When Bernadette Crichton finds her husband dead, under the beautiful grandiflora tree, she assumes a widowhood that is unconventional and strange. Exiled inside her large house, Bernadette refuses to 'see or be seen' by platitude-bearing visitors.
Shonagh Koea has published short stories, novels and memoir. She won the Air New Zealand Short Story Award (1981), her novel Sing to Me, Dreamer was a finalist in the New Zealand Book Awards (1995), and The Lonely Margins of the Sea was runner-up for the Deutz Medal for Fiction (1999). She has held the University of Auckland Fellowship in Literature (1993) and the Buddle Findlay Sargeson Fellowship (1997).
The Kindness of Strangers: Kitchen Memoirs is a collection of Koea's memories from her various roles as daughter, wife, mother, journalist and novelist, and as such serves as a social history of New Zealand of the past 50 years.
A depressing little book about grief and alienation. I was mildly bored and uncomfortable whenever I was reading it - its gentle and repetitive prodding getting eventually under my skin. Not an enjoyable read...
I liked how Bernadette had to explore her husband's past, and find our just who the man was that she married. I also liked how the text left you to work so many things out for yourself, rather than being explicit. I found it compelling reading, but it wouold not suit those who want to be told all.
This a strange and unique story about grief. The narrative is repetitive and often implausible, but perhaps this reflects the nature of grief? Intriguing but somehow not complex enough. This is a novel that could probably only be set in New Zealand.