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Parenting Teens with Love and Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood
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320 pages, Spiral-bound
Published September 8, 2020
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June 5, 2022
1.5 stars. 5 stars for the basic Love and Logic principles we know and love, big fat ZERO stars for a lot of the homophobia and gender roles in here!!!! I was blown away by this book, as I’ve read Parenting with Love and Logic, and Parenting Early Childhood with Love and Logic; in the hopes of making it stick better in my parenting style, this is the third summer in a row I’ve read a L&L book. The other two are absolutely fine but this one for the teen years I DO NOT RECOMMEND. A new edition was just released in 2020, and you’d think they could have hired some rational thinking millennial to proofread this crap, clearly written by two old white guys for parenting Gen Xers. (Even the teen names were ones like Craig, Susan, Brad…)
The worst of the worst was the “actual” conversation a mother had with her teenage daughter about STDs, a bunch of made up nonsense that sounded like Tina Fey doing Sarah Palin having a birds and the bees talk with her daughter. “Shoot, folks say those darn bugs’ll make yer cervix ripped up and the sperm can’t get on the elevator up the Fallopian tubes.” True story. Then, still under the guise of being a “true story” (which L&L readers know already to take with a grain of salt… everyone sounds the same: cheesy) the daughter grows up, goes off to college, and violating all of the HIPPA laws, the parents get a letter from the university student health doctor congratulating them on their daughter’s virginity!!!!!!!! I’m not making this up, but someone else sure was.
And what was with the thing against boys getting their ear pierced? The lesson is you can’t control what they do to their body but it’s implied this is a major issue, also is your son gay?? 🤦🏽♀️ Any homosexuality talk was very cringe-worthy. “Obviously, it’s okay to express the desire and hope to our children that they will live a heterosexual life.” …no thanks.
Oh did you know “some daughters try to get back at their mothers by getting pregnant”?? Me either. I cannot believe these guys wrote this stuff down. I’m hoping that all the 5 star reviews were from people like me who trust Love and Logic but did not actually read through this one.
The worst of the worst was the “actual” conversation a mother had with her teenage daughter about STDs, a bunch of made up nonsense that sounded like Tina Fey doing Sarah Palin having a birds and the bees talk with her daughter. “Shoot, folks say those darn bugs’ll make yer cervix ripped up and the sperm can’t get on the elevator up the Fallopian tubes.” True story. Then, still under the guise of being a “true story” (which L&L readers know already to take with a grain of salt… everyone sounds the same: cheesy) the daughter grows up, goes off to college, and violating all of the HIPPA laws, the parents get a letter from the university student health doctor congratulating them on their daughter’s virginity!!!!!!!! I’m not making this up, but someone else sure was.
And what was with the thing against boys getting their ear pierced? The lesson is you can’t control what they do to their body but it’s implied this is a major issue, also is your son gay?? 🤦🏽♀️ Any homosexuality talk was very cringe-worthy. “Obviously, it’s okay to express the desire and hope to our children that they will live a heterosexual life.” …no thanks.
Oh did you know “some daughters try to get back at their mothers by getting pregnant”?? Me either. I cannot believe these guys wrote this stuff down. I’m hoping that all the 5 star reviews were from people like me who trust Love and Logic but did not actually read through this one.
August 3, 2022
I got this book because I felt I could benefit from more tools/resources on how to handle typical teen situations and challenges. Most of the parents I regularly interact with do not have teens. And our situation with our teen doesn't fit the "norm."
The biggest takeaway I've benefitted from is reshaping my perspective of my role in interactions. Communication is challenging and I often find myself too emotionally drawn in and in a position of just reacting. So learning to step back is useful.
Some of the advice of the book is so... emotionally removed that I don't think most people, as humans dealing with their children, are able to successfully carry it out. And I'm not even sure that is a good thing for the kid either. Robot, logic-only parents lack the socioemotional and empathy a kid needs.
But, I think it is useful to take a step back and look at our own reaction/emotional involvement and see if that's benefitting anyone either. Including ourselves!
The book did fall short of helping some aspects of our particular situation. But that is the case for most parenting books, which assume a certain family situation.
Overall, however, I think some aspects of the book can be useful and I will likely refer to it at times to reorient myself.
Eta. Holy crap, I read some of the other reviews of the book and realized my "skipping around" to different sections missed some major f*d up sections. Especially about teen sexuality. Some serious hardcore religious assumptions and injections there. Wow. It's a rather extreme conservative juxtaposition to the sections on kids partying as "eh take the emotion out and if they wreck something, make them pay for damages." And yet we apparently need to be told to still give our kids physical affection even if they're LGBTQ... what??
The biggest takeaway I've benefitted from is reshaping my perspective of my role in interactions. Communication is challenging and I often find myself too emotionally drawn in and in a position of just reacting. So learning to step back is useful.
Some of the advice of the book is so... emotionally removed that I don't think most people, as humans dealing with their children, are able to successfully carry it out. And I'm not even sure that is a good thing for the kid either. Robot, logic-only parents lack the socioemotional and empathy a kid needs.
But, I think it is useful to take a step back and look at our own reaction/emotional involvement and see if that's benefitting anyone either. Including ourselves!
The book did fall short of helping some aspects of our particular situation. But that is the case for most parenting books, which assume a certain family situation.
Overall, however, I think some aspects of the book can be useful and I will likely refer to it at times to reorient myself.
Eta. Holy crap, I read some of the other reviews of the book and realized my "skipping around" to different sections missed some major f*d up sections. Especially about teen sexuality. Some serious hardcore religious assumptions and injections there. Wow. It's a rather extreme conservative juxtaposition to the sections on kids partying as "eh take the emotion out and if they wreck something, make them pay for damages." And yet we apparently need to be told to still give our kids physical affection even if they're LGBTQ... what??
March 22, 2023
I got this book as I am entering a new season of the teen years with my children. It had some helpful nuggets in it to help talk to teens and help them feel included and valued, but I did disagree with some concepts in the book. I liked reading the examples of dialog the best because I learn well through that mode of showing techniques, but many of the dialogs seemed very unrealistic to me. I will walk away with tools from the book, but I think I need to find a mom author on this topic. I think it would resonate with me more (and that is just a personal preference). I will walk away from this book with a better understanding of reshaping my role and perspective in interactions with my children. As parents, we tend to react but I will be more aware to step back before reacting and also how and when to have ore effective communication with my kids.
January 31, 2023
There was a lot of helpful insight in this book; however, the authors’ very conservative take on sexual activity and the LBGTQ community and consequent sample conversations surrounding the topic were bizarre and often factually incorrect. Read with a critical eye!
August 3, 2025
Reads as if the authors skimmed Haim Ginott's Between Parent and Child (a vastly superior parenting book) and then superficially based a new theory on it, only with a transactional spirit, and rooted in distrust towards teenagers.
Not much love to be found here.
Not much love to be found here.
September 18, 2022
Good stuff in here. Takeaway for me is to be a counselor and provide support to your teens. The goal is for them to be ready for real life when they leave home.
October 10, 2023
I left a review on the older version that I read, haven't read this updated one.
June 7, 2025
Chapter 5 - “If you weren’t the picture perfect parent from conception through 11 years old, then this book will not work for you.”
Such a waste of my time.
Such a waste of my time.
January 23, 2021
A must have for anyone with a teenager. Builds on the toddler book describing specific situations you and your teen will experience and how to deal. A lifesaver. If you want to raise respectful teens that learn responsibility and face logical consequences for their behavior, this is for you. I've found that the use of love and logic principals makes the whole family happier.
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