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Parang Kayo Pero Hindi
The “parang kayo, pero hindi” stage. Others call it MU or mutual understanding. Pseudo relationships. Pseudo boyfriends. Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a phase where the persons involved are more than friends, but not quite lovers.
99 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2013
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November 9, 2014
Okay lang. Binili ko ito dahil 9th edition na itong kopya ko mula noong lumabas ito noong September 2013. Minsan napagusapan ito ni Bebang Siy at Genaro Gojo Cruz na buti pa raw itong librong ito at 9th edition na. 1,000 copies yata per edition so bale 9,000 copies na ang bumili at nakabasa nito? Grabe lang, sabi ko so paano ba maging blockbuster ang isang lokal na libro sa Pilipinas?
1) Light reading - yong di kailangan ng sobrang effort para mabasa ang libro. Compilation lang kasi ito ng blogs ni Noringai kaya watak-watak ang story at walang plot. Yong unang parts lang naman ang tungkol talaga sa mga pseudo-relationships (yong MU na walang commitments).
2) Highly relatable situations - yong makaka-identify ang mambabasa at sasabihin siya yon. I think ito yong grabeng nakapush ng benta rito. Uso na kasi ngayon ang MU o friends with benefits. Noong 70's merong free love. Noong 80's uso rin ang premarital sex pero at least noon (well based on my own experience), ginagawa lang yon pag may love both sides. Ngayon ewan ko, kahit yata walang love, lust lang talaga. Opps, pero basa ko, kaya nga nage-emote ang mga taong involved sa librong ito, in particular sa first part, eh may feelings yong sumusulat pero yong partner nya, wala. Laro lang talaga.
3) Having ABS-CBN as the campaign machinery - Writer kasi si Noringai sa ABS-CBN so may mga blurbs ang mga artista sa back cover ng libro: Enchong Dee at G. Toengi. So, kung mahilig ka sa showbiz, malamang magpapabili ka rito. Tapos may mga kuwento sa last part ng libro tungkol sa mga ibang experiences niya bilang writer sa ABS-CBN.
Yon lang. UP graduate si Noringai at nahasa rin sa diyaryo. Kaya mahusay ang pagkakasulat ng mga kuwento rito. Taglish o pure ingles o pure Tagalog, mahusay lahat. So, versatile writer itong si Noringai.
Mabasa rin nga yong Mabuti pa ang Roma, May Papa. Makiuso lang.
1) Light reading - yong di kailangan ng sobrang effort para mabasa ang libro. Compilation lang kasi ito ng blogs ni Noringai kaya watak-watak ang story at walang plot. Yong unang parts lang naman ang tungkol talaga sa mga pseudo-relationships (yong MU na walang commitments).
2) Highly relatable situations - yong makaka-identify ang mambabasa at sasabihin siya yon. I think ito yong grabeng nakapush ng benta rito. Uso na kasi ngayon ang MU o friends with benefits. Noong 70's merong free love. Noong 80's uso rin ang premarital sex pero at least noon (well based on my own experience), ginagawa lang yon pag may love both sides. Ngayon ewan ko, kahit yata walang love, lust lang talaga. Opps, pero basa ko, kaya nga nage-emote ang mga taong involved sa librong ito, in particular sa first part, eh may feelings yong sumusulat pero yong partner nya, wala. Laro lang talaga.
3) Having ABS-CBN as the campaign machinery - Writer kasi si Noringai sa ABS-CBN so may mga blurbs ang mga artista sa back cover ng libro: Enchong Dee at G. Toengi. So, kung mahilig ka sa showbiz, malamang magpapabili ka rito. Tapos may mga kuwento sa last part ng libro tungkol sa mga ibang experiences niya bilang writer sa ABS-CBN.
Yon lang. UP graduate si Noringai at nahasa rin sa diyaryo. Kaya mahusay ang pagkakasulat ng mga kuwento rito. Taglish o pure ingles o pure Tagalog, mahusay lahat. So, versatile writer itong si Noringai.
Mabasa rin nga yong Mabuti pa ang Roma, May Papa. Makiuso lang.
July 1, 2016
Usapang Sapatos: A conversation inspired by Noringai
My officemate and I had been looking for a copy of Parang Kayo, Pero Hindi by Noringai since it hit the shelves last year. Finally, after months of scouring numerous bookstores, we found copies in NBS near our office. The book is always sold out so we didn't let the chance pass (again) because we might have to wait months to find one.
I wasn’t even aware Noringai existed until this book. I’d been online for like forever but blog hopping is not in my vocabulary. I don’t even read in Wattpad and believe me I’ve only heard of it when Summit Books started publishing works from that site. Anyway, there really are gems you can find online and this is one of them.
You’re maybe wondering what the hype is about when it’s just a compilation of her blog post. Nothing extraordinary. She talks about the simplest of things, her mundane daily experiences that is not entirely different from what you’re going through. A friend once said, “Ito yung babaeng ang daming pinaghuhugutan.” And I agree. She writes about life and she writes it from the heart—and that’s what captivated her readers.
There isn’t one thing in her entries that you haven’t known yet. It’s just that every word she says, every sentence she constructs, it’ll hit you in ways you wouldn’t think of. Kung reality check din lang naman kailangan mo, kotang-kota si Noringai diyan. Sampal siya ‘teh. Sampal sa katotohanan. Pampagising sa katangahan mong peg. I can’t even count the times I’ve cursed her because what she says is true, that at one point I was in that story (or maybe, subconsciously, I still am). Sino ba naman ang hindi nagkaroon ng ka-MU? Ng “the one that got away”? O ng hangover after Valentine’s Day? O yung mga usapang naguumpisa lang sa mga walang kakwenta-kwentang bagay pero nauuwi sa seryosong “love and life” talk?
There is this one conversation I had with Louie that happened while we are still nursing our hangovers with Noringai’s book. We didn’t intend it to be something else but like a snow ball, it went from a simple a comment about shoes to the complexities of wanting something you can’t have. It started with Louie complimenting Ada’s shoes. I heard her say that she finds Ada’s shoes cute. I have to look and see if Ada is wearing doll shoes (she usually wears that) because you will never ever see Luisa wearing one on a regular day. It has to be rubber shoes or rubber shoes. Turns out Ada is on a, I don’t know, doll shoes that is not doll shoes? I’m not really a fan of shoes so if it’s flat then its flat, sports shoes, heels, period. Whatever.
And just like Noringai’s “Wisdom from Pichi Pichi”, Louie and I both know that we aren’t talking about shoes anymore.
Ikaw, nakahanap ka na ba ng sapatos na para sa’yo?
Challenges:
Book # 10 of 2014
***
Review also posted @ Off the Wall.
My officemate and I had been looking for a copy of Parang Kayo, Pero Hindi by Noringai since it hit the shelves last year. Finally, after months of scouring numerous bookstores, we found copies in NBS near our office. The book is always sold out so we didn't let the chance pass (again) because we might have to wait months to find one.
I wasn’t even aware Noringai existed until this book. I’d been online for like forever but blog hopping is not in my vocabulary. I don’t even read in Wattpad and believe me I’ve only heard of it when Summit Books started publishing works from that site. Anyway, there really are gems you can find online and this is one of them.
You’re maybe wondering what the hype is about when it’s just a compilation of her blog post. Nothing extraordinary. She talks about the simplest of things, her mundane daily experiences that is not entirely different from what you’re going through. A friend once said, “Ito yung babaeng ang daming pinaghuhugutan.” And I agree. She writes about life and she writes it from the heart—and that’s what captivated her readers.
There isn’t one thing in her entries that you haven’t known yet. It’s just that every word she says, every sentence she constructs, it’ll hit you in ways you wouldn’t think of. Kung reality check din lang naman kailangan mo, kotang-kota si Noringai diyan. Sampal siya ‘teh. Sampal sa katotohanan. Pampagising sa katangahan mong peg. I can’t even count the times I’ve cursed her because what she says is true, that at one point I was in that story (or maybe, subconsciously, I still am). Sino ba naman ang hindi nagkaroon ng ka-MU? Ng “the one that got away”? O ng hangover after Valentine’s Day? O yung mga usapang naguumpisa lang sa mga walang kakwenta-kwentang bagay pero nauuwi sa seryosong “love and life” talk?
There is this one conversation I had with Louie that happened while we are still nursing our hangovers with Noringai’s book. We didn’t intend it to be something else but like a snow ball, it went from a simple a comment about shoes to the complexities of wanting something you can’t have. It started with Louie complimenting Ada’s shoes. I heard her say that she finds Ada’s shoes cute. I have to look and see if Ada is wearing doll shoes (she usually wears that) because you will never ever see Luisa wearing one on a regular day. It has to be rubber shoes or rubber shoes. Turns out Ada is on a, I don’t know, doll shoes that is not doll shoes? I’m not really a fan of shoes so if it’s flat then its flat, sports shoes, heels, period. Whatever.
Me: Ano yung narinig ko? Ikaw, Luisa? Naku-cute-an sa sapatos ni Ada? Eh di di ba doll shoes yun?
Louie: Hindi naman ako fan ng doll shoes masyado. Masyadong girlie.
Me: Kaya napatingin ako kasi akala ko doll shoes.
Louie: Natutuwa kasi ako sa ganoong shoes eh. Pangit lang yung paa ko kaya di ko maisuot.
Me: Mag-doll shoes ka kasi. Yung high cut.
Louie: Hahaha!
Me: Kung may mahahanap kang ganun.
Louie: Parang sapatos na confused.
Me: Yung pinipilit na magkasya, magfit in, eh hindi naman talaga.
Louie: Korek.
Me: Hanap na lang kasi ng ibang sapatos. Ipagpilitan ba?
Louie: Yung naghahanap ka ng size 9, eh last pair na… size 7. O kaya yung naghuhumiyaw na shocking pink ang gusto mo eh ang itim naman ng paa.
Me: Size 5 ako. At ayokong bumili kapag sale. Wala akong laging size. Ayaw mo ng neon green?
Louie: (Tuloy parin sa kasentihan niya) Kung minsan kahit di naman bagay sa’yo, di ka naman komportable pero binibili mo pa din kasi yun ang gusto mo. Pakialam ba ng ibang tao eh pera mo yung ginastos mo. Sino ba ang mahihirapang magsuot ng high heels habang umaakyat ng MRT, sila ba?
Me: Sigh.
Louie: Bottom line is huwag ipagpilitan ang paa mong pang wicked stepsister sa sapatos ni Cinderella. If it does not fit, di kayo meant to be.
And just like Noringai’s “Wisdom from Pichi Pichi”, Louie and I both know that we aren’t talking about shoes anymore.
Ikaw, nakahanap ka na ba ng sapatos na para sa’yo?
Challenges:
Book # 10 of 2014
***
Review also posted @ Off the Wall.
July 28, 2019
Parang gusto ko pero hindi. 2.5.
Pero in-fairness, engaging magsulat si Noringai.
Pero in-fairness, engaging magsulat si Noringai.
February 13, 2016
"It's a sad reality that you have to face and accept: Sa totoong buhay, hindi lahat ng nagmamahalan ay nagkakatuluyan. At iyong "The one that got away" mo, ay maaaring "The One" na para sa iba."
Rating this 3.5 stars. So much hype for this book. Oo nga naman title pa lang nya gusto mo ng basahin, di ba? Parang kayo pero hindi. Marameng makakarelate sa librong ito sa title may nasapul at tinamaan na.
Parang kayo pero hindi.
Parang tayo pero hindi.
Parang sila pero hindi.
Paralng kame pero hindi.
Oh di ba? Tama nga naman. At some point halos lahat tayo naranasan yan. Maaaring naranasan, dinaranas o pagdadaanan pa. Yung mga nakasulat dito umpisa pa lang talagang may tama e, in short kung naexperience mo ito ay nako sapul ka dito iba eh yung pakiramdam na ayaw mo na basahin kasi alam mo ikaw na ikaw ito. Ang galing ng pagkasulat. Napapanahon sa iba. Nakakarelate yung mga mambabasa at nagsisilbi ding ehemplo sa kanila to maaaring makatulong din sa mga pinagdadaanan sa buhay.
Maganda sya naenjoy ko naman sia basahin at cyempre tinamaan din ako neto aminin ko man o hindi.
"Ikaw ang sisig, yosi at kape ng buhay ko. Hindi ko maiwas-iwasan, hindi ko kayang tanggihan, kahit na alam ko na iisa lang naman ang patutunguhan nito -- sakit sa puso."
Rating this 3.5 stars. So much hype for this book. Oo nga naman title pa lang nya gusto mo ng basahin, di ba? Parang kayo pero hindi. Marameng makakarelate sa librong ito sa title may nasapul at tinamaan na.
Parang kayo pero hindi.
Parang tayo pero hindi.
Parang sila pero hindi.
Paralng kame pero hindi.
Oh di ba? Tama nga naman. At some point halos lahat tayo naranasan yan. Maaaring naranasan, dinaranas o pagdadaanan pa. Yung mga nakasulat dito umpisa pa lang talagang may tama e, in short kung naexperience mo ito ay nako sapul ka dito iba eh yung pakiramdam na ayaw mo na basahin kasi alam mo ikaw na ikaw ito. Ang galing ng pagkasulat. Napapanahon sa iba. Nakakarelate yung mga mambabasa at nagsisilbi ding ehemplo sa kanila to maaaring makatulong din sa mga pinagdadaanan sa buhay.
Maganda sya naenjoy ko naman sia basahin at cyempre tinamaan din ako neto aminin ko man o hindi.
"Ikaw ang sisig, yosi at kape ng buhay ko. Hindi ko maiwas-iwasan, hindi ko kayang tanggihan, kahit na alam ko na iisa lang naman ang patutunguhan nito -- sakit sa puso."
August 18, 2014
Natapos ko na ung Parang Kayo, Pero Hindi. Hahaha. Ang ganda ng content. Kulang na nga lang i-highlight ko lahat ng sinulat ni Ms. Noringai. Grabe. Last January ko pa binili ung book pero ngayon ko lang nabasa. Nagsisi tuloy ako na ba`t ngayon ko lang binasa, sana nung binili ko na. Ang ganda talaga. She's now on my official list of Filipino writers na iniidolize ko.
November 5, 2014
Annoying. The first part was very annoying.
Ugh.
Ugh.
May 25, 2014
Di ko na pahahabain pa:
relate to the highest Mt. Everest ♥
relate to the highest Mt. Everest ♥
June 17, 2014
What the hell did I just read? Is this a fiction, non-fiction, or is this a blogsite? First of all, it would've been great if the author knew the kind of direction she wants to take while writing this novel. And second, while the title is catchy enough to spark some interest in a lot of readers, it would've been best as well if the author developed some kind of a plot, a twist or even an anthology of stories for the said set-up. The way in which the situations or stories were built-up, was great. It got me on my toes, and it did tug on my heartstrings a little bit, but all it did towards the end was that it just kept me hanging. It gave me hope, that towards the end, there is a happy ending for these characters that she is writing about. After all, why the hell would they be the subject of this whole book in the first place? And as the book nears its last pages, all we get is just a mere blogsite-slash-random musings from the author. If I'm gonna be honest, I don't care about the author's thoughts or how she goes about her daily routines. I care more about the characters, who she just left hanging. The characters she never gave justice to. The characters she doesn't care about more than she cares about herself and her random thoughts.
May 25, 2014
hindi ko inaasahan na matatagpuan ko ang librong ito. iba talaga ang librong bibilhin ko sa bookstore... pero dahil sa out of stock ayun. tumingin tingin muna ako ng mga magagandang basahin. bahala na si batman! binase ko pang talaga yung mga librong binili ko by its book cover at synopsis sa likod. pero iba ito wh, mag isa lang nya. nakapatong lang sya sa isang shelf kung saan alam mo nalang na hindi tuluyang binili yuny unang may hawak.
lohikal akong tao pero honestly siguro nga, marahil... destiny narin na natagpuan ko ang librong too.
thumbs up! fan na ako ni noreen
lohikal akong tao pero honestly siguro nga, marahil... destiny narin na natagpuan ko ang librong too.
thumbs up! fan na ako ni noreen
August 30, 2016
Ayos lang. Magaan basahin. Pero siguro di lang talaga ako nakakarelate sa mga ganito.
August 24, 2014
Witty, Sincere and downright honest. Noringai is a class in herself and I truly enjoyed reading through her personal collection of essays that screams RELATE NA RELATE KA TEH. Some of my favorite lines or quotes from the book:
WINNER KA GIRL!
Kung napag-usapan ninyo nang mabuti at naghiwalay kayo ng maayos, hindi siya "The One that got away." Siya lang ang "The one who left" or "the one you left behind."
From The One that got away
Ampalaya 3. May bago na siyang girlfriend? Magsama sila. Isang basura, at isang basurera.
From Ampalaya Trilogy
WINNER KA GIRL!
September 14, 2015
Okay lang.
Nalaman ko lang naman tong libro kay Baba. Di talaga ako familiar. Pero nung nagkaroon ako ng sariling kopya (Dahil sa isang patimpalak), nagkaroon ako ng pagkakataon na makilala ang awtor na ito at ang paraan ng kanyang pagsulat.
Okay naman ang paraan ng pagkakasulat nya, magaan lang basahin. Matindi ang mga hugot pero di ka naman masyadong mada-down. Uhh siguro hindi lang ako nakarelate sa mga kwento kaya hindi ako nahook sa librong 'to pero yun nga, okay lang. Sa susunod naman babsahin ko yung isa nyang libro, Buti Pa ang Roma May Bagong Papa.
Nalaman ko lang naman tong libro kay Baba. Di talaga ako familiar. Pero nung nagkaroon ako ng sariling kopya (Dahil sa isang patimpalak), nagkaroon ako ng pagkakataon na makilala ang awtor na ito at ang paraan ng kanyang pagsulat.
Okay naman ang paraan ng pagkakasulat nya, magaan lang basahin. Matindi ang mga hugot pero di ka naman masyadong mada-down. Uhh siguro hindi lang ako nakarelate sa mga kwento kaya hindi ako nahook sa librong 'to pero yun nga, okay lang. Sa susunod naman babsahin ko yung isa nyang libro, Buti Pa ang Roma May Bagong Papa.
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March 30, 2014Done reading this wonderful book by Noreen Capili. Every words, lines and quotes merely describes my life. How and why I live up my life. Para bang kilala ako ng author na to at msyado akong na hook sa kwento at sobrang bitin na bitin ako -_____- More on Lessons and Experiences ang shinare nya for everyone who might read this Walang halong ka echosan, more on REALITY, on how you will face the truth and consequences. Nakakainspired.
March 11, 2014
Sobrang nadala ako nang way niya sa pageexpress ng mga naiisip niya. Straight to the point, funny, witty at interesting yung mga sinulat niya dito. :)
Medyo ilang beses rin akong napamura habang binabasa ko tong book na to e. Sampal talaga kung sampal sa mukha. Ganon katagos sa puso yung sinasabi niya.
Good job po miss Capili! :)
Medyo ilang beses rin akong napamura habang binabasa ko tong book na to e. Sampal talaga kung sampal sa mukha. Ganon katagos sa puso yung sinasabi niya.
Good job po miss Capili! :)
April 21, 2014
I want to read the book over and over again.
The book made me relate to its story. I am fully satisfied with the book because it answered most of my questions and doubts about love. Parang Kayo Pero Hindi is perfect for those who are in love, brokenhearted, and the hopeless romantic. Well said, well done! :)
The book made me relate to its story. I am fully satisfied with the book because it answered most of my questions and doubts about love. Parang Kayo Pero Hindi is perfect for those who are in love, brokenhearted, and the hopeless romantic. Well said, well done! :)
April 8, 2016
"Even in a pseudo-relationship, the emotions are real...Buti sana kung pseudo pain lang mararanasan mo. Kaso hindi eh. Real pain."
Lakas maka-hugot ng librong to sobra. Halos lahat ng bagay, may realization o hugot. Pero ang catch, kahit nakakatawa, nakakarelate ka. At deep inside medyo may kirot.
Lakas maka-hugot ng librong to sobra. Halos lahat ng bagay, may realization o hugot. Pero ang catch, kahit nakakatawa, nakakarelate ka. At deep inside medyo may kirot.
January 21, 2015
Iba tayong mga pinay kapag ang binabasa natin ay sa wika natin na ang paksa ay maihahantulad natin sa ating totoong buhay. Napakahusay magsulat ni Ms Noreen. Sana marami pa siyang maisusulat na ganitong nobela.
June 20, 2014
I love the book. Madami akong natutunan about life. Pinaka gusto kong story ay Hindi ako sanay. (Pwede nga tong gawing novel.) Love and icetea na kahit pagkain lang ang tinutukoy ay pwedeng ihantulad sa love. Ms. Noringai, ang galing mo. :) Isa kang henya.
July 29, 2014
Medyo nalungkot ako sa mga entries ng libro. Napansin ko na iba-ibang scenes lang yung mga kwento, pero iisa lang ang pinupunto- almost, but not quite (relationship).
Maganda; nakakabitin.
Meron din akong natutunan, but mostly, naalala sa pagbabasa nito.
Maganda; nakakabitin.
Meron din akong natutunan, but mostly, naalala sa pagbabasa nito.
February 15, 2014
hindi ko pinagsisihan, dahil nasarapan ako
May 16, 2014
i want to read this book -_-
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
June 6, 2014
How to read???
June 7, 2014
ENTERTAINING. :)
July 10, 2014
Iyak. Tawa. Baliwan ang peg.
July 16, 2014
#parangpagibig
July 21, 2014
Relatable and fun to read! :)
August 4, 2014
Great essays. The tone was funny. Though there is nothing surprising or new on the ideas.
August 25, 2014
Relate much!!
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August 30, 2014i think it's lovely
September 5, 2014
So much feels. May mga kwentong, napapatigil talaga ako dahil nakaka-relate ako, through some past experiences. Hahaha. And marami ding natutunan. :)
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