Don't Text That Man!: A Guide To Self Protective Dating in the Age of Technology

by Rhonda Findling

Rhonda Findling, author of the bestselling and internationally acclaimed "Don’t Call That Man! A Survival Guide To Letting Go" wrote "Don’t Text That Man! A Guide To Self Protective Dating in the Age of Technology" to help teach readers learn how to detach from a man they may have broken up with or has broken up with them in the healthiest way possible, with their self-esteem in tact. Packed with invaluable advice, Don’t Text That Man! will help you learn to cope with obsessive thinking as well as feelings of anger and aggression. In our fast-paced technological world, women truly need to be smarter and more self-protective than ever before. Don’t Text That Man! will teach you how.
Table of Contents
Introduction
Malignant Men
The Classic Malignant Men Prototypes
The Sexually Ambivalent Man
The Severely Emotionally Avoidant Malignant Man
Why Do Malignant Men Destroy Relationships With Women?
Malignant Men’s Most Popular Psychological Defense
How Did He Get Like This?
Relating to Malignant Men
What To Do If You’ve Been Devastated By A Malignant Man
Detaching from a Malignant Man
Detaching Technologically
Why Acting Aggressive Is Not A Good Idea
Recovery Three To Six Months Later
Why Do I Still Want To Contact Him?
Ruminating
Destructive Thoughts That Disempower You
How To Stop Ruminating And Thinking Destructive Thoughts
Six Months To One Year Later
Closure
Forgiving “That Man”


Reviews

Don’t Text That Man is perfect for today's technological dating scene, Packed with savvy advice, tips, examples and ideas women can use to avoid getting back with that man who is NOT Mr. Right, this handy-dandy guide is an essential tool for navigating the stormy seas of today's dating scene.
- Robin Glasser, author of My Life as a Concubine and Men at Work

In "Don't Text that Man!" Rhonda Findling has captured the basic psychology of the "malignant man" - the one who will defeat you if you date him. Findling breaks it all down and examines each part of the malignant man's behavior in detail. If you want to know how to protect yourself in such an unfortunate dating situation, then this book is a must. The book is written in a reader-friendly style. To top it off, Rhonda Findling is a superb psychotherapist. P.S. Read her black jack theory and her 15-step program for saving yourself.
- Dr. Henry Kellerman, Ph.D., author of The 4 Steps to Peace of The Simple Effective Way to Cure Our Emotional Symptoms; How it Forms and Dictionary of Psychopathology

"Don't Text that Man" offers women age-old wisdom for our modern times. French women don't text their man, and neither should you."
- Jamie Cat Callan, author of French Women Don't Sleep Alone

Biography

Rhonda Findling is a psychotherapist and author of the acclaimed Don’t Call That Man! A Survival Guide To Letting Go, Men Who Run From How To Have A Relationship With A Relationship Phobic Man, When He Won't What To Do When You Fall For An Ambivalent Man, Don't Lose That Man! How Women Sabotage Their Opportunities For Romantic Relationships And What They Can Do To Change, A Teenager's Memoir, and Portrait of My Desire. Rhonda has appeared on national talk shows including CNN Headline News, Ricki Lake, Geraldo, Maury Povitch, Eye Witness News, Good Day New York, Carnie, Ilyana, Tempest and Judith Regan Tonight. She has led workshops and seminars in New York, L.A., Paris, Berlin and London. Rhonda has been featured in the New York Post, Los Angeles Times, The Boston Globe, Newsday, Rocky Mountain News, Cosmopolitan magazine, Latina Magazine, Glamour (UK and Paris editions) Le Progress, Life and Style, US Weekly, Femina and Today’s Black Woman.

133 pages, Kindle Edition

First published December 10, 2011

About the author

Rhonda Findling, MA,CRC is an internationally acclaimed psychotherapist and author with a private practice in Forest Hills and Manhattan (New York City). She has been in private practice 17 years(full time 10 years). She was a staff psychotherapist at Postgraduate Center for Mental Health in New York for 15 years. She taught courses on psychology and counseling at Marymount College. Rhonda has worked as a psychologist for the State of New York for three years . She was a counselor at Victims Information Bureau where she counseled victims of rape, sexual assault and spouse abuse.

Rhonda has appeared as a relationship expert on several national talk shows including Ilanya, Ricki Lake, Geraldo, Maury Povitch, Good Day New York, Judith Regan Tonight , and Eye Witness News. Rhonda has also been featured on radio shows nationwide.

Rhonda has led "Don't Call That Man!" workshops and seminars throughout the world including Paris, Berlin, Leeds and Glastonbury,England. She has also presented at the Learning Annex, 92nd St. Y and Hazelden. She has been featured in the "New York Post", "Newsday", " Los Angeles Times", "Cosmopolitan Magaine","Denver Rocky Mountain News", and "Today's Black Woman." Her articles have appeared in "Essence" magazine, "Complete Woman" and "Mouthpiece" (the newsletter for the New York State Association of Criminal Defense Lawyers).

Rhonda is a member of the National Speakers Association, the Dramatist Guild, the New York State Psychological Association, the American Screenwriters Association and is recognized in Who's Who in America.

Rhonda is the author of the play "The Psychic" that was produced by Caicedo Productions and Doubletime Productions at the American Theatre of Actors in New York City November 1996. The Psychic also had a staged reading at the Nuyorican Poetry Cafe in New York City August 1997. She has taken classes in directing, screenwriting, and filmmaking at New School University and Film and Video Arts Inc. She studied acting at HB Studios, Stella Adler Studio Of Acting in New York City , and with William H Macy in Chicago. She's appeared in several community theatre productions on Long island, New York and two off-off Broadway productions in Chicago.

Reviews

[Nichole · Rating 3 out of 5]

A lot of stuff you already know, but a good reminder.

[Jamie · Rating 2 out of 5]

Lame

Really didn’t say anything most of us don’t already know.
We know the why, what we want is the how.