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Get Inside Her: Dirty Dating Tips & Secrets from a Woman on How to Attract, Seduce and Get Any Female You Want
Guys, Discover Insider Dating Tips From A Woman:
One night, I sat up late reading email after email from attractive, witty guys who were single and ready to date, and instead of being impressed and enraptured, I began to wonder what on earth was going wrong in the world. You see, these emails were not the typical online dating messages. They weren't asking me out on dates, or vying for desire or attention. They were sent from great guys, who no matter what they tried, always seemed to find that beautiful women ended up dating jerks and never calling them back.
Now, you might be wondering what all these guys are doing emailing me their questions, but as a professional Wing Girl, it's my duty to be the girl who gives it to guys straight of the dating community. I'm always brutally honest and have been told I have a gift for seeing things from both sides of the dating lines, but it took me a few glasses of wine and some seriously deep thinking to try to piece the puzzle together.
What was going on?
I knew all my gorgeous girlfriends were looking for these types of men. Men who were exciting, fun, good, honest and who had their life together...
So as they were they emailing me, detailing their failed attempts, I tried to find the one common factor that was holding these great guys back. I spoke with them at length about their dating history, trying to figure out if they were doing something wrong, and then it struck me.
It wasn't them; it was "The Game" they had been told to play.
They had the best intentions, but they were going about attracting and dating beautiful women in all the wrong ways. They were dating from the male perspective and in a way that seemed right to other guys; but this wasn't communicated clearly to women!
As I started to reply to each email, instead of telling them what I thought they wanted to hear or what I thought male Pick Up Artists might tell them, I started to lay it all out on the line. Later on, when I asked my girlfriends for their opinion, they couldn't believe what I had written.
I was revealing all secrets women would never tell men. I was putting it out there in a way that would give guys what my girlfriends called the upper hand, but I defended my actions. These were genuinely great guys! I was tired of hearing how women could never find what they were looking for. Now, when I was gave the men a road map to go out and find them, they freaked out!
That's when I knew I had something worth sharing. Something that would turn the dating world on its head; finally, I thought, "It's time to shake things up!"
If you have ever wondered why you aren't on the calendars of beautiful women, why they never seem to call back, or always end up with the jerks of the world, then you have to hear what I have to say.
You need to accept that it's not your fault and face the facts. Men and women are different. We act, think, and date differently. If you want to find success, you have to see things from a different perspective. You have to gain the world's first (and best) awarded female Pick Up Artists perspective!
Now when I go out, meet with clients, call, or email these great guys back, I get something in return. I get to see them finally date the women they have always wanted and deserved. They tell me how easy and simple it has become, and how they cannot believe they didn't think of it first.
One night, I sat up late reading email after email from attractive, witty guys who were single and ready to date, and instead of being impressed and enraptured, I began to wonder what on earth was going wrong in the world. You see, these emails were not the typical online dating messages. They weren't asking me out on dates, or vying for desire or attention. They were sent from great guys, who no matter what they tried, always seemed to find that beautiful women ended up dating jerks and never calling them back.
Now, you might be wondering what all these guys are doing emailing me their questions, but as a professional Wing Girl, it's my duty to be the girl who gives it to guys straight of the dating community. I'm always brutally honest and have been told I have a gift for seeing things from both sides of the dating lines, but it took me a few glasses of wine and some seriously deep thinking to try to piece the puzzle together.
What was going on?
I knew all my gorgeous girlfriends were looking for these types of men. Men who were exciting, fun, good, honest and who had their life together...
So as they were they emailing me, detailing their failed attempts, I tried to find the one common factor that was holding these great guys back. I spoke with them at length about their dating history, trying to figure out if they were doing something wrong, and then it struck me.
It wasn't them; it was "The Game" they had been told to play.
They had the best intentions, but they were going about attracting and dating beautiful women in all the wrong ways. They were dating from the male perspective and in a way that seemed right to other guys; but this wasn't communicated clearly to women!
As I started to reply to each email, instead of telling them what I thought they wanted to hear or what I thought male Pick Up Artists might tell them, I started to lay it all out on the line. Later on, when I asked my girlfriends for their opinion, they couldn't believe what I had written.
I was revealing all secrets women would never tell men. I was putting it out there in a way that would give guys what my girlfriends called the upper hand, but I defended my actions. These were genuinely great guys! I was tired of hearing how women could never find what they were looking for. Now, when I was gave the men a road map to go out and find them, they freaked out!
That's when I knew I had something worth sharing. Something that would turn the dating world on its head; finally, I thought, "It's time to shake things up!"
If you have ever wondered why you aren't on the calendars of beautiful women, why they never seem to call back, or always end up with the jerks of the world, then you have to hear what I have to say.
You need to accept that it's not your fault and face the facts. Men and women are different. We act, think, and date differently. If you want to find success, you have to see things from a different perspective. You have to gain the world's first (and best) awarded female Pick Up Artists perspective!
Now when I go out, meet with clients, call, or email these great guys back, I get something in return. I get to see them finally date the women they have always wanted and deserved. They tell me how easy and simple it has become, and how they cannot believe they didn't think of it first.
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First published January 23, 2013
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June 3, 2022
- PUA is a total waste of time (PUA artists are akin to entertainers. Playing a piano well can equally get you laid, in a much more frequent frequency too)
- Woman wants a man with backbone - "nice guys" are in reality not nice: they're just wimps
- If you see a woman you want, approach her
- Women cares not about the words from your mouth, rather how you deliver it (your feelings, your expression, your passion and sincerity)
- Stop thinking about what the other person enjoy and want: think about what YOU enjoy and want. Disqualify yourself when your subject is simply not in the same arena as you
- Women love men who are decisive and can make decisions
- Respect women: let her feel comfortable each step of the way, and let her know precisely what she can do to stop if she isn't comfortable with anything
- Signs that she isn't interested: no eye contact, body shifting away from you, arms cross, leaning back, looking around the room, one word answers
- Constantly genuinely express what's special about her (not the superficial ones that she has heard for a million times)
- Women think with emotion, sometimes she lash out due to her own insecurities: do not lash out back, absolutely do not rationalize everything: feel, not think, with women
- Woman wants a man with backbone - "nice guys" are in reality not nice: they're just wimps
- If you see a woman you want, approach her
- Women cares not about the words from your mouth, rather how you deliver it (your feelings, your expression, your passion and sincerity)
- Stop thinking about what the other person enjoy and want: think about what YOU enjoy and want. Disqualify yourself when your subject is simply not in the same arena as you
- Women love men who are decisive and can make decisions
- Respect women: let her feel comfortable each step of the way, and let her know precisely what she can do to stop if she isn't comfortable with anything
- Signs that she isn't interested: no eye contact, body shifting away from you, arms cross, leaning back, looking around the room, one word answers
- Constantly genuinely express what's special about her (not the superficial ones that she has heard for a million times)
- Women think with emotion, sometimes she lash out due to her own insecurities: do not lash out back, absolutely do not rationalize everything: feel, not think, with women
April 26, 2017
Being happily married, I wasn't sure this book was for me, but I thought it might have some interesting points that I could apply to my relationship with my wife.
Sure enough, the majority of the content here describes in general terms how women perceive men and their common behaviors and how to modify those behaviors in order to appeal to women in a way that is open, honest, direct, and respectful to both parties. I am extremely impressed with the way Kinrys is able to communicate in men's terms as a woman and lay it all out there to help us understand what's really going on in women's heads when they do and say things that we otherwise couldn't hope to understand.
I have to admit that I even tried out some of the techniques described in the book with my wife while I was reading it, and Kinrys has hit the nail on the head as far as I'm concerned. I can already see some positive effects on our relationship, and the best part is that every tip in the book is described in such a way as to be positive and respectful to both sides.
Some of the material in the book is a little crude and/or vulgar at times, which is why I give it four stars instead of five. The book is obviously meant for adults, but even then I think it could be toned down a bit. Great read for any man looking to improve his relationship with women though.
Sure enough, the majority of the content here describes in general terms how women perceive men and their common behaviors and how to modify those behaviors in order to appeal to women in a way that is open, honest, direct, and respectful to both parties. I am extremely impressed with the way Kinrys is able to communicate in men's terms as a woman and lay it all out there to help us understand what's really going on in women's heads when they do and say things that we otherwise couldn't hope to understand.
I have to admit that I even tried out some of the techniques described in the book with my wife while I was reading it, and Kinrys has hit the nail on the head as far as I'm concerned. I can already see some positive effects on our relationship, and the best part is that every tip in the book is described in such a way as to be positive and respectful to both sides.
Some of the material in the book is a little crude and/or vulgar at times, which is why I give it four stars instead of five. The book is obviously meant for adults, but even then I think it could be toned down a bit. Great read for any man looking to improve his relationship with women though.
February 20, 2021
I know I know I will never forgive my self for being patient to finish this kind of books
October 10, 2017
4 stars - took some notes, worth reading again
This book feels very similar to Mark Manson's Models. Some really good insights, but wrapped in a sense of "to get a woman in your life you need to do X and Y." I'm gonna read it entirely eventually, but it won't be an easy read because all throughout the book I will have to remind myself to stay genuine to myself, to not get over invested in someone else's step by step method.
Example: in a conversation, never ask more than 2 questions in a row to avoid the interview mode. And use the word "because" to deliver emotions, eg: "I love football because it allows me to see my friends regularly." Nothing wrong with that, but if started to talk like this it would be fake. I am currently learning about better conversations, and the "interview mode" doesn't sound so black and white to me. I like to ask follow up questions and even more follow up questions, mainly to discover what makes her tick. And when the moment feels appropriate I share some bits of myself, but right now my conversation angle is to genuinely figure out who she is.
Another example is about the friend zone. She has a great exercise on how to get out of your own friend zone mentality (list the traits of a friend, then list the traits of a sexually confident man). But later in the chapter she hints that the friend zone is a zone nobody ever wants to be in. Well, I have an amazing non sexual female friend, she is someone with whom I can share a lot of my struggles, she is a great confidante, I can ask her any question about the female perspective, and she even gives me advice with other women. Yes I'd love to have a more sexual relationship with her, but even if we are "just friends" I get a lot of value out of our it. It seems to me that her target audience is men who are frustrated with women and looking for a quick fix--or at least a quick answer.
What I like in the book is that it gives away a lot of first person insights on the female perspective. Like, when a girl goes on a date and she is into the guy and the guy doesn't make a move, she asks herself, "what's wrong with this dude, why doesn't he take action? Is there something wrong with me?" and she will keep a resentful memory of him. I've heard men say that you only get one chance with a girl, and now I kind of see why.
This book feels very similar to Mark Manson's Models. Some really good insights, but wrapped in a sense of "to get a woman in your life you need to do X and Y." I'm gonna read it entirely eventually, but it won't be an easy read because all throughout the book I will have to remind myself to stay genuine to myself, to not get over invested in someone else's step by step method.
Example: in a conversation, never ask more than 2 questions in a row to avoid the interview mode. And use the word "because" to deliver emotions, eg: "I love football because it allows me to see my friends regularly." Nothing wrong with that, but if started to talk like this it would be fake. I am currently learning about better conversations, and the "interview mode" doesn't sound so black and white to me. I like to ask follow up questions and even more follow up questions, mainly to discover what makes her tick. And when the moment feels appropriate I share some bits of myself, but right now my conversation angle is to genuinely figure out who she is.
Another example is about the friend zone. She has a great exercise on how to get out of your own friend zone mentality (list the traits of a friend, then list the traits of a sexually confident man). But later in the chapter she hints that the friend zone is a zone nobody ever wants to be in. Well, I have an amazing non sexual female friend, she is someone with whom I can share a lot of my struggles, she is a great confidante, I can ask her any question about the female perspective, and she even gives me advice with other women. Yes I'd love to have a more sexual relationship with her, but even if we are "just friends" I get a lot of value out of our it. It seems to me that her target audience is men who are frustrated with women and looking for a quick fix--or at least a quick answer.
What I like in the book is that it gives away a lot of first person insights on the female perspective. Like, when a girl goes on a date and she is into the guy and the guy doesn't make a move, she asks herself, "what's wrong with this dude, why doesn't he take action? Is there something wrong with me?" and she will keep a resentful memory of him. I've heard men say that you only get one chance with a girl, and now I kind of see why.
August 26, 2021
Highly informative
Whether you are having problems with woman or not this book is for you, if you are a man then this book is for you, it give you perfect insight into the mind of a woman and demystefies the female mind, if you've ever thought to yourself what is going through her mind then you will get a lot out of this book and I plan on reading again at a later point in my life.
Word of caution though the book does have numerous grammatical errors and missing words also the bonus content is a bit confusing to get but other than that a really solid book
Thank you Marni for taking the time to compile this for all those who most certainly need it
Whether you are having problems with woman or not this book is for you, if you are a man then this book is for you, it give you perfect insight into the mind of a woman and demystefies the female mind, if you've ever thought to yourself what is going through her mind then you will get a lot out of this book and I plan on reading again at a later point in my life.
Word of caution though the book does have numerous grammatical errors and missing words also the bonus content is a bit confusing to get but other than that a really solid book
Thank you Marni for taking the time to compile this for all those who most certainly need it
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October 5, 2024Get Inside Her by Marni is a candid and eye-opening guide that cuts through the noise of typical dating advice. What truly grabbed my attention was the balance between playful, bold strategies and genuine respect for understanding women on a deeper level. This book isn’t just about tactics to "get the girl," but about becoming the kind of person who naturally attracts the right women through confidence, emotional intelligence, and authenticity.
Marni’s perspective as a woman adds a layer of credibility, and she isn't afraid to be brutally honest. She covers everything from decoding body language to mastering conversation while encouraging you to stay true to yourself. If you’re tired of the same recycled tips and want advice rooted in understanding human connection, Get Inside Her offers a fresh, no-nonsense approach that could change the way you see dating. It’s a game-changer for anyone looking to date and build real, lasting connections.
Marni’s perspective as a woman adds a layer of credibility, and she isn't afraid to be brutally honest. She covers everything from decoding body language to mastering conversation while encouraging you to stay true to yourself. If you’re tired of the same recycled tips and want advice rooted in understanding human connection, Get Inside Her offers a fresh, no-nonsense approach that could change the way you see dating. It’s a game-changer for anyone looking to date and build real, lasting connections.
April 21, 2019
Lese ja immer mal wieder gerne aus diesem Bereich Bücher und das Muster ist 1) Ich bin Experte weil ich der greilste bin 2) Die anderen haben keine Ahnung
Das bleibt auch bei Marni nicht aus, ist aber vielleicht auf Grund ihres Geschlechts nicht so plump. Zudem versucht sie zumindestens bis kurz vor Ende nicht ihre weiteren Produkte und Dienstleistungen zu verkaufen.
Vieles ist bekannt und läßt sich auf folgende Punkte reduzieren
1) Sei Du selbst und dir deines Wertes bewußt
2) Unternimm was und warte nicht darauf das es dir in den Schoß fällt (sprich selber an)
3) Ablehnung gehört dazu, ist nicht schlimm und wird einfacher mit jedem weiteren Anlauf
Hätte das ganze gerne 15 Jahre früher gelesen und trotzdem war es sehr unterhaltsam.
Das bleibt auch bei Marni nicht aus, ist aber vielleicht auf Grund ihres Geschlechts nicht so plump. Zudem versucht sie zumindestens bis kurz vor Ende nicht ihre weiteren Produkte und Dienstleistungen zu verkaufen.
Vieles ist bekannt und läßt sich auf folgende Punkte reduzieren
1) Sei Du selbst und dir deines Wertes bewußt
2) Unternimm was und warte nicht darauf das es dir in den Schoß fällt (sprich selber an)
3) Ablehnung gehört dazu, ist nicht schlimm und wird einfacher mit jedem weiteren Anlauf
Hätte das ganze gerne 15 Jahre früher gelesen und trotzdem war es sehr unterhaltsam.
April 9, 2018
This has been waiting patiently on my kindle for years. I expected it to be the typical PUA BS, but to my surprise, it actually had some golden nuggets inside. Still, too much cross-selling of "improvement" programs and courses. And the book itself is a lazy write - mostly composed of emails related to the authors consulting business. She didn't even bother to edit them. You can skip the Friedzone section altogether, as it's basically a transcript of a podcast interview she did with someone (again, zero editing). Overall, all things considered, probably not worth your time.
June 29, 2024
I got quite a few takeaways from the books regarding female mindset and got some of doubts clarified. Overall, nice book to read and figure out the points that are relevant. I will going through the book once and reading the parts that seem sensible to you.
October 30, 2018
Good read
Great read, I've read many books by men some good some bad. First one by an woman, I think she done an great job, who's better to help you than a woman......lol
Great read, I've read many books by men some good some bad. First one by an woman, I think she done an great job, who's better to help you than a woman......lol
March 23, 2019
Loved every minute of the female perspective!
February 26, 2020
Entertaining book with great advice and no BS. This book is not about playing the game or trying to hookup with women. It’s about how to improve your mindset as a man.
May 9, 2021
I've learned a lot how to deal with women correctly, I feel amazing after knowing female perspectives on dating. Strongly recommended.
March 19, 2024
Good read
Really liked the examples
Really liked the examples
January 7, 2025
Started reading it out of curiosity, ended up being a real gem.
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April 14, 2015naughty but it's work by the way
June 23, 2015
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