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7 Ways to Be Her Hero: The One Your Wife Has Been Waiting For
A book that talks to guys in the way guys talk! "This book should storm into your living room, demand an audience, and become every husband's best friend!"
―Rick Warren, pastor and New York Times best-selling author of The Purpose Driven Life "I love Doug Fields! I love how he lives, how he writes, how he makes me laugh, and how he challenges me to grow. You will too. Men, read this book and improve your marriage!"
―Lee Strobel, New York Times best-selling author Having a pulse is all it really takes to fall in love. Staying in love is another matter; staying in love requires a plan and some learned skills. "My primary audience for this book is guys (sorry, sneaky ladies)," says author Doug Fields. "I am writing in a way that most men seem to talk and learn." In 7 Ways to Be Her Hero Fields gives, quite candidly, seven very doable actions to transform any marital relationship, guaranteed . It also includes a bonus chapter for guys to read with their wives. So if you want to understand some simple ways to invest in your marriage and be your wife's hero (again), this is the plan!
―Rick Warren, pastor and New York Times best-selling author of The Purpose Driven Life "I love Doug Fields! I love how he lives, how he writes, how he makes me laugh, and how he challenges me to grow. You will too. Men, read this book and improve your marriage!"
―Lee Strobel, New York Times best-selling author Having a pulse is all it really takes to fall in love. Staying in love is another matter; staying in love requires a plan and some learned skills. "My primary audience for this book is guys (sorry, sneaky ladies)," says author Doug Fields. "I am writing in a way that most men seem to talk and learn." In 7 Ways to Be Her Hero Fields gives, quite candidly, seven very doable actions to transform any marital relationship, guaranteed . It also includes a bonus chapter for guys to read with their wives. So if you want to understand some simple ways to invest in your marriage and be your wife's hero (again), this is the plan!
184 pages, Paperback
Published June 10, 2014
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June 22, 2018
Wasn't crazy about the way Fields 'dumbed' this down to try and appeal to "guys" (rather than men) with his forcefully awkward potty humor (not that I'm a prude, it just seemed misplaced) and ill attempts at connecting through "guyisms".
February 7, 2018
The book is very good. The seven steps are practical and feasible. The author style is awesome too with a very high sense of humor which helps a lot to deliver serious messages. What I did not like, and what prevented me from giving four stars, is the use of many bible verses and the shift of context after its chapter to Christianity! The book is good, so why to transform it to a Christian book?! BTW, I am Christian, so I have no negative feelings toward Bible verses or Christianity in general; but the mix between the very valuable points of the book and Christianity is not needed, and sometimes it is fabricated link. Other than this, the book is awesome and I did enjoy it. It's worth reading.
November 18, 2014
Are you a married man? Do you think you suck at being a good husband? Well, the good news is that you have plenty of company! Doug Fields has a short book (148 pages) that is chocked full of practical advice to help any guy improve his status with his wife.
What I appreciated about the book is that - unlike many Christian help books - it's not done in a lecturing tone or with a condescending "I've arrived" attitude. Fields comes from the attitude of "I'm the chief among sinners" and his advice is just as much for him as it is for other guys. Because we're human - and guys! - we need refreshers as to what's important. Most importantly, he gives guys the proper carrot to motivate us to improve...more and more passionate sex!!
The actions themselves are simple to remember - but difficult to carry out everyday. They are:
1. Don't say everything you think;
2. Say what is powerful;
3. Don't say anything (listening);
4. Go big with small things;
5. Be liberal with touch - but not THAT way;
6. Put your pride aside;
7. Shepherd your wife's heart.
Fields' best advice comes at the end, when he says to take these steps one at a time and practice it and master it before trying another because trying them all at once is futile and you will fail.
This book has the feel of being mentored by someone who has been there before and wants us to learn how to be a good husband. The book is not lecturing; it's more of a friend to friend, Godly man conversations about sharpening our iron. I read this slowly so I could absorb and think about as much of this book as I could. It will probably be a reference that I will return to time and again.
BOTTOM LINE: If you're a husband that thinks he sucks at marriage - you'll find comfort and help in this book.
What I appreciated about the book is that - unlike many Christian help books - it's not done in a lecturing tone or with a condescending "I've arrived" attitude. Fields comes from the attitude of "I'm the chief among sinners" and his advice is just as much for him as it is for other guys. Because we're human - and guys! - we need refreshers as to what's important. Most importantly, he gives guys the proper carrot to motivate us to improve...more and more passionate sex!!
The actions themselves are simple to remember - but difficult to carry out everyday. They are:
1. Don't say everything you think;
2. Say what is powerful;
3. Don't say anything (listening);
4. Go big with small things;
5. Be liberal with touch - but not THAT way;
6. Put your pride aside;
7. Shepherd your wife's heart.
Fields' best advice comes at the end, when he says to take these steps one at a time and practice it and master it before trying another because trying them all at once is futile and you will fail.
This book has the feel of being mentored by someone who has been there before and wants us to learn how to be a good husband. The book is not lecturing; it's more of a friend to friend, Godly man conversations about sharpening our iron. I read this slowly so I could absorb and think about as much of this book as I could. It will probably be a reference that I will return to time and again.
BOTTOM LINE: If you're a husband that thinks he sucks at marriage - you'll find comfort and help in this book.
March 27, 2018
Good Basic Marriage Book
The author does a good job pitting this information on a shelf that all men can reach. Its basic information, but sometimes it's the basic stuff we forget.
The author does a good job pitting this information on a shelf that all men can reach. Its basic information, but sometimes it's the basic stuff we forget.
March 5, 2018
The best thing about this book is the title. Bought this one for my husband but of course I had to read it first. It was painfully wordy, and the "good stuff" could have easily been reduced to a pamphlet or blog post. (Where's my red pen?)
August 25, 2020
I listened to it on audiobook by Dean Gallagher and thought he did a good job. There were some helpful things in here, especially the chapter on shepherding her heart. I really liked that one.
My biggest complaint was the author's approach to writing the book "as if I'm talking to the guys," or whatever. And by "guys," I think he meant high schoolers. I feel like a man in his fifties making lame jokes about women and yeast infections (I kid you not) comes across very juvenile. If you can make it past the first half of the book, though, he seems to stray from that style, which might be why the end happens to be the best part.
Overall it was worth the read and there was some valuable stuff in there that I took away with me that will help my marriage.
My biggest complaint was the author's approach to writing the book "as if I'm talking to the guys," or whatever. And by "guys," I think he meant high schoolers. I feel like a man in his fifties making lame jokes about women and yeast infections (I kid you not) comes across very juvenile. If you can make it past the first half of the book, though, he seems to stray from that style, which might be why the end happens to be the best part.
Overall it was worth the read and there was some valuable stuff in there that I took away with me that will help my marriage.
June 12, 2017
I listened to this on a road trip today and it was ok. Many of the points Fields makes are ones I've heard often, but they are good reminders none-the-less! I think the key is to make an effort to read/listen to works like this and that will keep you on the track. I am inspired by men who seek to help and support other men to be better, and for that I hope I can do some things differently as a result of this book.
November 3, 2019
I highly recommend this book for any man who’s looking to improve their marriage and really wants to be the best Christian husband he can be. If you’re newly married. Start with this book. If you’re having problems, start with this book. It’s awesome!
February 20, 2020
Awesome book on how we, as men, can be our wives’ heroes. I highly recommend this book to all men who want to connect with their wives like Jesus connected to us. Chapter 9 on shepherding their hearts had the most impact on me.
August 29, 2021
To many things strike a chord
When I started reading this book I thought another men's self help book. The once I got into it, it was really helpful and allowed me to see where I am In my life and in my walk Lord. I hope will help you as well!
When I started reading this book I thought another men's self help book. The once I got into it, it was really helpful and allowed me to see where I am In my life and in my walk Lord. I hope will help you as well!
September 16, 2022
He really didn’t focus around seven specific items too hard and he really didn’t push the Christian thing. Altogether I liked it, and it was well written. Not sure how I feel about the circumcision chapter though.
November 19, 2023
This book was so good. Gave a lot of inside on how to treat and act when you are with your spouse. I highly recommend this one if you feel like you just need a little pick me up or are just wanting to be a better husband.
December 31, 2023
Good book! It’s practical, simplistic, and helpful! The author is great would prefer a bit more scriptural content, however, it’s a good Christian book for husbands, and I think even non believers can learn from this.
October 2, 2017
Simple steps, practical advice, comical writing, and stuff that guys should just know.
December 29, 2017
Very practical.
Very practical. It was humorous and light hearted while getting to the heart of the issue. Well worth the read.
Very practical. It was humorous and light hearted while getting to the heart of the issue. Well worth the read.
July 19, 2023
Me pareció un excelente libro con una buena cantidad de humor, lo que lo hace mas fácil de leer!
August 22, 2023
Every man ought to read this book
This book was a slap in the face wake-up call. I'm not religious, so I was reluctant to read it but glad I did anyways.
This book was a slap in the face wake-up call. I'm not religious, so I was reluctant to read it but glad I did anyways.
October 31, 2023
I’m
Not married but was a funny enjoyable book
Not married but was a funny enjoyable book
September 25, 2020
The principles found in this book are solid, but I didn't care for the way in which they are presented. The author seemed to write with two assumptions in mind. First, if you are reading this book, your wife obviously bought it for you (as if husbands don't want to improve on their own) and second, guys understand more if you use potty humor and locker room banter. I suppose the author is appealing to a certain segment of guys that have an aversion to reading and self improvement, but it comes across as pandering and debasing. Again, the content stems from solid biblical principles and I learned quite a bit, but the entire time I was thinking, "This would be a great book for husbands in their 20s." Maybe Fields could release a second edition for men instead of guys.
August 29, 2014
In 7 Ways to Be Her Hero, Doug Fields discussed how men can improve their marriage and they can become their wife’s personal hero. This book is primary written towards men but women could still benefit from reading this book. Doug Fields opened up about his own personal failures and frustrations in loving his wife completely like Christ loves her. The first chapter, he looked into what is breaking and hurting our marriages. He also explored the meaning behind Ecclesiastes 2:11 and this verse basically means Solomon was pursuing after everything he wanted to do and he realized, he was chasing things like the wind. And in the second chapter he revealed what scripture verses relate to marriage and how God is strongly for marriage. The rest of the book was divided into the actual seven ways to be your wife’s hero and they had a part A and a part B. Part B of the seven chapters was designed to address if your wife had a big problem in that category. Some of the chapters included: “Don’t Say Everything You Think”, “Say What is Powerful”, “Go Big with Small Things”, “Be Liberal with Touch… but Not That Way!”, “Shepherd Your Wife’s Heart”, and much more.
I would recommend this life changing book to all men. This book is especially helpful to all of the husbands that are striving to become the best husband that they can be. I will admit that I’m not married yet and I read this book in order to prepare for my future marriage whenever that may occur. Doug Fields did an excellent job in describing how men are born to chase after something and most of us have a problem with chasing after work too much. I liked how he stressed that it is important to work but we also must make time for our wife and kids. I really enjoyed the “One Heart Principle” that Doug discussed and how it is critical to remember that we must live as one with our spouse. I appreciated that Doug Fields wrote in a way that men could connect with the content and it was very relatable. If you’re looking for a book to help you to improve your marriage, then read this one!
"I received this book free from the publisher through the BookLook Bloggers book review bloggers program."
I would recommend this life changing book to all men. This book is especially helpful to all of the husbands that are striving to become the best husband that they can be. I will admit that I’m not married yet and I read this book in order to prepare for my future marriage whenever that may occur. Doug Fields did an excellent job in describing how men are born to chase after something and most of us have a problem with chasing after work too much. I liked how he stressed that it is important to work but we also must make time for our wife and kids. I really enjoyed the “One Heart Principle” that Doug discussed and how it is critical to remember that we must live as one with our spouse. I appreciated that Doug Fields wrote in a way that men could connect with the content and it was very relatable. If you’re looking for a book to help you to improve your marriage, then read this one!
"I received this book free from the publisher through the BookLook Bloggers book review bloggers program."
March 15, 2020
Thank you!
Wonderful message though I would have liked fewer juvenile jokes. Overall very worthwhile read - thank you for sharing your knowledge!
Wonderful message though I would have liked fewer juvenile jokes. Overall very worthwhile read - thank you for sharing your knowledge!
August 13, 2014
It doesn't take very much for a man (or woman) to feel like they are in love. The key is finding ways to keep that love alive and make your wife feel like she is loved and cherished. The author speaks candidly from his experiences about ways that men can step up to the plate and be a hero to their wives. The book is not meant for women. It's written by a man for a man. The jokes are guy jokes, the presentation is all guy, and the way of looking at situations is from the male perspective.
I'll be the first to admit, I'm a girl and I read this book. I wanted to see if it was something I could pass on to my husband. And ironically enough, the author talks about this being the case. Men don't buy books. Women buy books for their men to read. Well, I did just that. And I'm definitely going to pass this one on. I honestly didn't get some of the jokes or what the author considered humor. But I read the book while my husband and I were on a road trip together. So I read large portions of the book aloud to hubby and he got it. So clearly I'm the wrong gender. But that aside, it's straight forward, practical, Christian advice for the husband. While there are jokes and stories to keep the book amusing, the subject matter is something every guy should read and apply. So if you're a guy looking for solid marriage advice - buy this book. If you're a wife wanting a great book to convince hubby to read - buy this book. It will be worth it.
I received this book free of charge from BookLook Bloggers in exchange for my honest review.
I'll be the first to admit, I'm a girl and I read this book. I wanted to see if it was something I could pass on to my husband. And ironically enough, the author talks about this being the case. Men don't buy books. Women buy books for their men to read. Well, I did just that. And I'm definitely going to pass this one on. I honestly didn't get some of the jokes or what the author considered humor. But I read the book while my husband and I were on a road trip together. So I read large portions of the book aloud to hubby and he got it. So clearly I'm the wrong gender. But that aside, it's straight forward, practical, Christian advice for the husband. While there are jokes and stories to keep the book amusing, the subject matter is something every guy should read and apply. So if you're a guy looking for solid marriage advice - buy this book. If you're a wife wanting a great book to convince hubby to read - buy this book. It will be worth it.
I received this book free of charge from BookLook Bloggers in exchange for my honest review.
October 24, 2014
I really wanted to give this a 4 out of 5 for the last couple chapters alone where this started to get real... but I just couldn't. I wish the whole book was in your face, deep, and "no holds barred" like the end was. However, for me, I was hoping for more depth within each chapter.
Also, I'm not really a guy that "thinks about sex all the time" so all the innuendos (while humorous in and of themselves) got kinda old after a while. I always appreciate good wit and guy humor which this is packed with.
I'm a sucker for a book that packs a good punch... this left me wanting more. I do, however, appreciate Doug Fields keeping it super practical for the guys who like that.
So, if you're looking for something theoretical or philosophical, this ain't for you. If you're looking for something that you can begin applying right away, this might be right up your alley.
It's very conversational and easy to read (read through it in a couple days), but can still be read slowly to work out the suggested changes one can make to see a difference in their marriage.
Also, I'm not really a guy that "thinks about sex all the time" so all the innuendos (while humorous in and of themselves) got kinda old after a while. I always appreciate good wit and guy humor which this is packed with.
I'm a sucker for a book that packs a good punch... this left me wanting more. I do, however, appreciate Doug Fields keeping it super practical for the guys who like that.
So, if you're looking for something theoretical or philosophical, this ain't for you. If you're looking for something that you can begin applying right away, this might be right up your alley.
It's very conversational and easy to read (read through it in a couple days), but can still be read slowly to work out the suggested changes one can make to see a difference in their marriage.
February 17, 2021
Quick read with practical, tested advice on how to have a healthy marriage. For better or worse, it really cracked the whip on husbands, but it's about how guys can improve so perhaps that's fair.
One of my favorite concepts was Fields' idea of One Heart in marriage.
"It's almost too simple to be true. If, by God's design, my wife and I are one, then when I hurt my wife, I hurt myself too. On the other hand, when I build up her heart, I also build up myself. That's the powerful dynamic of oneness...In your marriage, you have One Heart, and when you wound your spouse, you wound yourself too."
One of my favorite concepts was Fields' idea of One Heart in marriage.
"It's almost too simple to be true. If, by God's design, my wife and I are one, then when I hurt my wife, I hurt myself too. On the other hand, when I build up her heart, I also build up myself. That's the powerful dynamic of oneness...In your marriage, you have One Heart, and when you wound your spouse, you wound yourself too."
March 10, 2015
Fantastic! I was inspired, moved and felt God tugging on my heart as I read this book. Doug is funny and an entertaining writer. This will be a book I will go back and refer to see if I am following some of the ideas he put forward. I having been trying the exercise of picturing Jesus sitting in the room with my wife and I and seeing if I treat her and talk to her different. Great and easy read, no guilt trips.
June 27, 2014
A very easy read (helpful for most guys) and very practical. Doug is hilarious and speaks to what most men are thinking or doing. The one thing I would have liked more of would be some more scriptural support. But this was a helpful book and one I will probably reference in the future...as I still have lots to practice.
January 5, 2016
Great book for men to read. Gives great advice and tips on what women want from their husbands and how to deliver.
Marriages don't get easier over time. Especially with kids running around and our busy lifestyles. I think the first chapter in the book sums it up well:
"Stop chasing the wind and start chasing your wife"
Marriages don't get easier over time. Especially with kids running around and our busy lifestyles. I think the first chapter in the book sums it up well:
"Stop chasing the wind and start chasing your wife"
August 21, 2014
This book provided some sound advice, but I thought it was really too generalized. For full review, see here. http://eagleswingsbooks.blogspot.com/...
October 26, 2015
A good book for married men :-) with some good practical ideas and things to consider. His tone is a bit too fresh in some of the chapters which is the reason I can't give it 5 stars. I liked it though and I'm not regretful for reading it and you will get some good stuff from reading it
February 9, 2016
Very good book about loving your spouse and becoming her hero. It is from a biblical perspective written for men, but the content is applicable to anyone who wants to love there spouse better. The author is straightforward with a lot of humor.
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