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Solving Single : How To Get The Ring, Not The Run Around
You are the type of woman a man marries…
Yet you settle for being just another girl men string along.
Regardless of what commitment level you find yourself in, if you have yet to receive the ultimate commitment from the man you want, you are still SINGLE.
Stop waiting for a man to ask you out. Stop waiting for a man to make your relationship exclusive. Stop waiting for a man to reward your loyalty with an engagement ring. Stop waiting, period! Learn to free yourself from relationship purgatory and get the lasting commitment you deserve.
Solving Single is a system that will eliminate your relationship problems by breaking years of habits, erasing preconceived notions, and unlocking the power every woman has over every man.
Solving Single is the key that will unlock the male mind, allowing you to instantly get noticed by any man, sidestep manipulation from those who just want sex, and attain a legitimate romance.
There is no need to think like a man, lower your standards, or play his game. Solving Single will show you how to win on your own terms no matter what faults you think you possess.
Stop waiting for your love life to fix itself and learn the definite steps to solving single.
Yet you settle for being just another girl men string along.
Regardless of what commitment level you find yourself in, if you have yet to receive the ultimate commitment from the man you want, you are still SINGLE.
Stop waiting for a man to ask you out. Stop waiting for a man to make your relationship exclusive. Stop waiting for a man to reward your loyalty with an engagement ring. Stop waiting, period! Learn to free yourself from relationship purgatory and get the lasting commitment you deserve.
Solving Single is a system that will eliminate your relationship problems by breaking years of habits, erasing preconceived notions, and unlocking the power every woman has over every man.
Solving Single is the key that will unlock the male mind, allowing you to instantly get noticed by any man, sidestep manipulation from those who just want sex, and attain a legitimate romance.
There is no need to think like a man, lower your standards, or play his game. Solving Single will show you how to win on your own terms no matter what faults you think you possess.
Stop waiting for your love life to fix itself and learn the definite steps to solving single.
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First published September 17, 2013
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December 18, 2021
"If you keep settling for the bottom, how are you going to make it to the top?"
This author was recommended by my one and only favourite youtuber that I absolutely adore and who has empowered me, as a woman, in indescribable ways. Unfortunately, I couldn't stand the poor way of writing and the vulgarity of this man's words and this is the main reason for such a low rating. Also, poor vocabulary, no higher literature value, no strong scientific background, a blog type of a book. Could have been written in more respectful manner.
However, this book contains some of the gems I found and would like to share.
"Being submissive will delight a man, but it will not make him value you."
"Learn to say “no,” and say it often. Most men will complain, but they respect a challenge, and if he’s truly into you, he will compromise or do things on your terms once you show him you’re not a joke. That’s not being a bitch to get your way. That’s using your leverage to make him respect you."
"You can get any man, but that doesn’t mean you can transform any man into a compatible one. Having the power to attract is worthless if you lack the wisdom to pick the guys that best suit you emotionally."
This author was recommended by my one and only favourite youtuber that I absolutely adore and who has empowered me, as a woman, in indescribable ways. Unfortunately, I couldn't stand the poor way of writing and the vulgarity of this man's words and this is the main reason for such a low rating. Also, poor vocabulary, no higher literature value, no strong scientific background, a blog type of a book. Could have been written in more respectful manner.
However, this book contains some of the gems I found and would like to share.
"Being submissive will delight a man, but it will not make him value you."
"Learn to say “no,” and say it often. Most men will complain, but they respect a challenge, and if he’s truly into you, he will compromise or do things on your terms once you show him you’re not a joke. That’s not being a bitch to get your way. That’s using your leverage to make him respect you."
"You can get any man, but that doesn’t mean you can transform any man into a compatible one. Having the power to attract is worthless if you lack the wisdom to pick the guys that best suit you emotionally."
December 16, 2013
It is about damn time someone came out with a book like this for OUR generation. This ain't your auntie's copy of Act Like A Lady etc. Focusing on the current generation, the author helps you categorize the type of woman you are and assists you in realizing the type of man you may be dating while making you aware of the ways of ratchets and hoes. With helpful advice, we learn the ways to Spartan up and leave ain't shit no nothing men behind. Would definitely recommend!!!! Read his Black Girls Are Easy blog!
October 18, 2013
amazing, ive Followed the Blog from which the book comes from. I have to personally say it is a book for those ready for a change in the right direction. Everyone can give you advice on relationships but when it comes from a mans perspective it makes a difference. I absolutely recommend this book again for those ready for change.
December 29, 2019
I needed to find somewhat short books to read to finish up my reading goal for 2019. Ho Tactics was suggested to me as an empowering book earlier this year. I happened to really like the writers voice and thought it was a rather funny book. So, I wanted to hear what else he had to say that wasn’t related to being a ho and knew this would be a quick, fun audiobook to get through.
This book is funny as shit. Not in an ironic way. But, genuinely funny. I know there are reviews saying that the author is rude or disrespectful. I understand that perspective, but I disagree. I think he’s blunt, and honestly talks about women being the shit and powerful and goddess-like, but that we’ve given our power away hoping some man runnin’ game will “pick us.” I happen to agree with much of the sentiment in this book and though I didn’t read it to “get a man” I came away feeling more confident in my choices with men and to continue to never settle.
My favorite thing about this book was that I feel like the misogynistic views of men get so much air time in the world, it was nice to read a book where a man was saying women are amazing, women are strong, women are Spartans and we should always remember that.
Is this book also problematic and flawed? 100% But, for me, the humor and overall message was what I focused on.
As far as self-help—it depends on what you’re looking for. I wasn’t reading this with a self-help intention, yet I came away feeling much more confident in who I am and what I will and won’t put up with from a man I’m interested in romantically. So often I’ve had lady friends in my life tell me my standards for men are too high and this book reminded me that I should never lower my standards. It felt good to feel validated for standards I’m often criticized for. Consider myself helped.
If you’re looking for serious help with relationships or dating, I’m not sure this is for you. But, who knows! It’s a quick read and it’s funny, so it can’t hurt.
This book is funny as shit. Not in an ironic way. But, genuinely funny. I know there are reviews saying that the author is rude or disrespectful. I understand that perspective, but I disagree. I think he’s blunt, and honestly talks about women being the shit and powerful and goddess-like, but that we’ve given our power away hoping some man runnin’ game will “pick us.” I happen to agree with much of the sentiment in this book and though I didn’t read it to “get a man” I came away feeling more confident in my choices with men and to continue to never settle.
My favorite thing about this book was that I feel like the misogynistic views of men get so much air time in the world, it was nice to read a book where a man was saying women are amazing, women are strong, women are Spartans and we should always remember that.
Is this book also problematic and flawed? 100% But, for me, the humor and overall message was what I focused on.
As far as self-help—it depends on what you’re looking for. I wasn’t reading this with a self-help intention, yet I came away feeling much more confident in who I am and what I will and won’t put up with from a man I’m interested in romantically. So often I’ve had lady friends in my life tell me my standards for men are too high and this book reminded me that I should never lower my standards. It felt good to feel validated for standards I’m often criticized for. Consider myself helped.
If you’re looking for serious help with relationships or dating, I’m not sure this is for you. But, who knows! It’s a quick read and it’s funny, so it can’t hurt.
July 31, 2020
Narrow minded speculations of a know-it-all narcissist with no factual or scientific proof. The author has no basic knowledge of anthropology, sociology, psychology, biology or any kind of other science brands connected with human mating habits. Or any kind of understanding of basic statistics.
He presents his subjective ideas as axioms with no room for a constructive debate or secondary explanations.
I would recommend this book to readers who are interested in the way the narcissistic mind works.
He presents his subjective ideas as axioms with no room for a constructive debate or secondary explanations.
I would recommend this book to readers who are interested in the way the narcissistic mind works.
January 4, 2022
As my current trend has been, I started this book with the intention of critiquing it and one thing for sure I wasn’t ready for how relatable it turned out to be. This book blew my mind!
Forgive me G L Lambert for I have been a clown for most of my dating life, now hopefully I’ll do better. All ladies assemble, you’ll need this one. I got done with it December 2021,but I’m still in awe. If you’re going to read one book this year, let this be it. It shouted at me, intrigued and entertained all at the same time. This is one of the most valuable books I read 2021.
Here is a review of the book from the Wallstreet Journal :
There are seemingly hundreds of romance experts and thousands of books that cover the vicissitudes of dating, relationships, and marriage. Surprisingly Solving Single: How to Get the Ring, Not the Run Around does deliver something new under the sun. Managing to be both hilarious, insightful, and compassionate, author G.L. Lambert succeeds in making relationship talk as enjoyable as a standup comedy routine.
Using a casual and conversational approach, Solving Single does an amazing job in breaking down the tricks men use to dodge commitment. While the book could stop there, it goes several steps further than most titles in the genre in clearly demonstrating how each woman, no matter her shortcomings, can go about attracting any man she wants. We highly recommend Solving Single to those women looking to take control of their love lives and experience an entertaining read while doing so.
And here is the product description :
You are the type of woman a man marries…Yet you settle for being just another girl men string along.Regardless of what commitment level you find yourself in, if you have yet to receive the ultimate commitment from the man you want, you are still SINGLE.Stop waiting for a man to ask you out. Stop waiting for a man to make your relationship exclusive. Stop waiting for a man to reward your loyalty with an engagement ring. Stop waiting, period! Learn to free yourself from relationship purgatory and get the lasting commitment you deserve.Solving Single is a system that will eliminate your relationship problems by breaking years of habits, erasing preconceived notions, and unlocking the power every woman has over every man.Solving Single is the key that will unlock the male mind, allowing you to instantly get noticed by any man, sidestep manipulation from those who just want sex, and attain a legitimate romance.There is no need to think like a man, lower your standards, or play his game. Solving Single will show you how to win on your own terms no matter what faults you think you possess.Stop waiting for your love life to fix itself and learn the definite steps to solving single.
The book goes on to define the habits of insecure women and how men constantly take advantage of their victim mentality and their need to feel validated. He had me at the sexist bullshit taught that is meant to keep girls in the kitchen.
The icing on the cake is where he characterizes and teaches on how to become a ‘spartan’. This is the woman who refuses to play by the rules and wants more out of life than what a man allows her to have.
You are a woman, not clay to be molded at the will of some indecisive man.
In unlocking the male mind, here is something Lambert said that has been in my mind rent free. It’s one of those things that you don’t get how intense they are until said out loud;
‘Here’s a secret, not as shocking as the existence of the illuminati, but just as revealing. Most men do not respect the intelligence of women. Many are raised by women they love to death, yet mothers are seen as less deserving of respect than fathers. She carried him for 9 months, fed him from her tits, and showered as much love as possible, yet the son will flat out refuse to do what she asks unless he’s threatened with his father’s or uncle’s wrath. It’s not the physical fear of a man hurting him, it’s the respect of an adult male that puts him in check. Little boys learn early on that they can get away with things because they think mom is weak. Other kids in school or older boys will even tease a boy for listening to a woman, making it an act of bitchassness to bend to the authority of a female, be it his teacher, classmate or mother. While a strict mother can instill the fear of punishment in a son, getting a switch off the tree does not make a boy think of her as equally intelligent. Males take compassion for weakness and from an early age proceed to lie, yell and threaten their mothers into doing what they want until they are adults. Mom is the most powerful female figure in a man’s world, and if she can be manipulated and proven one-step behind him in the smarts department, he will view all women as inferior. ’
I am still thinking about how powerful and true that is.
This is one of those books you don’t think you need until you read it. More that anything, I am glad to have read this book when I did. I have been recommending this to everyone I come across and people seem to like it.
Forgive me G L Lambert for I have been a clown for most of my dating life, now hopefully I’ll do better. All ladies assemble, you’ll need this one. I got done with it December 2021,but I’m still in awe. If you’re going to read one book this year, let this be it. It shouted at me, intrigued and entertained all at the same time. This is one of the most valuable books I read 2021.
Here is a review of the book from the Wallstreet Journal :
There are seemingly hundreds of romance experts and thousands of books that cover the vicissitudes of dating, relationships, and marriage. Surprisingly Solving Single: How to Get the Ring, Not the Run Around does deliver something new under the sun. Managing to be both hilarious, insightful, and compassionate, author G.L. Lambert succeeds in making relationship talk as enjoyable as a standup comedy routine.
Using a casual and conversational approach, Solving Single does an amazing job in breaking down the tricks men use to dodge commitment. While the book could stop there, it goes several steps further than most titles in the genre in clearly demonstrating how each woman, no matter her shortcomings, can go about attracting any man she wants. We highly recommend Solving Single to those women looking to take control of their love lives and experience an entertaining read while doing so.
And here is the product description :
You are the type of woman a man marries…Yet you settle for being just another girl men string along.Regardless of what commitment level you find yourself in, if you have yet to receive the ultimate commitment from the man you want, you are still SINGLE.Stop waiting for a man to ask you out. Stop waiting for a man to make your relationship exclusive. Stop waiting for a man to reward your loyalty with an engagement ring. Stop waiting, period! Learn to free yourself from relationship purgatory and get the lasting commitment you deserve.Solving Single is a system that will eliminate your relationship problems by breaking years of habits, erasing preconceived notions, and unlocking the power every woman has over every man.Solving Single is the key that will unlock the male mind, allowing you to instantly get noticed by any man, sidestep manipulation from those who just want sex, and attain a legitimate romance.There is no need to think like a man, lower your standards, or play his game. Solving Single will show you how to win on your own terms no matter what faults you think you possess.Stop waiting for your love life to fix itself and learn the definite steps to solving single.
The book goes on to define the habits of insecure women and how men constantly take advantage of their victim mentality and their need to feel validated. He had me at the sexist bullshit taught that is meant to keep girls in the kitchen.
The icing on the cake is where he characterizes and teaches on how to become a ‘spartan’. This is the woman who refuses to play by the rules and wants more out of life than what a man allows her to have.
You are a woman, not clay to be molded at the will of some indecisive man.
In unlocking the male mind, here is something Lambert said that has been in my mind rent free. It’s one of those things that you don’t get how intense they are until said out loud;
‘Here’s a secret, not as shocking as the existence of the illuminati, but just as revealing. Most men do not respect the intelligence of women. Many are raised by women they love to death, yet mothers are seen as less deserving of respect than fathers. She carried him for 9 months, fed him from her tits, and showered as much love as possible, yet the son will flat out refuse to do what she asks unless he’s threatened with his father’s or uncle’s wrath. It’s not the physical fear of a man hurting him, it’s the respect of an adult male that puts him in check. Little boys learn early on that they can get away with things because they think mom is weak. Other kids in school or older boys will even tease a boy for listening to a woman, making it an act of bitchassness to bend to the authority of a female, be it his teacher, classmate or mother. While a strict mother can instill the fear of punishment in a son, getting a switch off the tree does not make a boy think of her as equally intelligent. Males take compassion for weakness and from an early age proceed to lie, yell and threaten their mothers into doing what they want until they are adults. Mom is the most powerful female figure in a man’s world, and if she can be manipulated and proven one-step behind him in the smarts department, he will view all women as inferior. ’
I am still thinking about how powerful and true that is.
This is one of those books you don’t think you need until you read it. More that anything, I am glad to have read this book when I did. I have been recommending this to everyone I come across and people seem to like it.
February 8, 2023
All the hundreds of relationship books I’ve read on looking flawless and being submissive for a so called high value man can’t touch this one. As a minority black woman with a history of years of abuse coupled with kids out of wedlock, I realized a long time ago I was playing a zero sum game. Nothing I did in the past worked and now my eyes are wide open to the reality of who I am, and the truth about what men aren’t saying.
I regret that I didn’t grab this book over a decade ago when it first came out. But life needed to teach me lessons this book could not. Everything happens for a reason. I’m almost 40 and still making the mistake of assuming things about men based on my own psyche and biases. This is a comprehensive guide on not only self awareness, but the truth about how most people take the path of least resistance.
Now, if you’re single and have had several decades of bad luck like me, this book is a gold mine. I will keep this book and read it over and over again. Single is not a bad thing, and he explains that society shames single WOMEN for various reasons. The over abundance and cut throat competition between women is just one of many factors men use to their advantage.
Willingness to walk away and choosing self respect over having a man has been the bulk of my dating life ever since I became a single mother. But having integrity and walking with your head held high trumps fake love, approval from friends/family, social acceptance, and live-in d*ck that ain’t worth a damn. Yourself is the only person you’ll be stuck with from the cradle to the grave, so that should always be your first priority.
I regret that I didn’t grab this book over a decade ago when it first came out. But life needed to teach me lessons this book could not. Everything happens for a reason. I’m almost 40 and still making the mistake of assuming things about men based on my own psyche and biases. This is a comprehensive guide on not only self awareness, but the truth about how most people take the path of least resistance.
Now, if you’re single and have had several decades of bad luck like me, this book is a gold mine. I will keep this book and read it over and over again. Single is not a bad thing, and he explains that society shames single WOMEN for various reasons. The over abundance and cut throat competition between women is just one of many factors men use to their advantage.
Willingness to walk away and choosing self respect over having a man has been the bulk of my dating life ever since I became a single mother. But having integrity and walking with your head held high trumps fake love, approval from friends/family, social acceptance, and live-in d*ck that ain’t worth a damn. Yourself is the only person you’ll be stuck with from the cradle to the grave, so that should always be your first priority.
September 12, 2018
My eyes have been opened. I've started to Spartan up already IRL thanks to this book.
It's a lot of the same tried and true classic advice (talk to men you meet in your everyday life) but put in a down to earth and memorable way that doesn't make it seem like he's some kind of wiser than thou guru (a closed mouth doesn't get fed). And he doesn't hold back. He gives you a reality check while at the same time telling you to trust yourself and live like you're a queen. Believe in yourself, be selfish, go for what you want, be clever about communicating (like don't ask if he wants to get married someday over appetizers type of advice, he doesn't recommend pick up artist BS), and if he isn't what you want don't waste time on him- that's basically the book in a nutshell.
After reading this I feel like other dating authors are holding back. Lambert covers almost every single dating situation you could find yourself in, good or bad. I enjoyed the slang he used and the characterizations he painted, but weak bitches may be sensitive to the swearing or hip hop characterizations.
It's a lot of the same tried and true classic advice (talk to men you meet in your everyday life) but put in a down to earth and memorable way that doesn't make it seem like he's some kind of wiser than thou guru (a closed mouth doesn't get fed). And he doesn't hold back. He gives you a reality check while at the same time telling you to trust yourself and live like you're a queen. Believe in yourself, be selfish, go for what you want, be clever about communicating (like don't ask if he wants to get married someday over appetizers type of advice, he doesn't recommend pick up artist BS), and if he isn't what you want don't waste time on him- that's basically the book in a nutshell.
After reading this I feel like other dating authors are holding back. Lambert covers almost every single dating situation you could find yourself in, good or bad. I enjoyed the slang he used and the characterizations he painted, but weak bitches may be sensitive to the swearing or hip hop characterizations.
September 15, 2020
Not a Christian dating book. Lots of swearing and convincing of premarital sex. If you are struggling w a son/ husband/ guy during COVID, read this one before you drive yourself crazy.
Admit’s he doesn’t speak for all men and didn’t have a father figure growing up. Best guy POV in-depth insight dating advice compilation I’ve seen in a long time though. Every chapter is a new topic with so much to say from a straight to the point momma’s boy. Says the point of the book is for women to see men as less scary and completely harmless. He also mentions he’s piggy-backing on Steve Harvey’s success with breaking down the male mind in order to give dating advice (Steve was more on the Christian side). And has points where he adjusts advice for married or people in long term relationships that are stuck.
TBH I think they both (Harvey & Lambert) had issues that they spent yrs observing, personally dealing with, soul searching through. That being said, who else is better at sharing mistakes and ideas. I think he’s got a lot of on-point opinions of how guys overcome relationships connection and commitment fears and how women feed those sometimes. Grain of salt as everyone is not the same (it’s all opinion based off thousands of experiences.) ... It’s also so in-depth that it forces you to rethink everything from a guy’s POV for sure. I would recommend it.
(Also listened to his men don’t love, unicorn and ho book, which are disturbing when he women/ wives cost or controversial at the least. A lot of tangents that seem off base with bad behavior ideas. Making $ off desperate people trying to explain maturity, scarcity & fear mentality problems not very well and not worth it.)
Admit’s he doesn’t speak for all men and didn’t have a father figure growing up. Best guy POV in-depth insight dating advice compilation I’ve seen in a long time though. Every chapter is a new topic with so much to say from a straight to the point momma’s boy. Says the point of the book is for women to see men as less scary and completely harmless. He also mentions he’s piggy-backing on Steve Harvey’s success with breaking down the male mind in order to give dating advice (Steve was more on the Christian side). And has points where he adjusts advice for married or people in long term relationships that are stuck.
TBH I think they both (Harvey & Lambert) had issues that they spent yrs observing, personally dealing with, soul searching through. That being said, who else is better at sharing mistakes and ideas. I think he’s got a lot of on-point opinions of how guys overcome relationships connection and commitment fears and how women feed those sometimes. Grain of salt as everyone is not the same (it’s all opinion based off thousands of experiences.) ... It’s also so in-depth that it forces you to rethink everything from a guy’s POV for sure. I would recommend it.
(Also listened to his men don’t love, unicorn and ho book, which are disturbing when he women/ wives cost or controversial at the least. A lot of tangents that seem off base with bad behavior ideas. Making $ off desperate people trying to explain maturity, scarcity & fear mentality problems not very well and not worth it.)
December 31, 2020
This book is the 💣. Required reading. And not just for single people. This is great all-around life advice. I’ve already told friends of mine who have daughters that their kids need to read this before going off to college. It’s so good. Wish I’d read it years ago. The audiobook was highly entertaining.
December 30, 2021
Not the target market but has some interesting perspectives. It's nothing your male friends and older female elders haven't already told you. But if you are a writer/actor, it is good background research for character development.
February 11, 2022
i like the authors tone, he's funny.
I generally hate relationship books like this, but this one was entertaining at least! I only really liked the spartan chapter, everything else was interesting but not essential. Ends on a hopeful note which is nice
I generally hate relationship books like this, but this one was entertaining at least! I only really liked the spartan chapter, everything else was interesting but not essential. Ends on a hopeful note which is nice
February 12, 2019
Everything laid out nicely... Get you a man in 3.5 seconds
Great book for all, not singles only. Helps marrieds level up too. Re-visit chapters if stuck in situation-ships as well!
Great book for all, not singles only. Helps marrieds level up too. Re-visit chapters if stuck in situation-ships as well!
January 30, 2021
I read all his other books first and it’s pretty much like all the other books.
January 9, 2022
An insightful guidebook on how to channel your inner strengths to get your dream relationship and create your dream life!
July 30, 2024
I found this super interesting and engaging. Glad I picked it up.
September 3, 2024
a great book for empowerment while in a single season
July 27, 2020
Straightforward advice
This is the information you need to seal the deal. Along the same lines as Why Men Love Bitches but written from a mans perspective.
This is the information you need to seal the deal. Along the same lines as Why Men Love Bitches but written from a mans perspective.
December 14, 2015
Great book, great blog.
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April 22, 2016
Interesting male perspective on relationships. Definite read.
August 30, 2016
Good read
Good informative read. I like his honesty and directness. I'm curious to read his other books and see what else he has to say
Good informative read. I like his honesty and directness. I'm curious to read his other books and see what else he has to say
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