Wow! powerfully written story that addresses the
life as she grows older. The guilt weighs heavily on her as she knows if she were to "come clean and confess her sin", that in the Amish community her sin is considered unforgivable and she would be shunned (horrible dorm of punishment as it basically leaves the shunned person with no allies to talk to and to help deal with the guilt and other issues related to the occurrence (I'm intentionally being ambiguous in wording as don't want to spoil the plot for readers).
How is anyone supposed to feel when they've done something wrong and want to repent but know that in doing so they will lose all connection to their family and friends leaving them without any support system at all. As a result many in the Amish community will hold onto these secrets creating such inner turmoil they cannot function properly and it effects not only their lives but those around them.
Many will read this book and immediately begin bashing the Amish ritual of shunning as horrific and extreme, myself included. But if we were to really stop and think about how often we as a culture judge the "so called sins of others" and "shun them" through our actions of avoiding them, whispering behind their backs and yet not offering support...which is what the person truly needs. whether or not we agree with what was done, as Christians, or people who claim to be moral, we have an obligation to help others,when we can and not be so judgemental of others. We do the same thing but because we don't have an official name for it and don't publicly state that this person is to be considered persona non grata in our society, we make ourselves feel better when in fact, it's just semantics but the fact that we mock others for the behavior we ourselves may do, we become hypocritical. Either way, the person who wants to acknowledge their sin and be forgiven and loved is left alone and often can easily fall into depressive state.
This was an excellent, albeit it hard to read due to the intensity and controversy of the subject. I did not agree with what the main character did but I understand her reluctance to come forward with her sin knowing she would be shunned and others would be negatively effected.
It's so easy to sit and read a book, or in real life hear part of a story and instantly become the judge and the jury, without stopping to hear and trying to understand what led person to fall into this predicament. And if we truly want to better society we need to stop judging the sinner and offer our support in any way we can to show Christian/moral love. Too often, and I admit for a long time I had hard time distinguishing between the sin and the sinner until I realized sin is sin and everyone of us is guilty of it in some form. we want others to forgive and love us after we have sinned and as such others deserve the same from us.
The book was very well written and drew you into feeling for each of the characters in strongly felt emotions...some I felt sad for and wanted to reach out to hug and others I deplored for their harsh reactions but whatever my feelings for each individual, the author made them come alive and pull you into their life story, which is exactly the point of well written storyline.
I would highly recommend reading this book if you are looking to face real life hard to deal with issues and are willing to recognize that although this story was set in an Amish community, the problem is not limited to the Amish and society needs to take a harsher look at this and find a way to help these girls, hopefully before it becomes an issue or if not, to be there for counseling after the fact, so that they can face their inner demons and deal with them in attempt to have a productive future, which cannot happen if they can't forgive themselves or have society remember that it is okay to hate the sin but we are still to love the repentant sinner.
Was a definite book that needed to be read with the depth of real life reflections and not just a book to dismiss the Amish community as a whole.