The Guide: Managing Jerks, Recruiting Wingmen, and Attracting Who You Want

by Rosalind Wiseman

Recognizing that boys’ issues and problems have too long been ignored, Rosalind (a mother of two boys), decided to pull back the curtain on “Boy World”, working collaboratively with middle-school and high-school boys for a period of two years to chart the emotional terrain that boys inhabit. But as she was working on her book for the boys’ parents, Rosalind realized that teenage boys themselves are in desperate need of guidance. They need a book, The Guide, that speaks directly to them (in a boy-friendly format and in their language) about the problems they face every day:

How do you get out of the friendzone (where girls refuse to take you seriously)? What’s the right way to react when getting made fun of? How do you talk to your parents so that they’ll actually listen? With the help of hundreds of middle and high school aged boys, Rosalind has identified and answered the most pressing questions teenage boys have. The result is an invaluable e-book guide that no teenage boy should be without.

Genres: Nonfiction, Parenting, Self Help, Psychology

256 pages, Kindle Edition

First published September 4, 2013

About the author

Rosalind Wiseman is an internationally recognized expert on children, teens, parenting, bullying, social justice, and ethical leadership.

Wiseman is the author of Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence. Twice a New York Times Bestseller, Queen Bees & Wannabes was the basis for the 2004 movie Mean Girls. Her follow‐up book Queen Bee Moms and Kingpin Dads was released in 2006, and she is a monthly columnist for Family Circle magazine.

Since founding the Empower Program, a national violence‐prevention program, in 1992, Wiseman has gone on to work with tens of thousands of students, educators, parents, counselors, coaches, and administrators to create communities based on the belief that each person has a responsibility to treat themselves and others with dignity. Audiences have included the American School Counselors Association, Capital One, National Education Association, Girl Scouts, Neutrogena, Young Presidents Association, Independent School Associations and the International Chiefs of Police, as well as countless schools throughout the U.S. and abroad.

She is a frequent guest on the Today Show and been profiled in The New York Times, People, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Tribune, Washington Post, USA Today, Oprah, Nightline, CNN, Good Morning America, and National Public Radio affiliates throughout the country.
In 2009, Rosalind Wiseman has three publications scheduled for release:

* Her groundbreaking book Queen Bees & Wannabes will be updated with a chapter on younger girls, insights on how technology has impacted kids’ social landscapes, and new commentary from girls and boys;
* The Owning Up Curriculum, a comprehensive social justice program for grades 6‐12, will reflect an ever‐changing adolescent culture, and incorporate new strategies for using media to engage students;
* And a new young adult novel will mark Wiseman’s first foray into fiction. The book follows its 14 year‐old heroine, Charlotte Healey, as she navigates the personal and social challenges of her freshman year of high school.

Wiseman has a Bachelor of Arts in Political Science from Occidental College. She lives in Washington D.C. with her husband and two sons.

Reviews

[Ann Kyle · Rating 2 out of 5]

I enjoyed reading Rosalind's Masterminds and Wingmen and gaining insight into how teenage boys think. So when I heard that she wrote a book for teenage boys, I had to read it. Good thing I did because I would never give my son this book. First off, it was way too much theory to hold his interest, secondly, I couldn't feel good about giving him a book that has so much foul language and third, it seems like the only difference between the books was changing the pronouns from "he" to "you." Think I'll just stick with her other book.

[Nelson · Rating 4 out of 5]

I wish I'd been able to read this as a high school student. Actually, I wish I'd been able to read this even as a college student.

[Kendra · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great info!

[Patricia Wooster · Rating 5 out of 5]

I have 2 boys and I write nonfiction books for teens and found this book to be incredibly informative. Boys and girls operate completely differently, so to have a guide that deal with guy issues was extremely enlightening. Before boy culture can be helped we must first understand their struggles and Wiseman does a great job of exposing the challenges and questions teen boys experience.