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Unfaithful: Hope and Healing After Infidelity
Statistics show that one in every four marriages is impacted by infidelity. So the odds are pretty good that you or someone you know has experienced the searing pain of marital infidelity. But adultery is not an automatic death sentence for your marriage. You can trust again. You can restore intimacy. You can have a relationship that you will both cherish for a lifetime.
Ten years ago, Gary and Mona Shriver experienced the devastation caused by adultery, and in the course of trying to save themselves, they wrote this book. Raw, transparently honest, the Shrivers’ story alone is an inspiration, offering hope and practical strategies for healing. Now this updated and revised edition adds other real-life stories of betrayal and forgiveness, and new information defining adultery, including the destruction of emotional affairs. Some doubt if a marriage can truly heal after the ravages of infidelity. Unfaithful proves you can. It’s not easy ... but it can be done. Is it worth it? Yes. And you hold the first step—and hope—in your hand.
Ten years ago, Gary and Mona Shriver experienced the devastation caused by adultery, and in the course of trying to save themselves, they wrote this book. Raw, transparently honest, the Shrivers’ story alone is an inspiration, offering hope and practical strategies for healing. Now this updated and revised edition adds other real-life stories of betrayal and forgiveness, and new information defining adultery, including the destruction of emotional affairs. Some doubt if a marriage can truly heal after the ravages of infidelity. Unfaithful proves you can. It’s not easy ... but it can be done. Is it worth it? Yes. And you hold the first step—and hope—in your hand.
290 pages, Kindle Edition
First published November 1, 2009
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February 3, 2024
Although I must praise and validate this couple for sharing in hopes.to aide others who suffer similarly ,the take away for me was mainly a sense of disappointment and how lacking in crucial.areas .
Although not the first time I've encountered,this particular Christian take ,it enrages me! The idea that the wife must also accept accountability in that she somehow failed her husband and thus he resorted to sexual sin... gag me with a spoon ,y'all.Choosing to misconstrue her words\behaviors sans discussion and let anger stew seems beyond childish .Moreover,rather than communicate with one's wife that he feels low man on he totem pole and sorely needs attention to instead pour your heart out to a female "friend"...and then have this soon graduate to intimacy without noticing what was happening? I don't buy it.It was insidious,he said. Well the three years you kept up the duplicity wasn't ,was it?.Nor was the ONS with the 20 year old.😜
This is odd for me .I am usually all about empathy for both sides,seeking to determine motivating factors and assess the environment that led.to the events in attempt of level playing field for a fair play assessment.No.I definitely wasn't feeling it here. I believe it is because pertinent information was avoided.If you are going to use your infidelity scenario as the basis for the book and expect the reader to comprehend in the way you wish,it all has to be out on the.table.I felt a gaping vacancy of relevant data.The devil is in the details, and those details were sparse .Ow was virtually nonexistent. Was she being protected?Also seemingly omitted,an expansive explanation of three years of duplicity and.without said detailed explanations, dude just appears a cake eater.
Also Mona 's rationale for reconciliation being the obvious and her only option..the religious Quotient.. that as a Christian woman what else could she do....to me,reeked of hypocrisy, given the choices he made as A.CHRISTIAN MAN ,the ultra deleterious route her husband chose over communication with his wife!
If I am going to buy into this,Christian mantra withstanding,those details are essential. I felt platitudes in play ie....Mona was separate from the affair. Golly gee,how.was I too realize it would devastate my wife of many years ...that I chose her FRIEND over her on multiple fronts?Or that I had a ONS w a 20 yo in the marriage bed? This signals a spiteful rage driven chosen course of action for maximum damage.
Obviously y'all have made a success of your marriage as it is years later.However, my reactions and queries were organic and I will own them.
There may have been some worthy data...but..Uggh,no. Healing.within the pages,not my take away.Perhaps I need reflect further on how and why this couple inflames me so,when I am usually much more compassionate in this space.
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Although not the first time I've encountered,this particular Christian take ,it enrages me! The idea that the wife must also accept accountability in that she somehow failed her husband and thus he resorted to sexual sin... gag me with a spoon ,y'all.Choosing to misconstrue her words\behaviors sans discussion and let anger stew seems beyond childish .Moreover,rather than communicate with one's wife that he feels low man on he totem pole and sorely needs attention to instead pour your heart out to a female "friend"...and then have this soon graduate to intimacy without noticing what was happening? I don't buy it.It was insidious,he said. Well the three years you kept up the duplicity wasn't ,was it?.Nor was the ONS with the 20 year old.😜
This is odd for me .I am usually all about empathy for both sides,seeking to determine motivating factors and assess the environment that led.to the events in attempt of level playing field for a fair play assessment.No.I definitely wasn't feeling it here. I believe it is because pertinent information was avoided.If you are going to use your infidelity scenario as the basis for the book and expect the reader to comprehend in the way you wish,it all has to be out on the.table.I felt a gaping vacancy of relevant data.The devil is in the details, and those details were sparse .Ow was virtually nonexistent. Was she being protected?Also seemingly omitted,an expansive explanation of three years of duplicity and.without said detailed explanations, dude just appears a cake eater.
Also Mona 's rationale for reconciliation being the obvious and her only option..the religious Quotient.. that as a Christian woman what else could she do....to me,reeked of hypocrisy, given the choices he made as A.CHRISTIAN MAN ,the ultra deleterious route her husband chose over communication with his wife!
If I am going to buy into this,Christian mantra withstanding,those details are essential. I felt platitudes in play ie....Mona was separate from the affair. Golly gee,how.was I too realize it would devastate my wife of many years ...that I chose her FRIEND over her on multiple fronts?Or that I had a ONS w a 20 yo in the marriage bed? This signals a spiteful rage driven chosen course of action for maximum damage.
Obviously y'all have made a success of your marriage as it is years later.However, my reactions and queries were organic and I will own them.
There may have been some worthy data...but..Uggh,no. Healing.within the pages,not my take away.Perhaps I need reflect further on how and why this couple inflames me so,when I am usually much more compassionate in this space.
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August 12, 2018
Sometimes as a Pastor I read books specifically in order to be able to better minister to others. So I picked up this title. This book takes you through the journey of Gary and Mona Schriver as God brought them through Gary’s infidelity and saved their marriage. Unfaithful is BRUTALLY honest and pulls no punches as they give both of their perspectives from before, during and after the confession. I recommend this book to anyone seeking to save their marriage after infidelity. It also has helpful hints for safeguarding your marriage.
November 2, 2019
An amazing story of a couple, from both perspectives after an affair. I love reading the process they both went through and the trust they had in God that they could work through this instead of giving up. Whether this is something you have gone through or not, it is a great book to reaffirm the love of God in our darkest moments.
September 5, 2021
A tool everyone needs to read!
This book has helped me in understanding not just how my spouse is feeling through this and what she be feeling but it has also helped me in understanding myself and how I am feeling and processing I feel even a couple that has never gone through this because it can not only be used as a healing tool but a preventative tool as well.
This book has helped me in understanding not just how my spouse is feeling through this and what she be feeling but it has also helped me in understanding myself and how I am feeling and processing I feel even a couple that has never gone through this because it can not only be used as a healing tool but a preventative tool as well.
October 25, 2021
Honest and real
The last year I have read all the books, Gottman, Glass, Spring, etc. Early in discovery I saw the YouTube video of Gary & Mona. It was the most honest discussion regarding infidelity I have seen. Thank you to Focus on the Family. The book gives me hope and reminds me to stay focused on God’s word.
The last year I have read all the books, Gottman, Glass, Spring, etc. Early in discovery I saw the YouTube video of Gary & Mona. It was the most honest discussion regarding infidelity I have seen. Thank you to Focus on the Family. The book gives me hope and reminds me to stay focused on God’s word.
September 6, 2020
Excellent book
This is the first book I’ve read since my marriage came in to turmoil. It was an amazing first choice and I appreciated the authors raw honesty. It helped me feel as if there is hope.
This is the first book I’ve read since my marriage came in to turmoil. It was an amazing first choice and I appreciated the authors raw honesty. It helped me feel as if there is hope.
November 11, 2017
It takes alot of courage to leave someone who hurt you, but it takes even more courage to forgive them and try to work things out! EVERYONE should read this book!
April 19, 2023
excellent read
A good explanation of the pain of adultery and what healing looks like. The Shrivers both share their experiences giving insight into how both spouses coped.
A good explanation of the pain of adultery and what healing looks like. The Shrivers both share their experiences giving insight into how both spouses coped.
February 3, 2015
Seems like it would be an excellent resource for couples dealing with the aftermath of adultery. Thankfully that's not why I was reading it, but it was a sobering look at the devastation adultery wreaks on a marriage, and had a couple of chapters that were very helpful for its marriage strengthening tips that would proactively repair/prevent vulnerabilities to adultery.
February 26, 2016
This book is incredibly helpful in the adultery recovery process. Thank you for sharing your story with us, Gary and Mona! You've given us hope!
April 11, 2015
I'm not even going to finish reading it.
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