“We can’t tolerate this anymore. These tragedies must end. And to end them, we must change. We will be told that the causes of such violence are complex, and that is true. No single law, no set of laws can eliminate evil from the world, or prevent every senseless act of violence in our society. But that can’t be an excuse for inaction. Surely, we can do better than this. If there is even one step we can take to save another child, or another parent, or another town, from the grief that has visited Tucson, and Aurora, and Oak Creek, and Newtown, and communities from Columbine to Blacksburg before that—then surely we have an obligation to try.” ~Former President Obama
I remember on December 14, 2012 I woke up to begin my 20th birthday only to read the horrific news that a 20-year-old man went into an elementary school that morning and murdered 26 people; 20 of them children. Every year since then I take time on my birthday to think about, send love to, honor, and pray for the victims and their families whose lives were changed forever that day. It is the most unimaginable crime of horror and inhumanity, and even the thought of that tragedy brings me to tears.
Charlotte Bacon (6), Daniel Barden (7), Olivia Engel (6), Josephine Gay (7), Dylan Hockley (6), Madeleine Hsu (6), Catherine Hubbard (6), Chase Kowalski (7), Jesse Lewis (6), Ana Márquez-Greene (6), James Mattioli (6), Grace McDonnell (7), Emilie Parker (6), Jack Pinto (6), Noah Pozner (6), Caroline Previdi (6), Jessica Rekos (6), Avielle Richman (6), Benjamin Wheeler (6), Allison Wyatt (6),
Rachel D'Avino (29), Dawn Hochsprung (47), Anne Marie Murphy (52), Lauren Rousseau (30), Mary Sherlach (56), Victoria Leigh Soto (27).
I’ve read many emotionally-difficult books about various subjects, but this book by far was really hard to get through at times. Matthew Lysiak did a truly amazing job at this investigative journalist piece presenting all of the information from the history of the town, details about the children’s lives and their days at Sandy Hook elementary school, details about the lives of the teachers, the shooting, the brief biography of the shooter, the aftermath, and everything else that followed the tragedy. This book gutted me. The stories of the children and the terror they faced, and the trauma they continue to endure was unbelievably heartbreaking. I’ve watched numerous interviews by some of the survivors who are now in their mid-teens who’ve discussed their battles with PTSD, and about their fights for stricter gun laws. It is heartbreaking that things have remained very much the same since that traumatizing day for those children, and they continue to have to practice active-shooter drills in their high schools knowing very well it is not an impossibility in America.
Lysiak did a great job to highlight how this tragedy also led the media and society to further stigmatize autism and mental illness; the shooter was diagnosed with both. Though mental illness did play a large part in this tragedy I think the key takeaways to remember are that the shooter showed many signs of psychopathy and obsession with violence and death years before he committed Sandy Hook. This was a preventable tragedy. The guns were bought legally by the shooter’s mom when he was legally underage for firearm possession. His mother took him to the shooting range and encouraged his obsession with war, violence, and guns as the only way she saw she could connect with her son. The shooter was removed from school, not given the treatment he needed for his mental illness (despite the family being perfectly capable of affording it), completely isolated from everyone, and his mother dismissed disturbing behaviors exhibited by her son that only worsened with time. The shooter was a truly evil person who was obsessed with mass shooters and determined to cause death as so much evidence from his online posts have proven, and the ranking list he had of the “top 500 American mass shooters”. A list he was determined to rank highly on with the extremely thought-out plan he was set to enact. Weapons of war being readily available for purchase to civilians did not help this situation at all. Lysiak brought up excellent points throughout the book about the many factors that come into play when we talk about one of the most prevalent forms of terrorism in the United States; mass shootings.
It was heartbreaking to read about the further re-traumatization that many of the parents of both the slain and survived children of Sandy Hook elementary endured during the fight to ban military-grade weapons. It is a clear display of a failure of a country when an entirely preventably massacre of children means nothing to fellow countrymen who refuse to give up the weapons that are their phallic-extensions. The parents weren’t asking for the removal of the second amendment, just for weapons made strictly for warfare with the capability of shooting 150 bullets in 5 minutes to not be accessible to civilians. It was a sad premonition that so many people would say when speaking about gun legislation that it would sadly take the death of children for people to wake up about these mass shootings in America. Yet, when 20 children were killed on December 14, 2012 nothing was done to prevent an act of terrorism like this to happen again. Instead, children are put through active shooter drills, given clear plastic backpacks, school shootings have continued to happen, and the government suggests to place more guns in schools. What will it take for America to wake up and realize that this is madness? When we cannot go to grocery stores, houses of worship, massage parlors, clubs, movie theaters, concerts, Wal-Mart, FedEx shops, or send elementary children to school without worrying that they could be murdered by a man with a weapon of war we know clearly that things are very wrong.
My heart goes out to the families of the victims, the first responders, the Newtown community, and Ryan Lanza who lost his entire family that day due to the actions of his brother.