I dislike self-help because it’s not really ever much help. And this book isn’t going to fix your problems. More importantly, it can help reframe problems as “Just the way things are.” I rage against what I consider stupidity or inefficieny or reinventing the wheel. Carroll’s slogans help me re-evaluate my own interpretation. I’m not in a position to change “the system,” so being angry doesn’t do me any good. But if I can learn to accept, reframe, and still do right by myself, I’ll be in better shape. That’s what this book can help with.
I don’t know anything, really, about Buddhism. I’m a new—and not very consistent—meditator. And I don’t really do “woo.” And still, I think this is a great, simple, realistic approach for coping with a frustrating job environment that you don’t always have the power to mold the way you want.
Carroll offers 35 “slogans” for contemplation. Stuff that may seem like common sense in some cases. But he’s also clear to say that this process of contemplation is hard and often boring. It’s a constant work in progress to accept that “work is messy,” that there are no guarantees, that you have to examine your own fears, that you sometimes just have to sink into discomfort and learn from mistakes and try to remember to be humane, even when you don’t feel like it or someone pisses you off.
No magic bullet, this book, and as a result, it’s useful if you’re struggling but if you’re willing to accept that hokey notion that you can only control yourself, and even then, not so much.