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The 7 Irresistible Qualities Men Want In A Woman: What High-Quality Men Secretly Look for When Choosing "The One"
Discover What Quality Men Secretly Look For When Choosing "The One" A high-quality man who knows what he wants will NOT settle for just any woman to build a meaningful relationship with. Men like this want a woman who exudes high character. And though she may be beautiful on the outside, he expects her inner worth to be far superior to the women around her. Once a woman passes a man's "physical appearance" test that is specific to his personal tastes, it's her inner value (or lack thereof) that will either lose or keep his interest in her. Learning how to keep a man interested in you is as simple as figuring out what men want when it comes to choosing a partner for a long-term relationship. Sadly, many women either disqualify themselves from relationships with phenomenal men or they only seem to attract losers, players, and time-wasters because they failed to develop the inner qualities that great guys actively look for in a potential wife or girlfriend. The 7 Qualities That Can Make a Man Fall Helplessly in Love With You Due to trust issues, many great guys aren't open about what they need in a relationship. Because of this, many women only learn how to understand men after painful trial and error or by fighting to get a man to open up emotionally. By the time she's figured him out, the incessant conflict and misunderstanding has already taken its toll on him; making his emotional barriers even stronger than before. Therefore, a man may put up an emotional barrier until 1. Really gets to know and trust a woman over a very, very long-time, or... 2. Finds that ONE special girl who just "gets him" on so many levels that every inch of him desperately CRAVES being with her. The faster a man trusts you on a subconscious level, the faster he'll be able to let himself go completely and fall in love with you. And there are seven qualities that are so rare and invaluable in a woman that when a man finds a woman like this he becomes absolutely determined to KEEP her in his life. How to Find Mr. Right By Becoming Better Girlfriend Material If you want to attract and keep a high-quality man then you need to understand what men want in a woman. This short book will reveal to you what a high-quality man wants in a woman he considers girlfriend or even wife material. Although different men want VERY different things, there are certain feminine qualities that ALL commitment-able men look for when choosing a long-term mate. Only the woman who possesses these feminine qualities will find attracting men - quality men - to be both an effortless and rewarding activity. Here's what you're going to learn What men want in a woman, and why being unapologetically feminine attracts the BEST kinds of men.How to get a boyfriend using an "old-school" tactic that can captivate the heart of even the most unattainable man.How to understand men and what makes them WANT to commit to a woman.How to keep a man interested in you by giving him the ONE thing he needs even MORE than SEX.How to be a good girlfriend and make him see you as "The One" by displaying a RARE quality that few women possess.How to seduce a man and make him fall in love with you again and again by using a secret weapon that EVERY woman was born with (and no...it's not what you think).How to find Mr.
102 pages, Kindle Edition
First published September 8, 2013
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Bruce Bryans
51 books190 followersBruce Bryans writes books for men and women who want to become both irresistible and irreplaceable romantic partners to the opposite sex. This is the focus of all of his books.
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December 15, 2016
This book was hard to rate. There are some good insights into the way to respect, encourage and show love towards a partner. To me this is common knowledge, but I have talked to other women who obviously are clueless to it. So I can see how that can help some women. I also liked that he pointed out that women shouldn't go into a relationship with wanting to change the guy. If you can't deal with it in the beginning then you shouldn't expect it to be any different later.
The thing I didn't like was that this book is written for only a certain group. Men who "like being men/manly" and women who "like being women/womanly." ... Yes the author does say this...
Just to give you a few free tips from the book. Men like it when you let them take charge. They like to think of themselves as your King. As a ruler. Additionally, men like it when a woman enjoys being a woman. They want a woman to wear pretty flowing dresses, because that sets them apart from a man. They also want a woman who smell like a woman, and feel soft like a woman.
sigh.... I think I might just be too much of a feminist for this book. I don't think that because a man is a man and a woman is a woman they should be put into a box of, the man is supposed to/wants to take charge. And the woman is supposed to/wants to be nurturing. It should go off of the individual. Rather than of what gender they are. Also, If the person I'm with can't think of me as an equal, as partner, then I don't want to be with them. I liked that he states you should never let a man take advantage of you. But at the same time he really stresses the generic gender roles, which is really difficult for me to put myself into that box.
Additionally, the whole wearing a dress, smelling and feeling like a woman thing... how cliche. That just really makes me roll my eyes with annoyance.
The thing I didn't like was that this book is written for only a certain group. Men who "like being men/manly" and women who "like being women/womanly." ... Yes the author does say this...
Just to give you a few free tips from the book. Men like it when you let them take charge. They like to think of themselves as your King. As a ruler. Additionally, men like it when a woman enjoys being a woman. They want a woman to wear pretty flowing dresses, because that sets them apart from a man. They also want a woman who smell like a woman, and feel soft like a woman.
sigh.... I think I might just be too much of a feminist for this book. I don't think that because a man is a man and a woman is a woman they should be put into a box of, the man is supposed to/wants to take charge. And the woman is supposed to/wants to be nurturing. It should go off of the individual. Rather than of what gender they are. Also, If the person I'm with can't think of me as an equal, as partner, then I don't want to be with them. I liked that he states you should never let a man take advantage of you. But at the same time he really stresses the generic gender roles, which is really difficult for me to put myself into that box.
Additionally, the whole wearing a dress, smelling and feeling like a woman thing... how cliche. That just really makes me roll my eyes with annoyance.
December 1, 2017
Wow...Did I die and wake up in the 1950's? I never thought a man could be both "macho" and completely weak all at the same time, but Bruce has proved me wrong. Based on his books im sure Bruce Bryan's ideal woman works while wearing a dress/high heels, isnt allowed to be a decision maker in the relationship, yet still gives him her paycheck to be "supportive" of his writing career. Im married and have been w/my husbund for 8 years. Single ladies, please ignore this clown. I should have known better than to read this garbage, after all, he wrote another book titled something along the lines of "How to put her in her place"....ummmm ....wow... This author's narcissism, sexism, and very fragile ego oozes all over his mediocre writing skills.
July 5, 2020
I wanted to like this book. The best thing about it was that it was short. But this author doesn't understand his intended audience, or he would have never written his book this way. It almost feels like he doesn't like women. This book has a singular focus on men and their needs. It is almost like this book was inspired by all the things he wishes women wouldn't do.
He has a whole chapter about how important respect is to men. And because respect is so important to men, that means men are therefore more respectful than women. And that women will allow more disrespect than men. I don't agree. Respect is very important to me. And I would not be taking back a man who was unfaithful to me in anyway.
He implies that a "quality man" is kind of sexist. It makes me wonder if this "quality man" I should be trying to attract is also kind of racist. This author feels selfish and pompous. Like he has an over inflated ego and thinks he knows it all. And what credentials does he even have? If he was a quality man who thinks respect was so important, then why do I feel so disrespected after reading his book. Does he think women don't need respect or something? That we like to be disrespected and that will get him good reviews?
His book leaves me with feeling judged and lacking. I don't feel hopeful or enlightened after reading it at all. He wrote about how women who have bad fathers are not likely to be able to catch a quality man. That is ridiculous. I have a bad father, but my circumstances don't define me. It is how we responded and how I have grown despite the difficulties that have been in my life. I have learned much from the bad examples in my early years.
Today, I have a near perfect relationship (as in my husband and I have never fought). We still have people come up and ask if we are newlyweds, and it has been over 15 years since we were married. My husband is still my favorite person. The only thing we don't agree on is who is luckier... and we don't fight about it. We know we are both lucky. The magical thing is that each of us feels like the luckier one. To me that is a blessing.
I usually enjoy books like this. I like to learn about other people's perspectives. It makes me sad that with all this good ideas in this book, I felt judged by this author because of the way he wrote it. I really wish this author had taken the time to understand his audience before writing this book. He has good ideas, that if applied to a relationship can help. But his exaction and explanations are just off putting. I almost feel attacked, and I have already found my happily ever after. Maybe if he was writing to a general audience he wouldn't come across as so demining.
He has a whole chapter about how important respect is to men. And because respect is so important to men, that means men are therefore more respectful than women. And that women will allow more disrespect than men. I don't agree. Respect is very important to me. And I would not be taking back a man who was unfaithful to me in anyway.
He implies that a "quality man" is kind of sexist. It makes me wonder if this "quality man" I should be trying to attract is also kind of racist. This author feels selfish and pompous. Like he has an over inflated ego and thinks he knows it all. And what credentials does he even have? If he was a quality man who thinks respect was so important, then why do I feel so disrespected after reading his book. Does he think women don't need respect or something? That we like to be disrespected and that will get him good reviews?
His book leaves me with feeling judged and lacking. I don't feel hopeful or enlightened after reading it at all. He wrote about how women who have bad fathers are not likely to be able to catch a quality man. That is ridiculous. I have a bad father, but my circumstances don't define me. It is how we responded and how I have grown despite the difficulties that have been in my life. I have learned much from the bad examples in my early years.
Today, I have a near perfect relationship (as in my husband and I have never fought). We still have people come up and ask if we are newlyweds, and it has been over 15 years since we were married. My husband is still my favorite person. The only thing we don't agree on is who is luckier... and we don't fight about it. We know we are both lucky. The magical thing is that each of us feels like the luckier one. To me that is a blessing.
I usually enjoy books like this. I like to learn about other people's perspectives. It makes me sad that with all this good ideas in this book, I felt judged by this author because of the way he wrote it. I really wish this author had taken the time to understand his audience before writing this book. He has good ideas, that if applied to a relationship can help. But his exaction and explanations are just off putting. I almost feel attacked, and I have already found my happily ever after. Maybe if he was writing to a general audience he wouldn't come across as so demining.
June 27, 2019
Didn’t realize this was a book about dating, but it was only a few hours long, so I finished it. Though he’s right about a lot, he also makes a lot of generalizations. Not a fan. Would recommend another dating book like Beyond The Swipe by Kristin Fry to my dating friends before thinking of recommending this one.
September 16, 2020
Another fantastic audiobook with excellent advice.
December 28, 2014
Qualities I'm not going to forget
I give this book 5 stars and it definitely deserved it. I always try to read books that would better myself in future relationships but I really didn't know how to from a male perspective. Bruce Bryans book definitely opened my eyes to the qualities males want and desire now I'm definitely going to put those to a test. I really enjoyed this book and I'll definitely reread it again if I ever forget The 7 Irresistible Qualities Men want. I'll revoked this book to every women in the world.
I give this book 5 stars and it definitely deserved it. I always try to read books that would better myself in future relationships but I really didn't know how to from a male perspective. Bruce Bryans book definitely opened my eyes to the qualities males want and desire now I'm definitely going to put those to a test. I really enjoyed this book and I'll definitely reread it again if I ever forget The 7 Irresistible Qualities Men want. I'll revoked this book to every women in the world.
June 3, 2020
Honestly, yes, this book does sound like it was written in the 1950s, but I think it’s important to look past that into primal nature that’s been around since the beginning. Everyone is different but there are core qualities that are necessary in all partners. He gives some insight into what men want specifically, telling the women what they can do. Here’s a summary if you want to avoid reading the book. You can read it to find out more of the “why” behind each of these things. Ready?
Be honest
Be mysterious
Be yourself (from the beginning)
Don’t play hard to get until he starts losing interest; don’t play games
Be vulnerable
Be supportive but not his savior
Be genuinely interested
Be trustworthy
Respectfully communicate your needs
Have standards and boundaries
Cultivate making wise decisions
Be reliable and responsible
Be a woman—don’t b afraid of feminine gracefulness
Work on yourself—long hair, clear skin, wear soft clothing and dresses, physical fitness, modest display of beauty
Let him lead (don’t emasculate him)
Play damsel in distress once in a while
Exude inner joy
Show that you’re having fun no matter what and help others have fun
Unconditional respect
Allow him to spend time with his guy friends
Don’t allow daddy issues to get in the way of setting up boundaries and self-respect for yourself
Love him for him, not his potential
Give him space to make mistakes
Don’t act like changing a man makes you a winner (men don’t want to be manipulated into becoming something they’re not); don’t make him your project
Unwavering loyalty
Don’t complain about him to others, keep issues private, never go to bed angry
Show that he is not replaceable and that you love him more than his success or looks or other things that could disappear to show you’re in it for the long haul
Appreciate him
Emphasize the characteristics that got him to the place that he is now, if he is already successful
Empathize with his challenges
Know each other’s love language
Be proactive, not reactive
Be honest
Be mysterious
Be yourself (from the beginning)
Don’t play hard to get until he starts losing interest; don’t play games
Be vulnerable
Be supportive but not his savior
Be genuinely interested
Be trustworthy
Respectfully communicate your needs
Have standards and boundaries
Cultivate making wise decisions
Be reliable and responsible
Be a woman—don’t b afraid of feminine gracefulness
Work on yourself—long hair, clear skin, wear soft clothing and dresses, physical fitness, modest display of beauty
Let him lead (don’t emasculate him)
Play damsel in distress once in a while
Exude inner joy
Show that you’re having fun no matter what and help others have fun
Unconditional respect
Allow him to spend time with his guy friends
Don’t allow daddy issues to get in the way of setting up boundaries and self-respect for yourself
Love him for him, not his potential
Give him space to make mistakes
Don’t act like changing a man makes you a winner (men don’t want to be manipulated into becoming something they’re not); don’t make him your project
Unwavering loyalty
Don’t complain about him to others, keep issues private, never go to bed angry
Show that he is not replaceable and that you love him more than his success or looks or other things that could disappear to show you’re in it for the long haul
Appreciate him
Emphasize the characteristics that got him to the place that he is now, if he is already successful
Empathize with his challenges
Know each other’s love language
Be proactive, not reactive
This entire review has been hidden because of spoilers.
November 25, 2017
Water for my heart to grow
Truly recommend this book to any woman needing guidance in what exactly could help.push your existing or almost there relationship in the right direction. It has opened my eyes to many factors that I guess I failed to realize I have forgotten to do in my existing relationship and also a few things that I could definitely start doing. Very positive n straight to the point. Also very easy to read as he has written it like me n him were having a conversation w a glass of wine n an open mind - straight up comfortable, easy to understand n absolutely made me feel hopeful.
Truly recommend this book to any woman needing guidance in what exactly could help.push your existing or almost there relationship in the right direction. It has opened my eyes to many factors that I guess I failed to realize I have forgotten to do in my existing relationship and also a few things that I could definitely start doing. Very positive n straight to the point. Also very easy to read as he has written it like me n him were having a conversation w a glass of wine n an open mind - straight up comfortable, easy to understand n absolutely made me feel hopeful.
April 13, 2014
Great book for character building
I really do not have any dislikes. It was quick and to the point; accurate and really helpful. Did not take long to get through at all, and great reference guide to becoming a better woman and how to attract higher quality men.
I really do not have any dislikes. It was quick and to the point; accurate and really helpful. Did not take long to get through at all, and great reference guide to becoming a better woman and how to attract higher quality men.
January 28, 2018
Worth it
Good read, useful info, I would recommend for anyone seeking more info to help their relationship. Give it a try and you will agree. I recommend. Anything that gives you resourceful info helps
Good read, useful info, I would recommend for anyone seeking more info to help their relationship. Give it a try and you will agree. I recommend. Anything that gives you resourceful info helps
December 26, 2017
Quick read
I liked this book although I think that sometimes it implied that a woman needs to be submissive. But I highlighted a lot of lines and even realized where my last relationship went wrong. I would definitely recommend it and look forward to reading more from Mr. Bryans.
I liked this book although I think that sometimes it implied that a woman needs to be submissive. But I highlighted a lot of lines and even realized where my last relationship went wrong. I would definitely recommend it and look forward to reading more from Mr. Bryans.
August 3, 2014
Not bad! There are good insights in the man's point of view... But most the info is pretty obvious! Enjoyed it anyway, but won't read it twice.
November 28, 2014
Good insight and tips
I would recommend this book. Better than I thought it would be. Simple tips on how to show your man you love and appreciate him. Worth the read.
I would recommend this book. Better than I thought it would be. Simple tips on how to show your man you love and appreciate him. Worth the read.
July 30, 2015
Valid points but the book was a rehash of his earlier book, with nothing new added
August 26, 2015
provides some decent insights however not sure that for women there's much added information that isn't obvious..
A quick read with a few items to take one of
A quick read with a few items to take one of
September 21, 2015
Great insites
I would recommend this book. It does give some great invites, as well as feed back on what to do, what to look out for. Thank you for a book like this.
I would recommend this book. It does give some great invites, as well as feed back on what to do, what to look out for. Thank you for a book like this.
February 3, 2016
I think Bruce Bryans is a fake author wearing horn rimmed glasses. Sounds like it was written in the 50s, but they mentioned YouTube and Ted talks.
June 16, 2016
I read everything Bruce Bryan's writes about relationships. His books empower me to make better decisions.
October 23, 2017
Good Advice
I enjoyed this book had some interesting point and it also let me know that I'm doing the right things.😉
I enjoyed this book had some interesting point and it also let me know that I'm doing the right things.😉
May 27, 2020
Every woman who is in the pursue of finding a life partner or even if she is already in a relationship should listen to this book.
We live under the impression that we are masters in handling a dating life and the cruel reality is that we are definitely not.
Even the most common sense things often seem rocket science when it comes to applying them to our dating scenario.
This kind of books, and especially Bruce Bryans’s ones are super mind revealing into waking up our comfort zone mind that lives under the impression it’s got everything under control.
We often become very stubborn in our love life and make our main goal to win an argument, when in reality arguing should be use with only one purpose - setting up common grounds and bringing more harmony (not disaster!) into our love life.
I definitely plan in reading/listening to all of Bruce Bryans books as he pointed out some issues that even though I was self-conscious about them, I totally put them in the back of my mind, ignoring them.
We live under the impression that we are masters in handling a dating life and the cruel reality is that we are definitely not.
Even the most common sense things often seem rocket science when it comes to applying them to our dating scenario.
This kind of books, and especially Bruce Bryans’s ones are super mind revealing into waking up our comfort zone mind that lives under the impression it’s got everything under control.
We often become very stubborn in our love life and make our main goal to win an argument, when in reality arguing should be use with only one purpose - setting up common grounds and bringing more harmony (not disaster!) into our love life.
I definitely plan in reading/listening to all of Bruce Bryans books as he pointed out some issues that even though I was self-conscious about them, I totally put them in the back of my mind, ignoring them.
March 9, 2024
I like that this book is straight to the point. I picked it up because I wanted to learn more about the way men think. I should say that the majority of things apply to women as well but this book is about men and I think it's fair that it focuses entirely on the male perspective on things. Of course, this may not be the way all guys think and desired qualities will vary per individual. I realize that I don't have to agree with everything the writer is saying. In fact, I want to use this as a guide to better understand men’s logic. If both genders took the time to learn about each other and approached each other from a place of understanding, the world would be a better place. You don't have to accept everything about the other person, especially if they’re making you feel bad, and you certainly don't have to put up with them if they aren’t treating you the way you want to be treated, but it helps to know where they're coming from.
May 31, 2024
Some good points and examples were used, but found myself thinking "but what about me and what I want from a guy and a relationship?" Sure the point of the book is to talk about the qualities high value men look for, but it felt like being told to mould yourself and be what men want and how to please them, rather than just having the point being focused on the qualities themselves.
Granted the author starts out saying it's not for everyone and he writes from the perspective of seeing himself as a high quality man, so it very much reads as his perspective.
I personally dislike it when guys are praising women because of what they do for them, rather than because of who they are and the qualities they have as a person.
Overall there's some food for thought and something to take from it, just like most YouTubers who give relationship advice and insight into the male mind with the only qualification they have being a male who's in or has had relationships before.
Granted the author starts out saying it's not for everyone and he writes from the perspective of seeing himself as a high quality man, so it very much reads as his perspective.
I personally dislike it when guys are praising women because of what they do for them, rather than because of who they are and the qualities they have as a person.
Overall there's some food for thought and something to take from it, just like most YouTubers who give relationship advice and insight into the male mind with the only qualification they have being a male who's in or has had relationships before.
January 16, 2023
This was a short read but I’m not going to lie, it was hard to get through because I found it a tad boring and repetitive with a few words and phrases. The tone is not as captivating to read like books from John Gray or Laura Schlessinger but this author does provide great gems! I’ve highlighted a few including the one about a women’s vulnerability.
“Feminine vulnerability awakens the masculine spirit.”
Being vulnerable and open with my husband is one of my greatest strengths! Vulnerability use to be a challenge for me growing up and I unfortunately looked at is as a weakness. I’ve grown that being vulnerable with my husband truly does awaken his masculinity! I feel a sense of ease and protection from him because the way he responds so affectionately and powerful.
“Feminine vulnerability awakens the masculine spirit.”
Being vulnerable and open with my husband is one of my greatest strengths! Vulnerability use to be a challenge for me growing up and I unfortunately looked at is as a weakness. I’ve grown that being vulnerable with my husband truly does awaken his masculinity! I feel a sense of ease and protection from him because the way he responds so affectionately and powerful.
April 5, 2025
I'm always looking for new perspectives to understand this man-woman dynamics and what each is looking for in another
It's interesting to see the author put honesty as the first and the foremost:
tell the truth, but also don't reveal everything to keep the mystique
well, what a delicate balance!
For me it's looks like allowing intimacy to build up bit by bit, and let the connection to have space to breath rhythmically and evolve organically. Just like how you get to know a new friend really - of course you don't spill the beans in one go.
A lot of the principles discussed in the book are also: loyalty, deep respect, femininity, support in each other's dream. A nice review on the keep elements for a good relationship.
It's interesting to see the author put honesty as the first and the foremost:
tell the truth, but also don't reveal everything to keep the mystique
well, what a delicate balance!
For me it's looks like allowing intimacy to build up bit by bit, and let the connection to have space to breath rhythmically and evolve organically. Just like how you get to know a new friend really - of course you don't spill the beans in one go.
A lot of the principles discussed in the book are also: loyalty, deep respect, femininity, support in each other's dream. A nice review on the keep elements for a good relationship.
October 15, 2019
The best book on relationships I've ever found!
This easy to read, very enjoyable book showed me how to help create the kind of relationship with a man I've craved to have. Respect, playfulness, honor. The things that can create a basis for a true, long term relationship! It's working in my life right now! Thank you more than I can say, Mr. Bryans!
This easy to read, very enjoyable book showed me how to help create the kind of relationship with a man I've craved to have. Respect, playfulness, honor. The things that can create a basis for a true, long term relationship! It's working in my life right now! Thank you more than I can say, Mr. Bryans!
February 11, 2021
Some valid points
Not a bad read. Made me look inside myself and evaluate some things. Made me realize whAt I can work on and what I am looking for in a man. Also made me realize that I am who I am and if someone doesn't like me for that, then it's them not me. The good points in this book educated and enlightened me and others enforced who I don't want to be.
Not a bad read. Made me look inside myself and evaluate some things. Made me realize whAt I can work on and what I am looking for in a man. Also made me realize that I am who I am and if someone doesn't like me for that, then it's them not me. The good points in this book educated and enlightened me and others enforced who I don't want to be.
June 24, 2021
For those of you like myself that found this book to be fairly basic and repetitive however understandably so. Try “it’s a guy thing” by David Deida. Everyone knows that men have egos that they want stroked all the time this is not a new or even enlightened thought process so no offense to the author because while some of the information may be good and maybe thoroughly true it still seems just a little too basic and I would sincerely hope that men today have a little bit more depth to them however I have yet to see that either. 🤷♀️
August 21, 2022
Old fashion and hetero normative. This book is aimed at a very specific woman who moves in a very specific social circle.
It comes off as very entitled at times. I supposed with the right guy, this sort of qualities could work but it is a very long stretch. At least the first two chapters were good .
It comes off as very entitled at times. I supposed with the right guy, this sort of qualities could work but it is a very long stretch. At least the first two chapters were good .
September 18, 2023
Short and to the point
I enjoyed this book. Though it packed some good information I still felt some things were missing. But I realized that this book was more on having or obtaining these qualities. There were a few points I didn't fully agree with but I liked his explanation from a mans perspective nonetheless. Good gems.
I enjoyed this book. Though it packed some good information I still felt some things were missing. But I realized that this book was more on having or obtaining these qualities. There were a few points I didn't fully agree with but I liked his explanation from a mans perspective nonetheless. Good gems.
December 28, 2023
This book had some good points but felt like it was based in the 1955. The traditional ideals and some of the BS that was said about men were so insane I had a physical reaction. Maybe enjoyed 20% of this book and did take something away so giving it two stars, but I RARELY rate this low. Lame book.
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