Resilience: How to cope when everything around you keeps changing

by Liggy Webb

BOUNCE BACK FROM WHATEVER LIFE THROWS AT YOU

Stressful situations are a fact of life. Job insecurity, financial burden, relationship doubt are all too familiar. Some people approach them with confidence and poise, facing change and challenges head on. Others back away slowly into a corner and become quivering wrecks at the mere thought of them. So what is it that makes some people cope with these adverse situations so well? It’s not about what is happening to you, but how you react to it. It’s about your resilience. Happiness guru Liggy Webb is here to help us all find positivity and inner strength to cope with stressful situations. Arming you with a personal toolkit to handle day to day challenges, and providing strategies for thriving in uncertain times Liggy shows you how to increase your ‘bouncibility’ and bounce back from whatever negative things life throws at you.

• Timely topic with governments across the world promoting happiness on the one hand and dealing with vast economic uncertainty and austerity on the other • Easy to digest, anecdotal and practical guide with lots of common sense advice • Contains timely examples and tips tailored for coping with difficult times

Genres: Nonfiction, Self Help, Personal Development

200 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 1, 2013

Reviews

[لَمْيَاء سُلطَان · Rating 5 out of 5]

المرونة لليجي ويب
كان التغيير بالنسبة لي كارثه حياتيه لا بد منها
لكن بعد قراءتي لكتاب ( المرونة ) أو بجملة أخرى بعد الجولة التي قضيتها مع ( ليجي ) رأيت الفرص اللانهائية الموجوده فيها
و بالتالي غيرت فكرتي تجاه التغيير و أصبحت فكرة أكثر إيجابية، و أقل سلبية
تخليت عن التشاؤم الذي كان يعتريني عند مواجهة أي تغيير حتى لو كان بسيطا (كتغيير الطقس )
التغييرات فرص مغطاه بالأشواك . يمكنني استغلال التغيير لدعم هدفي

جولة سريعه في فصول الكتاب بطريقتي
الفصل الأول
تعرف على ذاتك / لا يمكنك البدء بأي رحلة ما دمت جاهلا بمكانك الحالي(نقطة الانطلاق ) تعرفك على ذاتك يشمل معرفتك بما تكره و تحب ، و غيرها


الفصل الثاني
انظر إلى النصف الممتلء من الكوب / ابحث عن الامل و الفرص في كل حالات التغيير ، من المؤكد أنك ستجدها ، استغلالها هي الخطوة التالية

الفصل الثالث
التحكم في العواطف / الصحة العاطفيه و النفسيه هي محور هذا الفصل .. كنت جاهله بمقدار الاهمية و بالنتائج الممتازة التي سأحصل عليها اذا قمت بالعنايه بالجانب النفسي :)

الفصل الرابع
التغير و وجهته / التغير يطرح خيارين أو طريقين إما طريق الانهزام و التدهور او طريق المتابعه و الخوض في النجاحات ،،، يمكنك اختيار
الطريق الأنسب الذي غالبا سيكون الطريق الثاني ، و ما سيتبقى من خطوات يمكنك انجازه عبر وضع خطة و الالتزام بها باستخدام عقلك الواعي

الفصل الخامس
تكيف جيدا مع الخلافات / من المهم ادراك ان التغيير لا يقتصر على الوظائف و المناخ و الانور المالية بل إن الوسط الذي نحيا و نتعايش في احضانه قد يتحول ، لذلك نحن نحتاج الى المرونة في التعامل مع هذا التغير ، ، عندما تصدم مع الآراء الاخرى سوف تنتج خلاف و من المهم إدراك كيفيه التعامل مع هذا الخلاف بالطرق الصحية التي تؤدي الى نتاءج تخدم هدفك و اهداف مخالفيك ايضا ،،،

الفصل السادس
ايجاد الفرص في التغييرات /أهم المحاور التي تضمنها هذا لفصل هو استخدام التفكير الابداعي و عدم حصر وجهة النظر في زاوية معينه بل الاخذ بالاعتبار النظرة الواقعيه و المستقبلية و المسولة للتوصل الى فرصه مناسبة

الفصل السابع
اعتن بنفسك / فصل مهم يساند الفصل الثالث حيث أن ليجي وجهت الانظار إلى اهميه الاعتناء بالصحة الجسديه بنفس المقدار الذي نصرفه في الاعتناء بالصحة النفسيه و العاطفيه ،، حيث إن التوازن في الحياه مهم للغاية

الفصل الثامن
العلاقات / من اسباب الصحة النفسيه ، تنمية العلاقات التي تجذب لك السعاده كالصداقه و العلاقات الاسرية ، و بطريقه أخرى فإنك إن قمت بتقديم النصح و الكلمات البيضاء الطيبه فإن أثرها سينعكس عليك خاصه إذا قمت بإهداءها إلى شخص مهم بالنسبه لك :)

الفصل التاسع
التقدم / بعد انتهائك من اتخاذ خطوة المضي في طريق التغيير و السباحه مع التيار من أجل الأفضل يجب عليك اتمام هذه المهمه بأن تتقدم و بسرعه مناسبه لك ، و عدم العوده إلى الوراء بسلبية .

الفصل الإخير
الرؤيا / إن الرؤيا هي التي تعطي لحياتنا المعنى السامي ، الرؤيا هي التي تحدد سبب تواجدنا على هذه البسيطه ، و هي التي تسخر و تستخدم جميع التغييرات و الفرص في تنميتها و الاهم هي أن الإنسان تزيد انسانيته و تتعاظم ثقته بذاته و بما ينتجه كلما كانت رؤيته واضحه أكثر .

و لأن الامتنان جزء من اجزاء السعاده فأنا ممتنة لله أن سخر لي هذا الكتاب لخدمتي و ممتنة لأن الله أرسل لي شخصا رائعا ليقدم لي اقتراح قراءه هذا الكتاب :))

[Redfox5 · Rating 3 out of 5]

2025 had been a bit of a shit show, and I think I may be in the grip of a midlife crisis. I've tried running away (Japan & Poland - great fun but temporary distractions) and therapy (felt like she was breaking up with me at one point so I stopped going) but have not really moved past anything. This book has been sitting on tbr for ages and wasn't sure I was ever going to read it but I'm feeling desperate so gave it a go.

As far a readability goes, this is pretty good. I wasn't bored, got through it pretty quickly. As for the advice, I can see how it would be useful but I think you have to a certain sort of person to really get on board with this kinda stuff, and I'm just too negative for it. Or I'm too far in a hole and it's going to take a lot more than a book to pull me out of it.

It's also hard because I already do a lot of this stuff. I dress nice everyday, even when I just at home. I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't over eat (I tend to under eat but that's a pretty long term thing), I have made lots of travel plans and goals and I will achieve them. I do smile and make jokes with people (I am aware no one wants to be around a sad sack all the time). I'm happy at work. I know there is more I could do but I'm kinda stuck.

Will try more positive thinking!

Whilst I don't think this book is for me, I can see how it would be helpful to others and worth a read, maybe something will stuck, it can't hurt!

[G. Lawrence · Rating 4 out of 5]

Listened to the audio version.

Good, although quite short, book on tuning up your resilience. I find listening to books like this every now and then remind me to carry on with good habits and look after myself better, so this was a short reminder of how to keep calm, carry on and occasionally lie down and have a rest!

[Wendy Storey · Rating 4 out of 5]

Some good tips.

[Damaskcat · Rating 5 out of 5]

I love self-help books and while some can be the same old tired advice recycled I found this one very useful and written in a lively, chatty style. It felt as though I had a good friend sitting next to me looking at my life and my problems and telling me how to bounce back on a day to day basis as well as in the face of major problems.

Resilience is what makes a person able to deal with problems and stress and come out smiling. Optimism and looking on the bright side of life are a huge part of it. If you always imagine the worst in any situation you aren’t helping yourself to deal with things in a practical way and you may focus on what could happen rather than on what you can change for the better.

The author talks about seeing problems as opportunities – referred to as ‘probortunities’. Looking at problems from a different perspective may help you deal with them in more creative ways. The book is full of inspiring examples of people – famous and not so famous – who have bounced back from terrible tragedies and made something of their lives. There are also lots of inspiring quotations from many different sources.

The book starts with a questionnaire which the reader can answer to assess how resilient they already are and then goes on to look at the various aspects of resilience and ways of increasing resilience. There is the text of ‘Desiderata’ at the end together with forty things you can do to help yourself feel better, top 20 survival songs, and a section on useful resources which includes books and websites. My copy of the book is bristling with post it notes and scribbled pencil notes in the margin and I know I will be referring to it again and again.

[David Roberts · Rating 4 out of 5]

The book I read to research this post was Resilience by Liggy Webb which is a very good book which I bought from kindle. This book is a self help book and part motivation piece of writing about having the resilience to keep going when there are problems in your life. Winston Churchill summed it up well when he said when you are going through hell, keep going. Some people assume that when they have a serious problem it's an end in itself and they will never surmount it. One thing mentioned in the book is you should bend not break and try and see it as a chance to build character and look at is there a hidden opportunity. One thing some people find when there is a major setback, once they resolve it they want to work with others in a similiar situation. I quite enjoyed reading this book and apparently the author runs things like a creative writing group and tries to help disadvantaged people. I think a lot of the things she has discovered in that role has helped her in writing this book. I was lucky enough to get this book on special offer on kindle yesterday so the price may have gone back up.

[Sara · Rating 4 out of 5]

I was going through some major changes in my life, and one day it suddenly popped into my mind: “I think I need to have resilience, let me find any book about that”. I passed by the bookstore and so randomly picked this book.

I wasn’t expecting a lot from it but I was pretty much impressed.

This book has captured my attention since Liggy’s story. As I went through it, I found different quotations and ideas that I haven’t thought about and was definitely making me feel better and looking at my situation from a different perspective.

It is very easy and straightforward. It has outlined many practical and well-known systems to achieve resilience.

[مساعد · Rating 3 out of 5]

كتاب جميل و مفيد خصوصا للعاملين في قطاع الاعمال و على مستوى اداري كبير
قراءة ممتعة

[Haya ald56 · Rating 4 out of 5]

كتاب يعلمك كيف تواجه المواقف و تعتني بنفسك و حبيت انها في اخر الكتاب حطت أغاني و مواقع

[Ayesha · Rating 4 out of 5]

كُتِبَ بحب و إخلاص يُثرِي مسألة المرونة مع تقلبات الحياة من ١٨٧ صفحة ، يستشف القارئ إخلاص الكاتبة في إيصال كل حرف ، يستحق القراءة 👍🏼💛

[Yan · Rating 2 out of 5]

I initially quite liked this book, and the info is quite useful, but Webb does a disservice by bringing up more complex issues without giving time to discuss nuances, and her use of fat phobic and misogynistic terms like "a moment on the lips a lifetime on the hips". For those struggling with dietary issues health issues looking for useful and practical info I recommend Ultra Processed People.

Another issue raised is the discussion on family - people with lower resilience often have a lot more trauma making it harder for them to be resilient ( learned hopelessness), and Webb did a disservice pushing for family harmony. A supportive community is definitely important for resilience and overall wellbeing, but this is not the same as familial harmony. Do not stay with your abusers. Do not surround yourself with people who detract from your mental health.

I felt this book was more about mental wellbeing than the complexity of rebuilding resilience after overcoming trauma. Could it be useful for you? Sure, but mostly if you're struggling with resilience after loss than abuse.

[David Maywald · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a fantastic short book from 2013. Very practical and realistic. It lays out her philosophy, as well as a range of pathways to increase personal resilience...

Very much a guide for our times. It’s really thin on hard evidence or academic research, but is quite grounded in the practical reality of lived experience.

Certainly not the definitive resource for Emotional Intelligence, but this book serves as a good complement to other resources and training. It's worth a quick read.

[Tom Ashton · Rating 4 out of 5]

An enjoyable read with some good tips for remaining stoic in the face of adversity.

Another memorable concept is "Probortunity", a fusion of the words 'problem' and 'opportunity', meaning to look for the opportunity in every problematic situation. Project Managers, with a risk/opportunity management focus, will relate to this in particular.

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Favourite quote: "Change provides challenges that strengthen and motivate."

Favourite tip: Ginseng tea is a great energy-boosting coffee alternative

[Chris Miller · Rating 2 out of 5]

Short read. There were a few good points in this book. The main thing I took away was the importance of having a positive outlook and being optimistic as a part of a resilient attitude.

This is a quick read, but not as helpful as I would have liked. I liked Willpower by Baumeister and Mindset by Dweck better than this book.

[Noor Bakhsh · Rating 3 out of 5]

كتاب بسيط للمبتدئين فيه معلومات بسيطه عن المرونة و قصص و تجارب لأشخاص مروا بصعوبات وكيف تغلبوا عليها
انصح فيه للمبتدئين في القرأة
و لمن هم في وظائف صعبة
في نهاية الكتاب وضعت مواقع مفيدة و متعلقة بنفس الموضوع

[David Hinton · Rating 4 out of 5]

I found this helpful

This is a helpful summary with practical action points. Easily understood without being simplistic. A good start in understanding this relevant topic.

[Kamile · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very good book for those who want to take action and for better living for themselves.

[Holly · Rating 2 out of 5]

Abandoned. Wasn’t getting on with the audiobook and too soft for my kind of self help/development books.

[Oraynab Jwayyed · Rating 3 out of 5]

'Resilience' is a quick read, one that is useful in understanding human behavior in the simplest terms. There are many examples and suggestions for overcoming challenges and stiffening that backbone, but the book tends to make a 360 turn into a self-help book that encourages compliance and self-doubt. It's one thing to learn conflict resolution to make your environment a happier place, and quite the opposite when those solutions include questioning your intuition and motives when you're not the cause of the conflict. I recommend a quick skim of the book because it offers good advice, but stay away from any suggestions to over-extend your gratitude and kindness. It eventually makes for a worse environment.

[Carlene Alexander · Rating 2 out of 5]

There was little in here I hadn't read elsewhere and I wouldn't say it was more about resilience than other self help book. Lots on diet, exercise etc. did have some good quotes from others though. If you want a serious book on resilience, search for the Penn Resilience Programme, though that is very academic.