From her film debut as the sultry schemer in Body Heat to her award-winning role as Martha in Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf? , actress Kathleen Turner's unique blend of beauty, intelligence, and raw sexuality has driven her personal and professional life. Now, in this gutsy memoir, the screen icon tells us of the risks she's taken and the lessons she's learned-sometimes the hard way.
For the first time, Turner shares her childhood challenges-a life lived in countries around the world until her father, a State Department official whom she so admired, died suddenly when she was a teenager. She talks about her twenty year marriage, and why she and her husband recently separated, her close relationship with her daughter, her commitment to service, and how activism in controversial causes has bolstered her beliefs. And Turner reveals the pain and heartbreak of her struggle with rheumatoid arthritis, and how, in spite of it, she made a daring to take a break from the movies and relaunch her stage career.
Along the way, Turner describes what it's like to work with legends like Jack Nicholson, Michael Douglas, William Hurt, Steve Martin, Francis Ford Coppola, John Huston, John Waters, Edward Albee...and, with characteristic irreverent humor, shares her behind-the-screen stories of dealing with all types of creative, intimidating, and inspiring characters.
Kathleen Turner has always known that she would play the lead in the story of her life. It's impossible not to take her lessons on living, love, and leading roles to heart. And it won't be long until you'll be sending yourself roses!
Mary Kathleen Turner is an Academy Award-nominated American actress. She came to fame during the 1980s, after roles in the Hollywood films Body Heat, Romancing the Stone and Prizzi's Honor.
Turner (in collaboration with Gloria Feldt) wrote her memoir Send Yourself Roses: Thoughts on my Life, Love, and Leading Roles, published in 2008. The book was on the New York Times bestseller list for three weeks.
I saw Turner's one -woman show ("Finding My Voice") in New York City a few weeks ago and was inspired by her brilliant performance to rewatch her movies as well as read her books--this memoir and Kathleen Turner on Acting: Conversations about Film, Television, and Theater which is the next book I intend to read).
This book is as exciting as her performance--well, almost: nothing can match her presence on stage, but this does capture her passion and powerful presence. She is a force to be reckoned with. Some memoirs leave you feeling like you've learned how to be more like some aspect of that person that you admired; this one left me in awe. If her ego seems a little large, well then, her gifts exceed even that.
Turner is a fabulous story teller, whether she is talking about her travels as a child with her diplomat family, her father's sudden death, her various performances, her struggle with rheumatoid arthritis--my attention never wavered because she never does.
A larger than life talent, Turner seems just generally larger than life even in her descriptions of her ordinary activities.
Like her performances, this book is a gift of energy and vision. Also it's a lot of fun.
This book contains some interesting stories but is filled with Turner's self-praise and know-it-all attitude. The woman calls herself "icon," "sexual role model" and other terms that show how out-of-touch a celebrity can be with the real world. Honey, you may have been in a movie that people got turned on by when you were in your early 20s (in which someone else did your nude scenes!) but you aren't the cultural-changing phenomenon you claim it to be.
The title alone is incredibly accurate--she uses the book to offer praise to herself. The book is a mixture of repeated claims that everything she has done has been the greatest (with one exception--when she demeans everyone else involved with the project) and preaching about her pet causes. Her logic makes no sense. She can't shut up about Planned Parenthood, then complains when she can't conceive. She claims to have a deep spiritual faith passed down from her minister grandfather, but slams everything Christian and only seems to like non-practicing Jews that allow people to do whatever they want. She claims to have been a fantastic mother, yet she spent most of her time working away from home and letting a nanny raise the kid (she says she tried to make sure to see her young daughter at least every two weeks! ha!).
The woman is admittedly self-centered, saying she has been called that her whole life. The amazing thing is that she claims to be surprised by it even today, because reading the book proves that this is one of the most selfish, demeaning, egotistical stars every to come out of Hollywood.
In this book, star Kathleen Turner talks about her childhood spent traveling all over the globe due to her father's job as a State Department official. His death in her early teen years really hit her hard as her father was a man she greatly loved and admired.
This book doesn't talk only about her life; as the title suggests it also touches on what it's like to be working in the acting field, always being in the photographer's spotlight, working with other actors, memorizing lines, etc. I will give her credit - she does not use this book at all to say negative things about her fellow actors - in fact, she goes out of her way to stay positive.
Speaking about her long career in the movies, she talks longest about "Body Heat" and "Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?".
She recorded the audiobook 8 years after writing the book. It felt as if she was sitting next to me in the car as I listened to her narrate. I enjoyed it very much. Lots of information about the craft of acting, which I found interesting.
Some poignant stuff about her having rheumatoid arthritis, the difficulty of getting a correct diagnosis and pain of being mocked in tabloids for steroid-induced weight gain. Also I guess if you were an aspiring actor you might get something out of her account of breaking into film and theater. But for the most part it was a boring and disagreeable memoir. She clearly thinks very highly of herself and less so of everybody else. Does not disclose much of any interest value about other stars.
Finally, it was annoyingly didactic. Doesn't trust the reader to draw her or his own conclusions from the author's life experience but instead announces, and belabors, what inference should be taken away (I play a wide variety of characters and have had a long acting career; therefore, "don't repeat your successes" and so on X 25 or so).
Any female in the 35-60 age range needs to read this book! Kathleen Turner opens up her life, her feelings, her family and her career for all to see. It is the more personal stories that strike a cord with all women "of a certain age". Her struggles with guilt over the death of her father after they had an argument; the amazing will power to overcome severe rheumatoid arthritis; and so many other things just resonate with me and I'm sure will with other women who grew up as "baby boomer" females.
Kathleen Turner is a talented actress who is intelligent and has led an interesting life. It was a pleasure to listen to her narrate this audiobook and tell her story.
An copy that came my way via librarything in March. MARCH! And here it is June and I still haven't been able to finish the darn thing. I picked it up with great anticipation. After all Kathleen Turner is one of my favorite actresses. She has yet to disappoint, whether it's been in film or in interview. And while I could hear her distinctive voice behind the words very definitely in the beginning of the book, it just didn't sustain my interest. It was a struggle to get through her life up to maybe 1991 (after Romancing the Stone and Jewel of the Nile.) But even for beautiful Kathleen, I don't think I can keep reading this. It's too much of a struggle. Yes she's "astonishingly candid" but I am not sure that I care that much. It was all kind of "vanilla" for me. For a woman capable of such passion on the screen and stage, it doesn't translate well into writing, or at least not for me.
On the other hand, the gossipy bits about her co-stars was kinda fun. It's no surprise that she enjoyed her time and got on well with Michael Douglas and Danny de Vito. And Jack Nicholson, too. Her not so favorable reaction to Burt Reynolds surprised me, I kinda felt redeemed with her also negative reaction to Nicolas Cage. I absolutely despised him in Peggy Sue Got Married, so much so that I wouldn't see films with him in them. But apparently, he had a huge chip on this shoulder then, and a major bad boy attitude. He seems to have left that behind and let his true skill come out. And it made him a better actor (and one I no longer avoid.)
So all in all, I'm kinda disappointed in Kathleen the author, but hey-- she's got beauty, brains and oodles of acting talent. She can leave writing for others to find their star.
I read this highly conversational book as a break after Jane Eyre; talk about a complete contrast!
Kathleen Turner is a strong, opinionated woman, and her rising out of the ashes after her serious bout with rheumatoid arthritis (now in remission) piqued my interest in her memoir.
Do not read this book if you are sensitive to foul language. Turner (with the help of her friend Gloria Feldt) writes just as if she were speaking...with lots of colorful language and colloquialisms.
I enjoyed the descriptions of her stage and film work, as well as her strong commitment to public service. I had not been aware of her international upbringing. She clearly favors European life and culture over the U.S.' repressed sexual mores and attitudes toward women. (Can't say I blame her for that!)
She is a very interesting woman, and I enjoyed much of this book...but by the last 20 or 30 pages, I grew bored and scanned through the text until the end. That fact, combined with the extremely folksy writing, led me to give it just two stars.
I really like Kathleen Turner. I like the movie roles she’s chosen, I LOVED “War of the Roses” (especially that last scene – it was perfect!), and I loved it when she played Chandler’s father on Friends. So I wanted to like her biography…but…
I remember taking a writing class after college and having the instructor tell us, “Don’t TELL me how the characters feel, SHOW me how they feel.” Her point was that writing the words “She was sad” is weak and doesn’t have nearly the same impact as a scene showing how sad the character was…with her thoughts and actions.
In “Send Yourself Roses”, Kathleen Turner tells us again and again how she felt and why she made the decisions she did in her life – but there is very little showing. Which made the story, her story, weaker for me, and at times, I wanted to go back to just the Kathleen Turner that I had experiences before.
Given that she is an actress and not a writer, I am throwing the onus on her editor here. The style of the book is very rambling and many themes and events are repeated over and over. An incident in her life that has impact the first time you read it has much less strength after you read about it for the third time. There are some powerful stories in this book but they risk being drowned out by all the noise.
This memory, however, was gripping. Turner’s father was in the Foreign Service and he and his family lived all over the world. While Kathleen was in grade school, they lived in Cuba, and she recalls a time right after Castro took power.
“One day I came home from school and said to Mother, “Mom, Castro gave me candy.” She said, “What are you talking about? I said, “The teacher told us to close our eyes and pray to God for candy. We did. She said, “Open your eyes.” There was no candy. Then she said, “Close your eyes and pray to Castro for candy.” We did and when we opened our eyes again, there was candy. The teacher asked, “Who loves you, God or Castro?”
Living the life she has, experiencing events like that one, I expected Kathleen Turner’s story to be fascinating. And I think that it probably is…but not the way it’s told here.
I’ve been thinking about this for a few days since I finished this book…and I think I know what would have drastically changed my perspective on this book.
One of the central themes Turner addresses is that of voice. Women’s voices, people’s voices…and of course, her own voice. Her very distinctive, unmistakable (my words here) wonderful, amazing voice.
“In…aspects of voice, authenticity is the key to effectiveness. You must speak in your own voice or no one will hear you. And your unique voice is a special gift that no one else can give to the world.”
If I had listened to this book, told in Kathleen’s Turner’s unique voice, I think it would have been a far more authentic experience. Hearing her words with her inflections, the emphases she chose…it would have been more showing than telling.
And it turns out, she agrees with me. “I take the idea of voice quite literally because I truly believe the sound of my voice is terribly important to my overall presentation and how I will be received by others.”
Send Yourself Roses:Thoughts on my Life, Live and Leading Roles by Kathleen Turner & Gloria Feldt 2007 Springboard 4.0/5.0
Courageous and witty, Kathlern Turners' memoir follows her acting career from her film debut in 'Body Heat' to her stage role as Martha in ' Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?'.
Sharing her childhood, living in many countries around the world and her great sense of loss after her father's sudden death. Her marriage and separation from Jay, and stories of her daughter. Rachel, are so heart felt, and honest. She also shares Kathleen's diagnosis and treatment of Rhumatoid Arthritis, something that changed her life, but not her spirit. She is a spokeswoman for RI, now.
Some of the best parts of this memoir, to me, were when Kathleen shared how playing certain roles has shaped how so many people see her, as if the role was her actual life, not a part she played. And how her sultry voice has been so recognizable and pivotal in her career.
I have always admired her as a woman, and enjoyed her wild spirit, humor and her guts. Her film roles are always engaging, and I hope she will share another memoir, soon.
I found Kathleen Turner's life, and observations about life, inspiring and interesting. She wrote this book when she was a few years older than I am now, so her perspectives and confidence is refreshing and motivational. I did not realize she had RA and endured other hardships, such as the loss of her father at a young age, divorce, and alcoholism. She tends to toot her own horn a little bit too much for my taste, which is what stopped me from giving the book a 5 (in reality I want to rank it about 3.5). I also really enjoyed reading about the stories of her movie and play productions. Interesting to read that Burt Reynolds was a total sexist! Loved reading about her time in Morocco as she filmed Jewel of the Nile, and her tales of other productions and the cast. I am glad I read this book, one that I'd had on my shelves for years. Kathleen Turner is someone I'd be interested in meeting for coffee and talking to her even more about her interesting life!
I think I've only seen a handful of Kathleen Turner's films but when you explore someone's life, like you do when you read their memoir, it makes you want to learn more about them and watch more of their work. Ms. Turner is bold but humble about her accomplishments and heartbreakingly honest about the losses. Her confidence-it never goes into arrogant territory-shines through. That confidence is very inspiring. And if you listen to the audiobook, her voice is warm like butter and makes you feel like you're sitting across from her in a big armchair, with a glass of whiskey, and she's telling it like it is.
This book has received mixed reviews from everything I have read about it on various web sites. I personally liked it very much. There are complaints to Kathleen talks a little rough at times. So she threw in a few curse words. Why would anyone who is a fan of Kathleen Turner be surprised. There were complaints she was too kind to herself and not critical enough. Well, it's her story. And she likes herself good for her. We should all be our own best friends. I found the book to be like a long conversation with a fascinating old friend. It's as if she is sitting at my kitchen table having a conversation with me. She is no saint. But she is fascinating.
Have never had so many strangers ask me what I’m reading and I hope a few of them pick this up. Occasionally a little too constructed and the way it jumps around in time can be a tad confusing when you try to reconstruct a chronological timeline in your head, but this is a wonderful dive into the life and thinking of a great actress. There are some turns of phrase that will absolutely stick with me. Hope she writes another one some day to cover the later years—specifically the dinner parties at Holland Taylor and Sarah Paulson’s apartment.
The movie that introduced me to Kathleen Turner was 'Romancing the Stone' which I loved when it was released. What I wasn't aware of before I read this book was how much stage work she has also done over the years and various major health problems which has impacted what she has been able to do. I think this book made me appreciate the movies she has released more than I did before. The health issues she had were truly nasty and the fact that they were able to move into remission seems like a miracle.
I didn't get very far--I have other things I wanted to read that took priority and I just couldn't bring myself to get around to reading it, which told me all I needed to know. Also, I didn't really enjoy Turner's narrative voice--there was something off-putting about it, and it didn't flow well (and she seemed like a handful, and not necessarily in a good way). I'm curious about her co-worker Angelica Huston's biographies...now SHE seems like she'd be a hoot and a half.
I’m a fan of several of her movies, but this was not well written. It’s chatty and you feel as if you’re sitting with her over coffee — but she rambles, is dramatic and grandiose, and boasts a bit too much. The chapter I found most moving was the one where she confided the ordeal of being diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis, and the toll it took on her self-esteem, her family and career. Overall, I feel I could have gotten the gist of this memoir if it were condensed to a magazine article.
I like her work, saw her on Broadway in The Graduate, so I was eagerly looking forward to reading this Maybe because the book is so old already, I feel it's incomplete. She discusses a great deal about her life, but I'm confused as to why when her husband has business troubles, they have financial issues. Isn't she a movie star? Aren't they rich?
She seems like a great lady, glad I read it, and maybe if I was a weaker female (I DO 'give myself roses'!) I would have gotten more out of it.
To me, Kathleen Turner is Peggy Sue. I really liked that movie and thought it would be interesting to hear about her life. I listened to the audio book read by Kathleen Turner herself. It was okay, not great but okay. It was interesting to read about her career, just not overly interesting. I do agree with her on many of her causes and could feel her passion for each. Nice to have someone willing to speak out on such matters and not be afraid of the current political climate.
People either love Ms. Turner for her grandiosity or hate her for it. Either way, its very much on display in her book. If you are a fan, chances are you will love this book. If you aren't, why would you bother anyway? At times, her self-regard begins to choke the reader. But again, isn't that one reason her fans love her?
I heard about this book on The Moth podcast and thought I had to read it. I listened to it on Audible which was the best because Kathleen Turner read the book. It was much more a conversation than a traditional biography. I loved her stories. I came to realize what I thought was true. She truly is a broad, in the best possible way. Felt as though she was a friend of mine.
For a woman of a certain age Kathleen Turner embodied everything that I wanted to be when I grew up. Smart, funny, fast, owning every room she walks into and drop dead gorgeous without being conventional. It was wonderful to have her drop us into the backstages of her life and all the movies I grew to love her in.
utterly vapid and egotistical; Albeit from what I read (approx 80%). Turner has no experiences, much less anecdotals, only stories [à la neat little narratives, w villains and protagonistsherself in every tale, edited tightly, adhering to the theme of self-ideology]
Quite a lot of repetition and a strange writing style. I enjoyed reading about her earlier movies but it felt like Kathleen has such a huge chip on her shoulder about not being nominated for certain awards.......it felt quite cringe worthy in places.
Actually ⭐️⭐️1/2 Man, I wanted to like this much more than I did. There’s a lot of Kathleen Turner Philosophy and I wanted more Kathleen Turner career. She’s always a delight, but a lot of this was a slog to me.
One of my favorite actors, particularly for her intelligence, & fierce tenacity to say what she thinks and put up with no BS. This was a good read and only made me have more respect for this leading lady.