Getting Older Better: The Best Advice Ever on Money, Health, Creativity, Sex, Work, Retirement, and More

by Pamela D. Blair

Everything you need to know about aging but were too busy living to ask. Pamela Blair, a psychotherapist in her 60s, has a few things to say about aging. Open this book to any page and find one of over 100 brief, kickstarting essays and journaling questions for moving into your third act with a sense of adventure and possibility. Blair offers dozens of practical and motivational ideas for handling everything from health and libido to the death of a spouse, money, legacy, and more. From the
Your body is changing, your family and friends are changing, your strength and speed of mental processing are changing, and your priorities are changing. How are you dealing with these changes? Denial? Acceptance? As for me, if acceptance means "approval," I say no, I don't approve of some of what is happening as I age. If acceptance means I will work change into my life, then I say yes. If change means painful loss and disappointment, I say no, I don't want any of that! (And do I have a choice?) If change means growth, forward movement, and a refreshed attitude, I say yes! Let Pamela Blair will guide you through the thoughts and feelings about aging that may be dragging you down. Let her point the way to a different, optimistic and clear eyed, way of getting older--better. Previously published as The Next Fifty Years .

Genres: Self Help, Nonfiction

272 pages, Paperback

First published April 1, 2014

Reviews

[Terri Lynn · Rating 5 out of 5]

I won this book in a Goodreads Giveaway and am so happy to have it. I had never read anything by Dr. Pamela Blair before (she is a psychotherapist and personal coach) so I wasn't sure if I would like it or not but it is just perfect for me. The author is in her 60's and I am 55 so we are Baby Boomers marching into the second half of our lives and there are pros and cons to that. A lot of us grew up thinking of people our current age as being old, no longer useful, waiting to die, falling apart physically, and rather irrelevant but as we get into our 50's we begin to understand that the 50's and 60's are the new 30's and 40's! Who knew?!!

Yes, there are physical changes but hey- go vegan, keep your brain learning new things, find your fitness craze (or multiple ones), stay social, and get involved helping people and animals, travel, forget being old. There is plenty of time to be old once you die.

Dr. Blair gives some fantastic advice and amazing information about growing older and better. Sure, there are challenges but at this age, you are older and wiser. You can work through it and adapt. This book consists of brief and encouraging sections that will make you rethink what being over 50 is all about. Don't let any other person's prejudices and hangup about age hang you up. Age is just a number. Dr. Blair will help you find adventure and practical ideas to make it happen. If you pair this up with Barbara Sher's oh so practical book Wishcraft: How to Get What You Really Want (www.wishcraft.com to read it for free), you will be unstoppable. Highly recommended and thank you Goodreads for the chance to get this book for free.

[Sandra Thornton · Rating 5 out of 5]

I won this book and actually received it in the mail today and was thumbing through it and I kept finding so many interesting things that I just sat down and read it. I like the introduction where we are described as ripening and opalescent instead of growing older. And I have been having issues with scams by email and phone calls and there was a section in the book on that, there's a section on fiancé, keeping your brain active, making new friends...You name it there's a section for us up and coming old farts.

[Karen Ng · Rating 4 out of 5]

We need to redefine aging, especially for women, as we collectively live a longer, happier and well connected life. Middle age is very different than our mom or Gran dinner ma's experience. This book has some tips on living a better life as we age.

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[Kathy · Rating 5 out of 5]

This was a Goodreads giveaway and I am glad I received the book. I have already read the book and passed it on to friends. I may buy a few more copies for others who need the book.

This is a great book for anyone who is anxious, panicked or just hitting the older age even if you are not afraid of or worried about the changes as you get older. The author also has some great attitudes and advice for those of us who have passed that "young age" but are feeling good about the growth and new journey we are undertaking.

This is definitely a good book to read and give as a gift. You will be amazed at the changes in your thinking.

[Melissa · Rating 2 out of 5]

Meh.

I'm sure there are people for whom this book would be a treasure-trove of valuable advice, that would really help them a lot. I am not one of those people. Most of the advice I found either incredibly obvious, or not really applicable. Now, I note I am perhaps not quite the target market for this book (about a decade or 2 too young), and in slightly unusual circumstances, and I know I'm brighter than average, so there are likely many people for whom this would be a book of helpful advice.

But, for me? Meh.

I got this from Goodreads in exchange for a review, insert usual boilerplate here.

[Kay · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really liked this book and find myself recommending it to my friends. It is like sitting down at the kitchen table with a trusted older friend. You'll read her saying, well this is what I've found out and what studies I've heard works, what do you want to do? I especially like her optimism about aging. It doesn't seem all gloom and doom. She firmly believes that if a person likes being them self -- that beauty shines through to others no matter the age. Each chapter is broken into separate topics so it reads quickly and is not "preach-ie". Chapters include Our Minds, Home, Love and Relationships, Spirituality, Creativity, etc. Well done and highly recommended!

[Susan Grimes · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book- giving ideas on what we should do as we age- on money, health, creativity,sex.work and retiremen great book

[Jmp · Rating 4 out of 5]

Some great ideas. Well written. Novel.