ted Says” sections where Ashleigh’s husband, Ted, shares his perspective on a subject or what Ashleigh has shared. Each chapter also ends with discussion questions called “Us Time” to foster reflection for an individual reader or a couple reading it together.
August 18, 2014
3.5 Stars
Things I did appreciate? I loved that Slater stayed true to the 'team' reference all the way through the book. Sometimes authors come up with a motif and only come back to it once in awhile, which I find highly annoying and distracting. Slater sticks with her theme and reinforces it with each chapter.
And really? My only problem is this: it just wasn't memorable. So I am sure the fault is all my own. But I just didn't find anything about this marriage book that stood out from all the others. It wasn't completely unique so I just can't justify giving it a higher rating. I also found her husband's additions annoying and distracting.
So overall, this book wasn't the best for me, but it also wasn't a complete waste of time. I could recommend it as a good book for those not well read on the topic of marriage and it did feel cute and homey. I just couldn't get into myself. I am rating it with 3.5 stars for still being a well written book
I received a copy of this book from the publisher via Netgalley with the intent to honestly review. All opinions are my own
See more of this review and others like it at Sunrise Avenue
Things I did appreciate? I loved that Slater stayed true to the 'team' reference all the way through the book. Sometimes authors come up with a motif and only come back to it once in awhile, which I find highly annoying and distracting. Slater sticks with her theme and reinforces it with each chapter.
And really? My only problem is this: it just wasn't memorable. So I am sure the fault is all my own. But I just didn't find anything about this marriage book that stood out from all the others. It wasn't completely unique so I just can't justify giving it a higher rating. I also found her husband's additions annoying and distracting.
So overall, this book wasn't the best for me, but it also wasn't a complete waste of time. I could recommend it as a good book for those not well read on the topic of marriage and it did feel cute and homey. I just couldn't get into myself. I am rating it with 3.5 stars for still being a well written book
I received a copy of this book from the publisher via Netgalley with the intent to honestly review. All opinions are my own
See more of this review and others like it at Sunrise Avenue
February 4, 2015
This is a personal, hands-on book of experiences gained that help a marriage survive and thrive. We live during a time when many people are not even willing to work through the small differences, let alone major ones, so I really like the team emphasis. There is a conversational tone that gives one the impression of chatting with a friend. Comments included as blurbs from Ashleigh's husband, Ted, carry on that impression. You've had those times with friends when a spouse adds another POV or clarity. Most added a humorous touch and I enjoyed reading Ted's thoughts.
While this isn't a book suitable for me, I have no hesitation about passing it along to my recently married granddaughter. It is important to realize from the beginning of a marriage that you and your spouse are a new team who must work together. From the silly things like television preferences to major issues of moving and loss, it is important to understand that compromise and even caring more about bring joy to your spouse can turn around frustrations and build a solid foundation.
I received a complimentary copy of this book from Propeller, through FlyBy Promotions for review purposes. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
While this isn't a book suitable for me, I have no hesitation about passing it along to my recently married granddaughter. It is important to realize from the beginning of a marriage that you and your spouse are a new team who must work together. From the silly things like television preferences to major issues of moving and loss, it is important to understand that compromise and even caring more about bring joy to your spouse can turn around frustrations and build a solid foundation.
I received a complimentary copy of this book from Propeller, through FlyBy Promotions for review purposes. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
February 1, 2015
y Review:
Team Us stresses the importance of a couple being on the same team. And while that might seems like a fairly simple thing, it is much easier said than done.
In this book Ashleigh takes about the obstacles to building a solid team, using stories and tips from her own marriage. From resolving conflicts, finding joy, building the team, dealing with loss, and family, Ashleigh and Ted talk about staying strong and having each other's back through the good times and the bad.
Overall, this book is one that is designed to be for engaged or newly married couples. A great book to read together when preparing for marriage. I'll be honest, I'm single so this book probably wasn't written for someone like me but I still found it interesting and helpful :)
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Team Us stresses the importance of a couple being on the same team. And while that might seems like a fairly simple thing, it is much easier said than done.
In this book Ashleigh takes about the obstacles to building a solid team, using stories and tips from her own marriage. From resolving conflicts, finding joy, building the team, dealing with loss, and family, Ashleigh and Ted talk about staying strong and having each other's back through the good times and the bad.
Overall, this book is one that is designed to be for engaged or newly married couples. A great book to read together when preparing for marriage. I'll be honest, I'm single so this book probably wasn't written for someone like me but I still found it interesting and helpful :)
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received one or more of the products or services mentioned above for free in the hope that I would mention it on my blog. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission's 16 CFR, Part 255: "Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and testimonials in Advertising."
February 3, 2015
It's true. This young (to me) author has written a book about marriage that gives practical ways to live out that truth that we've learned as a couple- You can both win when you're on the same team.
I was curious about a marriage book geared toward couples that is written by a woman. I didn't have a problem with it, but it was a little unusual, in my experience. Ashleigh Slater does an excellent job however. She presents practical information and personal stories in a way that's easy to read and will draw couples in. Her husband chimes in throughout the chapters with little "Ted Says" bites. So the book is designed to appeal to men and women alike.
In each chapter, Ashleigh discusses an issue that spouses will often face. She uses personal stories to illustrate and discuss the power of being united as a team. Then she will often give specific tips to stay united, on the same team, when facing those things. Each chapter closes with activities for couples to do together. Ideally, Ashleigh says, husbands and wives could read the book together. But she also gives suggestions for using the book if that doesn't work. - See more at: http://www.aswewalkalongtheroad.com/2...
I was curious about a marriage book geared toward couples that is written by a woman. I didn't have a problem with it, but it was a little unusual, in my experience. Ashleigh Slater does an excellent job however. She presents practical information and personal stories in a way that's easy to read and will draw couples in. Her husband chimes in throughout the chapters with little "Ted Says" bites. So the book is designed to appeal to men and women alike.
In each chapter, Ashleigh discusses an issue that spouses will often face. She uses personal stories to illustrate and discuss the power of being united as a team. Then she will often give specific tips to stay united, on the same team, when facing those things. Each chapter closes with activities for couples to do together. Ideally, Ashleigh says, husbands and wives could read the book together. But she also gives suggestions for using the book if that doesn't work. - See more at: http://www.aswewalkalongtheroad.com/2...
February 4, 2015
Team US Marriage Together
By: Ashleigh Slater
I really liked in the very first part of the book in the introduction of the book how Ashleigh says before marriage you are a me but once married we are not me anymore but US. That's so true. If not it tends to not work out so well. Then the union is about ones self. After marriage we become a team. A relationship where as a team we can give Grace. Remembering communication in the relationship is a must. I have been married just about 37 years in a couple weeks. I will say having communication open in it has been a great factor, plus putting the other person before self {me}. Making our union a US makes it work well together. Ashleigh shows how working as a team makes things in a marriage work much better. I agree. This is a awesome book for those getting married but also for old timers in marriage can make you step back and think. Wonderful book on marriage. Highly recommended.
Disclosure of Material Connection: As stated in the review, I received a copy of this book free from the publisher in exchange for the review. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255
By: Ashleigh Slater
I really liked in the very first part of the book in the introduction of the book how Ashleigh says before marriage you are a me but once married we are not me anymore but US. That's so true. If not it tends to not work out so well. Then the union is about ones self. After marriage we become a team. A relationship where as a team we can give Grace. Remembering communication in the relationship is a must. I have been married just about 37 years in a couple weeks. I will say having communication open in it has been a great factor, plus putting the other person before self {me}. Making our union a US makes it work well together. Ashleigh shows how working as a team makes things in a marriage work much better. I agree. This is a awesome book for those getting married but also for old timers in marriage can make you step back and think. Wonderful book on marriage. Highly recommended.
Disclosure of Material Connection: As stated in the review, I received a copy of this book free from the publisher in exchange for the review. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255
January 26, 2015
I so agree with this from the back cover: When a couple promises "I do," they agree to more than just a shared last name, a joint bank account, and no more dateless nights. This husband and wife duo forms a new team. "Life together" becomes their mantra. Nothing can come between them. At least, that's the plan.
This is what so many newlyweds haven't taken time to consider. Ashleigh shares in TEAM US how marriage couples should communicate, have a regular date night, say I LOVE YOU often and have a deep commitment to having a strong marriage. I liked how they stressed to exercise grace on a daily basis.. This is a nice reminder that to make a marriage work - YOU have to work at it, it won't just happen... A book that will open your eyes and help you learn from others mistakes. I thought it was an inspiring and oh so honest book. So join in and join up with TEAM US...
I was gifted this book by FlyBy Promotions Blogger Network for my honest opinion which I have given.
This is what so many newlyweds haven't taken time to consider. Ashleigh shares in TEAM US how marriage couples should communicate, have a regular date night, say I LOVE YOU often and have a deep commitment to having a strong marriage. I liked how they stressed to exercise grace on a daily basis.. This is a nice reminder that to make a marriage work - YOU have to work at it, it won't just happen... A book that will open your eyes and help you learn from others mistakes. I thought it was an inspiring and oh so honest book. So join in and join up with TEAM US...
I was gifted this book by FlyBy Promotions Blogger Network for my honest opinion which I have given.
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