God Where Is My Boaz: A Woman's Guide to Understanding What's Hindering Her from Receiving the Love and Man She Deserves

by Stephan Labossiere

Are You Ready To Receive The Love You Truly Deserve?

You are a great woman, and it's time to get the love and relationship GOD has had waiting for you all along. “GOD Where’s My Boaz” is a woman’s guide to understanding what is hindering her from receiving the love and relationship she truly deserves. A straight forward and easy to read book that will help you:

• Recognize and overcome the obstacles in love & relationships
• Take steps towards truly becoming the blessing you hope to receive
• Feel empowered, encouraged, and focused on progress

These aren’t tips and tricks on how to get a man. This book will assist you in taking a deeper look within which will help you prepare and position yourself for the love and man that is truly best for you.

Genres: Christian, Relationships, Self Help, Religion, Nonfiction, Faith, Spirituality

132 pages, Paperback

First published August 13, 2013

About the author

Stephan Labossiere is a man on a mission, and that mission is to make relationships happier and more fulfilling.

As a certified relationship coach, a speaker and author, Stephan seizes every opportunity to help both men and women overcome the challenges that hinder their relationships. From understanding the opposite sex, to navigating the paths and avoiding the pitfalls of relationships and self growth, Stephan’s relationship advice and insight helps countless individuals achieve an authentically amazing life. Stephan empowers millions to take charge of the difficult situations standing in the way of the life and love they seek and to make impactful changes on a daily basis.

Dedicated to helping, and devoted to keeping it real, Stephan’s straightforward, yet compassionate delivery style, attracts a versatile clientele including; notable celebrities, civic and social organizations, academic institutions, singles, and couples alike, who can and are ready to handle the truth!

Seen, heard and chronicled in national and international media outlets including; the Tom Joyner Morning Show, The Examiner, ABC, and Huffington Post Live, to name a few. Stephan is highly sought-after because he is able to dispel the myths of relationship breakdowns and obstacles–platonic, romantic, and otherwise—with fervor and finesse. To coin a phrase by an individual who attended one of his speaking engagements, “he’s definitely the relationship guy, all relationships all the time.”

With an international following of singles and couples alike, the name Stephan Labossiere is synonymous with breaking down relationship barriers, pushing past common facades, and exposing the truth. It is this understanding of REAL relationships that he brings to everyone he encounters

Reviews

[Elle White · Rating 1 out of 5]

Before I begin, let me say that Labossiere seems genuine in his desire to see women walk through singleness in faith. The most valuable chapter of his book is the last one, which encourages us to truly know God, not just about God. That is valuable advice I appreciate greatly! Having said that, I have sincere concerns about “God Where is my Boaz?”

This book operates on two premises that are simply untrue. 1. A godly husband is a blessing you deserve. 2. Being single means you’re not getting what you deserve, and that’s bad. The greatest issue with “God Where is my Boaz?”, which is the catalyst for these untruths, is the lack of the gospel. I’m not saying that every Christian book has to outline the gospel in detail to be truly Christian, but I also don’t understand why you wouldn’t want to when leading others in how to think and act. For the Christ-follower, the gospel informs every aspect of life. If we’re not returning to the truth that we deserve nothing, and yet have gained everything by the blood of Jesus Christ, we run the risk of complaining that we aren’t getting what is due to us.

Labossiere makes a statement that is partly true, and then proceeds to do exactly what he warns against: “…many women misrepresent the meaning of the story [of Ruth] and miss the valuable lessons God reveals to women on the process of meeting your Boaz.” Many women do misrepresent the meaning of the story of Ruth, but the meaning isn’t to teach women lessons about men. The story of Ruth is about redemption and points to Jesus. It’s pretty awesome! And while we can definitely glean character lessons from biblical stories, we mustn’t end there and miss the final point: Jesus.

Jesus is not mentioned once in Labossiere’s “guide to understanding what’s hindering her from receiving the love and man she deserves”. If you’re wondering if that’s really necessary, my whole-hearted belief is yes. Yes, it is. Without Jesus, singleness has no purpose. Without Jesus, neither does marriage.

There is a great emphasis on prayer within this book, and that is not something I’ll ever complain about. However, there was zero encouragement to turn to our final authority: the Word of God. Our prayers are informed by the Bible, led by the Bible, and held up against the Bible. We cannot pray and discern the will of God if we aren’t in the Word of God.

I could go on about the grammar mistakes, the dropping of the story of Ruth completely after the first chapter, or the feeling that this reads like a TV interview, but I’ll end with only mentioning it. You cannot put a bandaid on our struggles. We need the gospel to inform how we view and process our lives and struggles. Without it, we end up with a book of common sense self-help tips that doesn’t get to the heart of the issue: our sin, our redemption, and our hope.

If you’ve read this far and are interested in seeing what the gospel applied to singleness looks like, search for “Christians are Marrying Later - How Do I Wait in Faith?” on Google for one take.

[Carolyn · Rating 4 out of 5]

I didn't think I would like this book, but the way Stephan wrote it made it funny and it's truthful. So the synapsis of the book is general, if you are a single woman who is seriously pursuing God to send your husband, but are either impatient or tired of the wait, read this book. If you are happily single, reading this book will give you some ideas on what you can do to "occupy" your time until you think you are ready to take that step.
It is all bible based, so if you are not one to trust and believe the Word of God, this book is not for you.
It's a very quick read, like only 7 chapters, and it has questions at the end of each chapter that are posed for the author, and he answers them very frankly.
I read it twice just because I found it funny and sort of quirky. Plus, I'm a sucker for the story of Ruth. It's one of my favorite love stories in the bible, next to Ester.

[Brandy Lucas · Rating 5 out of 5]

I loved this book! It was one of the books I read when I was preparing to write my book Single, Not Dead. I love how it focused on loving yourself in your waiting season. Great read for the single ladies.

[Melissa · Rating 2 out of 5]

Way too short for a book and it didn't really teach me anything new. But perhaps my challenge isn't so much of developing a relationship with God as it is learning top trust Him and have patience. This book was a decent quick read, but there is not much content to it. It's 127 pages, but they are DOUBLE SPACED pages. This book would make a better handout than an actual book in my opinion.

[Jasmine · Rating 5 out of 5]

This book really helped me look at the way I view relationships and allowed me to realize that God was always the missing factor. I like that is was straight to the point.

[Queen Rosalind · Rating 4 out of 5]

Had to read this one again and count it in my number of books! I love Stephan Labossiere! I listen to his podcasts as well. Lots of information. I wish I learned about him before I ever dated!

[Kimberly Flowers · Rating 5 out of 5]

Loved it

I would recommend this book to all single women. Defiantly a good read. I just came out of a fake relationship and it this book help me understand what God is doing in my life at this moment!!!

[Cindy · Rating 2 out of 5]

A good read, but romanticized the conept of a relationship too much. If like me you're not the biggest fan of self help books this book will remind you exactly why. "If you do x, y and z you will received your boaz". On the positive there were a few good points.

[Maggie · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really enjoyed reading this book. It's a way to better yourself after experiencing hurt and confusion.

[KBeautiful1 · Rating 5 out of 5]

This author came across my IG feed last year and I would enjoy listening to his soundbites and his discussions about relationships. So I was intrigued when I saw he has written some books and has some on audio.

This is a really good audiobook, with no fluff, and no muss. What happens with Christian books particularly about relationships is that they are so long-winded, that you know it didn't take this entire word count to get to the point. My personality doesn't mind a good story, but what will turn me off is when you are taking too long to get the point, that's when you lose me as a reader/listener.

Stephan gets to the point, makes you think (I mean really think), and also lets you see the holes regarding your prayer life and your relationship with God in regards to praying for your Boaz. He goes into depth and causes you to really meditate on God's Word and also get very quiet so that you can listen to the still small voice of God's answer.

Amazing book and now I am currently listening to "The Man God Has For You" by the same author.

Well Until My Next Review...Ciao!!!

[Laura Johnson · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very Empowering

Excellent book, the author has many good perspectives that helped me understand this process from a different view. I like how she isn't judgemental, but I wish she didn't put so much emphasis on celebacy, that isn't for everyone.

[Jodi · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very quick read! This book is NOT a "how to find a man" kind of book. This is an empowering, encouraging book on how to work on YOU and how to recognize YOUR power and gifts as a woman. This book guides to to see what's hindering you, why you may attract players or men that cannot commit fully and NOT the man you really want. this book explains how you can prepare and position yourself to be the woman you he needs to see. How to have faith and love and not fear. The difference between a good guy, and the "right guy". How to be open to all of loves possibilities, including the fact that the man for you maybe something completely different than what you expected. And that the man that you think is right for you, may not be the man that God has for you.
Very eye-opening. Very true. Very helpful! I highly recommend this book!!

[D. Nicole Williams · Rating 5 out of 5]

In this writing, Mr. Labossiere gets straight to the point with each premise. There is no undue repetition or unjustifiable commentary. You get exactly what you need to have a clear understanding of what is being stated and you move on to the next idea. I LOVE IT!

I loved the position taken by the author. Stephan Labossiere makes it clear at the onset that he is human. He repeats this notion throughout the book while also reminding the reader of his/her own humanity. I believe this realization is essential within a book of this genre. In reading books with a religious basis, one must always be reminded that the book and its principles are not equivalent to the bible and its principles. This correlates directly with another statement Mr. Labossiere repeats throughout the book, which is the fact that God himself should be acknowledged constantly as we make our lives’ decisions.

My favorite aspect of this book was the tone of the author throughout! I remember getting excited as soon as I started with the introduction! I could hear Mr. Labossiere making his statements in much the same voice as I would amongst a group of friends. I could hear his statements in friendly discussions and could immediately appreciate the openness with which he guides his own coaching clients and friends. For me, this made the book all the more authentic. His down-to-earth tone kept the reading lively and engaging. It opened me up to not only the examples provided but also caused me to readily apply the scenarios to my personal life and the lives of those around me. Great job Mr Labossiere!

[Sunnie · Rating 4 out of 5]

Labossiere writes a thoughtful book, teaching women to ask the right questions, and look for their spiritual answers. Everything he writes about makes sense, and should cause us (as women of God) to look within ourselves to ask the questions we really want the answers to - not fluffy, nonsensical demands of our Lord. As Labossiere, the answers are right before our eyes. So, ask the correct questions, be patient, and wait for the Lord to make His answers known to you. You will be richly rewarded.

[La Questa · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great Insight

I enjoyed how the author wrote in a clear and concise manner. It helped me to learn my mistakes while dating and things to look for. The book really hit home for me. I like the author's perspective of Bible passages and how the scripture could be understood. I highly recommend this book to any woman serious about finding her Boaz.

[Deeta Lauder · Rating 5 out of 5]

LOVE THIS BOOK!!

I've been wanting to read this book for awhile now and for whatever reason hadn't yet. But when I finally got to read it and if he didn't call me out on a lot of pages. Awesome book!!!!

[Erin Gray · Rating 5 out of 5]

So it was this past Saturday, I decided to lay out by my pool and just simply exhale and read a good book. I really wanted to read something with some mystery and scandal, but instead I yielded to the instructions of a good friend and pulled out this book, "God Where is my Boaz?". Now as a single woman in her early 40's, I have asked this question quite a bit. I have asked this question with anger. I have asked this question with a broken heart. I have asked this question feeling bitter, and I have asked this question in moments of not loving myself well enough or simply not all. I am vulnerable in saying this because we as women have all been there.

Thank you, Stephan for your book. If you have been where I have been, understand that after reading this book, you will be headed down a different path - A path to understanding singleness, yourself, and the importance of having God down this path and officially recognizing that you CANNOT travel this path without HIM. Stephen speaks boldly, candidly, and lovingly about how to prepare and position yourself for marriage and being a wife. He instructs the reader on the importance of asking and seeking God's approval in your relationship of the potential thereof before getting excited. He implores the reader to do away with lists, timelines, comparing of other's lives to your own, and just simply live organically and prayerfully.

I appreciate his full - fledged honesty in this book. It is not probably one of the most honest books I have read that is aligned with the Christian perspective.

Happy reading, folks!!!!

[MightySSStrawberry · Rating 2 out of 5]

My 2 stars is mostly due to the fact that I already knew a lot of the stuff he talks about in here. I had a couple other issues, like the author not mentioning the fact that sex outside of marriage is a sin and instead simply saying that it’s best to “fall back” from it. Granted, it’s a small book and it doesn’t go into deep detail, but for me that specific topic is huge and should be addressed a bit more when talking about relationships. There is some good stuff in here, but it’s like a “beginner” style book and I need something more in depth.

[REGINA ROBY · Rating 4 out of 5]

The most important tip to take away from this book is to love God and yourself first. The focus needs to be on your relationship with God and mending whatever voids you have within yourself. I was hesitant to read this book because I thought it would be your typical relationship advice book. I was wrong, this book whether your looking for your Boaz or not should be read in order to open up your awareness on where you may be seeking something but haven't completely committed to the journey and tasks needed in order to get there.

[Amy Taylor · Rating 3 out of 5]

It was ok. I have to agree with other reviews I've read, it's more like workshop material put in a book. Also I think opinions on this books comes from ones' personal experience and personal relationship and maturity with God. This book would be perfect for a "baby Christian" or a young adult.
RED FLAG FOR ME: When I reviewed the other literature from this author, about 80% of the material was targeted to women. Who's there to "coach our men"

[Riam Grae · Rating 4 out of 5]

Truth be told, most if not all of us, are already aware of the keypoints in this book. But in life (especially in love), sometimes we have to be reminded of them over and over again for them to sink in. And I believe Stephan delivered that well in this book.

If you think love is blinding you and life is just being a meanie to you, this book will come in handy to get you on your bearing.

[Kim · Rating 2 out of 5]

This should have been a podcast or at best a blog post. I bought it on audible, and the sound quality was “whispery” (not good). The content was fair - nothing earth-shattering - and I like to support newer/non- NYTBS list folks, but I think I’ll stick to his YouTube videos or live shows going forward.

[Tumaini K · Rating 5 out of 5]

I am glad that the author has addressed on the misinterpretation of Boaz & Ruth's story. Most have misinterpreted to spread a certain idea to most single women.

I also appreciate that sincerity of Stephan that matters of the heart should be consulted and guided by God.

This is a book to be read not only by a single woman - but by anybody i.e. a friend, parent etc

[Sasha Anne · Rating 3 out of 5]

3.5 stars. I think this book provides better ways to use God when desiring a better partner. Kind of like what prayer did Ciara say for Russell. But could be alienating to anymore not super tied to religion. If you can mentally replace God with universe for others I think it could speak the them as well.

[Arianna Bullock · Rating 3 out of 5]

Wasn't exactly what I thought it was which was a good thing. Brought a different point of view. I'm not currently looking for my Boaz as I'm in a relationship but it was recommended to serve as a confirmation.

[Erin Wood · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is a book that ties biblical insight on dating. It was short sweet and to the point. Writer also has dialogue with women who’ve the same question most women have...Where is my Boaz? But it all boils down to your spiritual walk and placing God first while seeking godly relationships.

[Brandie · Rating 5 out of 5]

Perspective

I enjoyed this book only took two nights to read it and I gained something different perspective from it as well as some quotes I have heard from others. Always put God first and everything else will fall into place.

[Jaunice Harris · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very interesting concepts

I rated this book 5 stars because I feel that all of the content was valid and beneficial towards relationship success. I would recommend it to any of my single friends.

[Ilse Abisay · Rating 5 out of 5]

I really like this book. This book explained all my journey of finding my Boaz and answered a lot of my questions of finding my Boaz according to God’s perspective. I recommend this book to all the girls and women’s of Christ to read this.

[Veronica · Rating 5 out of 5]

Informative and gives a lot to consider and think about.