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What Women Want In A Man: How To Become The Alpha Male Women Respect, Desire, And Want To Submit To
In order to attract and more importantly, KEEP a good woman in your life you must become the kind of man that she simply cannot live without. This is your only job as a man when it comes to dating and relating with women. You don’t need a bunch of seduction techniques, mind games, or pick-up tactics to make a woman want you. Because quite frankly, no seduction technique in the world will turn a woman on and make her want you if she does not RESPECT you as a man. If a woman cannot respect you as a man she won’t be able to trust you. If she isn’t able to place her trust in you she simply cannot fall in love or STAY in love with you. You can learn everything you can about how to make women want you and still fail to master the “inner game” of being a man that naturally attracts women. Some guys even study all kinds of “seduction secrets” on attracting women, yet they only end up in terrible relationships with low-quality women. Most guys simply don’t understand how women think. If you asked the average guy what women want, he may say things like confidence, money, or ridiculous good looks, but all of these things are just the tip of the iceberg. Here’s what women really want from men… Security. If you can communicate to a woman that you’re a man that can offer her security in the world, she will give you her heart and more. And get this, you don’t need to be ridiculously good-looking or have a big bank account to make a woman feel secure with you. There’s a much better (and easier) way to attract a high-quality woman and make her happy. And this is what you're going to discover inside this book. Here's what you’re going to learn Get started right away and learn how to become an alpha male that can naturally attract a high-quality woman and keep her “well-behaved.” Scroll to the top of the page and select the ‘buy button’ now .
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First published November 27, 2012
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Bruce Bryans
52 books191 followersBruce Bryans writes books for men and women who want to become both irresistible and irreplaceable romantic partners to the opposite sex. This is the focus of all of his books.
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January 25, 2023
Quick Note 1-17-23:
I've been watching Lois and Clark: The New Adventures of Superman on HBO Max and can't help but remember this book. The character, Clark, exemplifies what Bryans describes as the kind of man women prefer.
Update 12.15.17:
Just wanted to add here: the book recommended taking up a martial art. I have, and I can't recommend it enough if you seek to attain stronger manliness. Plus, a better body doesn't hurt. At all....
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I rated this again, at five stars. I have to be honest. This book changed my life. I understand females more than I did, and my relations have improved. This information does work, and I've found my experiences match the advice given. However, if you want to use this to have multiple sexual partners, you will have to work your ass off for it. You will be severely tested by women. I'm too old and emotionally worn out for those games, but if someone reads this in their twenties.... I don't want multiple partners, but I'm grateful I can make women feel more comfortable around me in all my interactions with them, from work to the cashier at the gas station, and make them feel good about themselves, sometimes.
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I highly recommend this book to other men searching for a new place in dating and relationships. My ex informed me I need to be more masculine after we divorced. In my search, I've started with this book. I've put much into practice and it does work. He bases his information on psychological science. I thought he would tell me how to get laid, to be completely honest. He didn't. He told me how to find and keep a quality woman, by becoming a man of character, who makes good decisions, leads, and mans up. He has great advice and I highly recommend this.
One example I can share: I honestly believed women found me attractive because I'm nice and sweet. The author explains this comes across as a "Yes man" mentality and shows weakness. Women want someone to stand up for the right thing, not someone who will please people to be nice or kind, which comes from selfish ambition and manipulative ways. He gives more great advice like this, a life-changer of a book. I wish I'd read it as a fourteen or fifteen year old to learn how men make the most out of being men.
Quick Note 1-18-23: Six years after reading I've learned a few additional things in relation to the book. 1. Be you. Don't try to be what you are not. Find the reality of it inside you rather than pretending and hoping you will change. 2. I've seen men go to the extreme with the alpha thing. The A in Alpha does not stand for Ass Hole. 3. Don't go out of balance. You can be tough, but you are human, very complex. Don't lose your personality. Find the reality, not the ideal. 4. It's worth the journey. Anything that makes you a better person will make you, others and the world a better place.
I've been watching Lois and Clark: The New Adventures of Superman on HBO Max and can't help but remember this book. The character, Clark, exemplifies what Bryans describes as the kind of man women prefer.
Update 12.15.17:
Just wanted to add here: the book recommended taking up a martial art. I have, and I can't recommend it enough if you seek to attain stronger manliness. Plus, a better body doesn't hurt. At all....
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I rated this again, at five stars. I have to be honest. This book changed my life. I understand females more than I did, and my relations have improved. This information does work, and I've found my experiences match the advice given. However, if you want to use this to have multiple sexual partners, you will have to work your ass off for it. You will be severely tested by women. I'm too old and emotionally worn out for those games, but if someone reads this in their twenties.... I don't want multiple partners, but I'm grateful I can make women feel more comfortable around me in all my interactions with them, from work to the cashier at the gas station, and make them feel good about themselves, sometimes.
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I highly recommend this book to other men searching for a new place in dating and relationships. My ex informed me I need to be more masculine after we divorced. In my search, I've started with this book. I've put much into practice and it does work. He bases his information on psychological science. I thought he would tell me how to get laid, to be completely honest. He didn't. He told me how to find and keep a quality woman, by becoming a man of character, who makes good decisions, leads, and mans up. He has great advice and I highly recommend this.
One example I can share: I honestly believed women found me attractive because I'm nice and sweet. The author explains this comes across as a "Yes man" mentality and shows weakness. Women want someone to stand up for the right thing, not someone who will please people to be nice or kind, which comes from selfish ambition and manipulative ways. He gives more great advice like this, a life-changer of a book. I wish I'd read it as a fourteen or fifteen year old to learn how men make the most out of being men.
Quick Note 1-18-23: Six years after reading I've learned a few additional things in relation to the book. 1. Be you. Don't try to be what you are not. Find the reality of it inside you rather than pretending and hoping you will change. 2. I've seen men go to the extreme with the alpha thing. The A in Alpha does not stand for Ass Hole. 3. Don't go out of balance. You can be tough, but you are human, very complex. Don't lose your personality. Find the reality, not the ideal. 4. It's worth the journey. Anything that makes you a better person will make you, others and the world a better place.
December 23, 2017
I'm partial to Bruce Bryans. I've learned a ton reading his books for women and they got me over a difficult time in my life. Point? If you're a guy who's trying to find a woman who is actually different from the rest, read this.
As a woman who's learning more about myself, I endorse this book for women as well.
As a woman who's learning more about myself, I endorse this book for women as well.
November 28, 2020
Not creepy like the title might suggest. The author advocates that men embrace "masculine chivalry," and although this term might offend some, he's really just saying that men should strive to be committed to their own principles, their own life purpose, and their relationships. It's really that simple. Not a guide to seducing the other sex but rather an encouragement to live with integrity.
May 10, 2016
Short and sweet but worth a read. Here are two of my favorite quotes
A man's courage to do what is right, to follow his path in life, to stand up for what he believes in and to be the best version of himself is his most attractive and desirable quality to a woman.
Women are attracted to men that illustrate the traits and qualities of leadership. A good woman will choose to follow and trust man who is consciously following the path of leadership.
A man's courage to do what is right, to follow his path in life, to stand up for what he believes in and to be the best version of himself is his most attractive and desirable quality to a woman.
Women are attracted to men that illustrate the traits and qualities of leadership. A good woman will choose to follow and trust man who is consciously following the path of leadership.
March 18, 2020
Did not need to read this piece of garbage. As a woman, I can tell you that being an "Alpha"male IS NOT what women want. Women want an EQUAL partner, who treats them with respect. The title alone makes my blood boil!!! Bruce Bryans is a misogynistic little boy who terrified of adult women.
April 10, 2020
Easy read and very relevant. I liked this book and helped me instill more confidence in myself and be appreciative of the man I am today. I wish I could give this to some of my friends and they would actually read it.
Chapter 1 : The Feminine And Masculine Forces Of Attraction
- The mature, masculine man is confident, poised, productive, assertive, and self-directed.
- First of all, he is committed to his principles. He lives his life by a strict code of honor. He is a man of high ideals and he values all that is good and decent in the world. This makes him noble, magnanimous, and gracious with others because he makes decisions based on unchanging virtues.
- Secondly, he is committed to his purpose in life. He lives to serve the world and to give the very best of himself in some productive pursuit.
- Thirdly, he is committed to his relationships. Such a man learns to develop empathy for others and he sees it as his duty to make the world a better place to live in for those that he loves. He abides by the golden rule that a man should treat others in the way he would like others to treat him.
- The term masculine in this case refers to a man’s character and his behavior. The best way for a man to develop a more masculine disposition is to consciously go about building his character and improving his personality.
- It’s important for you to take control of your life, take responsibility for your thoughts and actions, and learn to properly manage your emotions.
1. Start a new challenging hobby, something that you can see yourself becoming really good at.
2. Develop a new skill or an old talent and use it as a means to get ahead in your career or even build a business.
3. Travel with your woman often and plan unforgettable experiences with her.
4. Set a challenging goal for yourself and commit to attaining it.
5. Join a gym or sports team or pick up a martial art and develop your body.
6. Read more books that will propel you forward in life.
7. Find some friends that will help you excel in life.
8. Be creative in your love life and treat your woman as if she were the most important person on earth (isn’t she?).
9. Take charge of situations on your job or at home. Be proactive.
- Learn what really makes your woman tick and ensure that her needs are met even before she realizes she had one.
- She wants to know how you’ll deal with her emotional nature and she wants to know if she can rely on you when the going gets tough.
- What she really wants is a feeling of security, knowing that no matter what life throws her way you’ll be there as a source of strength and encouragement. She wants to feel secure in your ability to weather the storms of life.
- Become secure in your ability to make intelligent decisions in the face of conflict, and become a master at handling your emotions.
- The ideals and values you live your life by will help you to deal with your inner conflicts and insecurities because your decision-making won’t be guided by how you feel at the moment.
CHAPTER 2 : How To Become The Man That She Needs
- Learn to become conscious of your behavior, as this is the first step to changing the unproductive way you respond to people, especially women.
- The second step is to become fully honest with yourself and analyze yourself to see which of the nice guy qualities apply to you the most.
- You must be prepared to follow through with your desire to assert yourself CONSISTENTLY.
CHAPTER 3 : How To Get Rid Of Your Insecurities
- *Answer These Questions* What are you unwilling to compromise on? How will you treat others day in and day out? In what manner will you conduct yourself around women? How do you treat the woman in your life? What do you want to bring about in your life? What are you willing to die for? What are you willing to die trying to accomplish? Who are the people that are most important to you? What are the morals, values, and ethics that you choose to live by? How do you act under pressure? How do you act around other men? What kind of man are you? Or better yet, what kind of man would you like to become?
- Study the lives of men who have done great things in this world
- From the newspapers you read every day to the music that you choose to listen to. Whatever you put into your mind has to go someplace and do something. By repetition the information goes into your subconscious mind and becomes a working part of who you are and what you believe.
CHAPTER 4 : On Becoming A Capable And Confident Leader
- Find your path in life and be determined to stay on that path no matter what.
1. Where am I going?
2. Who will go with me?
- It’s important for you as a man to find the work that you love to do and that you can do well. But don’t be confused; the thing you may do exceptionally well may not be the thing that you can do stupendously well.
- A good woman wants a man who can lead her, one who can make the tough decisions. She wants a man she can place her confidence in, and she wants him to take her for who she is
The best way to go about this is to count your blessings daily and find things to be grateful for.
- Find Your Path... and Never Stray from It
- Quit Consuming and Become a Producer
- This is about becoming a highly productive creator, builder, and provider in your family, community, and your slice of the world.
- Master Your Fears
- These two things are the fear of failure and the fear of criticism.
- Cultivate Masculine Courage
- Challenge yourself consciously and consistently every single day of your life. This will build the most important characteristic found in ALL great leaders and highly successful individuals of society. It will build your courage.
- Cultivate the habit of being grateful for your life just as it is today, and how you’d like it to be in the future. Make it a HABIT to see the positive side of things, and develop an optimistic disposition towards life. Show your gratitude in how you live your life and EXPECT good things to happen to you.
Chapter 1 : The Feminine And Masculine Forces Of Attraction
- The mature, masculine man is confident, poised, productive, assertive, and self-directed.
- First of all, he is committed to his principles. He lives his life by a strict code of honor. He is a man of high ideals and he values all that is good and decent in the world. This makes him noble, magnanimous, and gracious with others because he makes decisions based on unchanging virtues.
- Secondly, he is committed to his purpose in life. He lives to serve the world and to give the very best of himself in some productive pursuit.
- Thirdly, he is committed to his relationships. Such a man learns to develop empathy for others and he sees it as his duty to make the world a better place to live in for those that he loves. He abides by the golden rule that a man should treat others in the way he would like others to treat him.
- The term masculine in this case refers to a man’s character and his behavior. The best way for a man to develop a more masculine disposition is to consciously go about building his character and improving his personality.
- It’s important for you to take control of your life, take responsibility for your thoughts and actions, and learn to properly manage your emotions.
1. Start a new challenging hobby, something that you can see yourself becoming really good at.
2. Develop a new skill or an old talent and use it as a means to get ahead in your career or even build a business.
3. Travel with your woman often and plan unforgettable experiences with her.
4. Set a challenging goal for yourself and commit to attaining it.
5. Join a gym or sports team or pick up a martial art and develop your body.
6. Read more books that will propel you forward in life.
7. Find some friends that will help you excel in life.
8. Be creative in your love life and treat your woman as if she were the most important person on earth (isn’t she?).
9. Take charge of situations on your job or at home. Be proactive.
- Learn what really makes your woman tick and ensure that her needs are met even before she realizes she had one.
- She wants to know how you’ll deal with her emotional nature and she wants to know if she can rely on you when the going gets tough.
- What she really wants is a feeling of security, knowing that no matter what life throws her way you’ll be there as a source of strength and encouragement. She wants to feel secure in your ability to weather the storms of life.
- Become secure in your ability to make intelligent decisions in the face of conflict, and become a master at handling your emotions.
- The ideals and values you live your life by will help you to deal with your inner conflicts and insecurities because your decision-making won’t be guided by how you feel at the moment.
CHAPTER 2 : How To Become The Man That She Needs
- Learn to become conscious of your behavior, as this is the first step to changing the unproductive way you respond to people, especially women.
- The second step is to become fully honest with yourself and analyze yourself to see which of the nice guy qualities apply to you the most.
- You must be prepared to follow through with your desire to assert yourself CONSISTENTLY.
CHAPTER 3 : How To Get Rid Of Your Insecurities
- *Answer These Questions* What are you unwilling to compromise on? How will you treat others day in and day out? In what manner will you conduct yourself around women? How do you treat the woman in your life? What do you want to bring about in your life? What are you willing to die for? What are you willing to die trying to accomplish? Who are the people that are most important to you? What are the morals, values, and ethics that you choose to live by? How do you act under pressure? How do you act around other men? What kind of man are you? Or better yet, what kind of man would you like to become?
- Study the lives of men who have done great things in this world
- From the newspapers you read every day to the music that you choose to listen to. Whatever you put into your mind has to go someplace and do something. By repetition the information goes into your subconscious mind and becomes a working part of who you are and what you believe.
CHAPTER 4 : On Becoming A Capable And Confident Leader
- Find your path in life and be determined to stay on that path no matter what.
1. Where am I going?
2. Who will go with me?
- It’s important for you as a man to find the work that you love to do and that you can do well. But don’t be confused; the thing you may do exceptionally well may not be the thing that you can do stupendously well.
- A good woman wants a man who can lead her, one who can make the tough decisions. She wants a man she can place her confidence in, and she wants him to take her for who she is
The best way to go about this is to count your blessings daily and find things to be grateful for.
- Find Your Path... and Never Stray from It
- Quit Consuming and Become a Producer
- This is about becoming a highly productive creator, builder, and provider in your family, community, and your slice of the world.
- Master Your Fears
- These two things are the fear of failure and the fear of criticism.
- Cultivate Masculine Courage
- Challenge yourself consciously and consistently every single day of your life. This will build the most important characteristic found in ALL great leaders and highly successful individuals of society. It will build your courage.
- Cultivate the habit of being grateful for your life just as it is today, and how you’d like it to be in the future. Make it a HABIT to see the positive side of things, and develop an optimistic disposition towards life. Show your gratitude in how you live your life and EXPECT good things to happen to you.
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September 24, 2017
Nothing new
Nothing new in terms of alpha male concept that exist among social animals for preservation of gene pool. Just be your true authentic and unique self. Someone will love you for who you are.
Nothing new in terms of alpha male concept that exist among social animals for preservation of gene pool. Just be your true authentic and unique self. Someone will love you for who you are.
June 21, 2017
"Be alpha, the end"
The book only touches the very superficial obvious, no new information here.
The book only touches the very superficial obvious, no new information here.
July 18, 2022
Such a sexist and nonsensical book. I feel sad that some men are actually going to take his advice. Women want equal partners, we don’t need “leaders” or to “submit” to anyone.
February 10, 2018
So bad could not finish
December 16, 2017
The title of this book sounds like an overhyped article you'd see in a men's magazine in the supermarket checkout line. I expected something smarmy, poorly written, and with endless references to sex.
What a surprise! This is superb read filled with excellent advice. Much of it is about taking action -- and I think Teddy Roosevelt (who made "get action" his mantra) would have liked it a lot.
I should add that none of the "action" in this book is about using pickup lines or manipulating women. It's all about being a better man. If you focus on that, you'll consequently be more likely to attract the type of woman who will be attracted to you.
A few ideas that fired up my enthusiasm:
1. Be confident in yourself. Know what your values are and make sure your internal compass is calibrated so that you don't deviate from those values. Don't expect or rely on other people to validate your worth or what you need to do. That path only leads to disappointment. To me, being confident in yourself is about being your own best cheerleader (though I can understand why Bryans doesn't use that term in a book written for men).
2. Have a purpose with your life. This is a universal idea that can help anyone at any age. What is your reason for getting out of bed each day and what do you want to accomplish as your life's work? If you wander without a purpose, why would a desirable woman want to be with you?
3. Be OK with people not liking you. I struggle a lot with this. I'm a "nice guy" and hate the feeling when someone is upset with me and I can't understand why. I endlessly psychoanalyze it and always succeed in making myself miserable. An ideal man doesn't worry about people not liking him. He accepts that as a reality and moves on with more important things.
4. Keep reading and learning. I love this idea (and Goodreads has been a helpful tool in my efforts to read more and document my journey) and I appreciated hearing Bryans reiterate the importance of this. He even points out you are likely to learn more in biographies and autobiographies of great men than you'll find in many self-help books.
The upshot: This book is all about being more comfortable with yourself. If you do that, having a fabulous woman in your life is a bonus. View the situation that way, rather than as "If I only had a fabulous woman, I would be more comfortable with myself."
Two other books came to mind while reading this. One was a Jack Reacher novel. Reacher is confident, has a purpose in life (kicking bad guys to the gutter), doesn't care if people don't like him, and keeps learning. Who doesn't want to be this guy?
The other book was David Allen's "Getting Things Done." Allen spends a lot of time in that book discussing workplace productivity. But he also emphasizes the importance of taking charge of your situation (whatever it is), and offers this: “You are the captain of your own ship; the more you act from that perspective, the better things will go for you.”
Amen, brother. I'm off to go make things happen.
What a surprise! This is superb read filled with excellent advice. Much of it is about taking action -- and I think Teddy Roosevelt (who made "get action" his mantra) would have liked it a lot.
I should add that none of the "action" in this book is about using pickup lines or manipulating women. It's all about being a better man. If you focus on that, you'll consequently be more likely to attract the type of woman who will be attracted to you.
A few ideas that fired up my enthusiasm:
1. Be confident in yourself. Know what your values are and make sure your internal compass is calibrated so that you don't deviate from those values. Don't expect or rely on other people to validate your worth or what you need to do. That path only leads to disappointment. To me, being confident in yourself is about being your own best cheerleader (though I can understand why Bryans doesn't use that term in a book written for men).
2. Have a purpose with your life. This is a universal idea that can help anyone at any age. What is your reason for getting out of bed each day and what do you want to accomplish as your life's work? If you wander without a purpose, why would a desirable woman want to be with you?
3. Be OK with people not liking you. I struggle a lot with this. I'm a "nice guy" and hate the feeling when someone is upset with me and I can't understand why. I endlessly psychoanalyze it and always succeed in making myself miserable. An ideal man doesn't worry about people not liking him. He accepts that as a reality and moves on with more important things.
4. Keep reading and learning. I love this idea (and Goodreads has been a helpful tool in my efforts to read more and document my journey) and I appreciated hearing Bryans reiterate the importance of this. He even points out you are likely to learn more in biographies and autobiographies of great men than you'll find in many self-help books.
The upshot: This book is all about being more comfortable with yourself. If you do that, having a fabulous woman in your life is a bonus. View the situation that way, rather than as "If I only had a fabulous woman, I would be more comfortable with myself."
Two other books came to mind while reading this. One was a Jack Reacher novel. Reacher is confident, has a purpose in life (kicking bad guys to the gutter), doesn't care if people don't like him, and keeps learning. Who doesn't want to be this guy?
The other book was David Allen's "Getting Things Done." Allen spends a lot of time in that book discussing workplace productivity. But he also emphasizes the importance of taking charge of your situation (whatever it is), and offers this: “You are the captain of your own ship; the more you act from that perspective, the better things will go for you.”
Amen, brother. I'm off to go make things happen.
January 17, 2018
A highly respectable classic
If you want to better yourself as a man, a companion and a father. Then check this book out. What are you waiting for? read it!!!
If you want to better yourself as a man, a companion and a father. Then check this book out. What are you waiting for? read it!!!
October 29, 2014
I had higher expectation when I first bought this book. The book title is somehow misleading or better to say, it is overestimated.
It is a short book, about 100 pages only. The book contains only four chapters. I would say this is more like a collection of articles rather than a book.
The author did not bring anything new in his book, he talks generally about what women are attracted to in men in the first chapter. Masculine maturity and chivalry together with romantic seduction are the two main characters women are looking for in every man. The author kept mentioning these characteristics over and over asking men to have them, yet he did not elaborate how women see these characters and how men should acquire and show them.
In the second chapter, he brought the idea of Mr. Nice guy. He thinks that to win a woman heart, a man has to be out of the Mr. Nice guy circle. I only agree with the author, if this was before the start of the relationship. However, a man is in a committed relationship or married, this will not work. An intimate relationship requires sharing emotions with one another. Women would prefer a boyfriend or a husband who listens, shares, and cares about them.
The title of chapter three was promising, how to get rid of your insecurities? Most of the chapter wAs just filling except one idea that probably was original. Bryans suggested that ones need to read about strong character biographies and live their characters to eliminate ones insecurities.
Chapter 4 was about how strong leadership attracts women, the same suggestion, in ch.3 was suggested in here for men to acquire strong leadership.
Three stars is high rating for this book, I do not recommend buy it. Look for it in the internet, if you do not find it, spend your money on something else worth more.
It is a short book, about 100 pages only. The book contains only four chapters. I would say this is more like a collection of articles rather than a book.
The author did not bring anything new in his book, he talks generally about what women are attracted to in men in the first chapter. Masculine maturity and chivalry together with romantic seduction are the two main characters women are looking for in every man. The author kept mentioning these characteristics over and over asking men to have them, yet he did not elaborate how women see these characters and how men should acquire and show them.
In the second chapter, he brought the idea of Mr. Nice guy. He thinks that to win a woman heart, a man has to be out of the Mr. Nice guy circle. I only agree with the author, if this was before the start of the relationship. However, a man is in a committed relationship or married, this will not work. An intimate relationship requires sharing emotions with one another. Women would prefer a boyfriend or a husband who listens, shares, and cares about them.
The title of chapter three was promising, how to get rid of your insecurities? Most of the chapter wAs just filling except one idea that probably was original. Bryans suggested that ones need to read about strong character biographies and live their characters to eliminate ones insecurities.
Chapter 4 was about how strong leadership attracts women, the same suggestion, in ch.3 was suggested in here for men to acquire strong leadership.
Three stars is high rating for this book, I do not recommend buy it. Look for it in the internet, if you do not find it, spend your money on something else worth more.
December 31, 2017
Pretty well written and organised book . The information and detailed analysis of situations and how to handle them is priceless . Definitely read it if you think you are a boring ' nice guy ' and want to step up your game into the bad boys zone .
July 21, 2019
Quick, succinct read. I recommend for all men.
Try not to get turned off by the cheesy title. Given the title, I went in with low expectations and was surprised. The core message of the book is that as a man you need to develop a set of core principles for yourself and stick by them with fierceness and resolve. Not only do you become a good man in the process, but a strong, unwavering one at that.
As a Christian man I think the core message of this book is also along the lines of what Jesus would tell you; as a man, follow the path God offers. Stay on that path with fierceness and resolve.
Reading 2/15.
Try not to get turned off by the cheesy title. Given the title, I went in with low expectations and was surprised. The core message of the book is that as a man you need to develop a set of core principles for yourself and stick by them with fierceness and resolve. Not only do you become a good man in the process, but a strong, unwavering one at that.
As a Christian man I think the core message of this book is also along the lines of what Jesus would tell you; as a man, follow the path God offers. Stay on that path with fierceness and resolve.
Reading 2/15.
June 1, 2023
Wow. I can’t believe he has such high ratings. His overly simplified views of men and women were insulting. I feel like his overly confident writing is trying to be shockingly fresh, but instead comes across unsettling with his black and white mentality. All his advice is wrapped into sweeping generalizations of all men and women and insults the complexities of human emotion and motivation.
Maybe there is some good advice in here…maybe. But it’s really hard to take advice from someone who is so dehumanizing.
Maybe there is some good advice in here…maybe. But it’s really hard to take advice from someone who is so dehumanizing.
December 13, 2017
Excellent and easy read
I liked everything about this book, it is an excellent read and has a simplistic way in guiding you to knowing, how to be a top of the line man by gaining useful knowledge, and understanding on becoming a man who is willing to want a real relationship with a woman, who could be his dream girl. I would recommend this book not only to men but to everyone.
I liked everything about this book, it is an excellent read and has a simplistic way in guiding you to knowing, how to be a top of the line man by gaining useful knowledge, and understanding on becoming a man who is willing to want a real relationship with a woman, who could be his dream girl. I would recommend this book not only to men but to everyone.
October 17, 2019
Some of it’s good and some of it’s not
Bottom line, take from it what works for you and ignore the rest. For me, I’ll focus on me and not on the “rated a 10” girls/women/females that are lining up to choose me.
The day I start rating women is the day I stop looking for the best in people, which is one of my truths.
Bottom line, take from it what works for you and ignore the rest. For me, I’ll focus on me and not on the “rated a 10” girls/women/females that are lining up to choose me.
The day I start rating women is the day I stop looking for the best in people, which is one of my truths.
March 11, 2015
Good self help guidance.
Worth reading when looking for assurance or answers when entering a relationship or sustaining one. Good and easy reading material.
Worth reading when looking for assurance or answers when entering a relationship or sustaining one. Good and easy reading material.
November 19, 2016
fascinating
Be a great man
-fearless
-stop complaining
-take responsibility
-always remain positive mood and thought
- have your own goal
Be a great man
-fearless
-stop complaining
-take responsibility
-always remain positive mood and thought
- have your own goal
June 13, 2017
Concise and thoughtful
December 15, 2017
newlyweds, you gotta read this book!
December 23, 2017
Good book
This book is very insightful and a must read for all men who wants to improve not only their dating life, but their life is general.
This book is very insightful and a must read for all men who wants to improve not only their dating life, but their life is general.
February 22, 2023
- This, hands down, is one of the best book I've ever read. The cover looks cheesy but the content is actually not even about dating: it's about how to self-improve to become a better overall person
- Masculine chivalry is about a man knowing who he is, live by his principles, strict code of honor. He has a deep purpose in life and wouldn't let the popular ideal of the crowd persuade him to live overwise. He is constantly improving himself to be the best version of himself he could be
- On the opposite end, highly feminine women is about a woman having her act together and prizes her dignity; she "loves herself, loves people, and is honest, loyal, charming, seductive, intelligent, resourceful, and very attractive". Author noted that "I just knew that a highly feminine, graceful woman was walking behind me, without even seeing her at first."
- For both men and women: high quality people are just incredibly comfortable in their own body, own skin
- Women want men that can make them feel woman-y, and the only way a man can make that happen is simply by being a man
- However, being a man is not about being incredibly stubborn and don't seek advice. It's about the right balance
- It's important for a man to live with his own code of conduct, and refuse to suffer (as in, cave into the inner voice of insecurities, of feeling constantly not good enough)
- A good way to fix problem is by action: if you don't think you're good enough, then do something about it. If that's nothing you can do, sit back and relax and don't cave into the insecurity: there's nothing you can do anyways
- Stop whining, be accountable of the reality. Accept who you are fully: your job is to be the best version of yourself and constantly work on the ideal self. Nothing is going to change for you (besides being unattractive for all genders) by constantly whining
- A great way to improve yourself is by reading biography of great man you admire
- Filter out the garbage information in your life, whether it's from books you read or from friendship you have. Some people are toxic and only will drag you down, your job is to filter them out (similarly for garbage information you digest)
- Be selective with whom you seek advice from
- Listen to your inner voice, avoid the desire to be liked by others
- Don't be ashamed by your natural desire in women: it's natural. In fact, women wants to be desired by men she too desires. The obvious caveat here is how you express it: doing it in a creepy way obviously would garnor dislike, whereas doing in a confident way would only gain more reciprocation
- Learn to pause during tense moment, learn to control your emotion and not having it to get the most of you. Learn to tick into system 2 thinking rather than automatically kick into system 1 thinking of fight or flight
- Practice making decision by making more decisions in your life. Know that you're responsible for your life and know that you can change your life
- Learn from your past failures and improve. In addition, adjust your frames when things happen: see failures as simply a tuition so you would do much better next time, see criticism as a construction tool to better yourself (rather than taking them always personally). For non-constructive criticism, simply pay it no mind
- Don't be afraid to seek good advices, and seek it constantly
- Learnt to accept who you are and for where you are in life
- Masculine chivalry is about a man knowing who he is, live by his principles, strict code of honor. He has a deep purpose in life and wouldn't let the popular ideal of the crowd persuade him to live overwise. He is constantly improving himself to be the best version of himself he could be
- On the opposite end, highly feminine women is about a woman having her act together and prizes her dignity; she "loves herself, loves people, and is honest, loyal, charming, seductive, intelligent, resourceful, and very attractive". Author noted that "I just knew that a highly feminine, graceful woman was walking behind me, without even seeing her at first."
- For both men and women: high quality people are just incredibly comfortable in their own body, own skin
- Women want men that can make them feel woman-y, and the only way a man can make that happen is simply by being a man
- However, being a man is not about being incredibly stubborn and don't seek advice. It's about the right balance
- It's important for a man to live with his own code of conduct, and refuse to suffer (as in, cave into the inner voice of insecurities, of feeling constantly not good enough)
- A good way to fix problem is by action: if you don't think you're good enough, then do something about it. If that's nothing you can do, sit back and relax and don't cave into the insecurity: there's nothing you can do anyways
- Stop whining, be accountable of the reality. Accept who you are fully: your job is to be the best version of yourself and constantly work on the ideal self. Nothing is going to change for you (besides being unattractive for all genders) by constantly whining
- A great way to improve yourself is by reading biography of great man you admire
- Filter out the garbage information in your life, whether it's from books you read or from friendship you have. Some people are toxic and only will drag you down, your job is to filter them out (similarly for garbage information you digest)
- Be selective with whom you seek advice from
- Listen to your inner voice, avoid the desire to be liked by others
- Don't be ashamed by your natural desire in women: it's natural. In fact, women wants to be desired by men she too desires. The obvious caveat here is how you express it: doing it in a creepy way obviously would garnor dislike, whereas doing in a confident way would only gain more reciprocation
- Learn to pause during tense moment, learn to control your emotion and not having it to get the most of you. Learn to tick into system 2 thinking rather than automatically kick into system 1 thinking of fight or flight
- Practice making decision by making more decisions in your life. Know that you're responsible for your life and know that you can change your life
- Learn from your past failures and improve. In addition, adjust your frames when things happen: see failures as simply a tuition so you would do much better next time, see criticism as a construction tool to better yourself (rather than taking them always personally). For non-constructive criticism, simply pay it no mind
- Don't be afraid to seek good advices, and seek it constantly
- Learnt to accept who you are and for where you are in life
January 21, 2020
A phenomenal work which tells how should a man be in his practical life so that he may be cherished by a woman for being her life partner. The book also can be said a self help book for men. I would like to share with you two more fascinating point that attract me most.
First one is fear. How fear ruins the lives of human beings and most importantly how fear grows up in a human body? The writer argues that at the time of our adolescent we did whatever we wanted and so we said whatever we did like irrespective of thinking what others would say or how they would react. We only did what pleased us. But when we grew up, we began to think what people think or how they would react and so we ceased to be us and began to live in accordance with peoples choice. This thing injects fear in humans. The fear of rejection in the society and eventually we live as per others desires. Bruce says, this kind of fear is most debilitating force in this world because it makes humans timid and in the end they lose their power of decision making.
Second one is food for our healthy mind. The writers say that when we eat unhealthy food our physique becomes ugly. Similarly, when we consume information, we provide food to our mind. That food must be good and authentic. The repetition of bad literature and fake information make our mind ugly and in turns it can't produce fruitful thoughts. So choosing right books for reading is as essential as that of choosing food for a good health.
Happy readings.
July 25, 2018
Don't let the title of this book deceive you. It isn't some guide to become a sleazy douchebag Alpha type of person.
It is about becoming a better man pure and simple. The things you learn from this book just make you a better man. A man in a traditional patriarchal way but without the hint of misogyny.
A lot of this book is just about becoming a better person for your partner and if you don't have a partner how to become the type of man that people respect.
How to handle conflict, how to be decisive and make decisions instead of waiting on others. How to get rid of your fears. How to be confidant in yourself. How to have a code of honor that you should follow.
All of these are in the book with in depth answers on how to achieve them. Like every self help book. It doesn't matter if you read it and like it. Unless you apply to your life. One of the tips of this author(who is a expert on relationships/courtship) is to read more books for your betterment. Which I have been doing. So already I am doing one of the things suggested in this book.
I took notes of all the important sections and will go over them to put them in my subconscious and put them into action.
Great book, short and full of great advice on becoming a manlier man, a leader of men and someone who woman will love and respect.
It is about becoming a better man pure and simple. The things you learn from this book just make you a better man. A man in a traditional patriarchal way but without the hint of misogyny.
A lot of this book is just about becoming a better person for your partner and if you don't have a partner how to become the type of man that people respect.
How to handle conflict, how to be decisive and make decisions instead of waiting on others. How to get rid of your fears. How to be confidant in yourself. How to have a code of honor that you should follow.
All of these are in the book with in depth answers on how to achieve them. Like every self help book. It doesn't matter if you read it and like it. Unless you apply to your life. One of the tips of this author(who is a expert on relationships/courtship) is to read more books for your betterment. Which I have been doing. So already I am doing one of the things suggested in this book.
I took notes of all the important sections and will go over them to put them in my subconscious and put them into action.
Great book, short and full of great advice on becoming a manlier man, a leader of men and someone who woman will love and respect.
June 1, 2022
#16 of 100 self help books
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How to Become the Man That Women Want to Love and Obey...inEveryWay
In order to attract and more importantly, KEEP a good woman in your life, you must become the kind of man that she simply can't live without. This is your only job as a man when it comes to dating and relating with women.
You don't need a bunch of seduction techniques, mind games, or pick-up tactics to make a woman want you. Because quite frankly, no seduction technique in the world will turn a woman on and make her want you if she does not RESPECT you as a man.
If a woman cannot respect you as a man, she won't be able to trust you. If she isn't able to place her trust in you, she simply cannot fall in love or STAY in love with you.
Discover the Secrets of What Women Want in a Man
Most guys simply don't know what women want in a man. Because of this, they try all kinds of "seduction tactics" to attract women, and only end up with low-quality women and terrible relationships.
The main thing that a woman wants from a man is the experience of feeling like awoman. She wants to lose herself in her femininity, and the only way she can feel this feminine experience is when a man acts like…a man.
Become secure in your ability to make intelligent decisions in the face of conflict, and become a master at handling your emotions.
Good
How to Become the Man That Women Want to Love and Obey...inEveryWay
In order to attract and more importantly, KEEP a good woman in your life, you must become the kind of man that she simply can't live without. This is your only job as a man when it comes to dating and relating with women.
You don't need a bunch of seduction techniques, mind games, or pick-up tactics to make a woman want you. Because quite frankly, no seduction technique in the world will turn a woman on and make her want you if she does not RESPECT you as a man.
If a woman cannot respect you as a man, she won't be able to trust you. If she isn't able to place her trust in you, she simply cannot fall in love or STAY in love with you.
Discover the Secrets of What Women Want in a Man
Most guys simply don't know what women want in a man. Because of this, they try all kinds of "seduction tactics" to attract women, and only end up with low-quality women and terrible relationships.
The main thing that a woman wants from a man is the experience of feeling like awoman. She wants to lose herself in her femininity, and the only way she can feel this feminine experience is when a man acts like…a man.
Become secure in your ability to make intelligent decisions in the face of conflict, and become a master at handling your emotions.
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September 5, 2020Unexpected but dead on
I bought the book after I left a serious relationship. It was filled with dramas and constent power struggles and I genuinely thought that girl wasn't marriage material. Many years later and with this book under my belt, in retrospect I do have a deeper understanding of female psyche and why they behave in certain way. For example, a woman doesn't need a man to respect her first, she desires someone who respect himself and get his things together. Then his respect to her makes sense. No one told me this, including my father. I highly recommend this book to gus 20 ~ 30 years old, especially after several relational disasters. You need to stop and think.
I bought the book after I left a serious relationship. It was filled with dramas and constent power struggles and I genuinely thought that girl wasn't marriage material. Many years later and with this book under my belt, in retrospect I do have a deeper understanding of female psyche and why they behave in certain way. For example, a woman doesn't need a man to respect her first, she desires someone who respect himself and get his things together. Then his respect to her makes sense. No one told me this, including my father. I highly recommend this book to gus 20 ~ 30 years old, especially after several relational disasters. You need to stop and think.
January 11, 2021
I came across this book, was aware this is addressed to men and wanted to see if the author really knew what he was talking about. Well I was open minded and read the entire book. Lets just say I had questions about my self as women and could not figure out why I did things when it came to a man. I was always questioning why I did things and could not put it in words or explain why to my support group. After all if I don't understand it how am I to explain it, RIGHT!!
Bruce Bryans hit the nail on the head on so many levels and this book gave clarity of subjects I could not embrace and understand about myself.
For those of you women out there, just out of curiosity, you should read this book and see if it give you clarity on being a woman.
Bruce Bryans hit the nail on the head on so many levels and this book gave clarity of subjects I could not embrace and understand about myself.
For those of you women out there, just out of curiosity, you should read this book and see if it give you clarity on being a woman.
April 21, 2021
Great book but title should change
If your a young man you should definitely read this book.Don't think its a book about walking up to a woman and instantly baiting her.No its more about your own personal growth and how to make you a better man overall.What I've be re taught from reading this book is all woman are naturally attracted to the man who is a natural leader.This book will definitely make you look at your self evaluate yourself to evolve into a better man.Doing that will attract the woman its almost like a by product of evolving yourself and that's what this book focuses on. Slot of wisdom that's makes since I'd like to see more example of real world applications but overall great book!!!!
If your a young man you should definitely read this book.Don't think its a book about walking up to a woman and instantly baiting her.No its more about your own personal growth and how to make you a better man overall.What I've be re taught from reading this book is all woman are naturally attracted to the man who is a natural leader.This book will definitely make you look at your self evaluate yourself to evolve into a better man.Doing that will attract the woman its almost like a by product of evolving yourself and that's what this book focuses on. Slot of wisdom that's makes since I'd like to see more example of real world applications but overall great book!!!!
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