Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex

by Joan Price

An inviting and informative guide to sex for seniors, with a clear message that "as far as sex in the senior years goes . . . the best is yet to come" (Dr. Dean Edell)Joan Price is talking out loud about a subject that is often ignored or ridiculed in our later-life sexuality.In Naked at Our Age, she offers a candid, straight-talking exploration of senior sexuality -- the challenges, the disappointments, and the surprises, as well as the delights of love and passion. She shares the stories of women and men -- coupled and single, straight and gay -- demonstrating how their sex lives and relationships have changed with age, and how their sex lives influence their lives and self-esteem. Along the way, she offers wise advice from sex therapists, health professionals, counselors, sex educators, and other knowledgeable experts, helping seniors to embrace intimacy in all its forms.Entertaining and indispensable, Naked at Our Age is a complete guide to enjoying senior sex, love, passion, and couplehood.

Genres: Nonfiction, Sexuality, Health, Self Help, Psychology, Relationships

355 pages, Kindle Edition

First published May 1, 2011

About the author

I am a senior sex author, speaker, and advocate for ageless sexuality. My books include:

* Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved (coming Summer 2019);
* The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50: How to Maintain – or Regain! – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life;
* Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex – winner of Outstanding Self-Help Book 2012 from American Society of Journalists and Authors and 2012 Book Award from American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists;
* Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty;
* Ageless Erotica: a steamy erotica anthology by authors age 50+
* The Anytime, Anywhere Exercise Book: 300+ Quick and Easy Exercises You Can Do Whenever You Want!

Please visit my website at http://www.joanprice.com and my zesty blog about sex and aging at http://www.NakedAtOurAge.com/. For news, views, and events related to senior sex and relationships, subscribe at http://eepurl.com/cx2Nab.

Reviews

[Ann Evans · Rating 4 out of 5]

Joan Price is a gutsy woman. She can be frank and bold when she talks about sex among the slightly wrinkled, I think partly because she doesn't have any kids! Thank god for her. I am reading the book a little at a time. It is bulging with information I had not known, and it makes the whole myth about older people being over it all seem so antiquated and ridiculous. Why do we feed ourselves such nonsense? Sharing of affection is a personal choice, not a biological imperative.

[Michael · Rating 3 out of 5]

I didn't like this book as much as its predecessor, Better Than I Ever Expected, but that is probably due to its tone being more serious. In Chapter 20 of this book, Joan Price compares the two, saying the first book "celebrated the joys of senior sex", whereas this book "aims to help you if you are not having great sex". Ironically, this could be the better book depending on what you are trying to get out of a sex book for seniors.

However, given that this book intends to help you solve your sex problems, I thought it suffered a bit from disorganization. Joan Price's narration style is candid and casual, which works for casual and conversational topics about senior sex. But for problem-solving, I want to be able to go right to the chapter I need, and have chapters follow a similar layout so I know where to find the salient information. Unfortunately, I wasn't always sure in which chapter I would find certain topics, and the letters from readers, help from experts, and storytelling background from Ms. Price were kind of randomly mixed together.

I think another reason I enjoyed this book less was because of the death of the author's partner. That's obviously not something she can change, and the death of your partner is an important consideration when you are talking about the world of senior love/sex, but it became a recurring theme in her narration and definitely sobered the tone of the book. The author has a talent for putting herself right in the middle of her work, but that means her emotional pulse drives the experience of the book. The last book was such a devilish and sporty romp, written at a time when she had found her true love in her late fifties, whereas this book was finished after the death of her partner, and talks more about grieving and loss. The tone was so different, that at first I didn't realize it was the same author!

Here are some other differences, which could be seen as an improvement or a diminishment, depending on your interests: where the previous book focused mainly on women, this book is more egalitarian in its inclusion of male concerns/perspectives; this book includes more content from gay and lesbian contributors; the age range of focus has been expanded and includes contributions from people in their forties; and the myriad insets and formatting changes that I found so distracting in the first book have been dramatically reduced. The insets are less frequent and therefore feel more poignant and less distracting; and she has put them in a consistent format and even breaks the pages to improve their readability.

Her candor about her own and other people's sex lives is still quite vivid, as well as her enthusiasm and encouragement for trying new things. Because of this, she is a great spokesperson for saying things that other people are shy about saying, but that also means you will probably hear a few things you may not have wanted to hear. In the last book, her chapter on group sex pushed at my comfort zones; in this book, it was her chapter on hiring male escorts. I think her ability to push boundaries is a plus, given the topic, and you can always skip any chapters that go outside your comfort zone.

Overall, this book contained a lot of helpful information and was presented in an engaging and loving manner. It would have benefited from a more structured organization, more detailed information about certain topics, and a more uplifting tone. However, I would recommend it for someone trying to improve their sex life as they get older, and as a starting point for exploring potential physical and/or emotional obstacles that can be followed up elsewhere.

Contents

1 - The Old Ways Don't Do It Anymore!
2 - Reviving Desire
3 - Sex Toys: Now More Than Ever
4 - Together yet Alone: Is This My Marriage?
5 - Talking about Sex
6 - Off the Beaten Path: Nontraditional Sex Practices and Relationships
7 - Surviving Divorce, Breakup, Betrayal
8 - Sex with Myself
9 - Unlearning Our Upbringing: Women's Stories
10 - Unlearning Our Upbringing: Men's Stories
11 - When Sex Hurts: Vulvar/Vaginal Pain
12 - Reclaiming Sexuality after Cancer
13 - Erectile Dysfunction: What Men Don't Say Out Loud
14 - Erectile Dysfunction: Women Speak Out
15 - No Way Back: When Your Partner Has Alzheimer's Disease
16 - Death, Grieving... and Then What?
17 - Sensuality for Hire
18 - DWO: Dating While Old(er)
19 - Safer Sex - Yes, at Our Age
20 - Better Now Than Ever: The Joys of Older-Age Sex

[Asja Wright · Rating 4 out of 5]

This is a review I completed for a university class:

One of the largest demographic age categories in our society are older adults, yet the information available to them in regards to their sexuality is limited; in fact some people argue that it is non-existent. Joan Price, self-acclaimed sex expert, has started to tackle the subject of senior sex with her second of two novels titled, Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex. Her goal is to provide seniors with a straightforward, honest written work to aid them in their journey as their bodies, relationships and worlds experience dramatic changes. Through this descriptive book, using her personal experience and research, Price aims to answer a variety of questions and to explore the main topics seniors encounter in their sexual lives. In her work, Price effectively demonstrates the variety of issues and the important themes of communication, and medical professional contact; while her book is well supported through expert advice and numerous testimonials, her failure to acknowledge the importance of other social factors and her work being primarily heterosexual leads her to miss a crucial portion of seniors who may be looking for resources in regards to their sexuality.
Throughout the book, Price addresses 20 different topics that seniors are faced with as they age. She covers dark topics such as sex after cancer, sex after death of a loved one and addresses ways to cope with failing marriages. Some taboo subjects she addresses are sex toys and nontraditional sex practices, masturbation and protecting oneself from STIs and HIV/AIDS. A topic she devotes two chapters to due to the diversity of its affects in seniors is erectile dysfunction both from the male and the female perspectives. Through the exploration of these areas this book acts as a manual for seniors, which they can read in its entirety or flip to chapters that pertain to their current life situations. It is evident that Price has done some extensive research and consulted a variety of people with many different backgrounds in order to declare herself a sex expert. She has a blog that her readers and fans can write her to have their questions addressed and to share their personal experiences. It is important to note that she does not have any formal education in sexology, but rather is self-taught. To make up for this she asks experts in their field to answer her reader’s questions and to fill in where she feels her knowledge is not adequate. In the back of the book she has devoted a section for the experts’ credentials to be displayed.
Noticeably the most prevalent theme in this book is communication; this emphasis, in my opinion, is additionally the book’s strongest attribute. Communication is a skill that is relevant no matter how old you are, but Price demonstrates that as you age it becomes even more important. An example of the importance of communication in seniors is when it comes to erectile dysfunction. Price explains that as the aging process happens, men need to adjust to the changes particularly to their penis. For most men the emphasis of sex has been penile penetration so when erectile dysfunction becomes a reality couples have to reframe their perception of sex—taking the emphasis off of the penis. In order to make this change the couple must communicate, something men find difficult because of their pre-conceived notion that women are focused on the penis as well. Price enlightens her readers that “only 25 per cent of women are consistently orgasmic during intercourse” so men may be surprised to find out that women wont necessarily be disappointed ; she stresses the importance of being open and communicating with the other person in the relationship and better experiences and connection will be the result.
This theme of communication comes up in all areas that Price addresses; she even devotes an entire chapter on describing why communication is key in any relationship. Price argues that communication will make or break one’s sex life and goes into detail about the four principles when discussing relationships—sexual or otherwise . These skills are beneficial in all areas of people’s lives, not just when it comes to their sexuality. For some it drives home the importance of communicating while for others, such as women who have found a way out of controlling marriages, this information may be the first time they are hearing it. I applaud Price for making this topic an important factor that she stresses throughout the entirety of her book.
While Price’s discussion in regards to communication was pronounced, she missed the gap when it came to discussing the social determinants of health that play a role on senior sexuality. There is an emphasis on individualist behaviors that one can change in order to cope with the changes in the body. While this is great, Price could have addressed these issues on a deeper level. She does not go into detail of how society can change in order to make it more comfortable for people to age and to get the help they require on a sexual level. In the chapter in regards to stimulating desire, she focuses on how adjusting to a healthy diet will help decreased libido, a phenomenon the majority of seniors experience as they age. While these behaviors benefit sexual behaviors, Price does not talk about how stigmas that are created by the media and society are shaping how we feel about our bodies and our sex lives. We are bombarded with the idea that it is “unnatural” to participate in sex as we age, and these false beliefs are an issue that seniors have to work though in order to address their own shames that have been shaped by society. Perhaps Price could have devoted an entire chapter to societal issues and the stigma associated with them as this area should not be ignored; it is a root cause to health issues and is often missed by a lot of health fields and research. That being said, it is important to be mindful that tackling any social determinant of health in any capacity is a large task; a task that may have been far too great for this book.
Medical communication in areas of health is critical to discuss and Price did a thorough job of addressing this. She explains in all of her chapters how crucial it is to have an open relationship with your doctors and other medical professionals. Testimonials were sent in asking what to do if a doctor is not comfortable discussing sex after a medical procedure and Price starts the book off by addressing this. She explains that if a medical professional is not comfortable talking about a patient’s sexuality it is important to find another professional who is. Price again drives home this medical openness when discussing vaginal pain as she notes that you should never self diagnose and to talk to a professional who has taken the time to educate themselves about sexual health especially in seniors.
Not only does Price encourage individuals to visit medical doctors, she speaks to the importance of having both a doctor and a psychologist, a recommendation that is often missed. Due to the biomedical model that healthcare is influenced by, mind and body are often separate entities. Price recognizes that both the mind and the body need to be working in sync to be able to overcome difficulties that individuals face as they age. While Price encourages the reader to look for a sexologist or a counselor who is trained in sexual health—I imagine it would be hard to find these people and a lot of seniors would be embarrassed of asking counselors if they have a background in sexual health. This is a barrier that she scraped the surface on, but did not go into great detail unfortunately. However, overall she addressed this issue well and made it clear that having proper medical advice and experts to work with is crucial in proper sexual health.
Another major critique I have about Price’s book is the lack of diversity when it comes to sexual orientation. It is hard to know the reason behind this, maybe it is because she is heterosexual herself and that she is more comfortable talking about heterosexual relationships as a result. She speaks to her own sexual practices quite regularly which may be useful for the reader, however at times she goes overboard making it feel like a diary entry rather than an informative book. An example of the lack of diverse sexual relationships can be seen when she discusses erectile dysfunction from the viewpoint of men. Her main focus is on heterosexual men: their testimonials and the responses from the experts. There is only one page devoted to gay men and it is placed at the end of the chapter almost like an after thought. Price herself comments on the lack of homosexual representation, but yet does not include more information in this area. Erectile dysfunction is just as real, arguably if not more real, in the gay community so more information in regards to this would be beneficial to readers. Additionally in the chapter addressing Alzheimer’s disease and how to cope on a sexual level, the homosexual community was never addressed.
Furthermore another stereotype that is fed is the belief of extreme sexualization within the gay community. In the chapter about Death and Grieving there is only one homosexual story shared and it is highly sexualized. It talks of a man wanting sex with other men as soon as his husband has died. Although I believe this testimonial to be true, the problem is that by only having this one story the stereotype of gay men being all about sex is fed and I wish this had been something Price would have considered.
When looking at the entirety of the book there was only one chapter that addressed lesbian sex and relationships in detail. The problem with this is that these relationships become “different” and adds to the stigmatization of lesbians not falling within society’s “norm”. Also, when testimonials of gay individuals, both male and female, are discussed she announces it, which brings added attention to the fact they are “different”. As long as we are bringing attention to these differences we cannot destigmatize this and have a society where there is full acceptance of all sexual orientations. Going a step further when it come to people who identify with transgender, queer, transsexual, etc. the only information targeted for this community can be found in the section that discusses nontraditional sexual behaviors and even then it is limited. This again adds to the stigmas around this group of people and by naming the chapter “off the beaten path” emphasizes that they are different from the norm.
I want to make clear that while I do have critiques of Price’s book, overall it is a phenomenal work that addresses the issues that most seniors deal with as they age. This book contains more than 300 pages of honest, open information that is available to a demographic age category that has next to nothing as far as resources to aid them. The pride Price has for this book is felt in the reading of every page and she covers some pretty difficult topics. When she addresses sexuality after cancer and during Alzheimer’s, it had a strong impact on me. These are not issues that most of us think about, nor do we talk about them. I can only imagine the struggle people experience when they are faced with these tribulations. When it comes to cancer, Price speaks to having questions about whether her and her husband should have sexual intercourse if he is on chemotherapy medication; she questioned how the toxins would affect her. That is not a thought that has ever crossed my mind because I have never crossed that road in my life thus far, nor have most people when they find themselves dealing with cancer within their relationship. In her written work, Price has some gaps in regards to the role or social factors in senior sexuality and the lack of diversity when it comes to sexual orientation, however that being said she successfully reveals a variety of topics and the importance of communication and medical professional contact through the validation of expert advice and numerous testimonials. I can only have the utmost respect for Price as she tackles a subject that most sex experts do not even scratch the surface on, and she does it with such tact, openness and love. I would recommend this book to each and every person to better equip themselves as they age so they can keep their sexual life alive and have their burning sexuality questions answered.

[SHIP (formerly The CSPH)]

Quick opinion from Aida:

Good overall read with some very valuable information for anyone who is or plans to be an elder, but it got to be pretty repetitive after a while around certain themes; there are only so many times I can read about how old age can bring an appreciation for "full-body sensuality/sexuality"! This is a book you can skim a bit to find the gems in.

The text brings in voices of experts in the fields of sexuality, but even more heavily relies on people's personal experiences with aging and sexuality. Instead of speaking FOR people without knowing them or just highlighting "professionals," it takes people's lived experiences and places them front and center, and even establishes a kind of dialogue when responding to people who wrote in for inclusion in the book (so great job on that). There is some fascinating information about how cancer can affect sexuality, which, as someone who hasn't experienced cancer, was all new to me. The book also discusses the impact of dementia, Alzheimer's, death, erectile dysfunction, and a lot of other issues that can happen as people age, but by no means is it a "downer" of a book. It also had lots of valuable tips on how to stay safe and sexually healthy well into one's "golden years."

While representation of certain communities isn't as high as maybe it would've been lovely to see, there's definitely inclusion of people who are queer, non-monogamous, kinky, and/or HIV+, so there's a little something for everyone. The book definitely leans more in the direction of looking at sex in the later years as this slow, sensual, potentially magical/transformative/spiritual thing, but there are voices that speak about different relationships to their sex lives (and having different desires).

Full Review from previous intern:

Joan Price’s new book Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex is a moving compilation of over a hundred stories and inquiries from seniors all over the country ranging from, their early fifties to their nineties. All of the stories are divided up into categories, from masturbation to reclaiming sexuality after cancer or what to do if your partner has passed away, all applicable topics are at least touched upon if not covered in full. As a young woman it was humbling to read about the experiences of older adults, knowing that someday the challenges that they were facing in their sexuality, whether it be low libido or joint pains, will someday be challenges I will face.

Feedback and advice from forty-five different experts in the field of sexuality (one of them being our own Megan Andelloux) is interwoven through those stories. They all give very accurate and honest information about such things as lubrication to how to incorporate BDSM into your relationship. They were very helpful in that the advice was sometimes broken down into bullets, so all information was very concise. Some experts gave insight into their own sexualities to perhaps ease the discomfort of others which help many readers relate to the experts.

One of the most touching aspects of the book is how Price incorporates her own sexuality and life with her now deceased husband Robert, she uses her own experiences as teachable moments for her readers which is truly awe-inspiring. Price’s thoughts, suggestions and own experiences are what ties the entire book together. At the end, she gives her readers the greatest advice of all:

“Take time with your lover if you’re fortunate enough to have him or her with you, and never take for granted that there will always be time later on. There won’t. Now is all we have. Love each other passionately and tenderly. Treasure each other. That, in the end, is all the truly matters.”

Overall, Naked at Our Age is a humbling book (especially for a younger generation who thinks they are invincible) that will make its readers laugh at some moments and cry during others. All through the book, there is such raw emotion from the men and women who wrote in that it is hard not to make connections to these people’s stories and want to learn from their experiences to help better ours. For anyone who seems to be at a loss in their sexual lives (no matter what age) or perhaps like me, wanted to know what my sexuality may have in store as I get older, Naked at Our Age is definitely a recommendable read.

[Jenn Barnett · Rating 4 out of 5]

Wonderful read about sexuality and aging. Definitely recommend - great patient resource!

[Aida]

Quick opinion: Good overall read with some very valuable information for anyone who is or plans to be an elder, but it got to be pretty repetitive after a while around certain themes; there are only so many times I can read about how old age can bring an appreciation for "full-body sensuality/sexuality"! This is a book you can skim a bit to find the gems in.

The text brings in voices of experts in the fields of sexuality, but even more heavily relies on people's personal experiences with aging and sexuality. Instead of speaking FOR people without knowing them or just highlighting "professionals," it takes people's lived experiences and places them front and center, and even establishes a kind of dialogue when responding to people who wrote in for inclusion in the book (so great job on that). There is some fascinating information about how cancer can affect sexuality, which, as someone who hasn't experienced cancer, was all new to me. The book also discusses the impact of dementia, Alzheimer's, death, erectile dysfunction, and a lot of other issues that can happen as people age, but by no means is it a "downer" of a book. It also had lots of valuable tips on how to stay safe and sexually healthy well into one's "golden years."

While representation of certain communities isn't as high as maybe it would've been lovely to see, there's definitely inclusion of people who are queer, non-monogamous, kinky, and/or HIV+, so there's a little something for everyone. The book definitely leans more in the direction of looking at sex in the later years as this slow, sensual, potentially magical/transformative/spiritual thing, but there are voices that speak about different relationships to their sex lives (and having different desires).

[Eileen Cleland · Rating 5 out of 5]

Awesome book by an awesome woman.

This book is really helpful and reading it has allowed me to reclaim my sexuality. It's straight talk about all the issues around aging and sex, delivered with love and humor and grace. LOVED it!

[Mark English · Rating 4 out of 5]

Highly recommend this book, especially if you are getting older. Would have given it 5 stars but I’m not yo keen on the chapters about open marriage or parts of the chapter about sex-for-hire. Other wise great advice about open and honest communication about intimacy problems both genders have as we get older.

[Mali Apple · Rating 5 out of 5]

Joan brings a host of experts together to address age-related challenges and joys as expressed through the candid stories of everyday people. We’re including Naked at Our Age in the resources section of our upcoming book, Wild Monogamy.

[Terry · Rating 2 out of 5]

The focus of this book is on placing sexual satisfaction high on life's priority list. It is informative, encouraging and direct, although it includes topics that may not appeal to all readers (i.e. it addresses gay/lesbian/bisexual issues, paying for sexual services, S&M acts, sex with multiples, and extra-marital sex). With the acknowledgement that I personally found certain topics addressed to be contrary to my beliefs, here is a summary of the book:

GOOD: This book is first and foremost a clear encouragement to remain sexually active and to continue to work at sexual pleasuring for as long as you live, whatever that looks like in your situation. It advocates expanding one's view of sex from traditional intercourse to include other forms of sex play, according to what one's body can perform. There is good basic information that is informative to those who may have never read a sex manual, with particular emphasis on the effects of aging on the sexual organs. It advocates seeking the services of a sex therapist, to specifically discuss personal problems, and learn new techniques. It also stresses practicing safe sex (use of condoms), a practice which the author believes is largely ignored by people our age. If you have sexual interests that are not mainstream, you will find acceptance and encouragement in this book. There is also a helpful list of links at the back of the book for additional research on many topics.

BAD: Much of the factual information covered is basic, and available elsewhere. There is limited discussion about the day-to-day use of various options for dealing with ED -- other books cover this topic better. There are no illustrations or diagrams in this book. If you are a traditional, heterosexual individual with no desire to experiment with sexual activities outside your marriage, portions of this book will be irrelevant (and possibly offensive) to you.

SUMMARY: Not as good as other books for a married, heterosexual traditionalist. However, its readable style and exploration of a great many topics are likely to be drawing points for many readers.

[Andrew · Rating 5 out of 5]

Naked at our age is a wide ranging discussion about sex for people from 50 through their 80’s and beyond. It does cover challenges but principally focuses on sexuality, intimacy, sensuality and the joys/advantages of a robust sex life throughout adulthood.

Although the target market is adults middle aged and older, anyone looking for a more meaningful sex life or to understand their parents, should read this book. And if you’re a little squeamish about older people having sex, grow up and get over it!

Getting older is hard enough. The loss of intimacy and connection of no sex just amplifies the isolation, particularly if one has lost a partner through death, divorce or dementia. That doesn’t mean the surviving partner doesn’t lament the loss of their significant other. But think how it would affect you without someone to share the burden and the joys, intimacy and sensuality and the release of an orgasm with a partner for 10, 20, 30 or 40 years? If it were me, I’d be grumpy and depressed; not the type of parent/grandparent you want to see.

If you’re heading towards being a senior, read this book so you are aware of potential issues for you and your partner. Regardless of age, read this book as a primer for lifelong sensuality, sexuality and intimacy, even if your primary focus today is f**king like rabbits. 😉

[Kevin Dufresne · Rating 5 out of 5]

Hi,

I hope all is progressing well.

I believe exploring and learning about sexual health is extremely important. If/When someone and I decide to form a relationship, I'm going to continue reading books about sex (at least one a year), and, hopefully, my future partner and I will be coreading (at least one a year) books on an aspect of sex. As much as Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex by Joan Price seems to mainly be about individuals above forty years of age, the emphasis on sexual development, exploration, and health is relevant for all ages particularly for capable individuals willing to comprehend explorations of one's personal sexual developments/health. The text is full of expert advice and testimonies. I find the text very insightful, and refreshing. One reason I choose to care for myself well is so I can enjoy myself well as I continue to grow well--which I think is mindful and respectful concerning growth with a potential future partner, or romantic interest. If you're looking for a book about sexual development and health, I highly recommend Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex by Joan Price (which is full of references to other expert and professional sources).

Onward and Upward,
Kevin Dufresne
www.Piatures.com
IG: @Dufreshest

[Marcia · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was actually better than I thought it would be. It really debunks the whole myth that sex is over for anyone over 55, and talks about real people, real situations, real needs, real desires. I read about it and the author in a column by Dan Savage, whom I follow. It is not limited to older heterosexual people, either, but to a range. Certainly doesn't cover everything, but it is a start. YES!

[Holly Booms Walsh · Rating 4 out of 5]

I skimmed this book. It's mostly letters and questions from the 50 and over crowd about sexuality. I was astounded and saddened by the unhappiness, ignorance of orgasm, inability to ask for what they wanted/needed from a partner, and loneliness that the letters contained. Boy am I glad that I came along a generation later. I'm sure the answers and advice would be helpful for those that are struggling quietly. The author is informative and tactful.

[Samantha Armstrong · Rating 5 out of 5]

I read this book seeking information for a school project (a senior sex ed group proposal for a group practice social work class). It steps right over taboos and openly speaks about sex, health, and aging in a positive and refreshing light. This book has something for every one, regardless of age, sexual orientation, or ability.

[Nestor · Rating 5 out of 5]

One of my favourite books on human sexuality.

[Susan · Rating 5 out of 5]

Good ideas for maintaining that important part of life when age and other problems try to interfere!

[Greg · Rating 5 out of 5]

Don't tell my mother I read this book. Very, very good. Thank you Joan.

[Carol · Rating 3 out of 5]

This is one of those "5 stars for some chapters and 0 stars for others" kind of book. Not a 3 star kind of book at all, but that is how it averages out.

[Patrick · Rating 5 out of 5]

You don't need to be old to read this book, or to benefit from its collective wisdom. And a diverse set of wisdom it is; pansexual in its truest sense.

[Jerre · Rating 3 out of 5]

Some things are hard to give up, and sexual intimacy is certainly one of them. If you are under fifty, avoid this book and the reality it exposes, but if you are in the elder years or finding early challenges to a normal sex life, having some company may help you clear your head. The way we make love changes as we grow older. We can abandon the pleasure or we can try to understand a new world. Joan Price has not only published a large number of letters that give us insight into other people's bedrooms (and a lot of other places), but she has also assembled expert professional advice to keep things in perspective. If nothing else, grazing through this book will convince you that you are not alone in your attitude, your difficulty, or your desire, whatever that might be. Or, you may decide the whole situation is more trouble than it is worth, and that is also a resolution.

[Megon · Rating 4 out of 5]

This book was pretty educational, but there were a few issues for me. It gave a lot of info, some of which was new to me. And quite a few personal stories. If you're older it's probably well worth getting But I'm pretty sure it's illegal in most states to pay for an erotic massage or an escort. Which probably should have been mentioned. I'm not sure how safe it is either. I would also have liked a little bit on the ethics and legality of having intimate relations with someone with dementia....at what point can they no longer legally consent? Also, I think I'd prefer the updates right after the chapters instead of thrown in at the back, but that's just me. I did get this book from Goodreads.

[Rock Conner · Rating 3 out of 5]

It's about old people sex.

[Kat · Rating 4 out of 5]

A brave and important book that helps us better talk about sex as we age.

[Pat · Rating 5 out of 5]

This is a great book to read as the author writes in an engaging way and personalizes it. Good information! I wish I’d had it when doing couple counseling!

[Denise · Rating 4 out of 5]

Lots of great info I wish I had years ago. Do geared a dozen badges with useful tips, toys and lube suggestions.

[Chris Leuchtenburg · Rating 2 out of 5]

I can't say that I learned much from this.