Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners

by Charlie Glickman

The "discovery” of the G-spot opened up an era of sexual expansion for millions of women. Just as G-spot exploration forever transformed women’s experience of orgasm, The P-Spot: The Prostate and Male Erotic Pleasure offers men erotic pleasure beyond what they imagined possible. Men who may not feel confident exploring anal play will be empowered to claim the prostate as an erogenous zone ripe for exploration. And men who already enjoy prostate play will find much to learn from sex educators Charlie Glickman, Ph.D., and Aislinn Emirzian, whose wisdom and warmth will be both reassuring and inspirational to readers. The P-Spot: The Prostate and Male Erotic Pleasure supports all men who want to explore this powerful source of sexual fulfillment—both curious and seasoned adventurers who are ready to put their ass on the line for erotic enjoyment.

Genres: Sexuality, Nonfiction, BDSM

370 pages, Kindle Edition

First published January 1, 2013

About the author

Charlie Glickman PhD is a sexuality educator, writer, blogger, workshop teacher, and university professor. He was also the Education Program Manger at Good Vibrations for sixteen years. Charlie’s career in sexuality began when we was in college, providing safer sex and queer outreach workshops as a peer educator, but it really took off when he moved to San Francisco in 1992. Since then, he has taught classes and workshops for community groups, professional organizations, non-profit agencies, and university classes. Charlie has also presented at many professional conferences, including the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, and Sex::Tech. He is certified as a sexuality educator by AASECT and received his doctorate in Adult Sexuality Education from the Union Institute and University in 2005. Find out more about him on his website (www.charlieglickman.com) or follow him on twitter (@charlieglickman).

Reviews

[Bon Tom · Rating 5 out of 5]

It truly is the ultimate guide. For a while and until this book, I've entertained the thought of writing similar guide myself. But this effectively shut me up and took everything I had to say about it out of my mouth, and added some, and then some more. So prostate pleasure you very much.

Joking aside, yeah, it's incredibly comprehensive. Everything you can think about, and many things you can't, is in there. Technique, toys, health aspects and benefits of the prostate massage and the mysterious little organ itself. How about impact on the relationship and inner programming of the participants, that might or might not need updating? Also, the controversies of regular prostate screening after 50 and radical prostatectomy, as opposed to watchful waiting. Fascinating stuff, it's not clear cut as with some other forms of cancer, make sure you pay attention to that part.

[Beverly Diehl · Rating 5 out of 5]

There's a lot of jokes about anal sex, and an impression (thanks, porn!) that's it's fun for the giver, not so much for the receiver. This book explodes those and other myths and explains, clearly and without shame, many ways in which anal play can be enjoyed safely. 1) It's not supposed to hurt; 2) Lube is your friend, and 3) Anal play does not always, or even most of the time, mean a penis is entering an anus. Even among gay men!

Regular prostate massage may help the prostate from developing infections, even cancer (though there's not enough research to definitively say so, and this book doesn't make those claims). But it feels good and improves circulation of fluids, and that can't be a BAD thing.

There are clear illustrations, and methods described where a prostate-possessing person can explore their own prostate with fingers and toys. If you've always been afraid of anal play, this is a book you NEED on your bookshelf. Bottoms up!

[Anna · Rating 5 out of 5]

Comprehensive well written guide to anal play and pleasures. The authors cover every facet of anal and prostate pleasure from neurological diagrams to toys and how-to's. The language is not overly technical, definitely not stuffy, with gems like " You might find that your brain says to your ass: “please open,” and your ass completely ignores this message." Whatever your sexual orientation is, you have an asshole and if you'd like to learn to enjoy it, this is the book to get. I would even suggest that everyone read this book, if only for the chapter on prostate health. whether he's your father, lover, son there's a man in your life you love, and this is a great way to get all the information he needs

[Avory Faucette · Rating 5 out of 5]

I recently ran into Charlie Glickman at Catalyst Con and was reminded that I've been remiss in posting a review of his latest book, The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, co-authored with Aislinn Emirzian. My tardiness is certainly not due to a dislike of the book, which covers all the bases in a friendly and professional manner that draws in prostrate-owning readers and folks that play with them alike.

This thorough instructional guide includes all the expected information about anatomy and how to find the damn thing, but it goes well beyond that. Reading it, I was reminded of when I first read The Whole Lesbian Sex book thinking a book couldn't possibly teach me anything new about queer ladysex and was delightfully proven wrong. I suspect even old pros will find something to learn here, and it's an excellent guide for beginners, warming the reader up with answers to frequently asked questions, quotations from a range of ordinary folks discussing what they love about prostate play, a reassuring chapter on hygiene, and interesting sidebars on topics such as the root chakra and names or images for the prostrate (avocado seed!!)

As a gender and sexuality nut, I was glad to find that the authors addressed the range of prostate-having folks immediately in the introduction, rather than sticking a "some women have prostates too!" note at the very end, which always feels like a "don't get mad at us!" or "please don't sue me!" caveat to me. They use male language thoroughout for convenience, but acknowledge that most material applies to any gender and also include some specific information about trans women's varying gender identification experiences around the prostate and hormonal differences in a sidebar, encouraging partners of trans women to (gasp!) communicate about these things.

For those needing nitty gritty, this book delivers. Multiple how-to chapters cover the mechanics of penetration, finding the prostate, prostate massage, perineal massage, toys, and PIA or anal strap-on sex. There's also a lot of information on emotions, communication, and psychology throughout, addressing stigma around anal play, where prostate play fits into a sex life generally, how mental state affects play, how to walk a partner through finding the prostate, and how to bring up the idea of prostate play, among other topics.

To be perfectly honest, I try not to write book reviews this glowing, but I had trouble finding things to criticize in this guide. It makes me think of a sexy textbook, with all the hints and sidebars and how-tos. If you're interested in prostate play at all, I definitely recommend you take it to class.

This review was originally published on the Sex Positive Activism blog and now appears at Queer & Now.

[Joelle · Rating 5 out of 5]

So I must admit first that I was reading this book on three levels: first as an author of pansexual BDSM erotica, secondly as an impromptu sexual educator, and then as a lifestyle submissive of a man. I wondered if I could gain the knowledge to include a larger variety of sexual activity to write in my books from reading this guide. Did I ever! After I finished reading the book, I was able to write an approximately 2000 word short story in which one character taught another character how to give prostate massage to a third character- it has been well read. I haven't had the chance much to educate friends or acquaintances on prostate massage. I very much appreciated the pen drawings of male anatomy (well labeled) and artistic renderings of partners of different gender pairings engaging in prostate massage. However when it came to the chapter I wanted to read for my Master, that has been great. He and I do need to talk more about it in depth, but I came to this book wanting to primarily read chapter 10- "The 'Sweet Spot': Massaging the Perineum." I was already considering this book because I'm a Facebook friend with Charlie and the educational articles he shares are always wonderful, but when I read the title of this chapter in the free "Look inside,"I immediately bought the book. I believe it was on the third attempt of experimentation trying to locate His prostate without specifically saying what I was doing (during fellatio) that my Master finally asked me what I was up to. He was enjoying the extra attention I was showing Him. While He doesn't tend to read this sort of book, I do hope to convince Him to read this chapter at the least. And I look forward to further experimentation. I so want to accomplish giving Him the pleasure that the authors talk about being the possibility from prostate massage, whether internal or external.

[Cara Sutra · Rating 4 out of 5]

Thanks to my slave minnie for this guest review of Charlie Glickman's Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure - Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners. It is co-authored by Aislinn Emirzian and features a foreword by Carol Queen, PhD.

- Cara Sutra

I've been given a copy of this tome by the wonderful Cara Sutra to review for her. It's published by the well known Cleis Press in paperback.

I was keen to read it as I have been using prostate massage for several years, with mixed results so I hoped to pick up some useful tips.
It's written in an easy to read style, changing seamlessly from medical descriptions of your anatomy and the prostates function to easy to understand everyday talk of cock, balls, fucking to name a few.

It starts, logically, with a description of the prostate and it's function, its location and how it interacts with the bodies neighbouring organs. This help sets the scene for beginners to understand how to be able to use it for pleasure as well as its normal function.

The two authors manage to keep it interesting for novices and more experienced players without being condescending to either, not always an easy task! There are chapters on hygiene, penetration, techniques, toys and even a him and her chapter which covers both female and male partners and the differing aims and practicalities of each. I was interested to read the section on solo massaging, learning one or two new ideas that I will be trying soon!

All in all it's a great book, very informative without being too boorish though once or twice I thought the change from medico speak to street speak was a bit incongruous.
If you or your partner are interested in prostate play it's well worth reading.

I'd give 7 out of 10 and of course thanks as usual to Cara Sutra for asking me to review for her.

- slave minnie

[Wetlandia · Rating 5 out of 5]

Charlie Glickman is one of the sex educators and authors that absolutely knows what he's talking about when it comes to anal sex and prostate pleasure. This book is a must read for anyone looking forward to exploring anal play and prostate play.

[Sara Habein · Rating 4 out of 5]

My full review appears on Persephone Magazine.

[Seabert Booher · Rating 5 out of 5]

When this book says ultimate guide it means ultimate. I swear they cover every question that has ever been asked, or possibly will be asked about prostate play!

[Christopher · Rating 4 out of 5]

An interesting reference and useful information but is more focused on heterosexual couples but not limited to just couples covering a range of related topics

[Camila · Rating 5 out of 5]

Great book! I specially love the respectful language the authors use, the care about addressing different gender identities as well as sexual orientations and the overall fun, simple style.

[J. Daniels · Rating 5 out of 5]

Very interesting perspective on sexual pleasure.

[Mr. P · Rating 5 out of 5]

A very important and mind opening compendium of information on a taboo topic of sorts - pleasure which is easily mislabeled and thus not properly discussed in public or even among friends.

I find this book to be an especially valuable read for people who are new to the topic of prostate play. Yet, also people who are interested to deepen their knowledge with the experience of others will find quite some new information.

I was briefly questionimg whether to put this title on my goodreads list and writing publicly about it. And exactly these kind of thoughts and the psychological part of this book are the reason why I myself strive to be open about it.

Can you do the same? Yes, this is a challenge :)

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[EMMANUEL · Rating 3 out of 5]

This book is very much like all the other male sexuality book's I have read. I have read this book, as one of the books in of the number of books that I have utilized as context for my research on male sexuality for my neuroscience research purposes.

I don't have much to say about this book. Other then, "The context of this book is very much like a very number of other books on male sexuality."

Seems to be a reoccurring theme.

[Nathen Leroy · Rating 3 out of 5]

satire:

*I search "Prostate Pleasure" on google.*
*I download all the content varying from what? to how to do it? to how to not make rookie mistake? to cancer?*
*I publish the book*
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But in the end every Guide book feels this way,
It was kinda good read i got to know the scattered info on internet in one pack. it was informative.

[Sarospice · Rating 3 out of 5]

If you saw this book on my bookcase you would probably think " doesn't Saro already know all this?" And you'd be right.

[Davied Lubinson]

Listening Length 8 hours and 53 minutes