Amazing, biblical, practical focus!
-words encapsulate ideas. They evoke our emotions. They hook into memories. They define our experiences —helping to shape us in the process. There’s power in words. Beauty in words. Grace in words
-Words create movement. They craft nations. They seal a marriage. They cast vision. They make us laugh. They focus our attention. They expand our horizons. They stimulate our creativity. And they script our possibilities.
-To claim we can make ourselves into anything we want is to deny that we are the created, not the Creator. Reality is we are made by God, for his purposes. How much potential can we truly have apart from him?
-We value initiative and effort in others and assume that’s what God values in us too. We qualify ourselves based on how hard we work. We evaluate our character based on how often we go to church, attend Bible studies, volunteer, or check other items off on the standard religious résumé. We carry the subtle belief that God helps those who help themselves.
-The aim is for you to use your one word to get into a focused posture and remain there while you depend on Christ. Change is possible. Focus is required. And should you fall off your one-word wagon at some point, you climb back on. Not with renewed willpower so much as renewed commitment to depend on him.
-So to be clear, change is possible but focus is required. And dependence on God is absolutely foundational.
-Vision, Not Regret
-When we look beneath our behavior we discover what’s driving it —the beliefs and motives that make up our character. The My One Word project is designed for character formation. Not just impulse control.
-For this year with our one word to have the impact we desire, we must start with an accurate view of ourselves. Of our hearts, our tendencies, our motives, and where they are leading us. Then ask God to wash our innermost being in his grace and truth.
-apart from the Word of God, we cannot know who God is and how God is. And apart from it, we don’t readily recognize who or how we truly are either. And we don’t see our potential in Christ.
-Don’t merely read verses; if that is all we do, we run the risk of deceiving ourselves. Don’t just pile up biblical information in your head. Let it soak into your heart. Let it interpret you. And then let it seep out through your actions. As long as we file the truth neatly into a “belief category,” we will remain deceived. Only when we begin to let what we believe affect what we do are we able to embrace the process of formation.
-vision-fueled action is more powerful than regret-based restraint...2 Corinthians 5: 17, which promises, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come” (ESV). This is another call to look —“Behold, you are now made new.”
-The truth is that God is at work in our innermost being, and he has promised to complete the work he’s begun (Philippians 1: 6). You and I are not yet what we shall be (1 John 3: 4), but being in Christ changes everything.
-three things are required for your formation to happen this year with your one word: 1. An accurate view of Christ 2. An accurate view of yourself 3. An accurate view of yourself in Christ Regularly looking into Scripture will help with all three. So will regularly looking through the lens of your one word.
-Describe an accurate —not rosier and not worse —view of where you are now with regard to your one word. Then think about the choices, habits, and beliefs that got you here. Describe an accurate —if not fully here yet —view of where you are in Christ with reference to your one word. Search the Scriptures to help you answer this! Record God’s promises.
-We don’t just notice the “holes” in our walls; we fixate on them, letting them define us. While they might motivate us to change, they also load us down with a measure of guilt. That’s why, instead of choosing our one word by looking at who we are, we choose our one word with a forward-facing vision of who we want to become in the future. Your task now is to keep your word in front of you daily. Take your eyes off the mistakes, the regrets, the failures —the gap between where you are and where you want to be —and focus on the one thing you want God to do in you this year. Focus on your one word.
-My word stays in front of me, serving as a reminder, urging me to focus and trust the process. Sometimes it alerts me to pay closer attention. Sometimes it calls me to look at things differently. Other times it assures me I’m making progress. Whether life is going well or I’ve recently blown it, the sight of my word rekindles my faith that God will continue to shape and form my character, for my sake and his.
-Aristotle: “To enjoy the things we ought and to hate the things we ought has the greatest bearing on excellence of character.”
- the single most difficult part of this One Word journey is continuing to focus on our word for a full year. To get the most out of this project, it’s imperative that we find ways to regularly pay attention to it.
-Devise multiple ways to keep your word in front of you this year. Perhaps place your word in your home and in your car, on your computer, or at your desk. Are you on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, or other social media sites? Make your one word your status update. Add it to your profile descriptions. Make it your profile pic. Announce it to your followers and give them permission to periodically ask you how your one word is going.
-Your word is chosen. You’ve committed to it. You are keeping it in front of you. Now obey from the heart. The apostle Paul writes, “But thanks be to God that though you were slaves to sin, you became obedient from the heart to that form of teaching to which you were committed” (Romans 6: 17 NASB).
-Hearing God requires consistency in my walk. The more disconnected I become from God, the harder it is for me to sense his lead. The first thing I look at is how consistent I’ve been lately.
-Hearing God requires clarity on his purpose. God’s directions for me always line up with his purposes. And his purposes always involve forming me into his image. My One Word is a great tool for discerning God’s purposes for us in a given season. You have chosen your word based on what you believe God wants to do in you this year, so consider that his purpose for now. The greater clarity you have regarding his purposes, the easier it will be to understand his voice and follow. Ask yourself, “Does this line up with what I understand of God’s purposes for me?”
-Hearing God requires confirmation in the Word. I study the Scriptures daily with a submissive heart and a willingness to obey what is there, not to just find a verse to back up what I want to do. God will never direct us to do something that contradicts the teaching of the Bible. His Word will speak to you, either to confirm what you are sensing or to redirect you.
-Hearing God requires counsel from wise friends. God’s direction is frequently affirmed by those around me who know and love me.
-We make our plans, but ultimately the Lord directs our steps. That truth is laid out in Proverbs 16: 9. Your one word will help you remain submissive. Making plans is prudent. Preparation is critical, and vision is vital. But all of our carefully crafted strategies and well-meaning intentions must be surrendered to God’s purposes. We allow him to direct our steps. And our word will morph in the direction he leads.
-When I pick a word that challenges me —maybe it reminds me of my incompetency in some area —it simultaneously keeps me humble and hopeful for change in Christ. That’s a great position to stay in! Once it’s chosen, allow your word to morph. Allow God to transform it into something you didn’t expect. Let it take on shades of meaning you didn’t readily see. Permit it to become about something you didn’t anticipate. Let it move beyond the initial reason for which you chose it. Let God establish your steps as he leads you with your one word.
-our word becomes the lens through which we examine all aspects of our lives.
-Begin to think creatively about your word. Let it spread out and branch out. Think in new directions. Pray and ask God to expand your vision for your word. Record his response. Consider what else your one word could encompass. Return to Scripture and read more about your one word or the concept it encapsulates. Memorize additional verses about your word.
-So a quarter of the way through my year with FINISH I applied it to my home life too. My word allowed me to see that my day had a conclusion beyond the end of the work day. At that point FINISH moved from a goal to a lens for me.
-Had I not peered through the lens of this word, my days would have come to one rolling stop after another, time endured rather than time redeemed. My one word managed to redeem my view of, and attitude toward, all my daily obligations.
-Henri Nouwen once said our inner life —the life of the mind —is like a banana tree full of jumping monkeys.
-If we fail to realize we’re in a war, we’ll fail to fight.
-John Piper writes, “Until you believe that life is war —that the stakes are your soul —you will probably just play at Christianity
-Philippians 4: 8 says, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable —if anything is excellent or praiseworthy —think about such things.” I am commanded to think. I am given a list of things to think about. I can purposely bring such thoughts onto the scene to tranquilize the monkeys as long as I create the space in time to do it. I call this practice “blowing up the moment.”
-Paul essentially instructs us to “blow up the moment” in 2 Corinthians 10: 3–5: “For though we live as human beings, we do not wage war according to human standards, for the weapons of our warfare are not human weapons, but are made powerful by God for tearing down strongholds. We tear down arguments and every arrogant obstacle that is raised up against the knowledge of God, and we take every thought captive to make it obey Christ” (NET).
-The key is to isolate and examine the specific thought or belief that’s driving your desire in that moment. Take it captive; identify it. Then stack it up against the knowledge of God.
-Remember those verses you looked up when choosing your word? Bring that verse on the scene. Call it to your mind. Your mind is where the process of spiritual formation is centered. That’s why the battle in your mind is so critical to the condition of your heart.
-Renewal in the head is essential to renewal in the heart. Read this familiar passage in Paul’s letter to the Romans: “Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God —this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is —his good, pleasing and perfect will” (Romans 12: 1–2). Discernment requires you to test what is happening in your head. Test your thoughts; they drive your actions and reactions. Test them against what God says is good. Test them against what you know about him and about his ways. Discern the truth and choose accordingly.
-Sir Francis Bacon wrote, “Reading maketh a full man … writing an exact man.”
-That’s an interesting thing about language. When you give words to something, you not only label it; you discover its essence and define its meaning as well. It’s not just a recording of what you know but a discovery of what you didn’t yet see.
-But the judges were what caught my attention when I first began watching. They take a bite of each dish, contemplate it, and then describe what they experienced in great detail. They talk about layers of flavors and textures. I’d never heard such descriptions of how a food tasted. Assertive, timid, delicate, calming, vibrant, earthy, velvety. They make statements like, “The flavor profile you achieved here —bright citrus enhancing the smoky-sweet depth —provides an unexpected assertiveness to this dish.” Aware of their own taste buds, they find nuanced words to describe what they are experiencing. It makes me think they savor their food more than I do. Feed me a gourmet dinner and ask me how it was, I’m likely to say, “It was good,” or perhaps “very good.”...This is so often true of us when it comes to God’s work in our lives.
-You remember the feeling and the feeling was good. But because feeling good is often good enough, you didn’t make any record of what it was that God said or did to cause the feeling. You didn’t preserve it to learn from it again and again. You might remember the moment, but not the details.
-If God writes, and he tells his people to write, if he wants us to have a written record of his deeds, I, too, want to write. I want to articulate my walk with God.
-Writing my thoughts convinces my mind that I am serious about slowing down. My mind races in a million directions. It needs a harness, something to rein in its restless wandering. Something to focus my sight on my heart and God’s. I have found that a pen does this for me. I cannot write as fast as I can think, so my pen forces my mind to slow down. It’s amazing what you notice, what you realize, what you remember when you take the time to. As I write, I force my mind to think about each word, each phrase, and each sentence. I do not rush it. This is as much about slowing down as it is about keeping a record.
-Writing my thoughts allows me to see what I am thinking so I am not blinded by what I am feeling. Emotions can blind us. Anger, sadness, hurt, confusion, as well as the exciting feelings on the other side of the emotional spectrum, can make clear thinking difficult. I am an emotional guy, so the pen and paper help me see what I am feeling and the thinking that’s causing those feelings. Writing through my emotions clears the way for me to think straight. Clear thinking helps me to process the truth and blow up the moments. I can identify the things I can do something about, as well as the things I can’t. I can decide, rather than react.
-Writing my thoughts down gives me a chance to see and submit them to God’s truth. My first thoughts are not always the same as his first thoughts. Writing down what I think and what I feel serves as a confession of sorts. I just say to God, “Here I am!” Writing helps me enter the arduous process of submission. The act of submission is one that I take very seriously. I write my thoughts and then bring the truth of God’s Word to bear on them. It goes without saying this requires that I be a student of the Scriptures. I will often write, “God, here is how I am prone to think, or here is what I would do if I were you, but I am not you, and my ways are not yours, so I surrender them.” Then I pray the prayer of Christ in the garden, “Lord, not my will but yours be done.”
-Writing my thoughts helps me to see that I am being transformed. Surrender breaks my stubborn pride. Chronicling my encounters with God has allowed me to see myself in the light of who he is and what is true. As I read back through my journals, I can see how God has protected me from my own ways, as well as guided me in his. My journal is such a source of encouragement, especially during a season of difficulty. When I am frustrated with myself and want to give up, I can look back and see the story of God’s faithfulness in my life written with my own hand. I can see that I am not the same person I used to be. This is such a gift!
-So what do I write about? I write what I see. I write what I see in my heart, what I see in the world around me, and what I see in the Scriptures. I write what I feel. I write my thoughts and feelings and doubts and fears. I write what I think. I write what I think about God and my circumstances. I write what I love. I write what I love about my wife, my kids, my work, and my life. I write what I believe. I write what I believe about God, hope, and desire. I profess my belief in the promises of God. Sometimes this confession flows freely from a place of great joy, and other times I confess it to remind myself that I really do believe it. I just write.
-“Waiting is active. Go back to what you are already doing, and do it to the best of your ability. But while you are doing it, don’t focus on where you think God wants you to be, just focus on him. It is not about his direction, but his presence. Wait for him to lead.
-We often race ahead of God when we get impatient. Or when we sense that we know where he wants us to be and we think we know how to get there. But our impatience derails us. Then we resort to praying, “God, be with me,” while missing his presence entirely. In what areas of your life do you find yourself impatient and rushing ahead, refusing to wait? A relationship? A career opportunity? A move? A major purchase? Do a gut check and root out the motive for your hurry.
-For momentary, light affliction is producing for us an eternal weight of glory far beyond all comparison, while we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal. —2 CORINTHIANS 4: 17–18 NASB
-It is easy to overlook these critical moments in the process. We’re so busy assuming that if we can just get to where we want to be, things will get better and we will be different. I refer to this as destination thinking. Destination thinking is our belief that our lives will be full, manageable, or happy once we get to where we think we need to be. When I graduate from college. When I get married. When I have kids. When my kids are out of the house. When I get a new job, bigger house, different spouse. While we’re focused on this future point, our lives roll by day after day. We long to savor the moments, enjoy our lives, and connect our hearts to eternal matters, but we feel we can’t, because we can’t quite get a handle on the here and now. We are not yet where we need to be, and there is much to do to get there.
-We try to live our lives from destination to destination, but the condition of our heart is measured in the moments in between. Your one word can help you pay attention to the condition of your heart and the moments that form it.
-Your one word can also keep you aware of the heart-forming process and remind you that each day has purpose. No matter your age or condition, each day does have great purpose.