This volume brings together leading investigators who integrate two distinct research domains in social psychology--people's internal worlds and their close relationships. Contributors present compelling findings on the bidirectional interplay between internal processes, such as self-esteem and self-regulation, and relationship processes, such as how positively partners view each other, whether they are dependent on each other, and the level of excitement in the relationship. Methodological challenges inherent in studying these complex issues are described in depth, as are implications for understanding broader aspects of psychological functioning and well-being.
Personality is one of the psych classes I never took. I was always afraid of learning about something about the human condition that took away from life's serendipitous moments. As I've gotten older, i'm reminded how the the trick is done never takes away from the magic.
Kathleen's Vohs collection on “Self and Relationships” looks at the variables of the interpersonal and intrapersonal spheres and how they build us. Sections include: self-regulation, self-concept, interpersonal schemas, interdependence, specific social interactions and cognitive processes. The work is very academic, and often the discussions are the most useful and distilled.
Although it's audience is academic, I think all of us can learn a bit from this collection. I found the sections on interpersonal relationships to be most interesting. We can have specific behaviors: narcissism, excessive reassurance seeking, relationship growth seeking; all of which can help build or destroy a relationship.
The motives of our relationship behavior are sought out here too. It's too easy to say it's all self-seeking behavior. There is too much of the human condition that relies on others. We can't act without it affecting others, and others actions have a huge role in our feelings of acceptence and attachment style.The chapter on altruistic motives, and how we can punitively work against those who don't contribute to the group elucidate the complexities of group dynamics.
Probably not the book I would recommend for diving into psychology, but a really solid group of articles on topics that could make all of us better partners and more self-reflective.