Stripped Down: 13 Keys to Unlocking Intimacy in Your Marriage

by Tony DiLorenzo, Alisa DiLorenzo

"Stripped Down is full of practical advice on the most important human relationship we have on Earth. Tony & Alisa are the real deal! Their open and authentic approach to the topic of intimacy in marriage is refreshing in a world that blushes at the thought of having conversations around this gift that God has given to married couples. We believe this is a conversation that all married couples should have and that this book is a great place to start."
-Cliff & Stephanie Ravenscraft, Hosts of Family From The Heart at FamilyFromTheHeart.com

"As a life coach I see many people who have created strategies for business success. But those same people frequently have no plan for success in the most important areas of life. In Stripped Down, Tony and Alisa share clear systems and processes for being as intentional about success in your marriage as you would expect in your business. With no plan in place, your business - or your marriage - will likely fail. Don't take that chance."
-Dan Miller, author, 48 Days to the Work You Love, and Life Coach, 48days.com

Life is moving so fast at times that we lose sight of the romance, passion, and intimacy we so desire in our marriage. After 10 years of marriage Tony & Alisa lost sight of why they got married. Kids, work, family, and everything else were taking priority over their marriage. In September of 2008 they started the 60 Days of Sex Challenge. Little did they know that the experience would change their lives. The lessons they learned not only changed their physical intimacy in the bedroom, but brought dramatic improvement to every area of their marriage. Those lessons are all here in Stripped Down, an easy to read workbook that will help you bring back the intimacy and passion in your own marriage.

Genres: Marriage

157 pages, Kindle Edition

First published May 27, 2010

Reviews

[Lorell · Rating 3 out of 5]

First of all, the title of this book is slightly misleading...it isn't just about sex, and each chapter covers a different type of intimacy that couples should have. The title might sound a little risqué, but the book is actually quite tasteful. I actually don't understand how the title relates much to the content of the book.

I read this book with my husband. It is based on Christian values, which I appreciated, and I gained several helpful insights. I think the DiLorenzos are reaching a lot of people through their book, website and podcasts. The book was an easy, quick read and I related to a lot of the things that the authors went through in their own marriage. However, there were some parts of the book that came across in a way that blamed women when they struggle with wanting physical intimacy. I think that all intimacy problems stem from issues that start with both the husband and the wife...and I don't think it cam be blamed on just one spouse. My husband listens to the DiLorenzo's podcasts, and he said that some things in the book aren't as clear. Their intention, according to my husband, is to get across the fact that neither spouse should be forced into doing something they are uncomfortable, and that neither spouse should withhold affection or intimacy to wield power over their spouse.

This wasn't my favorite book, but it does have its merits.

[Laura Hargreaves · Rating 5 out of 5]

Fantastic Read

Loved it , continue to make my marriage a priority. In a World where sex is no longer private and is now all over the place stripped down pulls back the dark that surrounds relationships and intimacy and Brings relationships into the healing that has to happen

[Cindy · Rating 4 out of 5]

had good questions to answer.

[D. Bright · Rating 4 out of 5]

Good intro to the different ways to create intimacy with your spouse, whether spiritual, recreational or sexual.

[Angela Okpara · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great way to ignite different areas of intimacy and conversation in your marriage.

[Keith · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was fun because instead of being written by therapists, it was written by ordinary people telling about some of the ups and downs in their marriage, what they learned, and what works. It turns out that they are not totally ordinary people because they are authors, speakers, marriage coaches, podcasters, etc. But they are close enough to being ordinary people to speak about those same experiences of disappointment, boredom, and conflict that most of us have. Then they tell how they got out of those ruts.

Each chapter has some questions at the end to help me ponder what I have learned.

Contents:
Our Story
1. What is Intimacy (Six kinds of intimacy)
2. From the Top Down (Spiritual intimacy)
3. Enough Already! (Emotional Intimacy)
4. Let’s Talk (Intellectual Intimacy)
5. Money Matters (Financial Intimacy)
6. What Do We Do Now (Recreational Intimacy)
7. Calendar “It” (Emotional Intimacy)
8. Take the Lead (Intellectual Intimacy)
9. Get Physical (Exercise) (Recreational Intimacy)
10. Dress It Up (Physical Intimacy - don’t be a slob)
11. Radio Shack to Love Shack (Physical Intimacy - don’t have a messy room)
12. A Little Romance (Physical Intimacy)
13. A Change of Scenery (Physical Intimacy)
14. Prayer Works (Spiritual Intimacy)
Resources

[Kristie · Rating 4 out of 5]

I read this to educate myself on marriage, since I am currently engaged. Very straightforward and some good ideas to implement. I like to research things to make sure I am fully prepared and fully able to take advantage of something and I think this book will contribute greatly to my future marriage.

[Charmin · Rating 3 out of 5]

Quick read (1-2 hours). Brief information + workbook style. I'm an avid listener to their podcast, One Extraordinary Marriage. This is an overview of that content. If you don't want to spend 250+ hours listening to the in-depth podcast, this is a good sampling of the bigger picture.

[Larry · Rating 5 out of 5]

Marital intimacy has so many facets, this is an excellent book to help husbands (particularly) and wives to greater understanding of how to build, maintain, and enjoy greater intimacy.