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Cuando el hombre y la mujer se someten a la voluntad de Dios, puede resultar en una maravillosa y apasionante aventura. // When man and wife submit to God's will, it can result in a wonderful and passionate adventure.
192 pages, Paperback
First published September 14, 1968
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Tim LaHaye
780 books2,291 followersTimothy "Tim" F. LaHaye was an American evangelical Christian minister, author, and speaker, best known for the Left Behind series of apocalyptic fiction, which he co-wrote with Jerry B. Jenkins.
He has written over 50 books, both fiction and non-fiction.
He has written over 50 books, both fiction and non-fiction.
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August 24, 2024
First, the title. But it’s what’s inside that’s worse. Here are some snippets:
“A woman will not be lastingly happy unless she is in subjection to her husband.” - Please note that the context here is that husbands should always control the finances, even if, LaHaye says, the wife is an accountant.
“When a wife works, certain dangers arise that should be considered. The most important is that if the wife works and keeps her money separate from her husband's, it breeds a feeling of independence and self-sufficiency which God did not intend a married woman to have... I am convinced that one of the reasons young married couples divorce so readily today is because the wife is not economically dependent upon her husband; whenever difficulties and pressures arise she can say, as one young lady said to me, "I don't have to take that kind of thing; I can live by myself!" - It is dangerous for women to be able to leave abusive relationships, LaHaye says.
“Men have a natural tendency to relax on their day off by not shaving. A look in the mirror will reveal that he scarcely looks his best in this unshaven condition. It is usually selfishness that causes a man not to shave on the day that he is with his wife the most-just because it is easier for him.” - This is the most critical that LaHaye gets of men in the entire book. Of course, beards are now super important to evangelicals.
“A bride should begin one ritual immediately after her honeymoon: the last thirty minutes before her husband returns from work she should spend on her appearance. His homecoming should be the high point in her day.” - THIRTY MINUTES
“She is often twenty-two to twenty-six by the time she is ready for children, and surprisingly enough, that is past the ideal childbearing age.” - LaHaye says that 20 is the ideal age for getting preggo.
“I want to briefly mention adoption. Because of modern pressures on women, and various other factors, an increasing number of childless Christian couples are confronted with the question: Should we adopt children or wait on the Lord to send them?” - LaHaye goes on to be pro-adoption as an evangelism method, but it certainly seems like he’s anti-adoption here.
“A woman will not be lastingly happy unless she is in subjection to her husband.” - Please note that the context here is that husbands should always control the finances, even if, LaHaye says, the wife is an accountant.
“When a wife works, certain dangers arise that should be considered. The most important is that if the wife works and keeps her money separate from her husband's, it breeds a feeling of independence and self-sufficiency which God did not intend a married woman to have... I am convinced that one of the reasons young married couples divorce so readily today is because the wife is not economically dependent upon her husband; whenever difficulties and pressures arise she can say, as one young lady said to me, "I don't have to take that kind of thing; I can live by myself!" - It is dangerous for women to be able to leave abusive relationships, LaHaye says.
“Men have a natural tendency to relax on their day off by not shaving. A look in the mirror will reveal that he scarcely looks his best in this unshaven condition. It is usually selfishness that causes a man not to shave on the day that he is with his wife the most-just because it is easier for him.” - This is the most critical that LaHaye gets of men in the entire book. Of course, beards are now super important to evangelicals.
“A bride should begin one ritual immediately after her honeymoon: the last thirty minutes before her husband returns from work she should spend on her appearance. His homecoming should be the high point in her day.” - THIRTY MINUTES
“She is often twenty-two to twenty-six by the time she is ready for children, and surprisingly enough, that is past the ideal childbearing age.” - LaHaye says that 20 is the ideal age for getting preggo.
“I want to briefly mention adoption. Because of modern pressures on women, and various other factors, an increasing number of childless Christian couples are confronted with the question: Should we adopt children or wait on the Lord to send them?” - LaHaye goes on to be pro-adoption as an evangelism method, but it certainly seems like he’s anti-adoption here.
October 13, 2015
Even after 15 years of marriage, this book was profound to me. It has no time limit to it's relativity. A MUST read for newlyweds and those who have been married for years. This one's staying on my bookshelf for my son and daughters!
July 30, 2022
3.5 stars. Took us a looooong time to get through this one.
Some good points well made, some good reminders, some clichés and generalisations that aren’t necessarily true but spoken of in this book as always the case and some accurate medical drawings!!
Some good points well made, some good reminders, some clichés and generalisations that aren’t necessarily true but spoken of in this book as always the case and some accurate medical drawings!!
January 21, 2020
I had read through this book years ago, I want to think it was 1979 or so. I was surprised at how much of it I remembered, especially of the author’s illustrations. Essentially, this book is a presentation of LaHaye’s experience and observations on the subject of marriage. He does proof text many of his points, but it seems clear that the structure of what he wants to say is his own invention. In other words, the approach is topical rather than driven by an exposition of any given passage or passages. Still, there is wise pastoral counsel in these words. I do think that this is the sort of thing that the author probably preached or used in marriage retreats before he committed it to print.
The weakness in this book is the dated illustrations. I could just imagine someone 20 years old today reading it and being struck by that. Still, if you realize the underlying point is valid, there is still great value here.
I would say that this book is valuable because is addresses the issues in marriage in a very straightforward way and presents a reasonable plan of action for couples to follow. What bothers me about it are the times that the proof texts are not really on target. That comes too close to playing fast and loose with the Bible, which could undermine its value in people’s minds if they realize what is going on. Still, I’m glad I reread this book.
The weakness in this book is the dated illustrations. I could just imagine someone 20 years old today reading it and being struck by that. Still, if you realize the underlying point is valid, there is still great value here.
I would say that this book is valuable because is addresses the issues in marriage in a very straightforward way and presents a reasonable plan of action for couples to follow. What bothers me about it are the times that the proof texts are not really on target. That comes too close to playing fast and loose with the Bible, which could undermine its value in people’s minds if they realize what is going on. Still, I’m glad I reread this book.
August 13, 2013
Best. Title. Ever.
Found this in the bottom of a trunk in an antique store in Sheridan, Wyo. some years ago. Hilarious mix of old-fashioned Christian values ("wives need to learn to be submissive in every aspect of life to their husbands") to stuff that makes good sense ("kindness to one's partner is the best way to heal any relationship.") Love the frank tone combined with Christian conservative values. It's like The Onion wrote a book about marriage. Lots of truth here, but if you're not Christian, or you were born after 1980, it's pretty damn funny.
Found this in the bottom of a trunk in an antique store in Sheridan, Wyo. some years ago. Hilarious mix of old-fashioned Christian values ("wives need to learn to be submissive in every aspect of life to their husbands") to stuff that makes good sense ("kindness to one's partner is the best way to heal any relationship.") Love the frank tone combined with Christian conservative values. It's like The Onion wrote a book about marriage. Lots of truth here, but if you're not Christian, or you were born after 1980, it's pretty damn funny.
July 7, 2020
I have read (and written) books on marriage and their roles. This is one of the better ones. Biblical, honest, practical and down to the point. It may be an older book now, but is stil highly revelant. If we would follow the Biblical principles for marriage, our world and our homes would be so much better.
July 6, 2024
Un libro bonito con consejos matrimoniales basados en Dios en la biblia y el espíritu Santo me enseñó varias cosas que espero ponerlas en práctica en mi matrimonio.
No estuve de acuerdo en un par de cosas pero siento que si está bueno para que lo lean las parejas casadas en especial los recién casados para que empiecen su matrimonio de la mano de Dios y siguiendo sus principios
No estuve de acuerdo en un par de cosas pero siento que si está bueno para que lo lean las parejas casadas en especial los recién casados para que empiecen su matrimonio de la mano de Dios y siguiendo sus principios
May 13, 2019
Bit dated, written in the 60's. Advise overall pretty solid, very Christian forward, but progressive (recommendation of birth control, and acknowledgement of both types of female orgasims, vaginal and clitoral)
August 8, 2020
Es un buen libro que aunque sencillo tiene buenos consejos
December 3, 2020
Decently good book about marriage from a Biblical perspective. A lot about temperaments and I’m not sure what to think about that. Overall, pretty good.
July 30, 2022
Nearly worth 5 just for the title…
Nothing particularly new but helpful reminders on some of the core planks of a healthy marriage.
Nothing particularly new but helpful reminders on some of the core planks of a healthy marriage.
September 19, 2022
Author mentions a few teasers from other books he wrote (temperaments, act of marriage, etc.). Shorter chapters and lots of good info in here.
August 23, 2019
This is hands-down the best marriage book I've ever read. The value, particularly considering it's less than 150-pages long, was incredible. Perfect balance of focus on a couple, as well each individual in the relationship.
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