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Things Will Get as Good as You Can Stand: (. . . When you learn that it is better to receive than to give) The Superwoman's Practical Guide to Getting as Much as She Gives
Why do the things you want elude you?
Intimacy. Validation. Romance. Nice things. More time. Most women wish for these every day.
In Things Will Get as Good as You Can Stand, bestselling author Laura Doyle says that all of these things are available to us, but receiving them makes women feel uncomfortable. We turn away praise at work, help with the house, an expression of admiration so that we appear to be in control. The result is a Superwoman we are overworked and exhausted -- and we feel alone.
In Things Will Get as Good as You Can Stand, Doyle provides steps for overcoming the Superwoman Syndrome and explains
Intimacy. Validation. Romance. Nice things. More time. Most women wish for these every day.
In Things Will Get as Good as You Can Stand, bestselling author Laura Doyle says that all of these things are available to us, but receiving them makes women feel uncomfortable. We turn away praise at work, help with the house, an expression of admiration so that we appear to be in control. The result is a Superwoman we are overworked and exhausted -- and we feel alone.
In Things Will Get as Good as You Can Stand, Doyle provides steps for overcoming the Superwoman Syndrome and explains
288 pages, Paperback
First published January 1, 2004
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About the author
Laura Doyle
12 books99 followersLaura Doyle is the author of the book The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace with a Man (Simon & Schuster 2001), The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the Man Who's Right for You (Simon & Schuster 2002), and Things Will Get as Good as you Can Stand (Simon & Schuster 2004) She leads workshops and seminars that have helped thousands of women find the intimacy they crave.
Doyle's book caught the attention of major media the world over, including Dateline NBC, The Today Show, The View, Montel Williams Show, Politically Incorrect, The New York Times, Marie Claire UK, The London Telegraph and many others. The Los Angeles Times calls Doyle part of a new trend and writes that "members of her group...swear by its effectiveness in relieving marital discord and their inability to cope with the pressures of trying to be superwomen."
In her books, lectures and seminars, Doyle reveals her own experiences from her fifteen-year marriage, as well as practical, simple techniques that women can use to attract and revitalize intimacy immediately.
Prior to writing The Surrendered Wife, Doyle enjoyed a successful career as a marketing copywriter. She is a graduate with honors from San Jose State University's journalism department.
Doyle's book caught the attention of major media the world over, including Dateline NBC, The Today Show, The View, Montel Williams Show, Politically Incorrect, The New York Times, Marie Claire UK, The London Telegraph and many others. The Los Angeles Times calls Doyle part of a new trend and writes that "members of her group...swear by its effectiveness in relieving marital discord and their inability to cope with the pressures of trying to be superwomen."
In her books, lectures and seminars, Doyle reveals her own experiences from her fifteen-year marriage, as well as practical, simple techniques that women can use to attract and revitalize intimacy immediately.
Prior to writing The Surrendered Wife, Doyle enjoyed a successful career as a marketing copywriter. She is a graduate with honors from San Jose State University's journalism department.
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December 14, 2019
It was like she walked around inside my head and showed me all the false thoughts that are holding me back.
June 25, 2024
For any lady considering leaning on Laura Doyle's books for assistance with their marriage or joining the Laura Doyle Ridiculously Happy Wives Programme or Relationship Coach Training Programme, I encourage you to read my review by following the link below.
It explains my experience during the July 2023 intake Relationship Coach Training Programme, which sadly was not favourable for me, along with subsequent revelations surrounding their back-office administration and inability to handle my client data professionally.
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It explains my experience during the July 2023 intake Relationship Coach Training Programme, which sadly was not favourable for me, along with subsequent revelations surrounding their back-office administration and inability to handle my client data professionally.
https://relationshipcoachtrainingrevi...
February 4, 2021
A very clear read about taking care of yourself and being responsible for yourself and your feelings. It's a detailed road map for how to stay in your own lane. I recommend this book to any woman who is angry at others or their man for not being or doing what they want.
August 2, 2024
Precursor to SW and EW
I loved this book and wished I’d read it before reading the SW and the EW. It’s like a preparatory read before immersing yourself in the Skills and makes them easier to understand and then to practice. 😊 Highly recommend!
I loved this book and wished I’d read it before reading the SW and the EW. It’s like a preparatory read before immersing yourself in the Skills and makes them easier to understand and then to practice. 😊 Highly recommend!
September 27, 2025
It’s a good companion to Laura Doyle’s work. I’m not sure I got a ton out of it, but like all her work, it’s not about reading it, it’s about practicing and embodying it. Will update if I later find it life-changing. I like the concept at least.
May 11, 2019
Really makes me feel amazing at the same time improves my relationship between my husband.
April 3, 2024
I read the empowered wife a few years ago and absolutely loved it. I wasn’t sure what to expect from this book but I found it very insightful and an easy read.
August 27, 2024
Laura Doyle’s books and women’s group have been life changing for me. I’m so grateful for her work!
October 2, 2025
Great book
October 1, 2016
This wasn't really what I needed. It was all about receiving. I was hoping for more marriage advice. The last few chapters were for romantic relationships, so that was good.
January 3, 2024
HIGHLIGHTS:
1. ADMIT YOU GOOFED:
- A gracious woman acknowledges her errors.
- Admitting you’re wrong is attractive.
2. DON'T COMPLAIN
- The problem is that clinging to unhappiness tends to result in a mopey face, a whiny voice, and a slumping posture, all of which signal others to stay away. That kind of body language doesn’t encourage anyone to help you or give you something to delight you.
- gratitude shows that you are please-able.
3. APOLOGIES:
- You can delay. Accept an apology if you’re not ready.“I appreciate that. I accept your apology."
- Receive the apology, then, accept or reject an apology. Receiving an apology will make you feel vulnerable.
- By thanking someone for an apology, you acknowledge that one was due.
- Stop saying “That’s OK “or “no problem”.
4. RECEIVING:
- You’re making yourself vulnerable when you’re receiving, which can be a bit scary. You’re taking a risk.
5. REJECTING SEX:
- Rejecting Sex is rejecting the relationship: sex is an opportunity for a man to give you pleasure, turning down, your lover is rejecting a gift.
- Rejecting sex with your husband is one of the worst things you can do for intimacy because in a way you’re rejecting the relationship.
6. MEN LIKE PLEASING A WOMAN:
- Men of all ages and cultures take tremendous pride in pleasing a woman. When she is happy, they feel purposeful and successful.
7. LET HIM PLEASE YOU:
- Since a big part of being feminine is receiving well, and in what manner fundamentally attracted to you is femininity, being a good receiver, makes you more attractive to men.
8. GRATITUDE:
- Gratitude wakes us up to abundance and good fortune.
- No one wants to exert effort, trying to please someone who is wallowing in doom and gloom.
- When in doubt, give thanks.
9. GRACIOUSNESS:
- Graciousness is most important for people to whom you are most close because it helps maintain the feeling of safety that intimacy needs to thrive.
- A good receiver is open to the possibility that something she wouldn’t have picked herself could enhance her life in unexpected ways.
10. CLEAR OUT SPACE:
- A good receiver is constantly clearing out space in her life for the right things to come in by rejecting the old stuff that doesn’t fit.
1. ADMIT YOU GOOFED:
- A gracious woman acknowledges her errors.
- Admitting you’re wrong is attractive.
2. DON'T COMPLAIN
- The problem is that clinging to unhappiness tends to result in a mopey face, a whiny voice, and a slumping posture, all of which signal others to stay away. That kind of body language doesn’t encourage anyone to help you or give you something to delight you.
- gratitude shows that you are please-able.
3. APOLOGIES:
- You can delay. Accept an apology if you’re not ready.“I appreciate that. I accept your apology."
- Receive the apology, then, accept or reject an apology. Receiving an apology will make you feel vulnerable.
- By thanking someone for an apology, you acknowledge that one was due.
- Stop saying “That’s OK “or “no problem”.
4. RECEIVING:
- You’re making yourself vulnerable when you’re receiving, which can be a bit scary. You’re taking a risk.
5. REJECTING SEX:
- Rejecting Sex is rejecting the relationship: sex is an opportunity for a man to give you pleasure, turning down, your lover is rejecting a gift.
- Rejecting sex with your husband is one of the worst things you can do for intimacy because in a way you’re rejecting the relationship.
6. MEN LIKE PLEASING A WOMAN:
- Men of all ages and cultures take tremendous pride in pleasing a woman. When she is happy, they feel purposeful and successful.
7. LET HIM PLEASE YOU:
- Since a big part of being feminine is receiving well, and in what manner fundamentally attracted to you is femininity, being a good receiver, makes you more attractive to men.
8. GRATITUDE:
- Gratitude wakes us up to abundance and good fortune.
- No one wants to exert effort, trying to please someone who is wallowing in doom and gloom.
- When in doubt, give thanks.
9. GRACIOUSNESS:
- Graciousness is most important for people to whom you are most close because it helps maintain the feeling of safety that intimacy needs to thrive.
- A good receiver is open to the possibility that something she wouldn’t have picked herself could enhance her life in unexpected ways.
10. CLEAR OUT SPACE:
- A good receiver is constantly clearing out space in her life for the right things to come in by rejecting the old stuff that doesn’t fit.
December 27, 2013
Useful concepts, but largely repetitive writing. Good to browse and know the key ideas.
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