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Validation Addiction: Please Make Me Feel Worthy
**Completely Updated in December/2016** Do you or anyone you know spend endless amounts of time and energy seeking validation, recognition, acknowledgement, acceptance, or approval. Does this seem to push people away?
Seeking validation is a natural and normal part of human behavior. We seek to be validated on what we say, and do, and even how we appear. Children can experience having healthy validation at home and school, or they can have a lack of validation, or even experience being invalidated. The way a child was raised has a huge impact on how he or she seeks validation as an adult.
Seeking validation as a young adult or as an adult becomes obsessive when the validation-seeking behavior becomes unconscious and has a pattern, and perhaps a repetition, which may have some negative consequences. The author has labeled that behavior Validation Addiction.
The unconscious need for validation in a compulsive or addictive way could have serious consequences on relationships, and careers. Some people who act out this way are masking depression or anxiety, or perhaps have developed this addictive behavior in lieu of alcohol, which may have been a problem in the family of origin.
Treatment for this condition will only begin when the person recognizes there is a problem. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and perhaps medication with an approved anti-depressant are suggested methods to reduce the occurrence of this behavior and hopefully replace it with a more appropriate behavior.
Seeking validation is a natural and normal part of human behavior. We seek to be validated on what we say, and do, and even how we appear. Children can experience having healthy validation at home and school, or they can have a lack of validation, or even experience being invalidated. The way a child was raised has a huge impact on how he or she seeks validation as an adult.
Seeking validation as a young adult or as an adult becomes obsessive when the validation-seeking behavior becomes unconscious and has a pattern, and perhaps a repetition, which may have some negative consequences. The author has labeled that behavior Validation Addiction.
The unconscious need for validation in a compulsive or addictive way could have serious consequences on relationships, and careers. Some people who act out this way are masking depression or anxiety, or perhaps have developed this addictive behavior in lieu of alcohol, which may have been a problem in the family of origin.
Treatment for this condition will only begin when the person recognizes there is a problem. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and perhaps medication with an approved anti-depressant are suggested methods to reduce the occurrence of this behavior and hopefully replace it with a more appropriate behavior.
97 pages, Kindle Edition
First published November 14, 2013
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April 15, 2021
A very fine overview a problem that is growing rapidly in society.
This is a great little book to a problem that many don't know exists. I think social media is fueling the spread and depth of it. An excellent introduction.
This is a great little book to a problem that many don't know exists. I think social media is fueling the spread and depth of it. An excellent introduction.
April 3, 2021
I’m working through validation challenges (thanks for all the time to think, COVID!) and this helped in a few ways. First, that I’m normal for having these challenges, second provided easy strategies, provided confirmation bias - I’m already doing some of the recommendations (lol so validation).
There’s a few typos and it’s could use a good editor - but the content is very helpful.
There’s a few typos and it’s could use a good editor - but the content is very helpful.
February 20, 2020
Fucking weird like someone googled a bunch of stuff and just put it all together.
March 9, 2019
This book had tons of information in it but was disappointed of the short read. None the less I’ll be reading it again
August 31, 2015
This book felt rushed and incomplete in some parts, but overall I found it helpful. In particular, Chapters 3 and 5 had the most relevant information for me. I wrote a review of the book on my blog, available here: http://www.humanitribe.com/news-bedfo...
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