No Guilt, No Games, No Drama: The 7 Keys to Setting Smarter Boundaries

by Stephanie Sterner

Boundaries can be a real challenge. Do you drop what we’re doing to help a friend – again – or leave her to sort out the mess she created? And isn’t it easier to do other people’s work for them than to deal with the fallout when you hold them accountable? It’s easy to get sucked into other people’s dramas, even when you already have enough of your own. How do you know when you’re being played? And how do you gracefully put a stop to it – or, better yet, avoid it in the first place? There are no easy answers ... but there are some principles that can help you to make the right choices. Read this simple, practical guide and you’ll • 6 things manipulators won't tell you about what they really want from you; • 4 questions you must ask yourself when someone wants something from you; • 7 things you must think about before choosing your response; • 8 things to consider before going along “just this once”; • 8 emotions that stop us in our tracks; • 14 lies that stop you from standing up for yourself; and • The 4 mistakes you can’t afford to make when you’re dealing with unreasonable people. Decide for yourself! Rather than tell you what boundaries to set, this book shows you what’s really going on in some of life’s most difficult moments. Once you see through the guilt, the games and the drama – and understand what’s going on in yourself – you can feel confident choosing the boundaries that are right for you. If you’ve been struggling with how much to do for others, with when to say “yes” and when to say “no”, this simple little book is just what you need. It can help you to identify – and take – those essential first steps. Start reading today!

104 pages, Kindle Edition

First published March 18, 2013

Reviews

[Philip Wheeler · Rating 5 out of 5]

My favourite book on boundaries

I read this on Kindle Unlimited. I referred back to its content multiple times and bought the book as a reference. Its phrases are powerful, concise, and clear. It has helped me in my personal relationships with boundary setting and is my go-to book in difficult and complex situations. Thank you, Steph.

[Kate Vill · Rating 5 out of 5]

Easy, common sense, practical suggestions,

Easy language, enjoyed the examples, and ideas of practice for everyday person.
It isn't a long book, one can read it easily, and at leisure.

[Laurie · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book!

Very helpful, straight forward information. The author does a very good job of covering a lot of specific information in a very east to understand format. You’ll know exactly how you feel regarding your relationships after reading this book.

[Kathy Vargo · Rating 5 out of 5]

A WONDERFUL BOOK. ITS MY BIBLE!

I’ve read many articles and books. This one gives you tools to use and examples to guide you. He helps you to recognize the issues and you can see them more clearly and make a decision to move forward.

[shannon wallace · Rating 4 out of 5]

Must read

Very good suggestions and thoughts to get you started practicing this as soon as you read it. Informative and realistic

[Penny Smith · Rating 5 out of 5]

Direct and to the point!

This will be my resource for “boundary reminders.” I did not have to wade through a lot of biographical page fillers to get to the points!